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Quickly tell your parents and his parents.
Report the matter so people know he has been offended. This way you prevent him from carrying out any sinister plan he has because now he knows people know you two just had a fight.
Then next apologize intensely. Beg him.
lie down on the floor, hold his legs and beg him. You have to show you have come down from that high ego that made you slap him.

Dont believe people telling you the slap reset his brain or made him shock. For him to start acting unusually nice but still rejecting sex. He is planning something extremely bad for you. I know that kind of behavior very well.

act fast

Nigeria customs. Far richer than oil workers

This is a very backward, mediocrity fueling, irresponsible, silly, gender biased, national resource wasting and unmeritocratic bill.

These are the dangers of feminism we've been speaking against. How does a sensible person wake-up and just suggest women should be gifted free seats in a parliamentary arm of government just because they have vaginas?
Did she not get in there as a woman or did she disguise as a man to be given the seat she currently holds to have come up with this nonsensical bill? Why cant her fellow women also fight to win elections to get seats like their female mates do in other countries?

I always say it that modern Black women are the most entitled and irresponsible. They love handouts and are lazier than their grand mothers generations. We keep telling you simp and weak men that feminism isnt about equality, they want to take over everything and kick men out of their positions and most times will use simps to do the dirty job. You men are not waking up.

Asides that no extra expenses must be tolerated in government. This bill is the most uselessly thought up bill in recent times.
This is the reason ancient great empires never allowed women an inch in government. Give them an inch and theyd want to run the while mile destroying the balance created in society.

Foolish and weak men will always be their tool to do this.

janejive:
What kind of pay scale is this? In this modern life? Don't use this if you do you wouldn't have committed workers

dem see job sef. Many developers out there without even any job or salary. Just carrying laptop and github code up and down.
better start somewhere

That is how those frustrated feminist women behave to anything that is male nowadays. She saw your nephew as a vulnerable male that is why she did that to him.

DO NOT LET HER GO. DEAL WITH HER RUTHLESSLY or else she will keep doing it to other children

Kobojunkiee:
There is a way to ask a question that would cause one to reason it a simple inquiry. The manner the OP asked most every question, seemed heavily loaded from the start and this because he approached this as if an interrogation.

You don't interrogate a loved one without expecting tempers to flair unless you live in bubble where it all has to be about you and you alone

You always have idiotic opinions supporting womens clear bad behaviors.

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notice how its mostly women telling the OP to mind his business.
Nigerian women of this our time are too wayward to be made wives.

This is why many youths nowadays are very indisciplined and go about with bad character. The parents of nowadays are extremely irresponsible and the will suffer for it eventually

ImaIma1:
Your hasty conclusions shows one thing...but I won't mention it. You can stay there and keep assuming and thinking your situation and mine are the same, that's your own kettle of fish.

Get married and get your own experience. All this hypothetical reasoning and ITK on what you haven't even entered is not going to help you.

One more thing...I wish you foolishness and irresponsibility in your marriage .

Just like you're already experiencing in your marriage and with your husband right? No wonder youre on nairaland sounding so bitter always

BlackSan:
I'm not a fan of feminism or equality though I emphasize on respect for both partners in a marriage but I'm curious of your second to last paragraph.

Though correct me if I'm wrong but I will be using a theological approach. A wife is more than just a helper, she is also his partner. Maybe your word "helper" meant more than that but I rather you call a wife a partner than a helper, (using theological approach) the reason a woman was created was because man was alone and lonely. She is supposed to help him physically, emotionally, psychological and on

A helper not partner. Adam was capable of doing everything before eve came along.
God saw it wasn't good for him to be alone. Meaning to be his company, make him happier and reduce his stress in life.
If a woman doesn't do those thing she must be done away with from your life swiftly or else she will destroy it.

lalasticlala:
As shared by Nike Adexa @naikiadex

I was young and free. Just before clocking 30 and dating this guy I thought the world of. I earned like 5-10 times as much as he did. He wanted us to be married. It felt great and right only that some older people said No. Reason? I earned way higher.

It made no sense at the time. What did earning capacity have to do with love. Dad said you are even more ambitious and driven with more at your disposal. Don't do it!. I thought it was just cheap talk.

I stuck to my guns. It was going to be him or nothing else. Love was enough. It didn't take 6 months before all they said came to life before my eyes. He wanted me to give money for his projects. He wanted loans. I wasn't willing to do so and it became war.

Verbal and emotional abuse ensued. He cursed me to no end. I was acting too big or thought I was. I wasn't a supportive lover etc. It went on until I couldn't take it anymore. Then it got worse. How dare I walk away from the relationship and his love?
The emotional blackmail and insults. It took a while to get over such a person and all because I wanted him to double his own career goals and steps rather than live off me.
Over the years after, I learnt a lesson. Money is the no 1 reason for divorces and who brings in more changes the dynamics of relationships. If a woman does, this has to be discussed headlong and not assume the relationship will be like any or every other.
It won't be like every other relationship and it's even different if the woman starts to earn more in a marriage than before marriage. The male ego is very fragile and [b][size=14pt]the freedom money gives a woman[/size] [/b]may come off as a threat even if unintended.

A gentleman must understand this and be prepared to navigate the relationship away from a basic traditional one where the man brings in the bacon. It is often dangerous when a woman marries down because the man's once-hidden insecurities come up and fight.

That is when you see unabridged verbal, emotional and sometimes physical abuse. Then the guilt tripping, blackmail, manipulation etc. Only mature and secure men thrive well when a woman brings more into a relationship from the outset. This cuts across races.

A man expected to lead a family in a traditional sense must understand that his leadership isn't only from money but support, care, direction and guidance he brings as long as he's not lazy.He only earns less which isn't a crime.

Barack Obama earned like 25% of what Michelle earned when he entered the presidential race but their marriage was fine although Mrs O stated in her book "Becoming" how she made it clear he had to step up when he worked as a grassroots community leader.
Good enough, he became a senator, earned better and was more physically and emotionally available at home. That helped their marriage but not without the therapy they sought at that stage. Most women want their men to step up in all areas esp once married.

It helps the woman respect him and view him as a leader for real. If your woman earns more, no problem but don't be docile or abusive to her. That marks doomsday to your relationship. Step up. Take another course. Seek more openings. Help more domestically.
But don't be stagnant neither ignore the power dynamics and shifts that come with a non- traditional, non-binary romantic relationship. Things will be different for you.

https://twitter.com/naikiadex/status/1460605285865828357

Those two parts were your problem and the problem with most nigerian women.
They want "freedom" in marriage. There is no freedom in marriage that is why it is literally called marriage. It is a relationship were two people are accounable to eachother but typical black women want to copy white culture that is cultureless.
You want to do what you like while you have a marriage. No accountability or cooperation.
The typical nigerian women is ruthlessly arrogant to people, talk less her husband, once she starts seeing her own money.
NO MAN ON EARTH EVEN PASTORS will condone an arrogant and emotionally abusive woman in his house, and this is what money turns women without self control/awareness into 99% of the time.
You came even stated that you wanted him domesticated. You can imagine. So because make more money than him you want him to become the housemaid. Then before you know you[i] see him finish[/i] then start cheating with men outside you see as[b] on your level[/b].

Typical Nigerian men and men all over the world take pride in helping their wives with funds to start their own businesses, hobbies or things they want to do with their lives, but once its a rare turn of a woman we see posts like this online. With support from fellow selfish women.
I always say it that women are more selfish than men and hate helping. They only pretend when theres a benefit attached to it immediately or in the foreseeable future. Men will give their wives money without even batting an eyelid or remembering int but even that same women will start insulting that same man when things stop being rosy for him.

The definition of a wife was meant to be [b]helper [/b]but you modern girls have turned to destroyers of men. Its men that still take you all seriously and sacrifice for you all i pity their stupidity

We heard your well-baked side of the story. im sure if we hear your husbands side it will be a different thing

ImaIma1:
Sorry to burst your bubble, but that "irresponsible slay queen" has her wedding anniversary today.

...and my children have a better mindset than you love. They won't be simple and small minded in their thinking. They will think big and enjoy the abundance of God, while you are there thinking of how to frustrate life for one innocent woman who will key into your small mindedness.

But it's ok. You will always be what you think and believe. You can't grow bigger than what you proclaim.

Take care and try to expand your mind. Life is a lot more than your environment.

Anniversary doesnt mean youre still not irresponsible. Is it not everyday here we see news of married people acting foolish.
That advise you gave you should use for yourself because you need it more seeing your outlook to life and your emphasis on "suffering".
It shows you were raised in poverty thats why you're constantly so afraid of going back to it that even issues that aren't about suffering you make them about it

ImaIma1:
You that you were raised in a responsible home where women are slaves (since that's your idea of responsible home), please marry your own and make life difficult for her. Don't try to simplify anything o.

Since you know i was raise in a responsible home so its obvious id make a responsible man.
but for you clearly identifying as an irresponsible slay queen its clear you will make life difficult for any man that makes mistake to be with you.
better dont raise your child with that irresponsible mindset. This world already has enough uselessly behaved women

ImaIma1:
Guy marry your own and make her a slave. Let her birth 6 children for you, keep a full time job with no help.

The ones that have happy marriages are not slaves they're just responsible and thats why they're happier than you so-called woke babes because you cant cheat nature.
If you were raised in a responsible home it wont be alien to you so its not your fault it is.
Today learn that it isnt slavery when it comes to taking care of your family. They are your responsibility.

ImaIma1:
Their mothers were superwomen who could be in several locations at the same time. They were omnipresent

That is the scope they will use for the women they want to suffer with them. Their mothers did it.

Babe sometimes I have their time, plus the mindset is so mind boggling. Funny thing is that I have not met such people in the real world. They must be living under rocks.

You girls are just lazy nowadays. All the grammar in the world wont change that.
why you dont meet men with such mindset in real life is because men nowadays have decided not to tell you babaes anything. They just observe if youre one of these modern mindset kind of girls and decide your not for loongterm plans.
Thats why theres an all time high number of single women aging. It has nothing to do with you ladies being wiser. If anything its the foolishness of modern girls that is keeping men away from you all and causing divorces because all the things men used to ignore, and pity you ladies over, they now refuse to ignore it since you girls have decided to become worse.

holocron:
I put it to you that this is a tissue of lies and fabrication. OP sounds like an ingrate. You are serving/working for your family and instead of appreciating the results of your good works, you are grumbling, complaining and whining. Your husband struggles to do his part in upkeeping the family, you do not appreciate his role but you complain of your own role. You purposely abandoned your family and children for a fake independence and shallow ambitions and now you are regretting. You lost your cherished family for phantom degrees, career and independence. What shall it profit a man to gain the whole world and then lose his soul?

YOU HAVE SENSE!

Most women nowadays are just extremely selfish and lazy.
The abomination that comes out of their minds and mouth is what causes so much divorce nowdays.
You will see most of them saying that taking care of their children and family as a whole is slavery and some ill say they should be paid for it. You can imagine.

This generation of women are the worst ever. They use their education and careers to destroy themselves thinking its liberation.

Thieves. Theyre just broadening the name to cover anything gaming so they can tax more businesses that have anything to do with gaming.
Criminals.

Sheriman:
Everything they say there will end on that day. It is only on paper and mouth no genuine continuity. Let them established more intervention skills acquisition programm for girls child. They should finance and contribute more funds on women empowerment program (not all these rubbish N10K Osibanjo was giving them) with strict monitoring that gives no room for corruption and mismanagement.
They should established different enlightment sensitization and awareness program for women and young girls about their importance and the roles they need to play in nation building, reasons why they should also be involve in decision making process.

IDIOT!
What intervention skills acquisition programs have they done for the male child.
For past 20years we keep seeing women pfocused programs and none for male. Yet nothing comes out of it.
Foolish men like you will be simping and hailing gender biased programs instead of advocating for gender neutral programs aimed at selecting the best of the best to improve society.

This is why i never pity any old single girl or old single mother women.
When theyre young they useless their lives like this then when they become old and off the market shelf they enter church and start forming good girl with pity face looking for one simp to deceive.

never pity women who get old and single. Go and check how they lived useless lives when they were still in their prime

lkillbrokehoes:
Maria that I thought was decent, I can't believe she's the female version of boma, sleeping with married men.

Shes from IMO STATE. Imo women are the worst in igbo land. Mostly promiscuous and lazy

Romanoff:
How's she 21 with hands like that?

When a woman sleeps around she ages faster. Its one of the first signs to know a wayward woman

Most of you have bad character and manners all the while thinking youre "Good girls"
Dont use academics of career as excuse. If youre even averagely fine there would have been men around you who might have asked you out or be friends with you. If guys know a good girl they always always recommend them to their other male friends.
So its either your character is bad and nobody tells you maybe because of your bad reaction when they do.
or
You wasted your opportunities when they came earlier in life in your late 20s, 30s till now.

I dont pity women like you as most of your type used, ignored and ridiculed good men God sent your way in your hay days

When they were younger they were treating men like trash.
Theyre older now looking for sperm donor and juju to use.
There will always be consequences for your actions.

The silly OP was even trying to blackmail men with that their useless line
genuine/real men wont mind marrying single mothers

only a fool or simp will marry a single mother. Men never fall for that manipulation.
Avoid single mothers. Theyre most times women who wanted to eat their cake and have it but lost. So now looking for one mumu-man they can put their life baggages on. After you suffer to help her life and raise another mans child the father of the child will just showup after the child is grown and the child will go to the father.

The fact that there are many women hitting menopause now even tells you there are many options for you so why endup with a damaged/tampered goods like a single mother when there are many fresh single girls

They should talk openly and directly to Isreal with their full chest if they have mind lets see first

Why is there no strict laws punishing false rape accusers with same prison sentence a rapist should have gotten?
MEN NEED TO START DEMANDING THIS FROM THE SENATE AND HOUSE OF REP MEMBERS IN THEIR COUNTRIES

The men who jumped him without verification are the most useless creatures. They are alway mostly simps acting as voltron for women agins their fellow men.
Such men i never forgive and always deal with more ruthlessly than even the woman who offends me.
Never be that type of guy who jumps into a situation to support a woman when you dont know the clear truth about the situation

tomorrow its men they willl come to begging for votes during election.
yOU GIVE EMPOWERMENT SCHME TO WOMEN WHO WILL MAKE MONEY AND KEEP IT TO THEMSELVES.
BUT MEN WHO SPEND AND CIRCULATE MONEY IN SOCIETY YOU DENY EMPOWERMENT SCHEME FROM.
THIS IS WHY COUNTRIES WHO ARE ALSO DOING THIS FOOLISHNESS OF DIVERTING EMPOWERMENT TO WOMEN ARE SUFFERING IN THEIR ECONOMY THESEDAYS.

WE WONT FORGET.

BSsniffer:
You shouldn't have wasted your energy replying. Read her/his little deconstruction and it obviously reeks of deep level inferiority complex...we can't talk about Iceland because they're a more organized society than nigeria- typical nigger reasoning.

exactly. Ofodirinwa just typed a lot of rubbish using english language

Betece:
What the Nigerian youths did will go down in history as one of the best things the youth of any country has ever done...

WHAT DID THEY DO THAT WILL GO DOWN IN HISTORY?

Go and see serious youths in hongkong and myanmar them fighting serious fights.
These ones are there fooling themselves

Wiseandtrue:
For wetin

Na you get her body

She can walk naked for all I care it's her life!

Her ex-husband sef no mind

Na you dey here dey kee yaself

Mtcheeeew, misplaced priorities

You useless whoremonger women of nowadays wont have sense.
Its your body but you cant go about exposing it indecently. Theres a crime called indecent exposure.
its not misplaced priorities because we have kids who also use the internet. If you want to be whoe then do it privately.
Stop trying to use porn as PR

The kepple africa are a useless company for revoking their investment.
What has a squabble by the ceos in their private life got to do with investment.
All these foolish simps leading companies always tryign to please women.
See the fool below in that comment already telling them to move their investment to another company that focuses on women.
Useless men in this generation