Is there any need for you to reduce the love you have for her? Maybe, you have not known her much. If it is so, try and see her as any other girl, sobering up, and having heart-to-heart talk with her concerning the fathers of the two kids.
Did she tell you that the children came from two different fathers, or you just discovered by yourself?

Firstorderwizard:
Run from baby mamas oo , I got trapped to one cos of her good culinary skills( Calabar soup things) and bedmatics . How I came back to my senses after almost proposing to her remains a miracle

Vague report. Please tell us more of what was wrong with her.

adetoroamos:
yes free pussy dey but she stole my heart when she washed all my clothes with bare hands when my washing machine get faulty and no single girl ever done that for me.

Any girl that is interested in you will do that and even much more than that.

[quote author=adetoroamos post=81577915] yes free pussy dey but she stole my heart when she washed all my clothes with bare hands when my washing machine get faulty and no single girl ever done that for me.[/quote
Any girl that is interested in you will do that and even much more than that.

miss00000:
We met in school during my pre-degree and dated for 7 years before he proposed to me. Before the proposal, both our parents had been pestering us to get married and start having children.

We started trying 6months prior, and 6 months after proposing I got pregnant. Few months later we did our introduction and got married (registry) march this year.

About two years ago, he met a lady where he was supplying his goods. According to him, the lady has been doing everything in her power to push his business. Every time I suspect there was more to their friendship, he always assured me there was nothing, that she's just a friend. sometimes he would even travel with her to Abuja to sell his goods which I had to allow since it was helping his business.

8 months into my pregnancy I noticed a drastic change like coming home very late, he hardly eats at home, he barely talks to memos he's always on his phone. I knew something was wrong and every time I talk to him, he always assured me that everything was fine.

After the delivery and naming of my baby I expected things to go back to the way it was, but it became worse. he changes his phone password almost everyday and still hides his phones from me.

One day I cried and begged him to tell me what was going on, after hours of begging, the first question he asked me was "where was it written in the bible that marriage has to be between one man and one woman and not with different women", "why can't a man marry two or more wives if he has the resources to take care of them equally"(the lady is a muslim btw).

He confessed that he has been dating this lady for over two years and has no plan of leaving her, and theres a possibility he's going to marry her. I'm just 26yo with a one month old baby, I didn't sign up for this.

While growing up, my mum has always warned us against polygamy. although he's promised to be there for me and still wants our marriage to continue, but the thought of my husband being with someone else is killing me. I've tried to reason with him several times but I end up hurting even more. I've been praying but still no change. He's been trying to compensate with gifts and money but thats not what I want. he doesn't want me to tell anyone and I feel reporting him to his family will even worsen the case. We've always settled our issues ourselves without involving anyone. I've tried everything I can just to take my mind off it. I need someone to talk to, prolly a friend or a counsellor. I've been crying for days now, I've not been eating well and I have to breastfeed my child. I never knew my life would be this complicated. I don't know why he got married to me if he already had this in mind. I hate my life right now.

You don't need to hide such from your parents. Please, tell them all. Whether you are going to stay and continue to pray for him, or you will separate from him and file for divorce is not a decision to be taken hastily. Rather weigh everything and think deeply about everything, bearing in mind that each has its own advantages and disadvantages. But if it were me, I will likely be separated from my wife, for my sanity. I didn't say divorce. Just talk to your parents first.

You don't need to hide such from your parents. Please, tell them all. Whether you are going to stay and continue to pray for him, or you will separate from him and file for divorce is not a decision to be taken hastily. Rather weigh everything and think deeply about everything, bearing in mind that each has its own advantages and disadvantages. But if it were me, I will likely be separated from my wife, for my sanity. I didn't say divorce. Just talk to your parents first.

helinues:


Stop yarning opata.. He was supposed to write recession..

Nobody is above mistakes Oga instead of trying to be half clever

Both convey the same thing. Lack of money to spend.

MrGreenMavro:
Let's settle this finally...


Click like for Ronaldo and Click Share for Messi

It does not prove anything. Both are legends.

Loving genuinely is very good. But sometimes, those we love so don't love us so. Please, don't do anything stupid cause of a girl that left you ;there are still thousands of girls better than her for you. It is a fact and not just consolation. If you have not made money, go and make money, you are still young. Get your own independent life lived so every day. Don't feel that you can do without a particular girl.
Make money, and create wealth.

thesicilian:
Romantic gesture to your girlfriend, very foolish act from your family's point of view.

I thought it was Nwamaikpe.

sylve11:


big stress my brother, big stress......................

The anger should be directed to the CBN who made the policy in the first place.

Deestro:
Lmao


We just gotta be really careful lol, one time I caught this laundry guy that worked for us sniffing my panties,

Why can't you wash the most private of your clothes?

NwaAmaikpe:



I would have said Rest in Peace to him but I know that anyone that dies from fighting is going straight to hell.

My God is a peace lover.

So, you have reappeared!

rentAcock:
This whole Busola Dakola vs COZA case has ignited a kind of "me too" movement where women all over Nigeria are standing up to rapists and men in high places who use their influence to molest women. While this is a commendable development and we should all encourage the expurgination of abusive men everywhere, we shouldn't do so at the detriment of good men.

Nothing in her post suggests that she was molested by the Male doctor. She didn't want the scan performed by a male doctor and a female doctor carried out the scan. So why would she still accuse the man of molesting her or having bad intentions? It doesn't make any sense. Maybe the man overreacted by asking her to leave a government hospital of which he is just an employee, but after being accused of such an embarrassing act probably in the presence of other patients and his staff, who wouldn't also overreact?

Everyone is looking for their own Dakola moment to shine but we should always apply common sense to separate the truth from falsehood.

I noticed the same thing.

Happy birthday to you sir

Another thing, has he ever woken up to you and your wife having sex together?
Again, this might sound unpleasant, but, maybe you might have peeped longer to know the extent they have gone. Interview your son where and when he is relaxed, and he will open up to you.

The first step is that that maid leaves your house. He needs counselling and not beating. He already knows things - adult stuffs, so, don't hesitate to teach him sex education. The counsellors must include sex education as part of his healing.

Please, tell us more. Are you already going with the girl?

akp202:
join this group on Facebook as it comprises of several legal team...I have read were they have treated several issues like urs...get in touch with one of the admin if the group and they would advise u on what to do.....https://m./133527986816712?group_view_referrer=profile_browser

Don't join any group please. Go to a lawyer in your city of residence and hire him. Facebook is full of shit and scammers. Beware of fraudsters.

MANGAM:


U can't claim a child from a woman that traditionally, legally religiously u didn't pay a dine on the mother. U want a child from her and never bothered to do something on her head.

I believe that by now lawyers would have answered your question. If not, get a good lawyer to argue your case in the court. It is your right to stay with your son, irrespective of whether you paid bride price or not.

ehinmowo:


I don't understand you. Is Nigeria only for Christians and Muslims? Is it aired on national TV or paid tv? Is the program been sponsored by Christian or Islamic organization? is it been sponsored by government with tax payers' money? Is DSTV owned by Nigeria government? Don't you have the option of disabling the channel on your TV? Btw a show (which I don't watch anyway...have never watched it) and the senseless killing by Buhari's kinsmen, terrorism, unlawful detention, poverty and unemployment, which is more important to talk about? Have you ever consider the eternal crime of bring children to this world without having the means to cater for them and end up giving them buckets to beg for money on the streets or giving them out for marriage as minors without education and training? Has MURIC ever discuss issues that are bedeviling humanity and Nigerians as a whole?

So much sense in your reply.

Tamasaba:
No good Christian nor Muslim will participate in this show coz the two religions are strongly against this. Are u sure we are still largely Christians and Muslims in this country? abi the two religions have been "amended" by the Senate to suit this nonsense?

That's not the point. Is anybody being forced to watch the show? Nigerians are just hypocrites. One of the largest number of porn watchers are found in Nigeria.

Thanks for your help to the needy. Rest in peace.

Enugupikin:
gburu gburu bu nno efi Igbo....no substance

You mean ehi awụsa?

If both stories are true then your husband has really done you a favour by seeking for divorce ;your heart has never been with him. Find the kind of man you love and marry after this episode.

soberdrunk:
People are so quick to bad mouth Nigeria, how are we sure it didn't happen before the package got to Nigeria......

It can only happen before getting to Nigeria if the custom official there is a Nigerian.

Even after the result of the test comes out and you are positive, it is not the end of your life. So, cheer up and go meet the doctors at the hospital. If you are afraid that the hospital of your locality will divulge your sickness to your community, then go to another locality and run the test. It's so crucial now.
Then, repent and turn to God. You might still outlive hundreds of thousands of negative people.

BecaciaBarbie:
Isn't it #12,000 increment?

Yes. But it is still something. Save it anyhow.

Those Islamists actually mean business.

So sad

Congratulations to them. And thanks be to God for his grace!