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thats very likely becos she doesnt send you. mayb its time you look for a new girlfriend.

the most stupid thing i can remember that i ever did was to send the money my father gave me to set up a business to my girlfriend at that time cos she was in school and broke. by the way she married some 6yrs ago and has two kids for her husband now.

@ streak, are you just beefing or what

Thanks poster
With so many misguided thoughts about love these days, the world and indeed this thread cannot have enough Good Advise
Please keep them coming!

albridge, there is one saying in yoruba land - "ko si ogbon ti o le da, ko si iwa ti o le wu, ko si ona ti o le mo, to o le fi te aye l'orun." which means "there is nothing that you can do in this world which will satisfy everybody". So just do your part and leave them to decide what they feel. Good post by the way.

like i said earlier, its nice to know some people appreciate your good intentioned efforts. somepeople just want to keep as many women as ignorant as possible so they can easily have thier way with them. thanks fella's, as many of you as appreciate.

i think its better you be as indirect as possible but direct at the same time. give her mixed signals. confussing to you? thats ok, it confussing to me too. lets face it, women are a rather very confusing lot. just try to be as natural as possible and if she's not in the mood or just plain chooses to act bratty and over hard to get, let her be; move on.

NO!!! i would have to be extremely wealthy and madly and insanely in love to do such a thing and even then i might one day wake up and start to wonder if i wasnt crazy to do such a thing. men do a lot of stressful stuff (especially in the bedroom) and its not asking too much if your woman can help replace the lost energy during the day and during the bedroom activity by preparing delicious tasting and nutritious meals for her man. Even if i had all the money in the world and could employ the best chef in the world, i still see my woman taking time to cook for me as a sign of care and love. dont mind me, i guess i'm just a hopeless romantic. common ladies, you've got to help a brother here!

wake up babe. this is one thing with women that i dont just understand. learn to read the writting on the wall. when a guy avoids making a commitment to you do the smart thing and dont try to convince him to. it simply means he is not planning to date you for too long down the road and it certainly means that he isnt promising you marriage. wake up and start making plans to date someone else who wants the sort of commitment you want out of a relationship.

i don't think it has anything to do with whether or not one is a virgin. interest, self worth, love, willingness to learn and passion is what makes the difference

Nna guy this is deep yarns, deep, I feel u real good. Sorry, ehhhh!!!! don't mind them chicks u will get someone who appreciates and values your romantic nature.

thanks men. nice to know someone feels your pain

dated this wonderful girl not too long ago. she is a nurse. we got along like near perfect. never met anyone like that before. we would have gotten married but we had a small disagreement and the was too proud to say sorry and so was i. the relationship ended but i think of her almost every day. it almost a year now. believe i will get over her when i meet someone i believe is better than her. for now, i have to bear the burden of missing her.

I really don't know if i have done anything wrong by trying to share what i think is some useful advice. well such is life. there will always be those who like things in disarayy so they can take advantage of others. at the same time, there are also those who like being victims and ever want to be help. for those who were kind enough to appreciate my little totful contribution, thanks.

The question lots of women ask me is "how do i know when a man is serious or just out to have sex with me". For starters, i guess i should let you know right now that about 70% to 80% of the men a woman dates in her life time will be intrested in one thing only, "SEX". So how do u know which percentage just want sex and what percentage want a serious relationship? Here are five signs that give you a clue into whether or not a man is serious about you.
1. He doesnt rush the sex issue. When a man is making too much fuss about sex in the begining chances are that thats all he is really intrested in. As a man, i have dated quite a few women and whenever my intentions have been all about sex i have often pushed for sex earlier on in the relationship. /On the other hand when i meet someone i really like i try to win here heart and don't make too much fuss about sex. the reason is that i love the person and want all of the person and not just her body or the hole in between her legs. when its love, its usually all or noting and sex alone will not satisfy a man. i have been willing to date a woman i loved without even going into sex because having her say yes to me and agreeaing to marry me was more important than sleeping with her.
2. He is not always asking you for money. When a guy is always asking you for money he is propably dating you for what he can get from you and not for love.
3.He always has time for you. When a man loves you he will always have time for you. when a man starts to give the excuse of being too busy to call you or see you then he really isnt all that into you.
4. He wont return your calls. If he often returns you calls then its very likely that its the real thing. on the other hand if you have to call him 10times for him to call you once then you are not that special woman in his life.
5. He sparkles when you are together. When a mans contenance brightens up and its clear to you that he is happy to see you whenever you visit him or he visits you then it just might be love. this is especially important when he still acts this way after months of dating (like 8 months).
6. His actions show that he want you to become a part of his life. A man in love wants to spend time with you, go out on weekends with you, be with you as much as posible and almost doenst seem to have time for any other thing or person than you. when your man says he loves you but preffers to spend saturday morning watching last years FA CUP football finals between chelsea and manchester united (or whatever) instead of spending it with you on a romantic outing to some exotic place then it may be a sign that you really don't rank that highly on his scale of priority and you really might have to think again.
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Well all that is history now. I didn't marry her and she has married someone else. Honestly i am not sure that i didn't make a mistake becos i really loved her.

baby cool why is it that some women just wont see evil for what it is. Instead they prefer to call white black and to say bad is good. What doesn't concern us. This is our country and we must learn to discourage evil and support good. The same thing that will make a government official, past or present to sleep with his daughter is the same thing that will make him steal million of American dollars. Character is the thin at stake here.

Well i think there are a few reasons why this happes. One, he may have tot u were the one he was looking for but after a while of getting to know you he may find that you are not so he starts to lose interest and calls less. Two, he may have just been interested in sex and perhaps u've given it to him so he see's no reason to continue the chase.
If a guy really likes you, I mean really has a connection with you, (some strong chemistry) and he believes you are the one i doubt that he will ever get to the point when he stops taking your calls or enjoying your company or the sound of your voice.

thanks for your advice. its just that some times its not easy to do the right thing even when you know what it is.

I recently met this wonderful girl that i would like to marry and settle with but the problem is that for no apparently reason my mother just doesnt seem to like her. what do i do. i love this girl and would like to spend the rest of my life with here but i don't want to go against my mothers wishes either.

suit yourself. people who act like they dont need to meet people are usually the lonliest people around. wish you the best, but then again, we dont really want people with your kind of mentality to come around and mess things up for us. thank you for not being intrested. you are not welcomed.

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I read a caption in one of todays evening news papers which reported that our former head of state Olusegun Obasonjo slept with his sons wife. I really dont know what to make of this. Could this be true and if it is how does one explain such behavior for a former leader of our great country Nigeria. Please someone tell me its not true!

Men I'm offended by this post. Please man do the right thing and unregister yourself from this forum. It appears you have serious character disorder. Why else would you waste our time like this? Get another job. Lying and making up stories wont get you anywhere!