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mercy87:
Well, i'm a man and a married one at that. I can tell you that my wife is my equal. We are in a partnership building a beautiful life together. Women are not lesser beings.

ok
Whatever rocks your boat Mr mercy

mercy87:
Wow ..i see that its the ability to take rubbish from men that makes one a good woman.

Use your head.
What makes her a good woman is her submissiveness even with her plenty money.
Your husband isn't your equal.

Mother's love

SlayerForever:
Buying the rights to the children only works in some communities of Ijaw, not all. Ancestry and lineage is traced from the mothers whether the man did the big or small.

As for marrying an Igbo girl, you're an Igbo boy already so you're free

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Do the big dowry system and the whole kids are yours, do the small dowry system and the kids will answer their mother's family name. It isn't rocket science, don't argue with me.
You find many people (with ijaw dad and mom) taking their mom's side because those women were married in small dowry way.
As a man if you get excess ba and you marry in the big dowry system then that won't be the case. Many ijaw men anyways avoid both entirely and marry outside the ijaw Ethnicity so that wether small dowry or big dowry, the kids are theirs.
Igbo, itshekiri, urhobo are the 3 main Ethnicity ijaw men mainly turn to when taking a wife. They've been marrying from these places for generations.

gazeup1:
I created this new handle to hide my identity.

I got married 11 years ago. We both started working before we got married, but my salary was way above my wife's own. I was earning 195k while she was on 108k when we got married, after my MSC, I was promoted and started to earn 350k, this got to me and I started to misbehave, I was doing all sorts and would insult the hell outa her. As the cry cry girl, she would cry, and thereafter I would hear her praying. At times she would say she will one day be greater than me. That to me was an impossibility.

I can't even remember ever giving her money for home keep but we never lacked food at home (we delayed before having kids, so I don't see the need for me to give her monthly money and she never asked). I started giving her after we had kids. She agreed when I told her her money was for the home and mine for investment, but I never included her name in my properties. she knows this as well.

After our kids, it became very demanding, coupled with her office not increasing her pay, she resigned, and that was when I felt the impact of her income. Meanwhile, her pay was reduced to about 80k and mine was increased to like 600k as at when she resigned. In one month I started asking her to return back to her work as to me I was not ready to foot her bills, she never even asked for money, she would even say what I gave her is left 5k or more self at the end of the month.

Now her new journey - When I started disturbing about going back to her former office or getting a new job, she said never and asked me to stop giving her money but go to market to buy food myself. In less than 4 months to her resignation she started talking about online job here and there, I thought it was a scam so I warned her. One day, I was in the office when she said she needs me to help her wit the best laptop to buy, I tried to talk her down on buying one but she ended the call on me.

I got home to see her with a new laptop. fast forward, she paid for a training on how work from home without my knowledge, got her first job of about $200, I also washed her down on going that low for such an amount but she said it was better than her former 80k job, before I knew it, she started talking about $1,000, now it's $3,000, to $4,000 monthly. I earn lower than #1M, my wife gets over #2M monthly working from home. She helped me finished my house project, very transparent and would not hide any $ she earns.

I have not been able to forgive myself of all the things I did to her, the insults, talking down on her but in a way I think I pushed her to become who she is now. I remembered when she asked back then to open a joint account with her, I laughed her to scorn, like how would the ratio be. she saved over 6M and credited my account with everything, just for us to complete our home. I can't even produce 1M.

She doesn't seem hurt, but sometimes she reminds me of those words, I have never officially told her sorry neither have I really changed because I am just like that, I don't mean evil. I wanted her to braze up and never stay low.

Married, men, please how do I ask for her forgiveness? I don't think we have up to 2% of her type out there.

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Does your wife has a single younger sister? Surely they've got to be cut from the same fabric.

You're lucky to have such a wife in this world full of mad ladies.

This isn't racist.
Black people ALWAYS having feeble self esteem.
She only said "a little milk a little chocolate; just how her kids will be"
She said it with a sense of pride and enthusiasm. Black people in America sometimes are always quick to look for an opportunity to scream "racism"
They should feel and act like kings because black is becoming the thing. Ignore somethings, it shows swagger and level.

SlayerForever:
Alabo7978 I reminded you that by Ijaw culture you're an Igbo boy and you ran away. You didn't know I actually know Ijaws trace their lineage matrilineally.

Don't worry bro if you're a good boy we will accept you as an Igbo boy. You know Igbo culture is soft life, no stress.

Ijaw culture is matrilineal yes only in IJAW LAND(that's if marriage is in the small dowry system TO ANOTHER IJAW WOMAN)
A man can marry a woman in IJAW land in the BIG DOWRY SYSTEM which is very expensive, that way the man has bought the right to every child birthed and won't be matrilineal anymore. Amayanabo's,(kings) PERE's (priests), ALABO's (chiefs) and wealthy men marry in this system.
Though many men go outside ijaw land to marry women and this laws (both dowry systems) won't count.

Well Sha I no blame una wey dey get mind come claim, just because of big nyash and big breast wey our ancestors see for Igbo women and they bought them in their numbers to breed, anyways do you have a sister that fits the above description?
I'll send the men of my war canoe house to come pick her up and I can let you do business in the coast but if you try and be a Wawa man, I'll skin you alive.
I Kno your ladies very well, more especially the ones from imo state, the Abia one's (ngwa, ohuhu, umuahia, ABA, ntigha, igbere,) are very smalish, I don't want smallish women.
I'll prefer imo because they're loaded, but don't bring owerri girls for me too, they're Wawa, orlu, mbano, mbaise, mbaitolo, ngor-okpala women are cool.
Ebonyi ladies are too local, don't bring them for me. You can also bring from Anambara, those ladies are classy and smart and fine, but they're not always loaded. And finally don't bring Enugu, they love oringo too much.
Just be selective about this women, we will meet in a fortnight at the Azumini river in my fleet of war canoes and we will talk business.
You know I'm capable as a very powerful and influential Alabo.

bomb24:
hahhahahaha dunder-head!

a "curlew" is called "igoloma/ugoloma In Igbo dialect of Ngwa/Ndoki Clan..

According to oral documentations alagbari-nye was Igbo of ngwa/ndoki clan who came from the Igbo hinter-land and settled/founded bonny Island. apparently from all indications Ugoloma was corrupted/mis-spelt to okoloma by the whites...

If the Ijaw claims of being one of the oldest tribes to settle at the coastal part of Nigeria in delta/bayelsa estuaries and coast they would have had a name for the curlew, as okolo in ijaw dialect simply means "roosting."
popularly known as chicken and chickens don't fly.!


1) If truly the settlement was called OKOLOAMA by the ijaws, the europeans weren't too dull to have omitted the "Ama" prefix from the word.

Ajayi crowther recorded it as okoloma not okolo-ama

two other european explorers before also recorded it as okoloma and not okolo-ama.

So my question to you Alabo is what is a curlew called in ijaw language? because okolo in ijaw simply means rooster.

In Igbo land every bird of the sky has a name

Eagle - ugo

curlew - ugoloma

vulture - udene

hawk - Egbe

pigeon- nnunu

E.t.c

from all indications from the research, ugoloma ( curlew) was christined to okoloma. As the founder of bonny island was of Igbo and Ngwa/Ndoki stock.

igboid
9pluto
ekealterego
slayerforever
eastlink
bkayy
ofoigbo

cc.

You no get sense, forgetting I also understand the Igbo DIALECT.
Ugoloma is that bird that is black but has a white chest and looks like it wears singlet. That aside.

You no get sense at all.

The okoloma you hear is a phrase not the meaning of the bird curlew.
Okolo is curlew.
The "ma" at the end means "fly"
Curlew fly away =okolo'ma.
In Nembe my own dialect we call curlew okolain,
The ma at the end simply means "fly"
Your concorted lies does not add.
Stop displaying your foolery here.

It is also known as Okolo-ama (curlew-town)
Okolo like I said before means curlew, ama means town
Hence
Okolo-ama.
Wether OKOLOMA
OKOLOAMA

it's still the name of the town.

And as for ndoki, go and ask the Ndoki people about their ancestry, they'll tell you they are ijaw.
My Igbo maternal grandfather also knows about the full name aminadokiari, one of my in-laws is an ndoki man who I interviewed on Christmas Eve if he is truly ijaw by ancestry and he said yes(I even wrote an article about it) but you wouldn't believe, so I have a screenshot of an ndoki person in their group on Facebook. Enjoy ..

[quote author=Napoleondegreat post=109903584][/quote]Napoleondegreat
Oboy bomb dey your head.
I'm not even from rivers State, I'm from Bayelsa state.
Better Boko Haram suicide bomb dey your head.
So being able to speak a dialect makes you from that place abi?

My father is good at speaking Hausa, does that makes him an Hausa man.
You see as the cells in your brain doesn't connect well?
In your next life suck your mom's breast very well to have sense.

Inomio'gbo, Onana..

SlayerForever:
Nothing do you nwa afo

Nwa'afo gbukwe gi eba'ki di
onye bu nwa'afo?
Abughim'nwa'afo unu.
Mmam'bu'igbo, so abum'okenne.

I'm from my father's balls, an original high Alabo, get it into your head obori'nama. So mekma, alendi'o.

SlayerForever:
Okay na

Ya'gazie

SlayerForever:
You're using an Igbo title for your king

Ha!
Is this the new madness invoke?
"Igbo title"?
Isn't it Eze, igwe or obi again?
LMAO
Morning by morning new craziness I see from you people.

Eastlink:
No, not really. I dey work. Too much work load in the office.

Good
Seems you are the only one busy out of your other circus...
Anyways, that was my comment.
As far as OKOLOMA means curlew fly away (a phrase attached to the town by the FIRST SETTLERS, then there's no upper cut)
Even your friend Ekealterego said OKOLOMA meant young fine man.
So you see?
Lost cause

Alabo7978:
what are you people mentioning me about?
this is mid day and people are at their offices.
are you all this jobless??

I read all of those above, and it is true there is internal strife in Bonny just as in any other clan or kingdom. warri has been there, even Nembe too has been there, Lagos and it's obaship has been there, the emirdom in Kano involving sanusi and ado bayero has been there too, so what is the noise all about?
what sort of us*less people are you all? are you all this jobless?
leave the kingdom to sort out their internal strife, you all should do same in your various communities in Igbo land.
I was shock to see posts from you people even dating back to 2009,2011 etc (I never even write waec sef) and I came to realise you all are old f**ls who are jobless but are busy constituting nuisance and propaganda. is it because there are no jobs In Nigeria?
can't you all join the Nigerian police or Army, or navy or airforce? anything...just stop being this jobless for crying out loud. you all even go as far as infiltrating groups on Facebook and comment nonesense so you'll come back here to screenshot it and celebrate like jobless f**ls. SOON THE INTERNAL STRIFE at Bonny will be over and things will be fine.
you all should get busy with your lives please.
ditaridesciple2
JANK23H
etc none of you should engage these old jobless clowns.


but I will leave this here.
(THE FOUNDERS OF BONNY FOUND THE PLACE TO BE FILLED WITH LOTS OF CURLEW BIRDS(OKOLO) ROOSTING AND WHEN THE BIRDS SAW THE PEOPLE INHABIT THE PLACE, THEY FLEW AWAY HENCE; OKOLOMA, MEANING CURLEW FLEW AWAY)

Eastlink
Seems you were out of data

SlayerForever:
You wouldn't know because it's an Igbo word

Ok.
E concern you, as long as it didn't have anything to do with our ethnic space.

Igboid:
It's a logical Hypothesis.
Since both the ancestors and early settlers in Bonny, New Calabar, Okirika and Brass admitted to their original non Ijaw Origin, and out of the four, only Bonny seem to have managed to hold unto it's Aboriginal Igbo Language, while the Igbo language of New Calabar, Okirika (except in pockets like Okujagu, Ama Ndubisi, Ogan ama where Igbo Language survived and in Abuloma where the proto Ibibiod language survived) were lost. They seem to have totally lost their original mother tongue and had them surplanted by Ijaw one.
Glynn made a rational deduction that to change a mother tongue that drastic, you would have needed to change the mothers over a long period of time.

This argument was never about whether Bonny original Aboriginals were Igbo speakers, the people themselves told Glynn they were originally Igbos, so that fact was already established!
The only reason Glynn was making this hypothesis was to explain how Bonny became Bilingual in Igbo and Ijoid language, while New Calabar, Brass and Okirika totally lost their original language to Ijaw infiltration.

Clown

JANK23H:
Ask him,how come it's only Bonny of all the communities/villages in Igbo land that call their king "ama Onye na bo"

Leave that nairaland local champion

SlayerForever:
You're claiming it is Okoloama. Just like you say about aminadokiari. And Opoboama instead of Ama Opobo. Even Amanyanabo is Ama onye nabo. So continue beating about the bush while our people in Bonny continue to be awakened.

Lol...it's now I know you all don't even know the meaning of those lingua.
Just look at how clownish you seem.
Aminadokiari doesn't actually mean "ama" nadokiari
Lol, and you felt you made sense.
Aminadokiari means (we are looking for our brothers)
Ama means settlement.
They are different.
This f**l why are you like this?
If you don't know about anything, just ask.
Okoloama
Opubo-ama
Krakraama
dieama
Aboneama
Kolokuama
And hundreds of ama in ijo Ethnic space all tally.
Tell me thank you for enlightening you and those other 3 block heads.


And by the way, what is this ama onye na bo nonesense you all have been gibbering about?

Igboid:
Ijaw country in this sense meant "riverine terrain".
Never did Glynn imply that Ijaws were there first.
He explicitly deduced that Igbo Aboriginals were far away from Igbo hinterland in Bonny and had to depend on Riverine Ijaw neighbors for wives, likewise Efik and Edoid ancestors of New Calabar and Brass respectively.
That was how Ijaw gained ground those places.

Would you take a look at this f**l

So it was the Igbo Aborigines who were the founders that called the curlew (okolo)
And then when the curlews fly away owing to FOUNDERS settlement, they say "okolo-ma" meaning curlew fly away
That what you're trying to tell us?

Since when did igbos started speaking an ijoid Language?
So it's no longer nnu'nu Fe, it's now okolo'ma

Have you all seen how your lies don't connect?

SlayerForever:
From local to international. Your eye go clear very soon.

ok then stick to doing well for yourself and I wish you the best, but if you want to go international by being an expansionists, then sorry for you, a local champion you shall be.

SlayerForever:




You are from Nembe. I will not tell you anything for now. After we're through with Bonny we will open Nembe's file.

lol ok
local nairaland champion.

waterbrown24:
your mother can never be Igbo.

u're not part of us..

U're free to take the suicidal part your ancestors were known for...fool

easy man, I wasn't the one who impregnated your wife.

SlayerForever:
This is a season of history. Everybody is revisiting their history to discover the truth. Bonny people are beginning to see the truth.

You know deep within yourself the Igbos are winning.

EVERY HISTORICAL ACCOUNT claims the founders found the place to be roosted of the curlew bird known as "okolo" and when they settled, the curlews flew away and the inhabitants say "okolo_ma" meaning curlew flew away.


so now buddy,, your friend Ekealterego said OKOLOMA meant handsome young man, or "an old french word"
and "fine bird fly away" LOL.

what is OKOLOMA?
shey you're an Igbo?
let us now see you betray your dialect and lie or you avoid the question like a plague.


I'm waiting.

JANK23H:
I have screenshots of SE Alabo Clement Brown press release.In it they stated clearly their Ijaw ethnicity and chided Asari Dokubo to act responsibly being an Ijaw himself.

The Igbos here have claimed many times that Ijaws only became prominent in Bonny and Opobo after the Civil war.However,the history of the Brown chieftaincy house clearly stated the contrary.Had Omuso not spoken Ibani to the king during his routine check of slave ships,he won't have been saved.

The Igbos here are just too desperate,and it's irritating.That rejoinder was written by a phony group who are trying to be politically correct for their own selfish gain. The screenshots from Bonny people confirms.

I'll still go back to Captain Pereira's mention of the Rio Real and his confirmation that the Jos were the inhabitants, stretching westwards all the way to Brass river and the Forcados.

we all know this.
they know this too.

they lost their debates and stopped making useless threads when I asked Ekealterego to tell me what OKOLOMA meant according to his crow work, and he fumbled.
"fine bird fly away"
"handsome man"
"old french word oculo"
I still have the screenshots and whenever I want to laugh, I just pull it out and read.

Despite the stupidity of ofoigbo, Eastlink , Ekealterego SlayerForever Igboid Bkayy etc, I still love the Igbo people as humans because my dear mother is igbo and they all in my maternal home laugh at the clowns who come to the delta's to claim.
They still don't believe it because they're not on nairaland.
They deem y'all as clowns who spoil the image of Igbo people.

Eastlink dumbo
Get your lying @ss out here...

Look at the above screenshot from JANK23H

As matured as you are, why did you bring stupid lies to make a fool or yourself
Now how would you explain the above screenshots from JANK23H from the same group you infiltrate to get screenshots from Facebook accounts you and your coven probably created?
Keep fooling yourself, and your other cohorts went as far as mentioning people up and down to come and see this knockout you just flinged but failed to bang.
Joblessness is a disease.
Some body please get help for these drug addicts, or perhaps thicksharon123 should cast you all in her onlyfans next shoot.

what are you people mentioning me about?
this is mid day and people are at their offices.
are you all this jobless??

I read all of those above, and it is true there is internal strife in Bonny just as in any other clan or kingdom. warri has been there, even Nembe too has been there, Lagos and it's obaship has been there, the emirdom in Kano involving sanusi and ado bayero has been there too, so what is the noise all about?
what sort of us*less people are you all? are you all this jobless?
leave the kingdom to sort out their internal strife, you all should do same in your various communities in Igbo land.
I was shock to see posts from you people even dating back to 2009,2011 etc (I never even write waec sef) and I came to realise you all are old f**ls who are jobless but are busy constituting nuisance and propaganda. is it because there are no jobs In Nigeria?
can't you all join the Nigerian police or Army, or navy or airforce? anything...just stop being this jobless for crying out loud. you all even go as far as infiltrating groups on Facebook and comment nonesense so you'll come back here to screenshot it and celebrate like jobless f**ls. SOON THE INTERNAL STRIFE at Bonny will be over and things will be fine.
you all should get busy with your lives please.
ditaridesciple2
JANK23H
etc none of you should engage these old jobless clowns.


but I will leave this here.
(THE FOUNDERS OF BONNY FOUND THE PLACE TO BE FILLED WITH LOTS OF CURLEW BIRDS(OKOLO) ROOSTING AND WHEN THE BIRDS SAW THE PEOPLE INHABIT THE PLACE, THEY FLEW AWAY HENCE; OKOLOMA, MEANING CURLEW FLEW AWAY)

SlayerForever:
Okay. Please show us any British documented records showing Tolofari, Agbaa, Omuye and Bristol being prominent Chiefs in the oil trade, to avoid sharing conjectures.

I use to have lots of documents in my old phone, but it's unfortunate it isn't in the one I'm typing with currently, but all coastal Amayanabo's, PERE's and Alabos or Alapu's were brokers in any trade with the Europeans because their kingdoms were practically a land being leased.
There were publications in the British media that king Koko of Nembe was partly fuelled to war with the Brits at Akassa because they had stopped the slave trade.

CaptainStephen:
sure I enjoyed myself there, touring brass, okpoama and other towns too.

Such a pity needed development isn't there as it should have been.

Yea, that is why we all clamour for resource control.
From struggling with the Brits to struggling with the country, it's been an age long thing.

SlayerForever:
Okay I know Tolofari. Agbaa Fubara should be one of the kings. True?

Agbaa fubara wasn't a king as per say.
But a king may have been chosen from that house.

ScamHunter:
How are we sure that Nembe is even Ijaw the way you people are claiming all the tribes on the Delta? Who would have known that president Jonathan isn't even Ijaw?

If Jonathan isn't of the ijo Ethnic group, which Ethnic group is he from?
Yoruba?
Igala?
Ibibio?
Igbo?
Abi urhobo?

JANK23H:
Very rich Ijaw history.

The Brits attempted to bypass the Ijaw tribes so they can maximize profits.Similar strategy was used in Bonny and to some extent in Benin kingdom.Hence,the gradual decline in the wealth and influence of Ijaws and the great Benin kingdom.

Our story hasn't been told enough.Good one Alabo

The Brits were a selfish people.
Driven by national interest.