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SUFFERInSMILIIN:
Do white people have known about this for a long time since the 1940s. Let's look at South Africa as a good example when the British arrived they were defeated massively by the Zulus on two occasions. The first time the British commanders in their bullets have no effect on the Zulus. Undated ambush on zululand before it they caught a Zulu warrior and tortured him and he told them where is the correct place to shoot on the body. That's how the British managed to defeat the Zulus on the third attempt

where is the proof of this your information ??

ednut1:
Fake. It cant withstand grenade, high caliber weapons and bombs. If they were real white man would not have conquered africa with guns and cannons. Benin empire with all their juju could not stop the punitive expedition. Make una dey deceive una self

Thank you for saying this.
How did the Benin kingdom became a play ground for the British.... how was Lagos conquered ? despite the jazz ?

BadRadio:
A priest prays to God for protection. An armed robber meets baba for protection.

Robber shoots priest and he dies.

SARZ shoots armed robber, bullet bounces off and robber shouts "Odeshí" and ran away with his loot.


can someone explain that to me pls?

too much of Nigerian film

Whiteball:
Love/marital affair is a dicey situation. if i tell him and dey finally get married d woman will forever hate my generation for trying to kill her joy,if dey dont get married same tin goes. Am thinking i should tell him to pray more.. While i stay my lane

its really dicey.... you have to be careful or you will put yourself in serious problem..... love and marital matter get as he be..... even if you tell your friend he might not believe and end up seeing you as an enemy of progress and the girl will be your greatest enemy....
I had a similar situation but a little bit different from yours..... I matched up my guy with a babe, the babe starts to cheat on my guy , my guy told me and ask me what i think about the situation, i tell my friend.. guess what They settled and my friend told the babe what I told him.....
They don break up now.... I no even talk put mouth for their matter again..... one has to be careful in life...
Telling your friend is good but guess what he might not believe you. I would have love for you to tell him, but like I said he might not believe you

My only advice is just pray for him. Simple...

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
Isoright


Ogbeni i tire for you...
Nothing like rapture and mysterious event
You just get luck say you nor be my brother or you nor dey near me....
If not i for don reset and format you...I for use weed cook indomie or beans for you make you sleep for two days so that your brain go reset... As you wake up from the sleep then i go tie loud for you make you smoke....as you dey recover from the loud i go carry you go bar go give you ten bottles....I go leave you for the bar make you stagger come us yourself.....then book hotel for you make two beautiful slim runs babe bang you all night with cow girl style
After all these you go begin dey reason well like real niggarrr

There is rapture. Apart from that is anybody can die at anytime.... the question is where are we going to spend eternity.

optimusprime2:
Hey I couldn't just ignore this post...
At first I wanted to be blunt and straight out savage in my response, but it ocured to me that your post was honest and sincere meaning you are not aware of certain realities that exist outside of Nigeria, especially outside African territory, so I decided to be very detailed in breaking down certain things for your understanding ...

1. Adjustment: moving to US means moving to a new way of life, new setting, system, culture, environment, norms and practices etc now these aforementioned factors differ starkly from what one is accustomed to in Nigeria, infact strongly sticking to Nigerian norms in US hinders one from integrating properly in the society and that makes one a cultural deviant and of course that blocks one out from opportunities inthe society ... so how can that be avoided? Simple... by adjustment, evolving to catch up, however the results turnout differently with different people, some completely reject the past and move on while others hold on to the past but still look forward.

2. New Associations: there's a saying, "bird's of a feather flock together" look, if you change location you are likely to build strong relationships with new people and these new people tend to make you see the world from their own view, now that has it's advantages and disadvantages...
It's likely they move on with the progression of new association, leaving the old associations behind or pay less attention to old association as it is of less relevance.

3. The reality of being an immigrant: look, no matter how bad Nigeria is, you can never be an immigrant in your own country, you still enjoy specific "privilege". However in the US as an immigrant, it's not the same... firstly you have to bust your butt 24/7 to keep your head above water, you see these things called bills? They are real, and they can end up haunting you, especially if one just arrived and one is still trying to figure it out. Your friends may not tell you of some jobs they are doing just to stay afloat, honestly some jobs that they may have looked down on in Nigeria could be what they do on the regular and they may not have that state of mind to keep up communication with you, because you have no idea of what they are going through... then again maybe they left to the US on a visit visa and the reality of being illegal has caught up... infact ... bros let's stop the explanation on this immigrant life, just know that being an immigrant anywhere in the world is not an easy thing, not many people make it out in one piece at the end of the day... and this point is actually the most important point.

4. Time difference: this may seem like a little reason but bro it creeps up on you trust me... especially when one is working hard to pay them bills. Being in some parts of the US puts you 6, 7 or 8hrs off Nigerian time and that really just knocks it to you at the end of the day that, you live on different worlds. Now some people come to that reality and move on, while others may still hold on to the home team, look it varies across different people but it is a real condition. Relationships have ended due to the reality that time difference is actually a spatial separation.

5. "The Naija factor": I had to put this here because I ain't gonna lie, once one leaves Nigeria, the problems of Nigeria become very visible, appalling and disgusting when viewed from another country (I call it the enlightenment phase) especially in a system where everything works, in fact you ask yourself how you got stuck in a backward oriented system for so long... some people respond by totally alienating themselves from Nigeria or anything that has to do with Nigeria ... including people. Sad, but true.

6. Cultural struggles: This one right here is real... it first hits you when you realize in the U.S. that your accent in a language you thought yourself fluent in, is un-understandable... some people take in that fact very hard, like they literally go through socialization again just to straighten out their accents, sometimes even food becomes a difficult situation, because some people are not used to American food, others literally bump into boyfriends or girlfriends that culturally format them... in essence, people stop associations with people who don't help them in achieving social integration etc so the response level for different people varies

7. Education and training: Nothing is as enlightening as education, and trust me that is usually obtained in the US quickly, merely living in the American society educates you.
Once one becomes enlightened, old habits tend to be dropped, including old friends with old habits... the only thing that solves this particular point is if you are also updating yourself with a similar sort of education or training that enlightens you on the same level, otherwise a gap too wide on that regard, is a gulf indeed.

There are many other reasons but I decided to pick a few major ones to let you know why your stated instance happens mostly.

You hit the nail on the head.................. 100% correct...................

UyaiIncomparabl:
Thanks, dear.

Why are you thanking me ? for what ? Playing the victim ? If you want to book space, book but not with insulting words to one another. We all should learn to respect one another.

Wasky101:
Beg wetin, when I perform my duties to make d family happy does anybody beg me? If she wont I will employ someone who can, if I cant afford it, i will bring girlfriend to come cook it.
I hate nonsense.

You have point though............... but not about the girlfriend part................. it will really be preferable to just employ someone to do the cooking

SirMichael1:
Hello Good afternoon Familanders. This is very long, so please bear with me.

I’ll start from the root. Well, in my church, there’s usually a committee for the married men where most times we can proffer solution to the issues or need of the church members and other times organize get together monthly within us (married men) just to foster unity. Since we're like 20, different men host the get together. Therefore, it's spaced out for 1year and 8months.

It all began last Sunday when I was chosen to oversee the next get together which comes up this Sunday after church. When we (my wife and I) got home after church, I told her about it and she immediately asked, “who would do the cooking”? I was taken aback as the question sounded strange. I replied her saying, since she did the cooking the last time, I figured she’d do it this time.

She got angry and said there’s no way she’ll be going through the stress of cooking for 18 to 25 men and that I better know what to do concerning who’s going to handle the cooking. I tried to calm her down and reminded her of how I assisted her in the kitchen by pounding the yams while she made the soup -two soups actually and that I was going to help her this time. Yam is quite expensive so we’re not pounding this time, just Semo.

She remained adamant and said there was no way she would do anything, that the work stressed her so much and she won’t partake in any cooking and that I better go find anyone to do the cooking. Thing is, I understood the fact that the work was stressful for her because she was 5 months pregnant then and it was her first time.

Yesterday at work, I kept pondering about a solution and a thought struck me. I called her from work and asked her, "how about I get one of the women at church to offer you support?". She blatantly refused and still held on to her words.

My mind hasn’t been settled since morning because I got hold of a caterer and she told me that she’ll charge a thousand naira per head, that is approximately 20k. Truth is, the get together came at a wrong time and considering the prices of drinks, the cost of the food stuff, meat, ingredients, etc. I really can’t afford a caterer right now.

I’m at a cross road now. I don’t know what to do because it’s causing a rift between us. I thought of bringing a church member to assist on that day without informing her so she wouldn’t surprise me and leave the house but I fear that if she comes, my wife might not join her in the kitchen and the woman will begin to feel a certain way (thinking of how ungrateful we are). Then again, who will purchase the food items? I’ve just been confused. I really need insights.

Note: I said I'll help her make the swallow, she just needs to make the soup.

Brother nah to beg her.................. tell her you will do 50% of the work............. it is the memory of the stress she went the last time she cooked for them that is making her angry and stressed about the issue............... but she has forgotten that she was pregnant then................ except if she is pregnant again now..............then my answer will be to look for a caterer or find an alternative.................. but in summary just beg her and offer to do 50% of the job................. truth be told it is stressful to cook for 20 people and not to talk of washing and cleaning after the meeting/party

UyaiIncomparabl:
Lol. Ode.

Why the insult if you dont have anything reasonable to say keep shut............. frustration is a bad thing. I pity you

Jannuxajj:
I am an introvert that is into programming and I work for companies from home. I became tired of all the gold diggers I was attracting because I discovered they are only looking for sponsors so for the first time I made up my mind to start approaching.

I saw a young lady walking towards me so I decided to start with her. I greeted her and immediately she answered I didn't know what to say next thing I said was are you coming from the gym and she said no and looked at me somehow only for me to stammer and then ask for her name she just ignored me and was pressing her phone.

It bad to be sitting indoors everyday I swear loneliness dey kill me.

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Berryli:
Few weeks to my 25th birthday, last year, I ran into my Neighbour and we exchanged numbers, then the chatting began, we became friends and he offered to take me out on my birthday but It didn't happen.

Fast forward to the lockdown, I would go visit him we would chat and he appreciated my company as he was alone. He eventually started to make moves, getting all touchy which got me a little surprised and uncomfortable since as friends that was improper, which got me thinking if he wants more than friendship.

He has a great career, intelligent and all but not my spec, and I'm not attracted to him. We are very different people, socially and even our views about life. I enjoy his company but that's all there is. As a result if I use to visit twice in a week, I reduced it to once in two weeks and eventually monthly, and reduced the chats just to not give him the wrong impression.

He stylishly refer to me in future as his wife. What do I do? Is he starting to have feelings for me and how do I stylishly turn him down since he hasn't asked me out or do i wait for him to do so? cos there are people who just draw close and start dating without d while toasting stuff or is it just his flesh loosing control, which I doubt cos I try to be as decent as possible wen visiting him.

Do I just go with the flow since I'm currently not in a relationship? But won't that be me deceiving him and myself cos I don't like him in that way. or I'm over thinking the whole thing?

In order not to lose your relationship with him, since you said he is a good person and you enjoy his company.... i will suggest you tell him respectful......I HAVE NOTICED YOU LIKE ME AND I LIKE YOU TOO BUT PRESENTLY I AM IN RELATIONSHIP...... To me, he will respect you more for not wasting his time or tagging him along or even ignoring him............ If he is sensible guy he should understand.

I as a guy i have told some girls that....... and it went well.....

I had a girl told me that and i really appreciated her because she did not waste my time..

I love what he said when i was reading his story some time ago, he stated ........ Everything he owns was given to him by God....... you can plant and water but it is God who gives the increase.
I love that statement....................................... Everyone of us is blessed in one or the other...

Nah lie

Hmmm

SocialJustice:
Talk to a lawyer, don't waste your time here.

nice reply. ..

AntiWailer:
You are mad Bro.

No need for plenty stories.

You were bullied and u did not grow up to be Dwayne Johnson or Tyson Fury but u decide to be a petty thief not even an Armed Robber.

Your victim mentality get PHD.

You are mad once again bro.

You made my evening reading your comment. It is funny

Everybody is a billonaire in Nigeria

Truthlord12:
Good evening people please I need your advice regards to this, I got separated from my ex girlfriend last year because she told me her travel plans abroad I was a bit sceptic About the nature of job she’ll do there, she’s the type that’s ready and willing to do anything to help her family.

After everything I told her not to embark on the journey that she should be patient with me, once my business picked up I’ll care for her and her family, she refused and traveled last year, few months before she left she gave me some money to add to my business I wouldn’t want to state the actual amount but a bit huge. Of recent her family really suffering because my ex had issue with the person that took her abroad so she’s passing through difficult time though she’s hiding some info from me since she’s not able to make money, she called me of recent that I should please do anything to help her family.

Now I’ve got a new girlfriend I told my new girlfriend about the issue but she said I shouldn’t give my ex family any money, because we ain’t together anymore that if I do she’ll leave me

Please people help me what should I do? My mind is really disturbing me and I still love my ex I wish I’ve a way to bring her back to Nigeria so we can start a family I don’t care the type of job she went there to do and I don’t mind what she has been through. She did so much for me, she made sacrifice that this my new girl won’t do, I don’t even know if my new girlfriend loves me or because of my money.

Though I love my new girlfriend but part of me is with my ex I don’t know if she’ll will be willing to return though I’ve not discussed it with her. And now my new girlfriend threatening to leave me if I assist or give back the money my ex gave me as support for my business before she travelled to her family I’ve been down for days thinking so much.

According to you, you stated she helped you, she has helped and so on and you also wish she could come back and you both can start a family, that is to say she was a good girl to you.

Help her.... I am 100% in support of that... you also said you she gave you some money to support your business.... I wonder why you will still be thinking of helping her family.... what are friends for

Lastly. How will your current girlfriend know when you help her family... unless you tell her... and ask yourself must you tell your girlfriend everything? She is not your wife.... brother wake up

Sunnyja:
They are coming for you now. Online defenders, food don done.

Do i have time to defend any politician online, what is my business with that........

lekki1444:
thats bullcrap. i remember laagos under former governors. you will be lucky to get 2 hours of light. back then we used to use atupa all the time. atupa is like a kerosene lamp

brother at least you got 2 hours ... other states were getting 0......... i know Atupa wella.... i grew up in Lagos......

lekki1444:
but why would you want power to be shifted ? tinubu is doing a great job managing lagos. this is why it is the best state in the country

Nobody will rule Lagos and not do a good job because of the level of industrialization and income.... even a child can rule Lagos and it will still perform better than half of the states in Nigeria.... so there is nothing special that Tinubu is doing.

abbiboy:
The time is now.

You can say that again..... it is getting close................ just looking at how a sitting governor was disposed and denied a return ticket is just too power for a person................. His undoing will be putting a politician into Power........all past Lagos governors are not politicians....... they are just regurlay people............. that is one of Tinubu's trick............. put a Technocrat into power not a politician......................... with that he will still have political powers because a Technocrat wont know how to take hold of the political ground......

That is Politics101

A day like this will definitely come.
Even the Roman Empire fell, the Chinese Emperor was disposed......... there will come a time Tinubu's relevance will be relegated...... Power in Lagos will be shifted............. it is just a matter of time......

This man again

Good

IfGodbeforus:


I Never said I Preach.

I know a True Gospel Message when I see one..
I Love , Support and admire People who put out Raw Gospel Truth of Jesus that you hardly hear these days..
I see lots of so called Christians make a joke of themselves with what you did. That is Wrong. Take Correction and quit arguments.
That young man puts raw truths you hardly hear today. Yet so called Christians or believers come out with meaningless talks.
You guys should be careful. God's ways are not man's ways. If you want to adhere , good! If you won't, that's your problem.

You are still getting it wrong, Adhere to what ??

People always love to bring God into what they dont have an explanation for..... Why the God Ways talk ?...... i am not against him in any way....

If you love and admire people who do what he does, why cant you do what he doing.....

When does a correction in one post out of 100s of post mean hatred or lack of support.....

Hello Friend, we are saying the same thing........ we are both Christian and we love God....

IfGodbeforus:


Go and Preach Sir! Leave Grammar, Acqusations and Name Calling..

Let Him be Self righteous but let's Have the Message. That's what Matters..

We need Messages From People like you who are self righteous.

Looking at your profile all i see is an empty space.... so who has been preaching between the two of us....... FACTS and DATE DONT LIE....

Dont be an hypocrite.

IfGodbeforus:

1. Your Correction is a Distraction. Go and Preach the Gospel. Let's see the Correction In your Message.

2. Leave all these Stories. If you Have been Diligently following His Messages, you will know that these your Stories are not needed. There is time for Everything. His Messages have been in Different formats and Teachings.

3. I know you are Wise sir but pls Wise Man keep your Wisdom to yourself..
The Gospel does not need Wisdom of Man.
God's Wisdom and Orders are Enough for anyone who genuinely needs it..

4. You Just Perfectly Defined yourself. I Salute you for that.

Take my advice. If you Have a Message , put it out. We know when we see a GENUIE Undiluted Gospel.

God Bless you as you take Heed..

I wont be surprise if the person talking to me is the same person as Righteousness89..... you keep justifying your level of ignorance with more lack of understanding..

I never said i am wise....... we are all work in progress..... you are sounding like i am hating on you.. i am not..... When people are being corrected they make it sound as if it is hatred.

Read books on Gospel Communication and learn...... they are better ways to communicate the gospel efficiently.... what you are doing keep doing it is good but dont stop learning.

It is people like you that will be reading the bible at work and when your Boss challenges you, you will say he is anti-christ....... Wisdom is the Principal thing..

And lastly you are shouting and shouting i just looked at your profile no topics opened ..... why havent you being opening threads about the gospel...... look at my profile and see the difference....................................................

I pray you dont fall into the trap of Self Righteousness..... it is a bad trap.....

IfGodbeforus:

My Brother you are a Good Example of a Confused Believer!
You are the type that Claim to be Saved but Majorly Interested in Church Politics and Irrelevant stuffs that Have Nothing to do with the Soul.
You are the type that Claim to be Saved but End up Hindering People from being Saved!
I Tell you this as a Fellow Believer.

Any Person that Claims to be a Christian or a Believer and Has any Form of Hate , Contention or anger against what This Brother does, you need to go Check your Salvation.


If you are not Willing to Die For the Sake of the Gospel, you are a Joking Christian. If he says he is willing to die , that is it!

His Ministry is Clearly to win Souls. What on Earth is More Relevant than that? Any How he Chooses to do it, What is Necessary is that the Message goes out.

You who say Everything is not about Heaven and Hell , go and do what you feel it's all about.

All these Watered down and Modified Christianity to suit our Flesh is a Mess of Christianity.

You Really need to Re-examine your Life.

What I Expect from any Heaven Bound Believer is to Support what he does and also do the Same, not Irrelevant and Nonsense advices to Discourage the Work!

Many of us Cannot do what he does , yet we form to be advisers!

Don't Pretend to be what you are not.
You Summation shows you are a fake Believer and a Foolish virgin.
You Don't spread the gospel, and yet you Hide under the Gospel to give advice from Hell!
You Don't Spread the Gospel and yet you hide under the gospel to hinder the gospel.


Beware Bro!
Your Judgement will be Worse than those who don't know Jesus at all.

Take this advice and Repent!
For Judgement will begin in the house of God..

I pity for people like you..... you are being fanatic and ignorant, when you combine fanaticism and ignorance there is a problem....... you just jump into conclusion to suit your ignorance mind........ i never said he should not win souls or preach i only said do with wisdom......i am not against him......

1. So to you as a Christian, correcting a fellow brother is the same thing as Hate ....

2. I never said he should not preach heaven or hell..... that is just one of the benefits of being saved........... There is more to Christ than Heaven or Hell.... In Christ we have Hope, Joy, Wisdom, Peace that passeth all understanding, good health and so on........

3. I pity people like you.... ignorance is worse than a disease....................

4. People like you are a good example of modern day Pharisee........

The God i serve............is a Way Maker, Miracle Worker, Friend and a Father..... if all you know about Christ is Heaven and Hell only........... you need to read your bible.

Righteousness89:
Some Deaths are Privileged Deaths!

Bro Calm down! If He wanna Sign, Let Him do it!

Make Peace with Jesus,
They Kill you,
You open your Eyea in Glory and Joy..

I Personally will Love to Die Through Something like this..

When I have the chance to talk to you I will.
A Christian speaking here..... I really commend what you do on nairaland it is good.

But I just have a little advice or comment on your actions.... please dont drag the name of God into irrelevant issues...... when you see a topic comment something reasonable and if Impossible chip in the Gospel in between with wisdom. Let people see you and envy your level of wisdom not behaving like a robot.....

Look at what you just typed... that you wished to die in something like this...... does that statement make sense to you ? If yes then you need to reexamine yourself.


Lastly..... there is more to Christ so much more to Christ than Hell and Heaven that is just one part when we die.... what of while we are living ? In Christ there is Hope, Joy , Wisdom , Understanding and lot more...


Before I go....
Dont forget to live a life worth emulating let people see you and see Christ in you... not only online. I say this so you dont fall into the trap of self righteousness... where you everybody as sinner and you being the only righteous man..... we are all work in progress....

Keep preaching , keep doing what you are doing...

God bless you.

ourema:
This is a rare breed politician. Very few will reject the SUV for poor roads in their area

Exactly, this kind of gesture wont break the internet, it is BBN naija and nonsense stuffs that will be trending.