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MASTERCHIEF0847:
Please don't listen to this person.

Can you explain why he should not listen....... and by the way i dont expect everyone to see things the way i do.

Crystalom3:
Hello Everyone

I have a little problem and it's really killing me.

As almost is a custom in our house, you don't get a phone until you're out of secondary school.

Lately, my little sister has been begging me for my phone to use. Sometimes for Facebook, sometimes for assignments or just browsing and stuffs.

But the problem is, she's always searching for porn. She's 17 now. I don't know if it's out of curiosity or if she's addicted to it.

Everytime I get my phone from her and I check the browser history, I'll see Google search for 'porn' 'pornography' and then website clicks.

She also searches for lesbian porns with many click through.

I don't know if she's just curious or if I should be concerned. I've stopped giving her my phone even though she do ask for it sometimes.

I've thought about talking to her but I really don't know where to start or how. We lost both of our parents already and are staying with my uncle and his wife and I don't really want to talk to the wife about this.

Please any advice?

Its not curiousity but addiction and it is problem waiting to explode. PORN is as bad as HARD DRUG.... it is addictive and the devil uses it to destroy destiny. You need to pray for her and also talk to about the danger, let her know. PORN has destroyed alot of people's life....... you get so addicted to it you dont even mind watching it on a public bus or even on a company's computer, it destroys your sex life , you start seeing everybody like a sex object....... Let her know , she should be careful on the habits she picks..... so she does not get hooked on the wrong habit.......

Ever wondered why there is rehabilitation centers ? It is because it is not easy to stop a bad habit, you have to pay people to help you stop a bad habit. PORN IS NOT DIFFERENT FROM HARD DRUG.

ravensckar:
Honestly, when I read one-sided write ups like these, I feel appalled. Ain't there two sides to a coin any more? The so-called 'desperation' from ladies may not always be what you think. It could be a way of saying their own mind is made up. They have no more time to waste.

Now, let me shock you with my own story. When I met the lady I'm married to today, she told me straight up that she's not in for any long term relationship. She's almost done with school and that if the relationship won't lead to marriage, I should jejely excuse her. Me being the 'guyman' that I was then, I wanted to chop and clean mouth. I sha played along with the intent to chop until I'm full. Now, therein lies my confusion; the said lady in question was everything I wanted in a woman (beautiful, educated, well behaved, God-fearing and highly industrious). But I have just one problem; I wasn't ready for marriage. Money no dey, even the job I was doing then, salary was around 70K.


She sha encouraged me that we should pull our resources together and that we'll survive. Long story cut short, I decided to give it a shot. After all, person wey dey ground no get anywhere to fall to. We got married in less than 4 months of dating. When I mean married, I mean a proper and elaborate wedding. Brethrens, today we're still together. Yes, she's not perfect just like I'm not as well, but we are still happily married.

It was later I understood the reason for her 'desperation'. She had wasted too much time dating some Bleep boys, hence, she felt she has no more time to waste. To her, if it's not going to lead to marriage, then, she shouldn't even venture into it. What we guys see as 'desperation' to some ladies, it's called making up their mind.

wise words

drmikeadams:
Am happy for u,,most men go carry additional problems add their own in d name of marriage.

exactly. Like my brother once told me... he said life is a journey, as a man you need to look for someone to help you in the journey not someone to slow you down.

Samsimple:
just tell us it's you, not your friend

nah the babe , she just dey scope us say nah her friend

Joefat:
OP how old are you, I mean no offense, because all I can see is a small boy try to make attention of elders and with what u posted, it show you're an indomie generation not my level.

Where are you when Sega first came?. I guess u are still in heaven by then..

I've finished God of War from PS1 to PS4. So if I say u are a learner, don't argue with me.

See my god of war people.... Love it like crazy.
You are correct about the OP, where was he when men were playing Sega, Mario, playing with cartridge.... there even this game i use to play then.... it's not sega.... it was amazing. It has mortal kombat.... those days were good.... me and my friends still laugh at each till this day on how we were game freaks.

EXLOVER:
Jollof rice with fried goat meat or stew rice is always sweet on that plate.

During Xmas we always receive foods from neighbors with that plate. Good old days. No worries

Hahahaha..... you are correct

SouthWestBlood:
This can't be true because that guy is a comedian and goes by the name CALLMEWYZEE on Instagram. I guess none of the onlookers recognised him.

True.... who wears Agbada to computer village...

Luckygurl:
I believed him at first but after I visited him and saw the splash apartment he lived in, the doubts in me grew, this is someone in his early 30's. For someone of his status, girls no go gree him rest except he's the disciplined type.

Truth is if he had opened up to me on time before I even asked, just maybe I'd have overlooked that afterall he's divorced already (that's after I've done my due diligence and convinced beyond reasonable doubts that he's saying the truth)

One thing he doesn't know is plenty of my gender would agree to date him without him even hiding any of these things

it is not always true in regards to the splash apartment. A girl once visited me, my apartment make sense I no go lie.... the moment she entered my bathroom and saw one air cream she change am ooo.... she say she is leaving immediately.... after too much argument she later told me she feels i will have lot of girls on my list... and I dont....

Well there are good looking men , who are discipline.

But I dont support people lieing to ladies.

MOnkeyBabe:
nke ihe oge Cho?

meaning?

Confusedgirl869:
Hello everyone. This account is created for this .

This issue has been bothering me a lot and I am very confused on what to do.

We have been together for more than 2 years now and we hardly have issues, infact we are a perfect match or so I thought.

I am 26 while he is 35, we both working and I never disturb him for money, I take care of all my needs myself. He is very calm and peaceful, doesn't hit me and I really admire him a lot. I on the other hand is also good, hardworking, not materialistic and all that makes a good woman.

So after thinking of our relationship thoroughly some weeks ago, I realised that there is really nothing stopping us from getting married this year or next. I decided to hear what he has to say because he never talked about us being or getting married. I also noticed that whenever he sees or hears about bad marriages he felt lucky he is not in yet. This always makes me feel bad because I know myself. I also wasn't a fan of marriage before I met him because of so many bad men out there, but everything changed when I met my guy, he is what I want. The very first day we met, the first thought that came to my mind was 'this is my him' I don't know why I had that thought being our first time meeting.

Anyways, few weeks ago I decided to ask him what his plans are. Are we in on a long thing or not? I got the shock of my life when he made me understand that he doesn't want to be tied forever, he loves his space and the way nobody disturbs him. That he only wants a baby mama, he wants me to be the mother his kids but not in marriage. I was mad and I cried for days. He was even sounding like nothing is wrong with being a baby mama, maybe not but I just can't.

Well, I made him understand that I can't be a baby mama and it will also be hard for me to move on with another person. I've bonded so well with him and all that. And I also hate jumping from one man to another. I told him to talk to people who are in successful marriages and stop looking at the bad ones. Today when we were talking I asked him about it and he is still maintaining his stand on the mama.

I don't want to give birth to kids that have 2 homes, I grew up like that(it took me lots of self discipline not to become useless) and wouldn't want that kind of life for my kids, I want them to grow with their parents in ONE house. At the same time, I don't want to lose my good man and relationship.

I need your opinions please.

There is nothing you can do about it. Marriage cant be forced, it is a mental decision. Secondly being is baby mama is not a good idea at all. The children suffer alot, baby mama herself suffers too.... your boyfriend does not want to be tied so he can leave anytime poo hits the fan. I am not saying he is a bad guy but that is the thing.

Well situation like this is a painful one when one person wants a forever union but the other person just want to be free and have fin while it last.

Your boy friend has friends who believe in this story and they sold it to him..

Dont force him, you will regret it and you will lose your value. Dont try to get pregnant and try to hook him it wont work.

My simple advice is watch how things go if after a year he is still singing the same song then start keeping yourself open for other potential suitor.

There is nothing like THE ONE... you thought he was your special one until you found out you wanted different things in life in regards to long term issues. I am not saying he is a bad person, but you are not on the same page.

I believe when a man finds a good woman he will try and keep her and not want to keep her as a baby mama. His loyalty to you raise a doubt. But dont conclude he might just be getting around the wrong people.

Dont push it, dont force him. You will lose your value... just ask him maybe 3 or 6 months later and see his reaction.

No be say i get bad belle, but i wont be surprise if that baby is not NED'S baby.......... all this instagram trust them NOT

johnrix:
Married men in the house, which do you see keeps your marriage - love for your wife or Respect for her?

On one hand, one lady who is all nice and sweet, puts all her emotions into the rship, but her attitude, intellect needs some work. You are ready to help build her, educate her but you fear you might not respect that much. Her dream is a loving husband.

On the other hand, another lady, is not the loving/romantic type type, a little cold, but she is responsible and smart. You respect her a lot, but it looks, you will both have to grow the love. She'll have the tendency, say any disrespect, I'm packing my bags instead of working things out. Her primary focus is to be respected in her marriage.

Lastly, what do you ladies want? I hear some women say love, some say respect, some say both. It varies based on those who believe strongly in love vs those who don't want disrespect from their husbands. But one thing is sure, most women deep down want one over the other.

Love definitely. 100%. With love respect will come naturally...... with Love correction will be taken, with Love attitude can be changed........ no body is perfect but with LOVE any relationship can stand the test of time.

Respect is okay. But Respect does not care, respect does not compromise, respect does not sacrifice. Love does all that. Even bible talked about LOVE......The definition from the bible sums it all.

bong4:
Believe me, marriage has several, "heats of the moments". Anyone who can make such a statement in one matter can repeat it in another.

You are correct no doubt...... But there is a difference between saying and acting. we all sometimes say things we dont mean and will never do.

MolarT:
This is exactly why we still have sickler children. Do u know the genotype of those kids. Do u know what they are passing through. My brother dont say what u dont have complete jnfo about. They may be passing through hell.. even if na only one sickler. That one is enough to make the whole family unhappy especially the mother...

The kids are totally fine.

bong4:
This is the part that would have ended every marriage plans immediately.
I pray that child isn't SS. Even at that, keep this statement close to heart.

Keep which statement close to heart..... those were statements made in the heat of the moment. The Op did not act well

ZeroShenanigan:
I'm above mid thirties, finished NYSC 2015 and i just secured a government teaching job after spending more than 3 years teaching in private schools. I met my wife earlier 2019, she was in her final year in school, we dated throughout the year and planned to get married after she graduated. She graduated and we make a move for our introduction, then we suggested to have the marriage before she go for her Nysc so as to enable her serve in our home state as I already have a rented apartment to start a small family.

As we were planning for the marriage, we were also planning her NYSC. She was required to have a medical certificate for the NYSC which of course required blood test including genotype. She came back with the result of her genotype as AS. That was the only time I remember to take genotype issue serious. Even if I have some little knowledge about it before, I decided to research more about it on the internet and also met some of my friends who are medically inclined. I came to realize my own genotype test is also important at that moment. I might have done the test in school but I didn't pay attention to it usefulness so I don't remember the result.

I don't usually fall sick except for normal malaria when there is mosquito bite, never had a drip line in my body for once, never slept in a hospital bed, I don't have any reason to take note of my genotype or blood test.

Her results then prompt me to have my own test done too which came out to be AS also. By these periods we have convinced our families to choose a date for the marriage so that we can have the wedding before her NYSC. Marriage is to hold in a week time when I got my own genotype result.
From my further findings about AS and AS couple, I discovered how risky it is for their offsprings. I tried to explain to her but she turned a deaf ear, she alleged me of trying to break her heart at that critical period. She reported to her sisters they tried to blame me but I make them all realized it's not my fault because throughout my visitation and introduction to their family nobody has ever ask us about genotype. I am an orphan, I don't have any closer family to guide me except for my sisters who can't wait for me to get married because of my age, they also had never thought of it as well.

My wife sisters gave us some examples of older couples who were both AS with only one or no sickler among their children. My wife also made a threat of killing herself or she kill me if the marriage didn't hold. She even suggested we proceed with the marriage and break up after few weeks of marriage because of the shame that may follow if we stop the marriage or maybe she was desperate because of the marriage certificate, I don't know. I maintained my stand of backing off the marriage but she reported to my sisters also. Her sisters and my sisters later tried to encourage us to go ahead with prayers since we have chosen the date. We were advised not to disclose our genotype result to anyone again because people will discourage us.

Even though I was skeptical about the marriage, it later commenced with less spending because the Nikkah was held in a mosque and a tent for refreshments.
After the marriage we tried to talk about it, and she told me, she was afraid, may be she was pregnant before the marriage that's why she insisted on going ahead with the marriage. She also revealed to me that she was not happy with the decision as well, means she also know the implications but she have to avoid the shame of stopping the marriage after inviting guests to the occasion.

During these period genotype before the marriage, my love for her reduced drastically because of her desperation and her refusal to understand the risk we are about to take. I tried to avoid pregnancy from our first month of marriage but I later gave up and she conceived immediately. Now she is closer to her delivery. We hardly talk or play together inside. We only discuss about feeding, maternity and things to get for the coming baby.
I discovered we quarrel over little things that can be over looked by lovers. I'm not happy in the marriage, I spend most of time watching TV or stay outside all day because of unresolved issues.

I'm planning to arrange for a divorce after she delivered the baby because this is my first baby and I would love to have 2 or 3 kids more. I can't take the risk of allowing any of my children to be a sickler.
Advise is needed if my plan for divorce is a good one and do I stand a chance of loosing anything?

Bros, i dont think you truly love her, because going by the way you made the decision to call off the wedding it shows you either never really loved her but you just want to get married because of your age. Which to me is very bad.

I know a beautiful couple. REAL LIFE STORY. Our Family friend.
They had the same issue as you, they met during NYSC but they went ahead with the wedding despite refusal from the boy's parents... The boy insisted that he will marry and take it the risk. (it is not easy to find a good wife) on the wedding day no body came from the boys family because they were against it...... but wedding took place.... as at the last time i checked they have 2 kids. You might be lucky and never have an SS.... Do the genotype calculation, you might not have an SS..... All i can see from your explanation is you never really loved her. Do a personal soul searching of yourself and you will find the answer.

FivePeas:
I think you're being too hasty and would appeal to you not to make a hasty decision that will cause you damage because you sound like someone who's about to react ( from negative reactions ) rather than someone who's about to embark on a well planned action. There's a difference. Trust me I know.


I qualify to give you sound counsel as a business operator and would like to discredit any thoughts of you quitting you job because of your savings.


Let's take it step by step


1. Financial security is important. Can you reduce your monthly expenses and boost your savings so you can save let's say 300k monthly, which in six months gives you an approximate of another 2 Million Naira


2. Start the process of setting up a business while you're still employed. This way you can weigh the options if it's for you or not. And can easily convert your salaries towards the establishment of the business


3. Do not quit your job until you've had a well to Houghton out business plan and have put it into effect. Remember money is just half the equation, the other half the business


4. Be more tolerant rather than being irritated because things aren't working for you from a place of convenience. Start thinking positive thoughts about the positives of your job. I'm sure it can't be all negative. Whatever it's costing you, give yourself the opportunity to reflect and tell yourself giving it six more months for proper planning won't do you harm


5. Get a second accommodation closer to work. So you can shuttle between both ends. Friday home till Sunday. Have you considered this?

Wise advice. Nice one.

It all depends on who owns your life and who you are accountable to. If it is JESUS, then you have to follow his instruction and commandment, Keep Their Body Holy and Sanctified Because Your Body is A Temple of God.

If you are not accountable to anybody, then you can live your life the way you want. But remember - There is a consequence for every action. Most people wont be in the situation they are today if they have chosen to abstain from Pre Marital Sex , some won't have had that unwanted baby, unwanted disease and unwanted problem.

So the choice is yours. The way that seem right to a man leads to destruction.

BobbyHammar:
Anybody who still believe in the scam of no sex till marriage needs to get their head checked. If only you know how many marriages have been destroyed or are still suffering because of this, you will never think of falling for such a scam.

What baffles me is those who keep going to church but yet don't know anything about bible and will keep deceiving themselves that sex before marriage is a sin (WHICH YEYE SIN).

Many will say it's formication but they don't even know the true meaning of fornication as referred to in the bible. Take for example when Joseph was dating Mary, yes we agree she was still a virgin because it was their own decision not to have sex yet but how many people realized that there were other young women that existed then as well. Many had boyfriends too and some had sex with their boyfriends while some didn't because Mary wasn't the only virgin.

The bible never condemned those that had sex with their boyfriends before marriage but it was just the divine choice of the Father to select a virgin rather than a lady that had sex already.

Let's stop all these brohaha low African mentality of calling sex before marriage a sin. God only sees a clean and a pure heart, not who had sex when or how. You all should better respect yourself and save the doctrine of marriage by testing the waters to ensure you are ready to sail on that water for the rest of your life. Not after marriage you start looking for divorce because penis is too big or too small or maybe Virgina is too tight or too wide or its always one minute sex.

Haba.

It all depends on who owns your life and who you are accountable to. If it is JESUS, then you have to follow his instruction and commandment, Keep Their Body Holy and Sanctified Because Your Body is A Temple of God.

If you are not accountable to anybody, then you can live your life the way you want. But remember - There is a consequence for every action. Most people wont be in the situation they are today if they have chosen to abstain from Pre Marital Sex , some won't have had that unwanted baby, unwanted disease and unwanted problem.

So the choice is yours. The way that seem right to a man leads to destruction.

Interesting15:
So a guy here recently published a piece claiming no sex before marriage is a scam..

At first, I was thinking he's just one of those loose guys who only justify sexual immorality because they can't be human enough to gain mastery over their bodies, and who can't control themselves and are slaves to their urges.. But I was shocked that this guy was attempting to justify an unholy act like premarital sex, with the Holy Scriptures..

I was like, JESUS, this guy must be stopped!

First of all, if you check the guy's profile, you will discover he is selling sex tools and products. Therefore, he is only trying to pervert people's mind so they could comfortably patronise him. He is aware that the Holy Words of God is a threat to the sales of his immoral sex tools, hence, he is trying to twist the scriptures for his own dirty motives.. If only he knew the danger of what he just did! Don't forget that the devil too is a master at twisting the Bible!

Nevertheless, please discard his claims.. The Word of God stands sure.. Premarital sex is a sin, because it is contrary to God's Will. God's Will is that all sexual experiences should be shared between a married man and his female wife only, in the safe circle of their marriage.

The Bible says in Hebrews 13:4: "Marriage is honorable among all, and (let) the marriage bed (be) undefiled; but fornicators and adulterers God will judge"

It means, those that indulged in premarital sex will not only hurt themselves (STDs, unwanted pregnancies, etc), but will attract punishments to themselves (and even the devil will have a chance to afflict them).

God Himself said: "...the sexually immoral...shall have their part in the lake which burns with fire and brimstone, which is the second death" Revelation 21:8

The guy even claimed that during the time of Mary and Joseph, virginity wasn't highly regarded. That's a lie from the pit of hell! Their society was a very conservative one, and women caught indulging in sexual immorality are usually stoned to death!

The guy also claimed that you can sleep around because "God only sees a clean and a pure heart". Can you imagine! If you wear a clean white dress, won't you avoid anything that can get it stained?

In conclusion, although the world is currently vehemently corrupt (as we are in the last days), I want you to know that there are still many of us (Sons and Daughters of YAHWEH) still obeying Him and living lives of total purity. And guess what? We are happy and blessed. We are enjoying our marriages, and raising godly and responsible children.

God bless you for this. More grace and wisdom on you.

crackkhaus:
If I add any more sense to the one I'm already blessed with, I might just run mad.

Hahahaha

MPESA:
Go back and reread again this time slowly.

I know some people are capitalist minded while some are liberals.
Let me give you a real life example.
A guy came to you that he is unemployed and wants to start UBer but does not have money. You decided to buy a car for the guy. The car cost 10 million.
You contribute 5 million he contributes 5 million.
But due to the guys situation he cant come up with his 5 million, so you decide to buy the car 100%. With a contract that he will refund you your 5 million. Good no problem.

Then he start Uber, makes 50k a week.
Remember in the profit sharing formula it is 50/50.
So you split the profit 25 each, but the driver does not take 25k he takes 10k because he has to pay your 5 million naira.

I have no problem with the arrangement.

But why will YOU now take ownership of the car even after paying up the 5 million. Because according to the contract it says the ALBUM belongs to the record label.

Does that make sense to you ? If yes no wahala. We are all wired differently some are capitalist while some are liberals.

Maclink288:
Good day everyone, I'm a guy of 22years before now I've promised my parents that all through my stay in school I won't endulge in anything sexual but as of last 2 month something happened, I made out with a lady(didn't penetrate) but since then my mind hasn't been at rest, I over think, I'm loosing control, my heart beats faster, I've told my parents about it but yet I'm not calm.

In Addition: I took a substance (Man power) on that day, I don't know if it's what is affecting me. It's over 6weeks now.

I've run to God and made a vow to him if I get free...
Please Nairalanders, help me out

Calm down brother, we all make mistakes... so dont be too hard on yourself.
The devil is tormenting you. God has forgiven the moment you asked him to forgive you. He does not even remember your sin, you are forgiven according to the bible.
The devil is tormenting you with your mistake. This is my advice. Read this bible verse to the devil and he will leave you alone - Romans 8 vs 1.

It says there is no Condemnation to those who are in Christ Jesus. What it means is if you are forgiven, you are forgiven.

sexylassie2:
I am not Oga number 1

Number 2, did you read where the contract stated that since she is a new artist with no financial backing, the lebel, will pay 100% cost for her and deduct 50% from gross profit.

Sorry for Oga.... so sorry for that.

We are saying the same thing, the company will take their 50% back right ? That is to say, it is a 50/50 percent contribution....
Remember something. It is the artist that writes, perform on stage, record and do so many other thing. Why will the record label want to take ownership of the ALBUM since it was a 50/50 percent contribution.... to me i see it as taking advantage of a hungry artist, not just Cynthia Morgan alone.

hakeem4:
Congrats to him. But it does not still make him the best rapper in Nigeria


I remember when NAS was signed to Defjam

Congratulate him and submit your comment, must you always criticize, be happy for other people's success for once Oga.

sexylassie2:
The artist didn't contribute anything, the lebel paid for everything

Oga read well well..... the record label paid 100% but in financial terms they paid 50% the artist will pay the remaining 50%. Simple.

it is the artist that records the songs oooo, perform ooo, write the songs, do rehearsal ooo and do various interviews, face online bullies and such.... do you think it is easy... Record label just contribute 50% and they are behaving like a god.

georgeiyke009:
The contract was signed when CM was nothing and this is a standard contract for an upcoming artist. Reason being that you cannot tell whether the artist will blow. The risk is on the record label. And that risk had to be catered for. Cuz if the artist does not blow, who loses?

I would have structured the contract this way also. After the initial term, if artist done blow, good business. Record label would have made money on the gamble, artist becomes famous and can then choose how to move from then on. Also note that CM and her manager was the author.

Bros Business is a risk. If it works , it works, if it does not work... so be it.......No business is 100% success proof.
So artist will rehearse, perform, do voice training and record. do you think it is easy...... Do you know the mental stress involve ? so a record label just contribute 50% and want to take ownership of the artist's ALBUM... that is wrong.

Who told you they were the Author ? so they just bring contract to Jude and he sign ? reason the matter yourself........ if that is what Jude said then he is lying. I lost my respect for the guy the moment i watched his video with Tunde.... he is an AGBAYA.

There is a saying and it will never change. (THE RICH WILL always take advantage of the poor, the wise will also take advantage of the ignorant same also the strong will always want to suppress the weak).... we can not change it. We as individuals we just need to pray God for success and pursue wisdom.

Millenniumlady:
It's obvious jude is a user why would an upcoming artist pay 50% of her production among other things you still had the gut to say the profit should be 50%50 like seriously boy ? If you're not paying for the cost of production as a company then don't bring the 50/50 deal on the table he wanted to kill her career thanks to the creator she's back on her feet and she's currently the no.1 artist trending in Africa without releasing a single yet so jude can go back to where he belong THE STREETS.....He blocked me on Instagram cause I curse am no be small

Same thing i said.... He is a thief..... the artist and the record label contributed 50/50 to the production, video and promotion of the artist and now you say you OWN the master copy of the artist songs.... that is stealing and it is gross...... well i dont blame the artist most time, most of them just want to sing and release album without reading the contract.....
MAY D was smart though.

Due to the ignorance of most artist, they just sign this papers without looking deep into it.

NEVER SIGN AWAY YOUR MASTER ALBUM. simple. Since we both (Artist and Company) contributed to the production, promotion and advertisement of the artist why should the company own the album.

It does not make sense..

That is why i love Jay Z, he said he made sure he got all his master Album back from all his previous labels. He never signed any contract that gave his album away again......It is your property.

Please read the COST section..... Number 3....
Record label are thieves i mean big thieves...... read the more than once and you will get the message. They are evil.

Let me break it down. They say the Record Label will pay for 50% production cost, and artist 50% production. It was also stated there that it is known that the artist dont have the money to pay so they will pay their own 50% cost from Gross profit........ how will the artist take care of him or herself..... that is why most of them want to leave as soon as possible.

JUDE is crook, i watch his interview with Tunde Ednut, he is lieing.

Just because you are old and does not mean you have sense. He is senseless

Donbabaj:
I could be happy now but the next minute, she changes mood all of a sudden. We dated for over year after someone match make us but this mood swing things continued overtime so sometimes I get confused even as i really tried managing the pressure. She's a nice girl, takes good care of me, buys clothes, cooks, always wants me to look good but the problem is the rate which she switches mood easily.

Financially, we are both average earner but I think she earns better pay than me.

For instance, recently we got a new apartment - 2bedroom flat but whenever I say something she doesn't like or she doesn't want to hear, she just reacts like why would I say such a thing. All the while we were dating, we never stayed with each other as we stayed in our parents house. Fast forward* most times, as the man, after switching mood, I try to pacify her by petting and apologising but she doesn't just want to listen.

Just today, we were playing with each other on the bed, touching each other (not sensitive part) and she wanted me to kiss her. So I told her jokingly that "but you know this is not biblical" as an advocate of no sex until after marriage. I have never had sex with her either. The next thing she said, "why are you talking like this" she stood up, went straight to the sitting room and slept there. I went to meet her there to pacify her again but she wouldn't listen.

Please note that I have not and can never beat or abuse her cos I'm a Christian.

I'm just tired. She's really getting on my nerves. Our wedding is 3 weeks time but I dont just know what to do. People, friends and family are already aware of the impending marriage but I'm afraid that if a lady can switch mood like this, who knows what will happen tommorrow. I cant sleep in peace...

Please advice. This is happening right now.

No big deal.... It seems you spoilt her, by trying to please all the time and she know you will always bend your rules or decision to please her........ Just try to stand your ground sometimes regardless on how she feels (Make sure it is for a Reasonable thing and lastly not everytime, when she makes sense and you are wrong adjust and apologise if needed but when you know you are right stand your ground... but apply wisdom)

On the sex thing, just be wise at this moment..... Try not to be alone with her, anything can happen....