Hollyharjii:
Dear Nairalanders,

Please I need your opinion on this issue, most of my friends (60%) who is now married, married as a result that they impregnated their lady and this prompted the wedding. So they had to do the wedding before the lady delivers the baby.


My concern now is that, this issue is now becoming the normal norms amongst other friend, because to be honest with you, if the pregnancy hasn't surface, settling down wouldn't have crossed their minds at all, so is it a good thing for the lady to be pregnant before wedding or not


Cause, I, as a person is beginning to think in thesame direction as that's the only thing that may lure me into getting married asap


Please help push to front page

SALVATION30:
Throughout my over 6 years on this platform, I've read various posts by individuals who share their struggles and challenges with masturbation. But I rarely see any about premarital sex. Instead, it seems like a lot of people encourage it.

I created this thread because I want to hear the honest opinions of others.

In my own opinion, if we look at it objectively, I think engaging in premarital sex is worse than masturbation.

The worst things that can ever happen to someone who masturbates are:
Depression
Erectile dysfunction
Addiction to porn
Stunted growth
Loss of essential minerals
Reduced relationship with God, etc.

The worst things that can happen to someone who engages in premarital sex are:
Death
Incurable STIs
Spiritual attacks that can lead to mental illness and incurable illnesses
Risk of being used for rituals, etc.

But above all, the best option is abstinence.

Let's hear your opinion.

Balkony11223:
Helo al.I would like to know would you want to ever date woman with child already?a single mother.If yes why yes if no why nk

jmoore:

Shut up!! Why is my choice giving you a migraine?

Shut up!

jmoore:
I don't judge people by their past. But I make a choice for my own future and my choice is virgin bride or nothing.

Loveabove:
Please I need you people's advice and I want to be as brief and straight to the point.

My sister gave birth to 2 children under circumstances I'm not to explain here. She took ill and passed away last month.

Since we were just two of us, (our parents are late) the responsibility of taking care of this little kids of 8 and 5 has fallen on me.

God knows I love these kids and would take them as my own but I don't have a job and struggling seriously to survive. It's killing since they became my full responsibility. I was thinking any of the extended family member or a good person would come up to take them.

House rent has expired and problems everywhere.

Since no where else to take them to, I'm considering taking them to the orphanage. It's not my fault please. If I have the means, i would keep them and take very good care of them as they are very dear to me.

Like i said, i love this two boys and would take them as mine, providing for them now as it should, is the challenge.

Their presence is even affecting the small thing I am doing, especially by way of paying attention to them.

Please advise me on what to do.

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Jeon:
Abortion should be legalize since 90 % of Men can't pocket the dick /and ar3 allergic to condom. And some Women can't close their legs.

By doing this single mothers will be less, unless it happens in a natural way lik Divorce or the passing of the father, resulting to widow.

Bennysam:
I can't settle for left a over

Quality20:
By southern women I mean tribes and ethnic groups like Yoruba/calabar, Igbo/idoma/tiv, SS and the like. Many even commit several abortions b4 marriage with others bringing strange pregnancies to their new marital homes

ahnie:

The 12yrs old acts normal no issues with that one.


But you see the one I mentioned has already started collecting dicks.

Bennysam:

So because you're in 21st century you also lost your sense of dignity

fyzaila:


One body count my foot who have sex with someone you aren't married to? If not a loosed person and who's a loosed person without self respect and dignity? If not a harlot. And that's the kind of person you're.

orohbiro:
There is nothing in sex kiss, touch and knack at most 45minutes everything is over

turmacs:
My BF has been away for almost a week and he's going to be away for 3 weeks... I'm currently alone in this house and I don't like masturbation, I've done it Once and swore never to do it again...But now, how do I satisfy my urges without him? I don't plan on cheating but this thing is really not easy...I really miss that big fat Penis ramming back and forth against the walls of this kpekus, firing on all cylinders Ladies please help me with tips to overcome this konji apart from self service,lemme nor die here

fyzaila:


All your topics shows you're nothing but a harlot.

fyzaila:
Do your prostitution in peace and let us hear word.

BigBlackPreek:
You're also from Ilorin wow 😂

LoveUdie:

TELL HIM THE TRUTH.

Whether you tell him the truth or a lie, it will be discovered on your wedding night. Not all brothers are daft not to identify a sister who is a virgin or not.

Let me share this story with you. A sister got married and on their wedding night, the brother discovered she had been lying to be a virgin all along.

This single lie of hers almost broke her new home. The brother wasn't angry because she wasn't a virgin but because she LIED. If you want to break a person's trust in you, tell a lie!

While they were courting, the brother asked to know about her past sexual life (if any), not to disdain her, he just wanted to know what to expect on their wedding night at least.

Meanwhile, the sister had lost her virginity. According to her, she had sex just a few times before rededicating her life to Christ. But she chose to lie to her fiancee for whatever reason that suit her.

Virginity is not something to lie about especially when you have given your life to Christ. Whatever happened in your past was only a chapter of your life, not the entire book!

It is better to let the brother know that you are no longer a virgin and trust is established than tell a lie and lose his trust for you when he finds out. But before you divulge such information, please hear this.

It is very important to go into a relationship with a Child of God who understands forgiveness and restoration. I mean a man who understands that when a sister is in Christ, all things become NEW and she can be trusted.

Some of our born-again brothers do not understand these things. Their born-again doesn't want to have anything to do with a sister's past. They are looking for a saint to marry. Some of them are even bent on marrying a virgin.

So, if you're in a relationship with a brother like that, just know that telling him you're not a virgin might birth the END of that relationship and you must be ready for whatever comes out of your sincere truth. Probably, he was never yours!

But here's the main thing. If the brother you're in a relationship with asks if you're a virgin or not, tell him the truth! Even if he doesn't ask, because some brothers might be shy to ask such questions, let him know the truth before you get married.

You don't have to tell him how many times it happened. Just let him know you are not a virgin and since you gave your life to Christ or rededicated your life to Christ, you have turned a new leaf.

Giving him the full details might escalate things. Not every man can contain such information, especially at that moment. It is wise to know what to say and how to say it.

The most important thing is, he knows what to expect on your wedding night and trust is established!

Also, divulging such information at the stage of friendship or the early stage of your relationship isn't wise. You must take your time to know the kind of man he is, and how he interprets things, and react to them.

Secondly, you must be sure he loves you so much not to allow such information to ruin your relationship. Thirdly, be sure he is not an 'I must marry a virgin' kind of man. If he is, then he is not for you!

His mentality about virginity or not matters a lot and you must be aware of it.

However, some brothers do not mind, as long as you have repented from that old way of life. So, don't be scared to say the truth.

Tell him the truth, not only because you don't want to lie to him but because you are a Child of...... https://www.allsinglesandmarried.com/?m=1

Mary Balogun

Freshtruth:
Good day a friend of mine who is on his third year at the university use his school fees to buy a phone for his girlfriend on her birthday now registration is closing next week Friday. His mom sells roasted plantain (Bolle) by the road side and he told me me he can't go and meet her again for the school fees . I told him to go meet his girlfriend who has already registered for the semester to sell the phone he told me it look some how pls what should he do now the he has Been able to sell his phone not up to the amount he need 30k between now till on Friday or he will have an extra year pls help

LarryCork:



Shame on u.so u asking people to take a shance & go in to prostitute..and then u say unwanted pregnansy is normal.you are a disgrase shame on u!!(no oofense)

advanceDNA:


...na too much American film wey she dey watch.....she say she no want husband.. but want a man they will live together..that means care for her, pay her bills, not cheat on her, and raise children with

.....She wants all the perks of marriage without being married...she dey play

donogaga:
When single ladies choose to cohabit with men, yielding to free sexual servicing, domestic chores and the likes, what exactly goes through their minds?

This is love?
This will make him marry me?
I am married and this is my duty?
This is what it takes to hold a man?

Which?

More importantly, why is it difficult for women to see this at this point.
Chances are many are reading this now telling themselves "no, this is not me. My own case is different. We are in love."

Okay then. Love.

What is love? What to you is love?

We cannot understand, you think.

Welcome to the journeys that led to the pregnancies that led to undesired marriages that became toxic and ended up in very hurtful divorces having one person bearing almost all the physical, financial and social cost of it as a single parent.

Welcome to the realities many of us currently live but then, maybe we don't understand.

If he truly loves you, he'd do the needful and marry you right. Don't be mistaken. When the right one comes along, he'd do away with all the excuses he's giving you and marry her. Unfortunately, many learnt this lesson the hard way.

The choice is yours.



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aisha1314:
I'm a 19 year old lady who just started her 100 level in university. On Sunday I had sex with a guy who I met last week Wednesday and asked me out.
Something in me wants to talk to my mom about my new relationship and sex life but I'm not so sure if and how I should go about this. Should I tell my mom that I've lost my virginity? Is it ok or common to do this?

VinnyBaba:


If she Carry Gonorrhea now@such Age, won't she run to her Parents for Help

adenigga:


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