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truthCoder:
I commend the relationship you have with your daughter as she discusses deep matters of the heart with you. Many judgemental parents have sent their kids away from them into the hands of peers who can only advise them wrongly.

First heartbreak especially on a young lover can be devastating. Your daughter needs to understand that it could have been worse. The boy is possibly in a new environment which is currently moulding him and doesn't want to be distracted. It is possible your daughter has been hammering him with calls and chats and the boy simply cannot juggle everything together.

The boy at least showed some respect your daughter. First, he maintained her virginity vows. Second, he decided to break up the relationship instead of keeping her in a work-in-progress bin until he might be ready.

Your daughter needs to move on. She should find some time engaging activities to do. School, Learn a skill, etc. She should move on with life. The boy has.

The next five years of her life are the most important. It can determine who, what, and how she is for life.

The boy might come back later or a better boy will definitely come. Either way, she should do extra to add more value to herself in the coming months and years irrespective of her present status. Thanks so much. I really appreciate and God bless you real good. You have really lifted a heavy burden offy heart. Thanks.

truthCoder:
hnmmm.

first, stop reading blogs that define relationships.

lets go practical. I speak the truth and it might hurt.

your wife and you got married not because you are best of friends but because you both seem to meet certain societal requirements you both set for yourselves. You wanted a virgin and a church girl from a good home. She wants a good man with a good job who will love her.

This is where the problem starts. You and your wife might be married but you are not friends. She needs someone to be free with and currently you are not..the pastor is.

Here is what you should do.

First ball is you. Are you the kind of guy that is not easily approachable by the wife on petty things? If you are, you need to change. She must have access to you on everything. If she thinks about ABC, she must be able to gist about it with you. Be more open. As regards sex, she is a learner...teach her...Sex is not just the penetration. Learn about taking it sloowwwww....For the next few days, make love without penetrating her. make her relaxed, give her a good massage, help her clean her ear, arrange her hair, help her try on different clothes, just lie on the bed and gist, kiss and cuddle, give her head, cut her toenails, do everything that involves touching but no penetration. This will loosen her more.

Take the pastor's phone number. Call him and tell him you are XYZ's husband. Don't allow him to 'pastorize' you. Tell him you have seen the chats and you are disappointed. Tell him he should never contact your wife again or he is going to see hell on earth. Tell him you will come into the church during service to embarrass him if he doesn't stop contacting your wife. Tell him you will report him to Winners Headquarters in Ota and via social media then hang up the call.

Next ball park is your wife. Sit her down and have this conversation with her. Tel her the most important relationship she has is the one with you. Every other one is secondary. Tell her you would love her more if she can make you her friend. If she has any thing to discuss, She should be free to do so with you. Show her love. Show her that she matters. Gist with her.

You will win her back

manoflove22:
genital area

IamGreen1:
Your korokoro eyes are not seeing clearly sis, Yousef stop at no12 or no 8 which is game over and he's not the only one.

WoundedLamb:
You realize his "stuff" is scamming people, right?

WoundedLamb:
You realize his "stuff" is scamming people, right?

Kewtt:
Good. But we shouldn't discriminate against those who are....

Kewtt:
Talk true o

Obakashdee:
You positive ni?