₦airaland Forum

afam4eva: We're talking of those based in lagos and not specifically those that are indigenes of lagos. Most Yoruba men that marry Igbo women are lagos based Yorubas and they are usually the most educated and wealthy of the Yorubas.

Wealthy maybe, educated NO !!!

That goes to Ekiti or Ogun. whichever one you pick.

NRI PRIEST: Look at this Aboki turned Yoruba! Will you also argue there is no difference between a VI raised kid and AJEGUNLE raised one?? Block brain!

What do you mean VI and Ajegunle ? That is a wrong idealogy because unlike the Ajegunle kid that his parents don't own a house or stock in VI other yorubas do !!!

BTW I am Yoruba from the Awori-Egun clan. I am proud of it, I love the kanuri culture very much which makes me very inclined to them.

afam4eva: There's a difference between a hardcore Yoruba and Yoruba brought up in Ogbomoso or a Yoruba living in lagos(not hardcore lagosian). Look at all the Yorubas that have married Igbo girls and tell me where they're based.

No sir there is no difference, I for one was brought up in Lagos and the mostly likely yoruba man marring outside the yoruba braket are those from Ogun, Kwara, Ekiti and Oyo. Those in Lagos,Kogi and Ondo are to the lesser extent. This does not mean they don't marry outside but with my experience, that seem to be the case. I don't know why

Ilamina: They are many Rivers women getting married to Yoruba men. No need to mention their names u wldnt know them

Are you also going to marry a Yoruba man If you are available

@ Afam4eva

There is no difference between a Yoruba brought up in Lagos and a Yoruba brought up in Ogbomosho or any other part of Nigeria, we are all programmed the same way. There absolutely no difference. For example Mimifonwon's father is from Ijebu -Igbo which is in Ogun state and married her mother.

Thanks

mimifonwon: Lol, anything for you!! I showed her the post and she showed it to my dad, and my dad was shocked on how tribalistic our generation is. As for iya mi, oboi she lectured me on being nice to people on line and not to cause anyone to commit suicide, so i have heard her. as for how my dad, she said that he was calm spirited, driven and not controlling, i asked her why she didnt marry an igbo man and she said she most dealt with yorubas than igbos, and jokingly she said she wanted a partner she can make do whatever she wants(by the way my mom is more of the hot temper,punisher,stubborn type, while my dad is the opposite, in a way its wird because its as if my dad is the wife and she the husband, and joke about it, my dad calls my mom his hobby(word play with hubby) and my mom cals him mgbeke'm( which is mostly used for village girls with natural beauty). My mom said that she saw what happened between her parents, where her father was so domineering, that even though they stayed married till my grandfather crooked at 93 in 2008, she said their union inspired her, but also terrified her especially when they fought, it was like "two elphants trying to make a stand." She said even though the fights scared her, it made her learn that husbands and wife fight sometimes to spice up their marriages, lol, and that is why 60 percent of the time she picks an argument with my papa. I guess they are a match made in heaven. Me personally am more attracted to yoruba guys that igbo mainly because i know how controlling and hot temper igbo men can get, and i know the day my husband raises his hand on me, he will not wake up the next day.

Thanks for you honesty. Well Mimifonwon there you have it, your mother has told you the undiluted true of the matter here you don't need to believe lies on this site when you got a first hand truth from your mother.

As I said earlier which confirmed when I was telling you, If you are choosing a LIFE TIME PARTNER you cannot choose based on ethnicity because it would be regrettable. You would not believe that as bad as my reputation is on Nairaland, I have dated 3 Igbo girls, some of my friends are Igbos infact my very close friend and believe it or not knows I am on Nairaland with Alj harem as my ID is Igbo. These are the people I see and see me for who I am not for my ethnicity. It does not end there, a typical Yoruba man does not care where you are from; he would marry you if he loves you.

Unlike other culture, yoruba culture allow liberty which means your parents cannot tell you to marry from this and not from that. It is a taboo

Igbo women are programmed the same way, I mean the Igbo women that have lived in Yorubaland. Thus as your rightly said it is a match from heaven.

As for the Yoruba women and Igbo men, It occurs but rare because of different factors I have posted earlier on this thread. With yoruba women, they can marry anyone from any culture as well but when it comes to Igbo men, they become a bit apprehensive. I have told you earlier that the women in my family are married to hausa, fulani, ijaw, Ibibio, yoruba nupe etc but them with Igbo men don't just mix that much.

When the finally come together (Lagos Igbo men likely) it is also a match from heaven because there marriages last till they die.

Thanks for you time

odumchi: This is just a general warning to everyone:

...cool down with the verbal abuse.


Since, I'm here I might as well contribute to the topic. I personally know two examples of inter-ethnic marriages. The first was between a former neighbor/family friend of mine and a Yoruba guy from the West. The woman and her husband currently live in Lagos and have two male children who are both fluent in Yoruba and Igbo. In addition to this, the woman and her children visit home as often as possible.

The second example happened at Igbo mass rather humourously. Mass was over, and as the priest came to read aloud the announcements, a woman, who wanted to introduce her new husband to the congregation, stepped up to the pulpit with the guy. The priest, thinking he was an Igbo man, said, "Kee ka I mere" (how are you doing) and the guy stood there awkwardly wondering what the hell was going on . His wife finally whispered the meaning into his ear and he responded with an embarrassed "Beeni" (fine) lol.

Anyway, the point of this is that I've seen examples of Yoruba man married to Igbo women, but I've not personally seen any examples of the opposite. I personally think that Yoruba men marry Igbo women more than the opposite, but I can be wrong. This is definately no issue to pop a blood vessel over.

Enjoy the thread!

Very mature response, although I am wondering why you deleted One Naira's comment. He is simply airing his views.

I must say, it is NOT an issue (so I thought) until Nairaland tries to twist and turn stories like kids they are. I wonder what sort of man would marry his wife based on her ethnic group. That is the most unreasonable thinking I have ever heard.

Well Nairaland there you have it. I hope you talk to One NAIRA Nri priest and co before they start dancing around in circles.

SMH imagine someone saying their women marry Yoruba men out of desperation. The last time I checked there are still Igbo men all over "Yorubaland" which you all claim to be 70 % Igbos. Moreover the trains, planes buses and cars are still there for them to take back to the east if they want an Igbo man so why do they settle with Yoruba men ?

My brothers that is NO desperation if not we are in turn saying minifonwon's mother was desperate and I know that was not the case. Unlike you tribal goons here, I for one would marry whoever I choose so long as she is human. I have dated Ibibio, Igbos, Yorubas, Urhobo, Ijaw and Ikwerres.

I could have married anyone of them regardless of her tribe or ethnicity. That is how an AVERAGE YORUBA PERSON IS PROGRAMMED. We don't bleeping (sorry for the language) care where you are from or your ethnicity because we are one being in the sight of the Almighty who created the slaves and the kings.

I am sorry to say but tribe and ethnic group of where the wife comes from is for you Igbos to worry about NOT YORUBAS. Thanks

Also would appreciate if you stop calling yoruba tribal because it is silly. Just cause the women don't fine you attractive for marriage does not mean they are tribalist or anything. People need to bleeping grow up.

Malawian: And even to the ugly aspects of the edo people, edo superior craft weigh pass yoruba own, that speaks about competence. Ishan boys sabi how to hold their chicks together. Them no need the cowardly "magun" the yerubas apply on their wayward females. Ekpoma has the vicious cult groups in nigeria even though cultism started in yeruba land.

you sound so stu.pid, is cultism something we are meant to be proud of ?

Maybe it is show of bravery according to Igbo tradition. Well primitive brains, I could expect less.

coldiz: I adof my coco for u on behalf of my capito... May ur dayses be long....

can u shut up, why are you dragging this thread ? Edo can see themselves as whatever they like, the OP is an Igbo poster so I could careless. Please just cause you see yourselves as whatever be it edo or not does not give you the right to insult the yorubas ok !

I hope my point is clear ?

[quote author=V_Official®]Thanks man... food [/quote] good choice

Thank you Gowon !!! Please educate this goons

Good, this is what he ought to have done before. You can't just do and undo, you are serving the people not the other way around as far as democracy is concerned.

I hope you educate those Nairaland half baked ideeiots

[quote author=V_Official®]quite funny but shit happens (even on NL) we just have to get over it..
I also get enraged buh..... we shouldnt get angry over every insult inner' here, lets catch fun...

Please, refer me to funny threads @all..
Danke Shön[/quote]No wahala my brother, you should visit political section more often trust me you go laugh tire

Although I must warn you it is very ethnic orientated and lack little objectivity from the posters. It is not for the faint hearted at all !!! I am serious

Culture is fun as well and so is food section

[quote author=V_Official®]we have diverse stories, they are action packed... filled with suspense and direct from people's mind... i think this NL has many untapped wealth.

@mimi... ur cute face can really be scary when 'transmitted' in letters i think i should mind my profile ... dont descend on me O0h... :S[/quote]LOL

djustice: The project is funded by the World Bank, The Federal Government of Nigeria, and ECOWAS. Lagos State is just lucky to be in the right position geographically speaking, and Fashola, as is usual with ACN deceivers, is quick to jump in and claim credit for something not a penny of Lagos State funds is entering. Awon ole jati jati.

bloody hell, which world bank ?

which ecowas

Provide a bloody link if not people like you should just be quite. just throwing words around without verification.

mimifonwon: lmaooo, are you serious, well my dad said my mom was the most beautiful woman he ever saw the first time he met her in uni, and very down to earth, and very intelligent. As for fulanis, my dear go check your books again cuz they would marry you asap if you promise to take good care of them. Please dont try to give them a culture they dont practice-maybe the ones you approached didnt find you charming enough, but you so called fact is either true to only you or just exaggeration. if we continue questioning who prefers marrying this and that we will get no where. i brought the topic up, as part of my fieldwork on tribalism. I love culture and everything about it, good and bad, for they are the things that shape and make us who we are today.

Ok ma, but you just confrimed with I said earlier with your post. I would tell you categorically because I am a Yoruba man and please don't put a veil over people's eyes here. A yoruba man would marry anything in skirts so long as she is human. Igbo women have good qualities but again they are easy going more than their Yoruba and Northern counterparts.

Also I would like you to ask your mother, why she married your father so we/you can get a feel of what is going on.

You cannot come here and try to paint a picture that Yoruba men marry Igbo women because of their awesome qualities because that is a lie. I have those that are mixed in my family as well (half Yoruba half hausa) (half yoruba half ijaw) (half yoruba and half igbo) (half nigerian half another country). Looking at that spread one can conclude it is not specified to Igbo women or a form of segregation of Yoruba women.

The women in my family are married to Edo, Itsekiri, Hausa, fulani and even Ibibio. I am not talking of the nuclear family here but very extended family. Also take into account that I am a lagosian and lagos house the Highest Igbo concentration in the world of 60 % of 18 million people which amount to 10.8 million Igbos most of which are men doing business.

You find Yoruba men and Igbo women marry each other more not because of the quality of yoruba men or igbo women (average anyway) but because one would marry anything and the other is easy going.

There are rare instances where yoruba women marry Igbo men but again as I have told you before that they demand some standards couple with their Igbo men counterpart that are also proud in nature thus they have conflicting interests (basically ego clash).

Oh now I see All4naija's point. It is clear what he is saying when comparing the first picture with the picture he brought out.

Yes all4naija it is not a full suspension bridge but it is a suspension bridge because without the line the mid-section would collapse. I hope that helps.

Na wa o !!! Na so we see am o !

Naija we hail thee !!!!

@ Nri Priest, I saw your post the other day but decided not to post on this thread again to see the direction of the thread.
I really don't want to get into this discussion but there are somethings I must point out.

1. There are Yoruba women married to Igbo men. Although it is rare because yoruba women would likely marry Yorubas, Hausa, Fulani and Edo/Itsekiri also foreigners outside africa. Very rarely do you see Yoruba women marry Igbos due the standards they demand from there men. Everything is not by brunt force and strength, A yoruba woman would only marry you if you are confident and very clever. I know this for a fact, those yoruba women that marry Igbo men find something in that Igbo man that is special otherwise it is rare. This does not mean they are tribalistic or look down on people, their standards are just high.

2. @ Mimifowon I think you have the wrong interpretation or just a wrong preconception about yorubas in general. If your father is indeed a yoruba man, you should ask him what he saw in your mother for him to marry her. Also ask YOUR mother why she married him. That way you get a feel of what is going on.

3. Igbo women are indeed amazing and I that I am talking have dated quite a few. They are easy going once they love you, good cooks etc very good qualities but so are there Yoruba women counterpart if you meet the right one. Although again the standards of yoruba women are high and I am not talking of the random ones, I am talking about the one from an average family (not too rich not too poor) yes their standards are high. The highest standard in women can be found in fulani women. They are quite difficult to get followed by yoruba then hausa.

4. @ Mbatuku2, I understand your point on variety in dishes. I must admit that is a fault yoruba women need to work on but not that they can't cook, Yes they can cook in general.

5. Yoruba men don't marry based on ethnicity. They marry any human in skirt or at least the ones I know have seen since my existence and any yoruba man would tell you the same. This applies to Igbo women as well, thus I think that is why they "gel" better than even Igbo men to Igbo women or Yoruba men to Yoruba women. The standards of Igbo men are high and so are the standards of Yoruba women, thus the clash (this is another speculation).



I hope all is well

true talk my brother,

the issue of presidential protocol thus making Airplane staying longer on air than they are meant for is a scary prospect.

I hope people see reasoning in your logic.

Revolva: Link of what has beeen known long ago so its now they posted this you want link I don't blame you you are not in naija or even lagos I do see all the construction work everyday because I live arouind the vincinity
Now reason do you think lagos state govt will just start a project like that all such projects of this kind needs assistance and co operation from other surrounding nations

Na wa o !!!

You are here making allegations just cause you live in Orile ?

So were you there when the contract was awarded or what ?

Again why not bring out a document to prove that what Jason's links were wrong rather than just saying things from your head.

I think you are getting things mixed up here

i hope not, if true this is abuse of power

15 mins-30 mins delay is ok, 2 hours

Not time for fun and jokes yet please brother. People are still morning the death of more than 210 people both on ground and on the air plane.

jason123: +1
They are just being mischievously silly!

You go fear for Nairaland at times. LOL

I love these Niger-deltians on Nairaland. Very open minded people and funny

malc619, deandavids you 2 na die o !!!

morufoye:
Guy you harsh o. You no fit be lecturer o.

LOL

engineerd: To hell with this MALLAM! He thinks Nigerians can be fooled by his cheap shots!

what do you mean ?

is he wrong ?

we keep hearing Ecowas left and right but we can't find a link or documentation to this Ecowas deal Nigeria/Lagos made with Ecowas.

Maybe people have forgotten with Light rail mean. How would a light rail serve Ecowas any propose ? I ask ?

It is purely a Nigerian project funded by Nigeria which we should be proud of.

ikeyman00: and does this matters?

Yes it matters because Nigerians are quick to complain on how bad they are treated abroad isn't it so ?

manny4life: ECOWAS Project kwa? I thought Lagos Rail was supposedly PPP project? Biko, someone educate me o, let me know on what rock I stand

Thank you o !!!

Bad belle full this site

I don google am 4 times now, never see were lagos light rail matches with Ecowas

manny4life: Me, I did not do engineering, what I know is the language of MONEY What I do wanna know is how can some determine the structure strength of a bldg virtually?

Abi my brother, next thing we need is an interstate travel by trains. thus it removes the Airplane crush factor and also motor accident/road robbery factor.