Ok forget all those rude replies and listen to me. I wont claim to know what you are going through but i understand we are all different and different things can make different people fear. What someone finds easy i dont automatically expect you to find easy. Now I understand her ill health has been of great concern to you and I notice you have clearly stated that this came to your attention about 4 months ago. Being in the health related field, my first and foremost advice to you (which should be rather obvious) is to find out what is really wrong with her. What do the doctors say and you must be strong and prepared to take anything in. At least once you know, you are able to make a decision. Cause from the way you are talking, i am picking up the idea that you (or both of you) don't know why her health has trodden downhill so suddenly and strangely. It could be anything so just keep your mind open and heart receptive. Support her in any way you can for now and encourage her it is for the best of both of you. Once you know whats really going on, you can plan the way forward as I have already said. Hope this helps you.

All has been said, you cant really accuse her of unfaithfulness unless you can prove it. I believe you two should just talk. Like seriously. Some people can be stubborn even if they aren't guilty. And that would make you suspicious and in throw-back make them feel untrusted. I realize you already confronted her, but this tym when you want to do it, just be sweet and nice to her (i hope it'll work) and let her know how you really feel. Don't be hard and really step on your feelings if you have to. Sometimes a little humility can make you go a long long way. For now I would say give her benefit of the doubt ok dear. But that doesnt mean you stay in the dark.

[b]Aaauuu, ppl tle mma he myt be serious. I support all the gud advice u bn given, but one thing thats hasnt been mentioned is dat u must remember dis is an addiction and u cant jus wake up n decide to quit it all. It starts small by small and allow urself to overcome this way. Dont crucify yourself each time u fall 4 it, but forgive urself and because I see you believe in God, ask Christ for forgiveness too. I have worked with genuine addicts and I vow to you, 0% of them have been able to overcome their addictions over one whole clean sweep, so the technique we use is to tell them it will fade away little by little and for as long as you really want to quit, and make the effort to do so, you shall manage. I cant claim to know your pain but I understand you are disappointed in yourself. Dont worry, find constructive things to preoccupy your time and mind and ultimately, give yourself chance to grow out of it slowly. Eventually, you will stand victorious over it. I wouldnt mind an update of your journey ahead.[/b]

argent:

This is what you should do,
buy a litre of oil(palm oil will be better), bleach the oil and while its still very hot, pour it on your face.
Its going to be painful, but you will have to endure since this will be a permanent solution to your problem.
I am sure that after this, girls will no longer find you cute.
Next pls

LMAO , I like

I dont usually remember to celebrate dating annivesaries and amof, i rarely remember the day itself spontaneously. But the guys always seem to remind me and want to celebrate them and because i dont see any harm in doing so, I flow along. Besides, its usually a good way to unwind at the end of a hard long week of books and work. So in the end, no harm no foul on either side.

1. So damn true!

2. Luk at point one. I mean whats up with the surveillance habit? For me, its a turn off.

3. Eeeeeh. Too true. No point in being too demanding, and even if you are, at least provide half of the stuff for yourself.

4. Every1 knows thats a common habit in the average female. Call a spade a spade, I always say. Aint no bush to beat around.

5. I couldnt agree more!!!!! Amen.

6. Why would a woman do that? To make him feel jealous? But some women do that and it could drive any man away.

7. Once again, you scored right. No need for so much drama. We got shakespeare n dem all.

8. Amen.

9. (ahem) No comment

10. Too true. If you are smart, let it show itself, and not you to show it.

I agree all the 10 are true. They can drive any sensible man away. Turn him off cold.

ish. is dat a cry of desperation 2 months aint long my bru, u stil got time, whats d hurry anyway? Remember hurry hurry aing got no blessings

Michola:

If he had been in love with you, why did he then speak to your friend. Dont be a spoilsport. Leave him for your friend.

So I believe dats true. Cause he is now seeing your friend, I mean wasnt the brother in love with you. Still more, they say he might be shy, could be true, but he should be first true to himself before being true to you. Its up to him to decide, you or your friend? Let him know this at least you won't have to bear the burden of his decisions. If brother wants to move on (WITH YOUR FRIEND!!) let him do so. You can take a horse to the river, but cant make it drink.

Does weight matter to you when you are dating? Nothing wrong with being attracted to a BBW or a BHM. But what is your weight cut off?
Fellows would you date a woman who weighed 150kgs?
women would you date a man who weighed 175 kgs?

Give your reasons for and against.
No derogatory remarks please,

(hope I aint repeating this thread)
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I was talking with a friend earlier this morning and we became embroiled in a discussion about snooping.

Now she is of the opinion if her boyfriend leaves his wallet, cell phone etc on the dresser or whatever furniture she has the right to read any text messages and go through his things,

Apparently when she stays at his home she snoops through drawers cupboards and she admitted to snooping through garbage to see if there were condom packages,
I was utterly shocked, because trust is paramount in a relationship and to go to these extremes either she doesn't trust him as far as she can throw him or she is just plain nosey and this is a habitual problem,


How many men/ women do snoop, go through their S/O things hack into email accounts, check text messages?
Do you feel you have the right to check on him/her?


If you are that untrusting why be with them?

She a manipulator, time-waster.

@ Ceeno

Like that.

Hmm thats a tricky one I must say. I think if you are married you are married. If you are committed then when asked you should say you are committed (but unmarried if the person asks for more info). As for the single part, yeah theoretically speaking you are single (for as long as you are unmarried) even though you are committed but practically speaking you are not. Single means "one" and if you and a partner have decided to 'belong' to each other before marriage then you are simply committed and that is what you are. So, i think single should be used when you aren't seeing anyone/committed to anyone for the sake of clarity.

Ok, listen people, I have sort of a family, ok let me make that mother, problem. It isnt really a problem, just pressure. I am approaching/in the marriage age zone, which I am not really keen on because I am studying Medicine which is just overbearing and all that concerns me now is to graduate. My father is supporting me fully in telling me to focus on that first (thats probably because he studied medicine too and knows what the hard slaving means) but my mother has started hinting marriage stories. I mean whats up ma'am, its probably the last thing on my mind now cause I know myself. If I am having one burden esp like studies, I tend to pay less attention to a relationship. I dont know if its psychological and frankly I dont care whats the root cause but those are just facts and I have found out i tend to cope well. Now, I know she is just concerned that I should not miss out and struggle to find a partner later on but I really dont think I need that pressure right now at the peak of my education. I know many other females have managed to even get married while still at Med school but I have seen most of them struggle to cope afterwards. Anywway, these are just supporting facts, not that they are my justifying reasons. Nowadays whenever she brings up such topics, I just remain silent and I have also started keeping clear of her and avoiding her. Please help me, as we are very close and I dont know how to make her understand.

Well, myself have been living abroad ever since ever and its not bad. It jus depends on where you get comfortable. Some countries have really good international relations so if u in a country like dat, no worries but if you ever been to a country like Bw (a substantial amount of xenophobism exists there) then you wouldnt wanna live there. And getting married would also contribute greatly to wear and whom you are marrying. Your husband may want you to gain his citizenship or it may be beneficial in itself. But thats really up to you. And since naija dont giv dual citizenship you may wish to reconsider before denouncing your citizenship by right. You sound young, so just take your time and make the right decisions. Ultimately I say, raise your kids where you feel most comfy aite Mama. And I dont approve of boarding schools btw. Myself, settling i been to so many countries and so far I have found Italy and Mauritius suiting my needs. And I wouldnt regret/hesitate raising my kids in any of these. Maldives is also too good to be true, but eish i dont them kids will really pay attention to study and will turn out into permanent vacationers instead.

Finally someone sees!

[color=#770077][/color] Well it would depend on why she is nagging. Is it because of you or is it just a habit? Whateva the case, dont argue back. Just listen and if its you, correct what she's nagging about if you can, if you cant explain it to her. Some things may seem obvious but practically speaking they aint. If she is a natural nagger, tell her you dont like it. If she dont stop, lol, then i guess u might as well do what people have already said, leave her and move on to a less clanging cymbal.