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pmc01:
There vs Their


And people dey vex on top IELTS

As in ehn

pmc01:
Then "save" with "safe".

The sounds alone should be enough to differentiate between their uses na.

Being and been too dey off me

bewov:
Please guys, I have something bothering me so much, I will really appreciate it if I can get a matured response.

These might be long, but please bare with me

There is this girl have been dating since March 2021. Although, we met in University days and we have been dating since 2017, but because I was graduating and she has 1 more year to spend in the school, I left her and travelled to Lagos to work, because I got a job in a company in Lagos, immediately I graduated. I needed to concentrate on my future so I told her I want to pause the relationship to focus, but I will definitely be back for her, I promised her this. She was a virgin then!

After working in the company for 2years, I also learnt some IT skills online while I was working in the company, and I was earning cool money from it, so I decided to quit the job and focus more on the online business.

My business have been doing well and I have about 2 other virtual assistant helping me out, anyway I was kind of comfortable, so I thought of fulfilling my promise to my girlfriend. I called her one morning, and she was shocked! We chatted a bit and I told her I want us to see urgently, we schedule a date for her to meet me in the hotel, because I was staying in Lekki and he stays around Surulere, I wanted an hotel close to her house, so she can return early.

We met at the hotel and I can see she missed me so much, around 3pm I told her I'm back and I want us to continue dating and I'm ready to settle down, she agreed and we have been dating, all this happened around March 2021. Around April, I travelled out for about 2months, but I was very communicating with her, and when I got back around June, I discovered she had sex with another guy in May. Now, I wouldn't say she did it because of money, because I pay her 20k every month for upkeep, sometimes I just pay her 30k! She is not a wayward girl though, and she is not a type that sleeps around with guys back then in school, but once i came back into her life, I see a different girl entirely, when I came back she wasn't a virgin anymore, it's not my problem anyway, because the truth is I never forgot her during all those years I left her behind.

I didn't tell her I knew she cheated on me, but all I do tell her was that she did something bad to me and I want her to open up to me about it, but my girl kept on denying it, she sworn with her life, that she didn't cheat on me, that night I was shocked. Then, I didn't talk about it again till September, I gave her those months to regret her actions and confess to me, but she never did, also I didn't stop helping her financially, I still pay her monthly for upkeep. I know you will be wondering why I give her money, right? This girl was with me and loyal to me when I had nothing, like nothing at all! She was raised by a single mother and she is struggling a lot, after graduating she decided to go for Hair Stylist training, that is where she is currently. So I just give her money monthly just to stay strong.

So around September I decided to tell her she cheated on me, although it was that once, she begged, cried and told me she was drunk and regretted it, she told me she doesn't want to tell me because she knows I will end the relationship, well to be candid I love her so much, so I decided to forgive her, but since that day, trusting her was very very difficult for me. Although, I do watch her and since then I have never seen anything of such from her.

January 2022, her mother stopped her from coming to my place, she wants me to come see her first before she can allow her daughter to come visit me again. So, I went to see her mom last month and I made my intentions known to her, I told her I will want to marry her daughter and she said she is okay with it, if her daughter is okay with me.

This girl is my type of girl but, she has some behaviours that sincerely I don't think I can deal with.

She has this mindset of "A woman should be equal to a man".

She doesn't respect me, she chats with random guys and if they invite her for outing, she goes with them, even if I tell her not to go! When she visits me, she says I must join her in doing the house chores, she will say "It's either you clean the house and I will wash the plates and cook, or she wash the plates and cook, while I clean the house". And sometimes if she wants to cook for me, she will want me to come to the kitchen with her and do some works, maybe Grind pepper with blender or slice onion, if I dont, she gets annoyed, saying will she be the one to be doing all?

She did something that annoyed me this morning, around 6am today I went to the filling station to get petrol, well she knows I eat early always, maybe 6am or 7am, I would have taken breakfast, but she has never dished me food at that time, I always do it myself whenever she is around. When I got back from the filling station, I still met my girlfriend on the bed pressing her phone, I told her I'm hungry and I will want to eat Spaghetti with tomato sauce, and she replied "Baby, please cook it yourself, you said I'm your queen, pamper me na" Really? What does that have to do with you cooking for your fiance?

Well, I was annoyed, I went to the kitchen and prepared the food myself, the truth is when the food was ready, I only dished my own and ate, she said "What about her? Won't she eat?" I didn't answer her!

Aside from this, sincerely sometimes she talks to me rudely, and one thing she and I knows is that she is very very stubborn and not ready to submit to any man. Sincerely, this attitude is making me scared of settling down with her, I want to propose her this year and do the marriage rights but with all this behaviours I'm thinking the marriage will be hell for me.

When she came over yesterday, I prepared food for her before her arrival, and I served her, all she could say was "What is this? The food taste bad! Is this food or poison?" She never gave a good compliments about the meal, yet she finished the food and went for second round.

Last night before we went to bed, I told her to warm the rice and the stew, she said it won't get spoilt that she will do it in the morning, I asked her if she is sure, she said Yes. And I went to the kitchen before preparing my Spaghetti, I saw the rice is already bad and can't be eaten, I showed it to her and she was like "haaa she doesn't know it will spoil"

Also, the chicken I bought yesterday to cook her the meal, I couldn't use all, I left some in the pot, and I forgot to warm it last night, my girl saw it while washing the plates this morning, and she was like "What is this?" I told her chicken and she said "And you didn't warm it" she left it there in the pot like that without doing anything to revive it. Before I went to the kitchen to do it myself!

She only washed the plates, bath and went to church this morning, she didn't arrange the bed, nor sweep the room littered with all we ate last night. I'm sure of the message she is passing to me... "Have washed the plates, you clean the house".

Please guys, I want to propose her around August and settle down with her in November, but this behaviours are the things turning me off.

Will she changed and act normal when we get married, or this will continue? The guys she chat with, which I told her I don't like it, she replied that "She will never and ever leave them". All these types of attitudes and not showing me respect, do you think she will change after we get married or she will continue?

Please guys, I'm very confused here

You never see wife o op

This one Na error 404

Ray07:
$5 a month.

Plateau state governor patch patch no the fail for that one.

Walahi

Lol...same in plateau state

Some workers are on strike now

All na just mouth

ivandragon:
One way to verify the period the letter was written is to go to INEC to inquire when it was received there...

I was looking for this comment.

This should settle it totally

checkmatez:
The revenue Lagos is generating for nurtw is so huge that Lagos state need it badly... Next will be

Ban NURTW from Lagos (codedly)
Create a new taskforce for road workers and name it "LA" something as usual
Then create new executives with oluomo as chairman.
Case close.

Your head get oil

Mikolo70:
Don't mind that Okoro... Go and watch the interview.

Ọmọ, some people dey watch news upside down

Awkabigboy:
Yes, listen to his channels television interview

LoL

Did he say he wants to be his running mate or that he's not interested?

tolue42:
Are you daft to know that all over the world the president is always the number 1 in any political party that brought him to power? How old are you? I want to check something.

Some people no get sense.

How does he expect Tinubu to hold a position in a party he formed, isn't that stupidity?

Besides, after doing party work, he's now expected to come and contest for political office again.

Na true say people daft

Awkabigboy:
Lmao, then it shows you're retarded sorry to say. Amaechi is the man and even El rufai who is amongst those that deposed Buni has said he is considering being his running mate. Una never learn afonjja. Like Abiola like Tinubu

El rufai said he wants to be his running mate?

Lol, Buni is a goner, make him just go back yobe kawaii

orohbiro:
I met this guy last year at the shopping more we became an item, he even bought me iPhone pro max on my birthday he has be showing me care and all that.

But for the past 3 weeks the attention has reduce I think he is seeing another Lady he normally send me money month Ending to make my hair but he didn't send me money this past February he work at a construction company I don't want to loose him and I don't want to fight with another lady because of a man if I find him with any.

What should I do please and getting tired of the whole thing. It took him 2 months to win my heart.

Lol, that man is gone baby..gone

surebona:
Ok, our relationship was not that serious because I was still bringing up my ex into conversation so she found someone that was willing to marry her, she got married and few weeks later she chatted me up that her man is not capable of getting her pregnant due to complications and that she want me to please help out, that the man agreed to her getting satisfaction outside..

Me confuse o.
Abeg which kind wahala b this one and I no even know weten I wan cap dis bani like dis o.

Lol, na scope,. Her husband doesn't know jack, he can't satisfy her and that's all

NotKnown:
This guy na regular customer be that.

You Sabi them well.

Lmao, that's the last thing I'll do.

I actually bought a phone using easy buy last year and I was robbed of it barely month later, the easy buy people said there's nothing they can do to help me recover the phone that i should keep paying for it, in my mind I'm like who does that.

Na so i just dey tell them say i go pay i go pay anytime they call me since then

NotKnown:
First report to your bank.

That's illegal withdrawal.

They will tell the bank that you paid fort services. Tell the bank that it was an illegal withdrawal even after paying for the services.

Make sure you have proof.




Secondly there's something people don't know about these loan sharks.

When they disturb you like this, don't be worried about sending messages to your contacts. They only do that when you don't respond to them.

If you don't have the money they won't kill you. Talk to them and tell them you will pay. Then pay anything you have. That's shows you have it in mind to pay.

If they eventually send any messages to your contacts, honestly don't pay them again.

After some time they will consider your loan a bad loan and stop pestering you.

Then you don't need to pay any loan again. However note that you will never be able to borrow from them again.


Note: this method has been tied and tested and proven to be accurate.

Lol, true

Anytime they call, just apologize and tell them you'll pay soon, them go free you till they remember again

grandstar:
You have a point about those 3 names you mentioned. He may have a fighting chance.

My worry is, I don't see him winning. Something just tells me Northern politicians will not want to answer to a man who is a master of godfather politics. They outplayed him in the 2 chambers in 2015 when they dumped the party's selected candidates for their preferred ones to run both houses. I am sure they see him lording over them as he has done in the Southwest. The primaries will decide his fate.

He too is a master schemer so I expect a lot of surprises, i really wish he just threw his weight behind PYO though

WhizdomXX:
Well Said. Nigeria will Rise Again.
Modified.
Atiku/Saraki would be a better vote getter for PDP than a Southwest vice in my opinion.
Although Southerners would fight for their own.

North/North
Muslim/Muslim

It won't fly

Op, you'll still need to go to the bank with those documents because the account is currently limited to receiving inflow, you won't be able to register your app or use used code for transfers without your atm card and you have to get that from the bank as well.

Lastly, if big money enters that account, it will be blocked till you visit the bank with those documents.

You best bet is to have the account to receive money you're not willing to spend soon, if you need to spend money in it, just jejely go to bank with the necessary documents for an account upgrade.

Cheers!

grandstar:
Hmmmm.

Who is his running mate? Is he Muslim or Christian?

I have always thought it would be Osinbajo and Zulum as his deputy. However, it seems Buhari has refused to endorse any candidate. If true, Osinbajo is no longer a shoo-in.

However, Tinubu being a Muslim would mean he needs a Christian as his running mate. I doubt there is a Northern Christian that will appeal to the core North.

There is Yakubu dogara, Boss mustapha and babachir Lawal.

I feel it is a big gamble seeing that the north can be influenced by the fact that Tinubu is Muslim, they have someone from the north as vice and that power returns to them again after his tenure, however the extremism of the north as regards religion is what I see as a stumbling block.

I heard kwankwaso is planning to defect to another party, that move will divide a lot of votes in the north

Bush meat don catch hunter

O tun ti zeh o

yemi1504:
Add Iheanacho in a 4-3-3 formation for the 3 forwards and we have our forwards line for the Ghana matches and if we qualify, for the World Cup. That forward line pegs the Ghanaians back and their defenders will be prone to making mistakes which is a penalty waiting to happen!

Oshey coach Ito

How did he not figure that there was an excess until he received the call...192k in #500 notes is 3 bundles and 84 pieces while 292k is 5 bundles and 84 pieces.

If he didn't get the call, baba for just dey wonder if na miracle increase him get, him try as he return am sha, he'll have a free conscience.

Emmayorejoice:
I needed to withdraw 35k this morning in order to attend to some urgent cash needs and since I didn't want only N1000 notes I decided to enter the banking hall. To avoid issues I arrived before 8 am and was one of the first to be attended to. The cashier paid me with N20k bundle and counted 15k with the counting machine twice and gave me my bundle. I didnt bother to do another count as I saw her use the machine twice. Only for me to get back home and realise I had an extra N32k. I counted and recounted but it was an excess.

Truth be told times could be much better Covid and Buhari did not help matters but as a Christian I know not to keep what is not mine. God knows it could have solved a lot of problems but its best to wait for what is mine so i had to go back to the bank and wait to see the Teller. Looking at her interact with her colleagues one could tell she was not happy.
When it was my turn she asked what kind of transaction I wanted and I just handed her the N32k. The relief and joy on her face could not be hidden. She had already told her colleague beside her that she was short so they both joined in telling me thank you.

As usual some may say I was foolish for returning the money but either a young lady could have lost her job in these terrible times or at least the money would be removed from her salary which is still bad enough.
My only prayer is God should consider this and remember me for good.

May God bless you abundantly for this and take pain and sorrow far from you.

Out staff mistakenly inputed 4400 on our POS terminal last month for a lady who wanted to withdraw 40,400, the woman never came back....i know how much pain it was to lose 36k in seconds and how our heart never wishes her well wherever she is.

God bless you once again.

SugarPapi:
So... I'm 39/m, married with 3 beautiful kids. Wife and kids are abroad, while I'm gainfully employed here in Nigeria. This is my story -

I've always been a chilled introverted guy with almost zero worries. I'm committed to my work and my work is also committed to me, at least, I'm able to send a healthy amount to my wife and kids in the Queen's country, every month. As a 'Manchelor', this is my daily schedule - wake up, go to work, close late, get home, play PS, skype the fam, sleep, rinse and repeat.

I seldom have time for social media, but once in a while, I log into Facebook and IG to catchup with friends. This was the beginning of my dilemma.

December of last year, I was scrolling on my timeline when I got a notif. Someone had liked my picture. I clicked through her profile and saw this young pretty girl. Honestly, I did not exactly fancy her at first, but I reciprocated the like on one of her pictures and logged of to bed.

When I woke the next morning, she had followed me. I followed back and thanked her for the follow in her dms.

This damsel was around 6ft, pretty, fair and easy on the eyes. She did not have any revealing or tight fitting clothes on her profile so at the beginning, I could not exactly place her physique.

We started chatting that day and as satan will have it, one day, I got leave from work. It was an unfateful Friday so I invited her to a day out at The Palms. We ate , watched a movie then when I wanted to book a ride for her back home, she said she'd like to know my house.

Tbh, I thought this was quite forward and voiced it. I love my Wife dearly. I love my children as well. I would never do anything to deliberately hurt them so I turned down her offer and booked the ride. She stays at Yaba, I at LP1.

She entered her ride and I did not contact her again.

Well, hello next morning!

Her WhatsApp call woke me up. It was a Saturday so I was at home. We spoke at length, she thanked me for the previous day and told me to at least allow her pay me back. "This girl sef!" I thought to myself.

We got to know each other better across the phone in that singular call and I felt it in my soul that she was a genuine one... not an 'InMessage' girl. She was a student at UNILAG in her 300l, studying Accounting. She was a really homely girl, light spoken and very respectful.

It was not yet mid-day when her cab to my house was 10 minutes away.

She came in, looking like a queen. Jeeez! Remembering that day sends shivers down my spine. Thankfully, I leave in a building all to myself so there no prying eyes to call Mama omo SugarPapi in faraway Ireland. My security guy opened for them, she alighted and paid the cab herself. WAWU!

She came and hugged me, we held hands as I pulled her in. She had not fully entered my house when I swept her off her feet, our lips crushed together in intense canoodle. Her tongue was probing inside my mouth as mine hers. Before I could process what was happening, she went on her knees and I felt my soul leave my body.

By this time, I had still not seen her body, so I led her to my guest room and my God!

Brief history... before this day, I had always considered myself an 'ass guy'. Actually, the few guys I consider friends know me as an ass guy. I loved huge melons but 'the behind' gets me most of the time.

Dear NLers, this girl's bossoms where neither ginormous nor small. They were just the perfect size and they stood! My God they stood! Firmly in my face, begging, begging to be...

I'm a 39yo guy and I confess that I have never experienced sex like that till that day! She was so sensual, so soft, no rush, no wrong. She mounted and rode me that day till I came. It has never ever happened before... not even with my partner and my she can f*ck!

It took every fiber of my being not to cry like a child as she rode me with ease and finesse. It was not that type of riding where the girl tries to burst your kidneys or emasculate you. It was focused on just my shaft and its cap. At some point, I was afraid I will pass out.

I had to quickly pull her off me before I pass out.

We ordered some take out, went at it three more times and around 8pm she was on a ride home. I told her to send me her account for me to send her something for the weekend. She out rightly refused and also refused me paying for her transport. WTH?! Abi na mami water tins?

Well it's been three months now and I can't seem to let her go. I have never experienced sex the way she does it. I confess that I may be catching actual feelings for her. I see myself jealous when she receives a call from her male counterparts, she once showed me a video she made with her ex. I was so angry. When she noticed my demeanour, she came, sat on my naked groin and whispered in my ears - "he is in the past, THE PAST".

I have to come voice out my predicament because she is now taking space in my heart. I can't do this to my family.

Guys, how do I 'divorce' this girl?

You write beautifully boss.

I'm not married, so my advice might seem out of the unconventional but if you indeed want to let go of the girl, just start talking about your wife at every instance and reduce the amount of time you spend with her, cut down your communication with her too.

Proximity, communication and availability have a way of messing things in cases like this, if you'll do well to cut down on those, sgell5be gone in 3 months max

AbijaJ:
Baba OBJ can't even influence the outcome of gubernatorial election in his native Ogun state, not to talk of presidential election.

I tire o...

This publication na just one journalist wey dey under pressure to publish story write am

E no follow

Even while he was president, Tinubu stood shoulder to shoulder with obj as a governor and has therefter gone ahead to dictate several affairs, why would he need his blessings now?

Names go a long way in someone's life

Freedom2022:
Hello people. Please i beg someone here who is sincere and have the fear of God and want progress for his fellow human being to recommend a place where i can receive deliverance. The last 8 years of my life has been HORRIBLE. MONEY CANNOT STAY IN MY HAND FOR 48 HOURS and it is gone. I will not exaggerate, i have lost over 30 million naira over the past 10 years and i have been in DEBT for over 8 years consistently. I have NEVER been happy for straight 1 week for the past 10 years. Once money gets to my hand, it vanishes within 48 hours. I don't want to mention what it goes into because people are actually making millions from it so as not to discourage people. IT IS JUST ABOUT ME.
Now let me say something.

Whenever I have money with me, a mysterious cough starts and once the money is gone, the cough goes. It has been like this for the past 8 years. I cant explain it.

Right now, it has gotten to the worst and no matter how much is with me, it goes within hours. For example, if someone send me money right now, a mysterious cough will start in less than 30 minutes that the money gets to me and immediately i will not know what i am doing again (for real). Then i deposit all the money immediately into my Forex account, then this cough will get intense, i will cough and cough without stopping and before i know what is happening, the money is gone. Then that is when i realize and come back to my senses. I am been real and this is a true life situation.

Please guys dont joke with this because my life ruined right now. I can't boast of anything in my life right now. I have NOTHING. and the worst part of this is that i owe all loan apps money. I owe about 20 apps money as of today and all loans due and they have rubbished me already which as been going on for the past 8 years too.

I have tried to find out what could be wrong with me and i believe there is an unfamiliar force in my life. I can't explain somethings here but i need a powerful/powerful men/man of God to lead me through because i am ready to embark on a journey to redeem my lost glory. I have tried several time on my own but i think i am facing a lot of resistance and i give up almost immediately. Some people call it "agbana" but this type is so strong in my life and needed to be broken else i will be finished completely because right now, i am at the last days of destruction.

To shock you guys, i have someone in my family that experienced this thing too but in a different dimension and recently another person (i dont want to give too much information).

I have come to realize or believe that its is either a generational curse (ogun idile) or something i dont understand. See guys, something is happening spiritually in my life that is manifesting physically and this has to be broken IMMEDIATELY. Some people here may think otherwise which i agree with for a long time until i begin to see a pattern and i can tell it is not ordinary.

Right now, i have run away from home and i have promised myself never to return until this chain is broken.

I will be reading advices and recommendations here and i pray God guide me to pick the best because i know someone will recommend something that will change the narrative.

PLEASE GUYS, THIS IS A LIFE ISSUE AND I HAVE GONE TROUGH A LOT ALREADY. PLEASE DON'T ADD TO MY PAINS AND SORROWS. IF YOU CAN'T HELP ME PLEASE I BEG YOU IN THE NAME OF GOD TO JUST READ.

UPDATE

I think i need to add this. On 3 occasions, i got a very juicy high paying job with big companies in Nigeria. One is one of the top 5 big companies in Nigeria and have spread across some African countries while another is one of the top 5 companies in the world (It is a big company). But guess what? My offers on the 3 different occasions were withdrawn few days to resumption without any explanation. Is it a coincidence?

This your case dey peculiar and critical.

Go to any correct cele church around you and explain to the shepherd in charge make Dem help you was your hand and head to stop amubo and agbana

OMEGA009:
Travel light and buy your stuff from “Terminus” market. The residents are extremely nice, receptive and love their booze. Choose your residence carefully and stay around people who practice your faith as religious riots are rife in some areas. Just carry plenty condom full body cos sex there is cheap but HIV is cheaper.

Na why you wan enter inside pvssy?

SalisuJasper:
Please can someone give me tips, i have just been posted to plateau state for my nysc.

what are the things i need to know

Congratulations and welcome to the home of peace and tourism.

If you're person who like to adapt to situations, you'll be fine.

The cold is gradually waning out, from end of this month, it'll be a bit stuffy till rain comes, so you're good.

The people are friendly, transportation and food are not expensive.

If you like a cool, stress free life, plateau is for you but don't think you'll get a job here o, if you can start a business you'll do very fine.

I served in mangu in 2017, been staying in Jos ever since.