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Dimaya:
I hope you'll accept 'His money, his choice' if tables were reversed

Definitely

Reminderz:
have you now realised that sex isn't worth the stress and risks many of put yourself through? now, you're even disappointed... na when you never do the thing e go dey shack you like say world wan end, but after you don do am, you go just shake your head...

stay away from fornication...

That's not what the thread is about!!!
Who gives a shit about fornication anyways? Nobody but stupid religious prudes.

CareerBegger:
Is there something wrong with our society that we are trying to shy away from. What is it with the spike in increase in single-motherhood of recent?

Is there a part of our culture, the "internet - culture" that is promoting it? Is it that no one is seeing the evil that will come out of all these single motherhood? Not only the effect on there social well-being, survival and morals... But the kids too.

Why is no one saying anything about these single-mother Pandemic

I see nothing wrong with it. For me, I plan on being a single mom because I think it's cool.

Fortune118005:
It is abstinence till marriage. The Bible says FLEE FORNICATION.

And who gives a rat's ass what the bible says!?!
For me it's abstainence just till you're an adult (age 18)

Slynation:
You are destroying yourself in the name of contraceptive... Anyways, you will learn the hard way one day because you play too much. I shaah hope you don't.

For God's sake, contraceptives don't cause infertility.
Why not do your research before saying stuff

Rayban26:
Oya continue. Na your womb

Exactly. My body my choice.
I just want to avoid unsafe abortion which could definitely cause barrenness or worse.

sta1:
This is defeatist.

If they know and fear God they will wait.

Fornicaton or not making heaven? Ask them to choose. [Don't shoot the messenger].

I'd rather have sex and not make heaven because heaven, just like God doesn't exist, it isn't real, just a made up place religious people are fond of.
Sex is too good not to have just because of what the 'bible' says.
Bleep religion and go Bleep as much as you want!!!

sta1:
Like it or lump it, God will judge us according to His own standards and NOT our own. Scripture tells us that we should not be deceived; fornicators will not maks the Kingdom of Heaven.

I dare you to be different sis; most people walk the broad easy road that leads to hell.

God has not changed, nor has human nature. There is nothing under the sun, new about sex.

God is a perfectionist, His pefect will is for every single child to be born into a loving, committed union.

NO sex before marriage is about truly putting children first - this should not date.

https://www.nairaland.com/7804321/sex-covenant-making-9-other

God doesn't exist!

Samantha124:
Just tell them to abstain until they feel they're ready, as long as they do it responsibly and also advice them about the variety of contraceptives to use when the time finally comes.

Because in a as much as you can try to encourage them to wait until a certain age, they'll still go ahead and do it if they want to.

This is what my parents told me though in my case they said having sex, or even dating for that matter when underage wasn't an option our home. I didn't lose my virginity till 19 with my first serious boyfriend.

SuperOnyi:




I'm 21 and I'm getting tired of abstaining from sex but I just can't break away from my parents' teachings. One of the main reasons is that I have to pretend to be an expert in that shit but in actuality I don't really know except from reading and porn. And yeah, I'm not easily influenced by others... This pretense is like a defense mechanism to protect me from those "you, virgin?" Stare.

Plus lately, my libido has been doing crazy numbers but I need money and I also don't want to make a mistake -- y'know, regret being celibate in the future.

Hmmm. Why do you say you can't break away from your parents (outdated) teachings though you're an adult. Me I stopped following most of my parents advice the minute I turned 18, except for a few things.
Nobody can tell you to be abstainente after you reach the age of consent. Once you're 18, you own your body and what you do with it is completely your choice.

Rayban26:
Keep using contraceptives you dont know you're damaging your womb then you'll be looking for one innocent man to bear your baggage I pity you.

Use of contraceptives does not cause infertility. Every educated person knows that.

Alusiizizi:
Do you do anal?

Nope. And I don't think I ever will. In my opinion, anal is for gay men. And besides it has health risks.

Emekaphilip360:
shut the fuvk up. Look at what this one is saying

Go Bleep yourself and your mother.

Davindal:
Please guys, trust no girl wholeheartedly oo. Trust any girl at your own peril, if you fail to heed my warning.

A girl I have been keeping for almost 2 years - with the hope of marrying her once I pass out from here in NDA - just disappointed me, thereby shattering me to pieces. Right now, am in pains.

I was given 3 days pass to enable me attend an important event at home. Before the permission, my supposed babe have been disturbing on how badly she needed to be sexed, and how distance has been a barrier to that effect. I kept telling her to hold her chill, that am gonna be back soon. Although I had heard annoying stuffs about my babe - now an Ex, on how she was frolicking with different guys in my absence, but I was not deterred; simply because, I didn't believe in hearsays.

Yesterday, she called and sent me sweet text messages as she normally do. I asked her to come over to my house around 4PM which she reluctantly obliged. But the way she sounded over the phone made it clear that she never wished to see me any time soon, maybe due to her schedules with other stuffs.

However, I pondered how my babe who has been disturbing and informing me on how 'conjirized' she is suddenly feel not too excited coming to see me dispite being aware that I came home on Tuesday(17th) night.

Time ticked to 4pm yesterday, I didn't see her. I exercised patience till 5pm before I gave her call, but she didn't pick. I called for the second time but no picking again. I decided to hold dowm my anger and not to call her again for the day. Around 15mins to 6pm, she called back saying that her phone was on silent. I ask why, and she told me she would explain when she reached my home that she was running short of airtime.

Finally, she came and apologized after explanation of what led to her phone being on silent. I asked her never to worry that am not holding anything against her, that she should be free.

However, situation changed the moment I tried making love with her as she undressed. Down her private part, I perceived the 'SCENT of CONDOM', and that was it. I enquired why she smells of condom there, but she couldn't give me coherent and articulate answer.

Being furious, I slapped and pushed her out of my compound.

Today in the afternoon, I sent her final warning to stay clear from me or I will shoot her skull to pieces.

Finally, guys be weary of whom you date. Most ladies out there are evil.

Being furious, I slapped and pushed her out of my compound

Future wife beater already committing domestic violence!!!
The poor girl is better of without you before you send her to an early grave in the name of cheating.

Not like guys don't cheat and sleep around more than women anyway.

Meritjoshua:
I met this girl about a month ago but we started dating since lastweek thursday. So we planned to have fun yesterday. During the pre intemacy i brought out a coñdom she was like "for what"? Do you think i have HIV? Do yov take me for a runz girl? I tried to explain but my explainations fell on deaf ears.

She left after i insisted in using a condom. As for me i can't have sex without protection. I can't just do it.
My question is why do some girls hate using condom?

I'm a girl and I don't like using condoms. I know it's important for safe sex and disease prevention but I just prefer sex without a condom. When I tell some friends this, they immediately begin scolding me about putting my health at risk by being irresponsible about sex but I have a different opinion.
I only have one sexual partner who's a long term boyfriend and (as far as I know) I'm his only partner too. We were both virgins when we met so there's little worry about having a disease from a previous partner. And to prevent pregnancy, I use the contraceptive pill which is even more effective than condoms.
I'm not saying everyone should just have unprotected sex without worry or concerns, it's about what you and your partner feel is right for you and your level of comfort with each other.

In your case, I think it's good you stood your ground and refused to have sex without protection though. If that's what makes you comfortable (which is wise I have to say) then you stick to it no matter what anyone else tells you.

Reminderz:
abstinence till marriage...

abstinence till marriage is stupid to you because you're a olosho... oloshos are very easy to spot by their comments... they lack common sense... because of rampant cases of premarital sex is why we see lots of damaged people, which also led to other addictions like drugs and the likes... in a society where there are sane people, abstinence till marriage is the norm and we've seen the positive results this practice has bred.

not now that marriage and relationship are crashing anyhow because we believe we are now woke, not knowing that we just upgraded to another level of stupidity... the kids and teens should know about sex and the likes but abstinence till marriage should be highly encouraged, in fact, it should be enforced!... because you can predict how the future will turn out to be by the youths of today... and what positives can you mention about the youths or teens of today?

abstinence till marriage is stupid to you because you're a olosho... oloshos are very easy to spot by their comments

It takes one to know one.
And even if I'm olosho so what? Is it a crime? Am I harming anybody?

Is it better to tell children or teenagers when giving them sex education to be abstinent till marriage or just till they're 18, that is when they're adults? I think abstinence till marriage is stupid and old fashioned but, though I'm a very sex positive person, I also don't approve of minors or children having sex.

Emekaphilip360:
There’s a reason why your kpekus is sealed by God. It’s only for your husband. You can’t have many body counts and you expect an innocent man to pay for your bride price. Your past matters as a woman!

Misogynist alert!!! All misogynistic guys like this who think they own women's bodies and get to decide what we do with our bodies should go and die!!! The number of partners someone has does not define them or their worth.

jesusjnr2020:
A Female Producer Denied Me Movie Role Because I refused To Sleep With Her - Actor Chidi Ike



https://9newsng.com/i-was-denied-a-role-because-i-refused-to-sleep-with-the-producer-though-im-a-vrgn-ill-only-sleep-with-the-woman-i-want-to-marry-nollywood-actor-chidi-ike/

What a prude! She doesn't know what she's missing out on. Just my opinion but nobody in their right mind marries as a virgin in this day and age. Abstainence till marriage is for the stone age, not the 21st century.

Stephen2324:
Until you are legally married, don't live with a man, visit and go back home.

Why not? Just because some senseless, old fashioned, over religious prudes say so? Or is there a new law that makes it illegal here?

BigBashiru:
Never made sense to me....Why do husbands pay full price, bride price, expensive introductions, travelling hundreds of kilometers to see parents....for someone that was never truly theirs?? That boyfriends had for free without any of those processes?

I think marriages should just be mostly a celebration of God....

This opinion is just nonsense and shitty. Yet another man with misogynistic opinion about women and women's sexuality.

PaganTerrorist:
before I start I need to make it crystal clear that nothing is happening between me and her. I'm not a pedo and I don't plan to become one.

I give private guitar lessons and for the past year I've been giving lessons to this 17 year old girl (I'm 26). We have a super chill vibe in our lessons and get pretty conversational about casual topics and music we like. Recently she confided in me that she has a crush on me and wants to get closer to me to which I laughed it off and told her point blank the answer is no. I don't know if I should tell her parents about this or how they'll react. I might just stop our lessons altogether. She's a good kid, very popular and pretty. I just don't know how to approach this situation.

It's wise of you not to get into a relationship with her as she's still underage.
Yes I think you should tell her parents what she said, they need to know what's going through their daughters mind.
How it goes after that will determine whether you'll still continue the lessons or not.

PaganTerrorist:
before I start I need to make it crystal clear that nothing is happening between me and her. I'm not a pedo and I don't plan to become one.

I give private guitar lessons and for the past year I've been giving lessons to this 17 year old girl (I'm 26). We have a super chill vibe in our lessons and get pretty conversational about casual topics and music we like. Recently she confided in me that she has a crush on me and wants to get closer to me to which I laughed it off and told her point blank the answer is no. I don't know if I should tell her parents about this or how they'll react. I might just stop our lessons altogether. She's a good kid, very popular and pretty. I just don't know how to approach this situation.

It's wise of you not to get into a relationship with her as she's still underage.
Yes I think you should tell her parents what she said, they need to know what's going through their daughters mind.

Ukafor:
My gf got pregnant (5month) by mistake, abortion wasn't the ryt option i have no other option than to take responsibility, the problem here is that she need anti and post natal care the nurse tel me that the baby is not in good position no proper care for the baby and can't pay for the hospital bills(40k) am an aprentice as u all know it very hard to take care of her am earning litle from the work i as an aprentice pls nairaland should help save my gf and the bady b4 it got to 7 months pls am afraid pls any amount pls 2217978727 zenith bank 4 months from now my baby will be born all this insult wil be my past they is always a way were they is no way, if u insult me bcus i ask for help well karma is real what comes around goes around.... Wil b back when my baby is born.

I'm sorry to hear about your situation. While I'm not judging you but honestly my opinion everytime I see things like this remains the same.

All this unwanted pregnancy trouble is not worth it. It doesn't have to happen to anyone because it's easily preventable. All you have to do is practice safe sex and be responsible. Sex isn't just about pleasure and enjoyment it's also about responsibility.
Nobody gets pregnant by accident anyone these days rather people get pregnant by irresponsibility. Women have more than 10 different contraceptive options, both hormonal and non hormonal to choose from! For guys if you aren't sure the person you're dating is on contraception (and using it correctly) you can always use condoms.
There is no excuse at all for this kind of thing to happen to anyone when you aren't prepared to support a child.
Me for example now, I'm still a student in school I know I'm nowhere near being able to care for a baby. But I want to have sex with my boyfriend so I'm on the contraceptive pill. I can get a 3 months pack for just N1400. Much cheaper than a baby (or even an abortion) I should assume.

Anyway it's too late for advice so about your situation I think you need to get a side job or even jobs to make some more money to take care of your girlfriend during her pregnancy and the baby when it's born. After she gives birth, she should also get a job. Both of you need to step up and be adults not begging for money on an online forum, or even from your parents or family.
And after she gives birth I'll advice that she gets on some form of contraception immediately to avoid another unplanned pregnancy.
Wish you two all the best and congrats in advance.

For all ladies, if you're sexually active and don't want a baby, use contraception!! It doesn't cost much and is safe! No excuse for unwanted pregnancy and unsafe abortions!!!

galantjoe:
Nawaoo
Monkey dey work Babu dey chop.
Oga apprentice when you re holing her, didn't know that you re apprentice and you have no money to cater for her.

Some Nairalanders are ready to help if you re ready to love-vendor your girlfriend to them. Nothing goes for nothing. Not only you know how to enjoy tight kpekus

Utterly disgusting thing to say

IconicR:
Op what did you steal from her too?
Or you think the premarital sex you've been having with her without bride price isn't stealing?
Both of you are directly and indirectly stealing from yourselves
Return all the premarital sex you had with her before having the moral right to call her thief.
Both of you fit each other

Bleep off you old fashioned nonsense hypocrite.This thread is about stealing not sex. Acting as if you don't have sex yourself.

Hollyharjii:
Dear Nairalanders,

Please I need your opinion on this issue, most of my friends (60%) who is now married, married as a result that they impregnated their lady and this prompted the wedding. So they had to do the wedding before the lady delivers the baby.


My concern now is that, this issue is now becoming the normal norms amongst other friend, because to be honest with you, if the pregnancy hasn't surface, settling down wouldn't have crossed their minds at all, so is it a good thing for the lady to be pregnant before wedding or not


Cause, I, as a person is beginning to think in thesame direction as that's the only thing that may lure me into getting married asap


Please help push to front page

As a non religious person who believes religious or biblical morals are shitty trash, I say there's nothing wrong with it. As long as both partners are ready, financially and otherwise, to become good parents, without depending on or becoming a burden to anyone than what's bad there?

I don't plan on getting married, only having a long term relationship, but I want 1 or 2 children. I think marriage is outdated and unnecessary really and you don't need marriage to have a loving and fulfilling relationship or children.

SALVATION30:
Throughout my over 6 years on this platform, I've read various posts by individuals who share their struggles and challenges with masturbation. But I rarely see any about premarital sex. Instead, it seems like a lot of people encourage it.

I created this thread because I want to hear the honest opinions of others.

In my own opinion, if we look at it objectively, I think engaging in premarital sex is worse than masturbation.

The worst things that can ever happen to someone who masturbates are:
Depression
Erectile dysfunction
Addiction to porn
Stunted growth
Loss of essential minerals
Reduced relationship with God, etc.

The worst things that can happen to someone who engages in premarital sex are:
Death
Incurable STIs
Spiritual attacks that can lead to mental illness and incurable illnesses
Risk of being used for rituals, etc.

But above all, the best option is abstinence.

Let's hear your opinion.

In my opinion as someone who's non religious neither are bad. The only time I can ever say something is bad is if it hurts or harms someone else. Neither of them do so they're not bad.They're all ok nothing wrong with it.
In the case of masturbation though as long as one doesn't get addicted it's perfectly fine to explore your body and pleasure yourself.
About sex as long as it's between consenting adults (not under 18 children or an adult and a teenager), and the partners use preventive measures like condoms and or contraceptives to prevent STDs and unwanted pregnancy then nothing wrong either.
Also I feel sex should be done within the context of a relationship but not everyone feels same, many people are ok with casual sex. Nothing really wrong either just make sure you use protection so you don't catch and spread disease.

Coming from a sex lover but who doesn't masturbate

Balkony11223:
Helo al.I would like to know would you want to ever date woman with child already?a single mother.If yes why yes if no why nk

Well I'm not a guy. But if I was, I would definitely be ok with dating a single mother as long as she's a good hearted person who loves and takes care of her child. Single mothers, well most of them at least, aren't bad people most are dedicated strong women who put their children first. As long as she has her own (legitimate) source of income and not replying fully on you the man to take care of her and child then why not?
The only time I'd say don't date a single mom is if you just don't want a child yourself. But if you do, then no harm in it.