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@topic
I don't even see why this should be a problem. In the first place I don't see the relevance of taking your husband's surname. Are you related to him? My mom Never took my dad's surname, we did. We were his, so it's understandable. Again, just my 2cents,

@topic,
WIT, I can take care of myself,
I like a guy for his personality,

AWwwwwwwwwwww. Man you should have stepped up your game and just simply ask, ASK and it shall be given unto you, Face it, she's gone and you may never find her again.

It was either "get lost", 'sure here's my contact".bla bal, But since you chicked out, You will Never know

iykedee:
It's a really sad situation. I try to sympathize with you but deep down, I just feel like you have ulterior motives (sorry). You loved him when he was a player, you should love him even more now that he's not but the reverse seems to be the case.

Imagine him leaving you high and dry after three years, would it go down well with you? True, unconditional love means you love this person through thick and thin, so I don't think you ever truly loved him unconditionally.

It's almost clear that you are considering someone else from your post, if that is the case, it's a real pity. It wouldn't kill him if you left him but it would kill him if you left him for someone else. Since you know he's now totally into you, you should be at least satisfied but you are not, If you leave him for someone else, you might just get a dose of your own medicine and if you ever try to go back to him if that happens, he'll treat you like a plague. Karma is real my dear. If you are going to terminate something that took three years to build, it should be for a darn good reason like infidelity, medical incompatibility not for a skin-deep excuse like "you no longer feel him". Don't get my point wrong and continue half-heartedly, but be ready to face that old hag named "karma" or her daughter named "nemesis"

Well said, Maybe she did have ulterior motives, maybe not. The point is she stayed for 3 years and dealt with his "playa " ways. Relationships are very difficult, and both partners need to commit equal amount of time to endure it works. Yes, sometimes they work, sometimes they don't. Such is life. But if I decide to date someone, it is going to be for the long hault. Why stay in, endure the hard times, then as soon as things are about to turn around, I quit? It makes no logical sense,

buzyDiva:
even tho i make my dough . . I still expect ma man to spend on me and gimme money when I need am.
its good to look to this fyneee abeg.
what is he using his money for? and yet he wants to show me off.

To each its own Busta, More power to you!!
As I said I don't accept anything from any man. I rather struggling on my own. When my empire has been established, let's see him lay claim to anything I have sweat my ass for, Just my rule, NOT scriptual

NEVER sit back and expect a man to take care of you.Later they will use it to bash you. Get up and work, make your own dough, so as to ensure you don't allow them to walk over you. My 2cents,

@Pataki , Go sleeep jare,

@J-Girl, save my ribs, I am having a huge laugh, Men are such pretentious mongrels,

@Pataki, sharrap



@J-girl, I am proud of ya girl, I won't even add to it

[quote author=j-girl link=topic=141220.msg2357829#msg2357829 date=1213139341]Well if your gender behaved well - it would be a delight to have men in this forum.

Most Nairaland dudes, if not all, are not even dateable because they brag about their sexual conquests here with absolutely 0 respect for the womenfolk. In fact, i support the idea that Nairaland dudes have been highly represented by dogs. . . .therefore, they are all supposed to be attacked.[/quote][quote author=j-girl link=topic=141220.msg2357810#msg2357810 date=1213138873]From both myself and ~Antidote~
Men are just born as cruel, heartless dogs with no class. That's the only reason why they lead ladies on.
Age and Men have no correlation. You see old men acting like little boys. They are so immature and so annoying most of the time.[/quote]Darling had to break my sabbatical , Well said hon, stepping over the block, come to grubbs

[quote author=j-girl link=topic=140933.msg2354014#msg2354014 date=1213060387]Awwwww - poor darl!

I think you should stay out of it. The lady in question might say that you're trying to break them up and you don't want to be the reason for their divorce. At the same time - just make sure it really was that lady. You don't want to be wrong about stuff like that.[/quote]Yes dear, Poor me o,
I understand what everyone else means. However, I feel so hurt and stupid. You see there have been rumours that she is cheating. And I was among the very few who would ALWAYS defend her. I remembered confronting her and she swore to me it was all lies. I believed her. Now this. I feel so stupid.

I feel like I am between a rock and a very hard place right now. Today I had to take some paper-work over the Board of Education, as I embarked from the subway I noticed someone familiar on the opposite side of the street. I was about to cross when the lights changed. As I was about to shout, I noticed this man approached the lady, hugged her and they locked lips,

The problem is the lady is married to someone I grew up and went to school with and who happens to be a very close friend of my family. The man in question, the one she was kissing, was NOT him.

I am confused because a part me wants to lash out and report her to her husband. Then again, another part is yelling "stay out",

My question is, If you were in my position, What would you have done??

[quote author=~Xerxes~ link=topic=140267.msg2350874#msg2350874 date=1212973722]I'm catching up.
Which cat in the hat? Please no zing in my bed.
Tomorrow, u will be reading green eggs and ham!!!

Awwwwwwwwww. . . . . . . . .
I just knocked out one of y'all feminists.[/quote]You just LOVE Zing, don't cha?? .I told you he's a darling, ask Aunty Jgirl ,

OK.NO probs.I can do Green eggs and ham! As long as there is a neatly wrapped size 71/2 Miu Miu next to the frying pan


[quote author=j-girl link=topic=140267.msg2350877#msg2350877 date=1212973887]If there was a zing in your bed - that would be beautiful.
You didn't knock her out. You should know better. She had a soft spot for you because you're hers to control. she was letting you have your moment. Don't get too excited about it because if i can help it that's the last time she's going to commit such a grave offence.[/quote][size=14pt] I hereby rest my case [/size]

[quote author=j-girl link=topic=140267.msg2350858#msg2350858 date=1212973192]You're lucky she gave up too easily.
Antidote - come back here. He can do nothing to you. It's not as if he's capable of causing that much harm to you.[/quote]You've got that right darl, He wouldn't dare


@Jenny, I heard u o, Loud and clear hon


@Xerxes, I will soon come upstairs to read your favourite bedtime story for you, "There's a cat in the Hat"

[quote author=~Xerxes~ link=topic=140267.msg2350847#msg2350847 date=1212972951] CHECKMATE!!!!!!!!!!! .[/quote]It's now 3-3


@Jenny and J-Girl, am here o,

[quote author=~Xerxes~ link=topic=140267.msg2350830#msg2350830 date=1212972442]Stop pretending!!!!!
You nearly passed out the other day i actually had to call 999. . . . . . . . .
Have u stopped your nose-bleeding yet? [/quote] Buenos Noches y'all, I am out


@J-Girl, See ya around honey, Jenny, take care, MY days on NL  has just officially  "ended" ,

[quote author=~Xerxes~ link=topic=140267.msg2350804#msg2350804 date=1212971902]I am ready for you.
Besides, u are the only woman i can bone without a condom on. [/quote]I run the Rock of my salvation, Amen, Lord keep me safe from the hands of "evil". Those who  wish to devour my soul. AMEN!!

Xerxes, I swear eh, If you cannot perform, I will pack your things in those "Ghana must go bags" and return you to your parents house the very said night, 

@J- Girl where are you oooo?

[quote author=j-girl link=topic=140267.msg2350799#msg2350799 date=1212971756]oh we know that! keep him there and out of women's hair. We are tired of his female-bashing. He needs the marathon session now.

jenny, wow! this is interesting news. Where's my damn phone?[/quote]Yes ooooooooooooooo, He stays right here, Safe and sound, Away from the man-eaters



@Jenny,
YOu and these detective skills,

[quote author=j-girl link=topic=140267.msg2350783#msg2350783 date=1212971296]Lol - and cows will start flying. We all know xerxes is helpless when he sees you. He can't even lift a finger against you. Allow him to act macho on Nairaland. We know how he acts when Nairaland is not involved.

Xerxes was married to cadet? Oh jeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeez. Where's my phone - i gotta spread this.[/quote]We make LOVE, Not war, , I have him under ma wings, umbrella and better yet Duvet, shhhhhhhhh,



@Xerxes, I am not worried at all, I know you can handle your business jor , I just pray you have life insurance and an excellent heart.Becos wen ah catch yo ah go turn yo on, an on an on, like the energizer bunny love

[quote author=~Xerxes~ link=topic=140267.msg2350771#msg2350771 date=1212970761]Don't get me wrong, dearie . . . .
Women should channel the energy used in screaming the house down into the physical aspect of it.
A woman lying like a log of wood and mixing soundtracks can create distraction.
If u try that with me, it's me n ma apple earphones in bed with u. Deal?[/quote]The water is troubled my friend, step right in, For God's wonderful power is  moving every hour
There's no need for you to stay on the Land.
The water is troubled my friend, step right in,

Am gonna tell your Mama, All those Sunday schools you went did nothing for ya,

Be careful what you wish for, hehehehehehehehehehe, Better have actions to back up your words,

[quote author=~Xerxes~ link=topic=140267.msg2350757#msg2350757 date=1212970073]Sing music after bed-pressing for 10-25 minutes to please his woman?
What else do u girls want? Ice-cream factory in bed??
Whereas all Antidote gets to do is ooooooh, ahhhhhhhh, ouuuuch. . . . . . .[/quote]see me see wahala oooooooooooooo,  oooooooooooooh, ahhhhhhhhhhhhh, ouuuuuuuuuuuuch, is music to the ear, How about "grunt grunt.see what you have done to me ooooooooo"?


@Jenny, I understand, Just cool down, then come back PLEASE, Abeg.

jennykadry:
antidote im no longer interested in that side,to hell wt him,he's too full of himself,im not interested really,let him die wt his forum ,i don't care

But I want you to come now, You know how we gang up on those boys over there, You can't quit now jare


[quote author=j-girl link=topic=140267.msg2350746#msg2350746 date=1212969551]@ antidote, oooooooooooooooooooooh - okay girl I must be lucky 2ce in 24 hours [/quote]You better be grateful, Not even Xerxes gets this Royal treatment


@topic
You men need to stop blaming nature for your "sexual-piggish" ways, You guys need to learn some decorum where sex is concerned.  NO gentleman will roll over and grunt like a pig after making Love to his woman.  He will cuddle her and sing sweet music in her ears jor

[quote author=~Xerxes~ link=topic=140267.msg2350736#msg2350736 date=1212969225]Men's sex hormones put em to sleep after sex.
It's the simple law of nature just like gravity. [/quote]Go sleep Jare, You are dizzy,



@Jenny,
awwwwwwwwwwwwww. Don't worry, You will soon be back,


@J-girl, pick up ur ph in 10

jennykadry:
antidote when was d last time u visited d other place d other place where we used to meet like this?

Was there yesterday honey, It is calm and beautiful there, Free of hoodlums and attention seekers, I am home in the morning tomorrow. Maybe we should meet up. J-Girl started a beautiful discussion, I can't wait to hear your 2cents

jennykadry:
@Antidote

ok no problem i will cook d soup for u tomorrow and send it via DHL

Gracias mi amigo, muy mucho , Put lots of pepper in it too, I like my food spicey, like moi

@Jenny, I am going to let u off the gun once again, But this time, it comes with a price tag( a pot of egusi soup jor )


@J-girl, please stop wasting your precious time with this " ewure oloko dudus" , They were all burnt by a woman, I pity them


@Eldee, chillax dread.The truth is Men are twats, The blame women for everyting. Even their pre-mature ejaculations and dyfunctional 3inch pencils, What ah life

jennykadry:
so eldeee has not yet uploaded his cute pics

I am calling Mr. Jenny jor, No spying is allowed

[quote author=~Xerxes~ link=topic=140267.msg2350651#msg2350651 date=1212966425]Keep preaching!!!!!
Open relationships and breaks are just excuses to commit fornication!!!!!
Father Abraham would be shaking his head in heaven on the DAY OF RECKONING. . . . .Can't wait any longer for the judgement day.
Loads of women would burn like Chicken BBQ. [/quote]I am too tired to deal with your ass this night . soon com

eldee:
Exactly!!!

If men had breaks to sort out their heads each time they fancied sumone, we'll be going on breaks every other day

This is so untrue, Men, more then ladies, quite often are the ones who NEVER seem to know what they want where relationships are concerned, They will give silly excuses especially when their guilt-ridden consciences begin to eat at them.  

Work related stress is the most over-used excuse when they want to have their way.  Anything a man can do, a Woman can do it better, What is good for the goose, is freakum good as well for the gander,

[quote author=®Th£ Sly® link=topic=140267.msg2350583#msg2350583 date=1212964613]What!!
Take a look at the whole situation on a flip side. . .
What would have been the girl's reaction if the guy was the one who asked to be given a space??
As u can see. . . The sign is very clear. . .she wants out![/quote]I don't think nothing is wrong.Honestly, It can be played on both sides.  Maybe he has issues he need to work out as well.  The truth is, there is no "win" or "lose" situation here. It's life, and these things happen.

[quote author=®Th£ Sly® link=topic=140267.msg2350589#msg2350589 date=1212964744]Like i said. . .
My kitchen will be very glad to see you soon!
Shaaarup! i say!. . [/quote]As long as there are Gucci, Miu Miu and Loubotinis near the pots and pans, I am game

[quote author=®Th£ Sly® link=topic=140267.msg2350559#msg2350559 date=1212964160]You know how i do! [/quote]DO I?