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the best way to know when a woman loves you is to cheat on her. if she forgives you and stays, then she love you,
if she leaves you, you let her go and get another lady who will love you

this is some serious advice o! but i wonder\.\.\.\.

i actually expected better and more serious responses to this post than i am getting especially from the women. it seems that women just like to joke with everything (but their husbands) and i think they should change that attitude.

well the truth is that some guys are not and some are. take me for instance, very ready and very willing. but i need a woman who is down to earth and ready to build with me. most girls still want a ready made husband with a private jet and a private island for romantic get aways. that is of course till they get to 28yrs and are still single. at that time they are now ready to take another look at the upcoming guys who they wouldn't give a second look to yesterday; some of whom by the way would have made it by then and will be hooked with other women. suddenly most women wake up to the harsh reality that life is not exactly like the mills and boons romance novels they had tailored their expectations to.

how do you know if a woman really loves you. women are full of pretense and it can be difficult to tell their true intentions.

Personality is very important to me

Looks is somewhat important

I don't kine for money, as long he can take care of himself

you some how sound like my kind of woman. i wonder what you look like

have you ever heard the phrase, "and you think you are a man". men are culturally entrusted with a lot of responsibilities. whether or not they carry those responsibilities well is another matter. the thing is that with responsibility also come certain privilege. it would be dumb for anyone to expect that the driver and the managing director (not that i am referring to women as drivers. don't get me wrong) should have the same salary of recreational privileges.
with great power comes great responsibilities. with great responsibilities comes great power and certain perculiar privileges.

my very good man let me give the advice of an elder hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm let me tell you the truth.all this girls think they know what they want,but to tell you the truth they are confused sets of human beings.women never know what they want,a woman will say oh i like a guy who is caring,who is handsome,who blah blah blah,

guy just be smart and let me tell you,don't give women what they want,give them what they need.

just hearken to this words.

sounds to me like words of wisdom

Women want a guy with a di ck that rises to the occassion at all times - money or no money - personality or no personality - handsome or ugly - the question is - does he have a di ck he uses well when called to question.

Hmm,

Isn't it true that women are better at lying than men?
If women took lie detector tests, the machine will vaporise.

well i guess you do have a point there.

if men took a lie detector test to check if they have ever been faithful, the machine would break down and BURN!!! hahahahhehehe Grin

yeah, very funny. dont agree though

Go to a church down me block err tuesday. . . .
You would see thousands of pretty laydies crying their birdish looking eyes in prayers for God to direct a dude to their ways.
Opportunity they say. . .comes once in a life time. . . .most laydies have lost their main dude because of this pathetic hard to get game shitery.

my brother and thats the funny truth of the matter. this matter is like that of someone who is almost dying of thirst in the desert and someone comes up and offers cold water to safe the life but instead of accepting and drinking the thirsty person knocks the water out to the hand of the person offering and throws it away. sometimes, women really dont make sense.

How are men supposed to take any woman serious when 90% of women out there live a pretentious life.
Their NO means YES most times.
Women(whether they like the dude or not) will always play hard to get to feel important. . . after the initial graggs, they come down from their high horse and come back to reality.

well that another problem. women always play hard to get so how can u be sure shes isnt trying to see if you will try harder to win her when she says she is not intrested.
i have always believed that life would be much easier for all of us if women would learn to say what they mean and mean what they say. in other words, if a bloke walks up to you and you like him, play along and let him know you do and stop fooling around playing those foolish games. that way we all get to know when you really are intrested and follow suit. at the same time, we also will get to see your no as no and leave you alone at such times. pheew, the games women play.

albrigde its not all attitude. Can you understand the horror women have to go though when a guy they are not interested in starts to toast them?

thats just it. how are we men supposed to know which women like us and which ones don't without getting to know them? should men totally stop toasting women? how will the women get married? how will the men have kids? what will happen to the future of the human race?

was trying to find my way to some place in surlere, lagos today. tried to get directions from a lady cos she was the closest one to me, said excuse me, started walking over to her so i could ask her if she knew so and so street and got the cold sholder. guess she tot i wanted to toast her. whats with all this female attitude problem?

well i think its a big risk. in five years time you will be older, probably less pretty, have less options in the market place of love ( i mean suitors) and really be putting all your eggs in one basket. think its better you settle for someone else who is ready to do it now and whom you love.

NaJa HaJe (f)
London

For why na? it took a lot for the guy to come to me and say hi. Why would i want to diss him for no reason.

i take it you are a matured lady and a sensible one too at that. most women (especially when they are 24yrs and below don't have the right manner of approach when relating with men. a man saying hi to you or trying to get to know you hasnt commited a crime. this is how it works. men and women somehow and for some reason (i wish i knew what that reason was) need each other. basically men have to do the initiation by making the move. unless men make the move, they may very well remain single, very lonely and without an offspring to carry on their name. unless women learn to co operate and act nicely even when their answer is no men might start trying to get to meet them less often and more women might end up in night vigils at church asking the pastor to pray for them so they can find a man who is intrested enough in them to marry them.
Ladies the truth is that we are in this together and we need each other so stop acting like you don't need us and that we are just pestering you when you would very likely go for deliverance at mountain of fire church if you went a whole day or a week without a toaster. learn to appreciate a brothers boldness when he makes a move and even when you are not intrested or as a lot of you have put it "are not in the mood" (i wonder in the mood for what?) try to say no without trying to crush a brothers self worth in the process. Thank you and God bless.

AKON: LOVING YOU IS ALL I EVER HAD.

A monent ago it seems, it was yesterday,
you were here with me, and everything seemed to be the same.
what am i supposed to do with all these empty room, sit here in solitude with the smell of your pefume

CHORUS:
you never took the time to know me,
never took the time to understand,
you never took the time to know me,
because loving you is all i ever had.

verse 2:
this wasnt what i wanted to be, a man in misery,
girl i look back a thousand times and i can't believe that you left me.
how can i explaing, girl i don't know what i am doing wrong, i can't believe that your love is gone.


CHORUS:
you never took the time to know me,
never took the time to understand,
you never took the time to know me,
because loving you is all i ever had.

Amebo people!!!

Wetin concern una? Huh Angry

is that suppose to suggest that its now ok to sleep with your sons wife?
pls lets not loose our sanity in the name of civilization

well

My partner is such a sweet guy but i cheated on him yesterday. I really feel guilty because its my first time. I actually had no choice. Do i confess? Maybe it'll make me feel better

you need to search yourself

I agree with you on one point that the most sexually active girls in school get the best husbands in the future which is kind of cool abi? Huh

not quite sure i agree with you on that

can u imagine the one i came down for, gave him everything. even my virginty. he has dumped me. make ogun kill am

now that is unfortunately how women play the game of love. when you guys are together he is your sweet heart, your hero and your prince charming. if you guys end up breaking up, he is an idiot, an ingrate and ogun should kill him. haba sister, aren't you taking things a bit too far here?

Am not quite sure y we ladies do alot of tins we do, i

like i said earlier, the more confident a woman is, the more she is able to relate well with others and hook up with a brother if she is intrested in him. it the one's who are not sure of themselves that play all those stupid games.
One of the reasons i know this is becos apart from watching some of these confident women from afar and observing how they handle their business with maturity, it so happens that the best relationship i have ever been in was with a lady who was certainly very confident of herself and someone that i found to be an asset.
of course she didnt just fall into my lap but she made it clear from the very start when i approached her that she was intrested in me too, shikena. she is easily one of the best women ever that will walk this earth.
Remember the saying, "the best things in life are free". I believe the best women in life are the one's who are stressless and who know what the want and who dont have time for most of the silly games women play.

If you gave in so readily, you couldn't have loved her enough.

i believe i really loved her because i think about her everyday when i wake up and during the day. its like I'm obsessed. I'll get over it someday. just hope its soon because its messing me up badly.

Sorry, I don't agree with that. You not being open does not mean you are not confident.

now there are times when a woman is already in a fulfilling relationship or when she is just angry with herself, or in a bad mood. its true that sometimes the timing is the problem. however even then, the experienced, well brought up women know how to show disinterest without trying to strip you of your dignity as a human being.
as far as they are concerned, you are not committing a crime; you are just too late cos she's already taken or your timing is wrong.

Sorry, I don't agree with that. You not being open does not mean you are not confident.

ever observe how fidgety and uncertain of herself a young woman is when she is around the age of puberty and is just learning how to handle her new found intrest in men and the attention that men are starting to show cos she has now started to grow breasts and look more like a woman? she behaves this way because she is not yet at home with this new side of her thats evolving. usually shes around 15yrs when this happens. check this same girl out sometime later when she is around 28yrs and you will notice that she is much more confident and at home with males and male attention. of course there are always exceptions but this is something i have found to be true in general terms.
too many matured women in between the ages of 22 and 26yrs still act like they are in or are just leaving the puberty stage.
you have spent the last 15minutes chatting with this otherwise intelligent and beautiful looking woman who appears to be enjoying the conversation and as you are about the leave you ask for her number and she goes on to give you that lame line some women like to use and asks, "what do you want my number for?" dumb, dumb, dumb. what do you think i want your number for, to write a song with it?

let me give you an example. met this wonderful girl once. she was truly the girl of my dreams; or at least thats what i tot. i would stop calling her when she wouldnt call me only for her to start flashing me. so hopelessly romantic me would start to think "maybe she's changed her mind and is now intrested" and would start to call her again, then she would start acting standoffish and stop flashing or calling. the cycle kept repeating itsself. after a while i got tired after a year of toasting. it came to a point when i only kept going after her just so she could accept to date me and as a result give me an opportunity to dump her. at first it i had undilluted affection and love for her. her playing too hard to get brought resentment into the whole equation so that my love for her then was now polluted. that was way back anyway. i finally got over her and let her be.

moderation in all thing is the name of the game. too much of anything is bad. i know a girl who was so hot when i was growing up and just about every guy i knew who knew her wanted to date her. its over 20yrs now and i saw her not too long ago. she's old, earns a low meagre salary working with lagos state government and lest i forget, single and not too good looking these days. all that beauty she hard then is gone. she is left now with no husband and all her shakara to keep her company. a word is enough for the wise.

But it's fun Lips sealed Grin

yeh its fun until you wake up and find your 35yrs old, no messages on your answering machine, half your hair is grey, and men have to think about it before they accept an offer to spend a night with you. don't play too hard to get or else, , you may end up an old spinster at 45 with a cat as her best friend and sole companion

in my experience i have found that the more at home with herself and confident a woman is, the more open she is to meeting new friends (and this includes men). it is usually the uptight, "i am going to play hard to get even if it kills me" sort of women that end up with 8 months of lonely nights every year. don't get me wrong. playing hard to get when its done with moderation is neccessary for a healthy balance of the dating game. its when it gets taken to the extrem (and trust me our nigerian girls and maybe women in generally know how to do this) that it really gets crazy.
In my experience also, the best of women really don't play too hard to get. remember, the best things if life are free; that includes the best wives and lovers.
To our ladies, please don't over do it, do us both a favor and lets get together and build big happy families

a romantic person is me really. ask my ex girlfriends and they will tell you its true.

Left to me? None!!!