Ballotelle:
Good day house, has any experienced job loss unexpectedly as a graduate and how did you cope during that period expecially when you have a family (labourer jobs are not even easy to come by), how did you cope with rejection, the emotional effect

beekind:
I am the 2nd born out of 2 children, my elder brother has been married for some time with no kids as a result I am super careful with issues relating to fertility.
I am in my late 30s and have been dating a 27 year old lady for 4 months now, the relationship moved so fast as she is a perfect match for me .
I have met her family and she has met mine, we are already planning marriage and have started counselling sessions in her church.

She complained of irregular periods so I told her to do a hormonal profile test and see a gynecologist, turns out she has got PCOS.

I have done my own fertility test and I am fine, I am at a cross road now, I cannot afford to struggle with child birth considering my age and also my only other sibling still also having issues with the wife also still trying to get pregnant after many years.

The only other option would have been to ask her to try for pregnancy before marriage but she is a virgin and wants to keep it that way till wedding, besides if I disvirgin her, how will I be able to walk away incase she doesn't get pregnant ?

I am at crossroads now, its not too late but walking away at this point will be very costly for me since we have already started plans towards the wedding and our families are already in touch.

My heart is heavy and I am confused, I need good advise as I cannot discuss this with anyone.

marvelck:
Thanks to Akwa ibom State, guys can get married without emptying their bank accounts

Unlike in other states, especially in imo and Anambra states, getting married to their girls is usually very expensive. And they won't even beg you, if you can't afford it. Cos they are never short of wealthy suitors, according to them

But in Akwa ibom State, one can marry even without paying the bride price and spending millions of naira. All you need to do, is just an introduction, in case you are not bouyant enough to do the whole marriage ceremony. You can.always do the rest later. Doing the introduction alone, is enough for you to take the girl home as your wife....

Can you see how easy is it to get married to the love of you ur life in Akwa Ibom State

marvelck:
I ve noticed in Uyo, Akwa ibom state, most of the guys there now go for village girls whenever they want to get married. You see guys travelling to their village, or asking their folks in the village to get a very good and responsible girl for them to marry, after sampling and dumping the city girls they must have had something with.

According to them, they want a girl they will b submissive and supportive. And not one, that is over exposed or that would be opening eye for them.

So, ladies try and behave yourself if you happen to find yourself in the city. Guys are watching every move you make....

Godoverevery:
Note- this not a post to bash ladies.

A pattern I noticed with most working class ladies have dated from 27yrs old upward.
At the earliest stage, they claim to be tired of relationship, they are fine without a man.
They are doing fine without a man and in fact if not for pressure they don't mind not getting married...(mostly lies)

They say am financially ok without a man, i bought my phone, paid house rent etc without any man and i can never depend on any man hence why they can never be liability since they are working..(mostly lies)

Most claim to be doing fine during the wooing stage but immediately we start dating things turn out differently from what they claim.

Am dating a lady currently who works for a fashion house on the island...During the wooing stage we actually spoke alot for about 2 months and she claimed to be financially ok and doesn't need a man money. Infact she told me how much she paid weekly which is very decent with free accommodation and feeding.

We just started dating not up to 3weeks and this lady have been making demands which I find very childish and too disgraceful for an adult working.
She always complaining of money despite earning above minimum wage weekly.

This morning she called and i didn't pick........I chatted her up and she telling me her cream have finished and i replied hmmmm.
This a pattern have noticed with most working class ladies have dated......they tell you am an independent woman during wooing stage but once relationship start it just seems they are working and not earning with the way they demand and still be pressuring you with marriage talks.

(just want to know if am the only experiencing this or is just normal)

Note: this the fourth time this lady is demanding from me in 3 weeks and they are embarrassing to me for someone who earns.

Agwotulumbe1:
Wike is desperate to officially move to Apc (probably the pressure from Aso rock)
but the problem here is that Wike cannot be in the same party with Amaechi.
judging that Amaechi is fully in control of rivers Apc structure so Wike joining Apc from grassroot is impossible and him being an egocentric person will want a full Rivers structure of APC in his palm.
simply put it, Wike want to dominate rivers politics using Apc but two people are standing on his way.
Amaechi and Fubara.
Fubara being the governor want to dominate his government and establish himself in his government knows that him decampng to Apc means one thing.
it means that Wike is the governor in proxy while he's just a puppet so I guessed he disagreed with Wike.
Secondly even tho he's wike's successor picked by him, he's not totally a fan of wike's ways (recall that he tried to invite Atiku to his inauguration).
In Wike's part he want a loyal governor who'll help him drive Amaechi out of rivers Apc so he can establish himself.
that's why he's fighting fubara.
right now Amaechi is the clog in the wheel of Wike's decamp because him Wike does not want to answer Abuja politician, he wants to dominate and to feel relevant.
it's gonna be a long battle and just like he tutored Obaseki against Oshiomole another person go tutor Fubara against him.
his only hope is waiting for 4 years but I doubt if he can do anything to a 4 years experienced and established governor by then.

Ozommadu:


Do you know the number of agbo hawkers in every nook and crannies of this country??

Agbo hawkers made up 90% of street hawking in Nigeria fact.

Serendipity2023:
The biggest/most expensive soup I have ever made.

Okra soup.


Beef 4500
Fresh Titus fish -2400
Roasted titus fish- 2500
Okra -1800
Fluted Pumpkin (ugu) leaves- 800
Pepper and onions -500
Crayfish 500-700
Red oil and maggi -500
Miscellaneous-- 500

About 14k well spent.

That's money some men would pay a rude hook up girl.

Even me spent same amount on getting mouth action from different girls last month.

I just pray "NEPA" won't disappoint.

Because I will eat this till March next year😂🏃‍♂

My most loyal girl likes my okra soup ee.

Husband material 98 %😄😄

ibinaboonline:
The debate has been ongoing for a long time now and this is my two cents on the matter.

A car's speed is not solely determined by whether it has a manual or automatic transmission. Both manual and automatic transmissions can offer similar performance in terms of speed.

However, the actual speed and acceleration depend on various factors such as the engine's power, torque, aerodynamics, and weight.

True, manual transmissions can provide a more direct connection between the driver and the engine, allowing for precise control and potentially faster acceleration if the driver is skilled at shifting gears efficiently.

On the other hand, modern automatic transmissions, especially those with advanced dual-clutch or continuously variable designs, can shift gears quickly and efficiently, potentially rivaling or surpassing the performance of manual transmissions.

Experienced drivers, what do you think?

ahnie:
Saw this huge man with a tray of plantain this morning hawking,called him to patronize him told him the amount I wanted and surprising he sold 11 pieces for #500.

He said he buys from yoruba land the reason why it's cheap

As an avid patronizer of cheapie,I told him to bring more tomorrow.
I intend cooking plantain veggie with it

KiNg0G:
I am not here for financial aid but help from people who have overcome such problems.


I can't help but think, when I get married with a wife and kids to feed, is this how I am going to continue? How will my family respect me.

This is the 3rd time of me replacing my tv set in the last 2years. Whenever I run out of money, I search for anything valuable to sell in my home, with the mindset that I will replace it. Which I normally do but sometimes it takes time because i know i might sell it again within some weeks. This is getting on me deeply with the number of cartons of phones and receipts from same equipments I no longer have.
My generator is another thing to talk about that my neighbors and landlord are starting to gossip because I can't explain changing of generator to and fro when its always placed outside.

I know I need help but don't know how to go about this.
I am not here for financial assistance as claimed by some peoples in anyway please, some of us seek for ways to stop some certain things when we know we are falling off tracks.

I am on my way to lg office to replace my TV for the third time and the thought of it warrants this post.

boldx:
We all know that the number of car owners that tint their windows is so high now.

Let me kind of state some of the pros of tinted car windows.

Pros
1) It gives the occupants of the car some privacy
2) It gives your car some cool look.

Cons
In my opinion, it may affect your clarity of vision

Please feel free to add your voice to this