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the truth is that its common with women and i don't know why they think like that. i guess its part of being a woman. Another example, a woman walks in through the door and see's her husband on top of the house maid or her sister trying to rape her with the poor girl struggling and trying to get away from him. Instead of facing her husband and seeing him for what he is (an irresponsible, uncontrollable excuse for a man ) she faces the poor girl and accusses her of husband snatching; i don't understand it.

maybe we should learn to do as one woman said to me, she said, "men try to understand women. they should stop trying to understand them and instead just love them".

Considering the fact that a persistent attempt at understanding women would most likely lead to brain fague or worse still, brain cancer, we might as well follow that womans advice and forget about understanding women and just stick to loving them (whatever that mean)

i was watching a foreign series on TV the other day titled "SEX AND THE CITY" when a woman in her 30's who was just dumped by a guy who she had been advised against dating was oportuned to over hear the discussion of two young women in their teens who where going tru a similar experience as she just past through. she gave them some useful advise telling them that they should forget the guy and that he was not worth it (she same advise she had earlier recieved from a friend but had rebuffed) and all the thank you she got for her trouble was insults from the two young teenagers.

Oprah said on her show that millions of women date and marry liers. its like they don't like the truth.

At the end of the day women often complain that men lie to them and decieve them but i think the truth of the matter is that women make up their minds to be decieved from the begining. They know someone is not good for them but they stay  on in a bad relationship all in the name of love or because they have been together for long. At the end of the day, they end up staying longer in  a going nowhere relationship and eventually get their hearts broken or thier hopes shattered.

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seun
Girls always go for bad boys simply because they themselves are bad girls! That's all there is to it. Wink

I couldnt agree with you more, its think your very correct. girls are used to behaving like the perfect creature, like angels when no dey mess, when in actual fact they are not. Thats why they preffer being with bad boys who will allow them to express thier dark side and not expect anything better from them.

for starters, where really did u get ur statistics from? are u sure its reliable? well i think as it is for men thats how it also goes for women. if you are with your soulmate chances are that you will not leave them and will come back to them even if you do. on the other hand, if your with someone who is not right for you it doesnt matter if they are your first or last love, you should give them chance

my life is 4 love
my love is 4 sex
my sex is 4 fun
my fun is for life

hmm, you sound a bit like a dangerous guy to me. but dont worry, women love dangerous guys so it will probably work in your favor

i think the reason men flirt is the same reason why women flirt. its a no brainer

sorry about that dear. but first hurry and pour water on your heart so it doesn't burn. then we can talk.

i think its a girl thing which if you ask me is no all bad. as a guy a feel useful and maybe in charge when i spend for my woman. the problem thought is that lots to women take things too far and then they simply become irritating

Quote from: sistawoman on Yesterday at 09:47:25 PM
That wont work for women and I thought we were talking about women in this thread.

well i am not sure whether or not i should take you seriously because a lot of people say that women don't really know what they want so when you say you don't get it i am thinking that might be a good sign. i might actually be making sense.

Guess you have a point about them not being matured. the funny thing is that most women think they know it all. i guess women should generally grow up then. we need more matured ladies these days.

and to think that i was of the opinion that Nigerians loved free things? well the next set of tickets will be given out soon. hope its you who gets it

@poster
well i dont know about you but i think it depends. i met the best girl i ever knew online and at the end of the day it really might not matter that much where you find true love as long as its true and the real thing.

@poster
i think that you have come to a hasty conclusion. i think you should wait till you have kissed me first before you conclude. i have the feeling that i will change your mind about that

Posted by : arshy
@ poster
You try for your theories, but let look at it from this perspective. Do you realize that every law has its own exception? and therefore, you don't have to be too rigid with all these rules.

1. What of if the guy is a nympho?

2. What of if he is broke and needs money and the girl is available to give, would you advise the guy to die because he wants to proove that he loves the girl and not her money.

3. I doubt if a busy man has time for himself not to talk of having time another person, or even his girl friend.

4. I agree to no. 4, at least he should flash back or send a text message.

5. An hot temper man wont send you when he is ready to manifest his anger.

O boy, i never meant to pull down your theories, i just want ladies to realize that the best way to know whether a man loves you is to first of all love yourself and value your personality, then any guy will be ready to die for you.

Off course all laws have exceptions but that does not stop them from being laws. there are exceptions but there are still laws. i think its better to stay with the laws until the exception makes a show at its own time.

if you disagree, try jumping out of a plane or off the 20th floor of a building and see if the law of gravity will be kind to you and decide to make an exception in your case

The reason why ladies play hard to get is because men act too needy and they apply too much pressure.

If i like a girl, i simply make the girl like me, then she is the one who comes around all the time begging for my attention,

Want to make a girl like you ,

don't act too needy or desperate towards her

Make her jealous , once in a while

Have a lot of casual female friends around you, girl are attracted to guys who are popular and flow well with the ladies.

Ladies love unpredictable and humorous guys

i think you've got a point there bros. there might be a lesson or two to learn from this

dump him or her and and get on with my life. its sick and its disgusting. i dont think such a relationship will ever work.

iice
Yes the one that i specifically WROTE 'that is even you' Undecided DUH!!! gawd!

hmm, ice, nice

micheling89
Are you reasoning at all??

hmm, i wonder

Mr proo212

well if he smoothly marries her before he gets into her pants then i guess that would be ok then. a win win situation dont you think?

i'm not seriosly saying that women should start asking men out, just think that they should be a bit more appreciative of a well meaning mans effort to get to know them.

Happy for you! I'm believing your goodluck will rub off on other nairalanders. Just make sure you take good care of him. there are a lot of female hawks out there praying for you to make a mistake so dont. enjoy!

yes i have been in love before and sometime i later fell out of love and burnt someone fingers. at other times they fell out of love and i got my fingers burn. i guess its those kind of experiences that help you learn the importance of shining your eyes. this is especially true when you are no more 19yrs old and are now more like 26 or 30yrs and single. at this point in your life you know you dont have time to waste (that is off course unless you really dont have sense and are still thinking that you are a small boy or small girl). at such times, you need to be able to shift the wheat from the shaff

thank you its nice to be appreciated

are you sure your not mistaking me for someone else. checked those links and only saw one thread i started or posted in. on the issue of being damned if your hard to get and still being damned if you are not, i guess the solution to the problem is simple, its called "MODERATION". Were not saying be easy, were just saying don't be unnecessarily difficult.

ask God to forgive you then ask him to direct you. as for me, i am confused

it all sounds too wrong to me. i think he should forget about her. is he going to stop his brother or his family from coming to his house? what thoughts will go through his mind whenever he sees his woman and his brother talking? i dont think he will ever be able to trust her and without trust there really is no relationship.

i have only one question to ask now, where is everybody?

michellin89
So just because a man doesn't reason like you or take the same things you do to be evidence of love then he is automatically disqualified? That's ridiculous.

ok so a man beating you up every other day and giving you a black eye is also a sign of love abi? i think in our desperate need to find someone to be in a relationship with we have lost a sense of what is true, real and acceptable and have gotten our senses thwarted. its simple. when you love someone you protect that person, you don't want to do or be without that person and you nourish and build that person through kind words (not verbal or physical abuse), welcome the person with a hug, a kiss or a smile (not with by asking the person "i thought we were not supposed to see till next month" or by saying "why didn't you tell me before you came?" or stuff like that. its true that all people do not express love or affection in exactly the same way but the truth is that there certain basic constants and to ignore those constants is to deceive ourselves.

ok then, do it your way. don't shine your eye, don't test his intentions, date any man you like without trying to see the bigger picture and tell me where that leads you. don't come crying to me sha!

what if she says no sex until marriage, how long will you change your strategy. except off course you are saying you will change your strategy to marry her so you can have sex with her.

you can't help but agree because i am clearly stating the obvious truth. think women should wake up and be nicer to the responsible brother men who try to get to know them and say no nicely even if they are not interested. its better they do so when they are still very marketable rather than when they are old and grey and then start to run to church for help from God for a problem they caused for themselves