R3tr0st^r:

Actually, I've been in NL longer than you so yes I know

norrisman:

Thanks Pokerface, Creamish and Bigrod

I know my story was a bit too long so probably not everyone understood me properly

@ Bigrod

I do not want approval to go ahead and cheat on my wife with Shade. I completely disposed of any thoughts of having sex with her once I had gone on a second date with her and found her to be wonderful person. I continued to see her becuase there was an aura about her and I just had the urge to help her even though I could lay my finger on what the problem was.

My problem really is how to tell her what the real situation is without her thinking I am only saying it because I now know about her condition. God knows I only had good intentions (from the second date that is)

maureena:

olodo . I think you need to go back to secondary school and study your integrated science not biology cos you have to start
from there.
At your age, you should be talking about how to focus on your education and not a woman.

Marriage is not all about sex, there is more to it that what you are seeing.

to maureena and @ all others thinking likewise: first of all, i dont expect the guy to know about AA, not everyone knows everything you do and vice versa. There is stuff he knows that you dont, and there is stuff that you think obvious that may not be. Asking is not stupidity and education is a lifetime process.

on 2nd point, at his age, i think he should be encouraged to pay some attention to the woman especially if he has intentions of making her wife

and on third and most irritating, did the guy even speak of sex please FOCUS.

sofeco:

She's only advertising the site here.

Carolece:

That is my problem. I dont want to create a problem where everthing seems "perfect". She is happy and sing praises about her husband, so I dont want to be the one to make her unhappy. But looking at it deeply, if or when she finds out, its going to hurt deep. I am saying to myself, I rather loose a friend for a time being than loosing them for good. I am really thinking to tell, but just dont know how I would word it, as I dont want to just give it to her raw as it is.

Any suggestions on how you'd tell a friend something like that?

OLUJIME:

I thank you all for the answers you have given me. I must say I'm really proud of you all.

But I need more please.

IN MY FURTHER DISCUSSION WITH HER ABOUT THIS ISSUE, SHE SAID THAT ANOTHER THINGS THAT MAKES HER DOUBT THIS MAN IS THAT HE WANTS TO have intimacy WITH HER. SHE SAID THAT HE NEVER HIDE HIS SEXUAL FEELINGS FROM HER THAT EACH TIME THEY STAY TOGETHER HE WOULD TELL HER HE WANTS TO MAKE LOVE TO HER. HE ALWAYS TELLS HER THIS PLAINLY.

Honestly speaking, I would only be worried if a guy didnt express his intentions to make love to a woman, then something would be just seriously wrong wit d dude, i mean the man is human for crying out loud, what the hell do people want him to do? chop off his d*ck to prove he loves her? drain out all his flippin hormones? Obviously he got se*ual urges as do us all and no one needs to lie to us about that, eish. And am even more stunned that he held himself back and didnt force her into intimacy, and actually thats what counts more. The fact that he's waiting on her, how much do does a bredren gotta prove himself oi, and moreover it aint as if no woman has no sexual urges too,

infiniti:

very silly post. at the end of the session, was she a V or not??, hisss!

MRbrownJAY:

its ungodly TO YOU!!!!!!
- why would you think that any of these people are god fearing christian?
- why would you think that any of these people care about what the bible or your pastor says?

live YOUR life the best you can and stop worrying about what your neighbor is doing.

MRbrownJAY:

be straight and direct to her, you should say:

MISS, I THINK YOU ARE REALLY BEAUTIFUL AND I AM FLATTERED BUT I HAVE SOMEONE IN MY LIFE THAT I LOVE DEARLY AND, IF YOU PUT YOURSELF IN HER SHOES, I AM SURE YOU WOULDNT WANT ME TO DO YOU LIKE THAT.
ALSO I THINK YOU ARE A GREAT FRIEND AND I WANT TO KEEP IT THAT WAY SO PLEASE LETS LEAVE IT AT THAT.