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Romance › Re: What Triggers Infidelity In Marriages? by austyn0(op): 10:19pm On Mar 20, 2019

ojun50:
I will blame the word love,
love na scam them dey take use each other

Love? Yes we do not get to decide who we fall in love with sometimes but staying in love with that person is up to you. Whatever wrong decision you take in marriage, you are to be questioned for it, not love.

Romance › What Triggers Infidelity In Marriages? by austyn0(op): 10:08pm On Mar 20, 2019*

There are series of episodes on Nairaland romance section, featuring married people and their hurtful stories of how their partners cheated on them. They are tryna reach out to people on Nairaland, hoping to get advises on how to handle the pain and solve the situation but I read too much tonight until I am forced to ask a question, "Who is to blame when a partner cheats?"

Let's take for example, when a partner cheats in marriage, what made him/her cheat? Is he/she not getting good sex from the partner? Is the wife not a good cook? Is the husband a woman beater? Was the man a cheat before marrying her and just cannot stick his cock to one vagee, e.t.c. Naturally, these questions are pointing fingers at the cheater but personally, I feel majority of the blame should be on the person cheated on. Reasons:-

1) If you are not a good cook, why not learn before getting married, don't tell me you are dearth of the fact that a woman that cooks well has 70% chances of attracting a man.

2) If you are a woman beater and you expect her to stick around and continue receiving the beating, you must be high on some expired gin.

3) If you do not perform well in bed and got married to a sex maniac, why not learn before marrying them?

4) This is related to point number 3.. What happened to knowing your partner before getting married to them? What happened to knowing what they like or dislikes? What happened to codedly testing his limits to see if there is any possibility of him turning into Anthony Joshua after marriage?

All these points and many more I did not mention does not make me all right. I might be wrong with my thoughts and words but what triggers infidelity in married couples?

cc lalalasticlala, Mynd44

Romance › Re: Is He Cheating On Me by austyn0(m): 9:12pm On Mar 20, 2019

If your husband could go all the way to cheat on you, why? Is there something you are not doing right? Would the devil be blamed? Was he once a flirt before marrying you and is finding it difficult staying loyal?

You see all those questions are pointing to your face for you are to be faulted if at all your man is cheating on you with another lady.

Romance › Re: Depression by austyn0(m): 9:00pm On Mar 20, 2019

Op do you have a girlfriend? If yes, how sweet is she??

This is when you need her most, that's if she no be the cause of the depression.

Romance › Re: I Am Ashamed, My Heart Is Broken And Depressed by austyn0(m): 8:56pm On Mar 20, 2019

Preciousgirl:
Hmm thank you oo, though not easy

What exactly is not easy?

Romance › Re: Can I Still Make It In Life by austyn0(m): 8:55pm On Mar 20, 2019

It is quite obvious that broke 38 year old man is with the mindset of a broke man and provided he still has that mindset, he will remain broke. There is no two ways about it.

How old was Ortega when he launched Zara?

How old was Morgan Freeman when he got his breakthrough??

Change your mindset, hustle and believe, someday it's all gon' make sense.

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Romance › Re: She Still Brought Herself Again Today - Photos by austyn0(m): 8:45pm On Mar 20, 2019

Yigiyaga:
Nna the boy mumu na endless .

No disturb yourself brotherly. You new for this forum? The dude knows how to seek attention and he always gets it. grin

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Romance › Re: I Am Ashamed, My Heart Is Broken And Depressed by austyn0(m): 8:41pm On Mar 20, 2019

greatnaija01:
it is a SOUL TIE. what is usually called BONDING but on a very HIGH LEVEL.

you would need a THERAPIST, PSYCHOLOGIST and a strong MAN OF GOD to help you break free, REPLACE him with your HUSBAND again and MOVE ON FORGIVING YOURSELF.

Exactly... This monicker said virtually everything buh I am just gon' add few words.

It is only natural that some men have this ability of attracting ladies online or physically, this irresistible moves in them. There is every possibility you met him or got to know him after getting married and I am certain you wouldn't have married your current husband if the said man came into your life first but it is what it is today because it was meant to be that way.

Good thing you know continuing the stuffs with that man would hurt your marriage. So, whatever it is that is attracting you to that man try and instill it in your husband. I suggest you find a way to relate the issue to your husband, if he is a playful and understanding man, he would understand you told him for the greater good and he will appreciate your honesty and love you more. Buh, if he is someone that would pick an offence with such confession, find a way to twist the story and discuss with your husband how to do those things that man does that turns you on... Goodluck.

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Romance › Re: She Still Brought Herself Again Today - Photos by austyn0(m): 8:31pm On Mar 20, 2019

Anybody wey never know Airforce1 de on long thing. grin

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Romance › Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by austyn0(m): 8:21pm On Mar 20, 2019

Yigiyaga:
Nna welu nwanyior! Ndi ana akpo Amaka kwanu?

Nna ndi Amaka achaka and as such, anaghim etinye anya that lane. grin

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Romance › Re: She Cheated With Her 'Cousin'. I'm Finding It Hard To Forgive Her by austyn0(m): 8:19pm On Mar 20, 2019

starring:
I called her and told her about what I heard. She denied at first but later told me that they had sex 4 different times while I was away. (I'm dead sure it must be more than 4 times) She said they made out when we had issues during the December time. If this is true, they had sex 4 DIFFERENT OCCASIONS within the space of 31 days. (if not more than 10 times sef)

Same thing ubunja keep hitting on in his epistles, the easiest time to sex a lady is when she is in an emotional state. If at all she felt guilty on the first trial with the so-called cousin, turned out the nigga was a good fucker and he ended up entering in and out of the gate with freewill.

If at all this story is legit, I for one would not accept a lady that cheated on me once, I don't know about you Op.

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Romance › Re: How True Can This Be About Relationships? by austyn0(m): 4:59pm On Mar 20, 2019

SalafRider:
Ups and down in relationships doesn't necessarily mean someone cheat or got cheated on. It might be financial struggle, compatibility issues, cultural differences or stuffs like that. It might not be cheating at all sha, just saying...

Pure.

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Romance › Re: How True Can This Be About Relationships? by austyn0(m): 4:19pm On Mar 20, 2019

JoeMaddog:
Whenever I hear a 'hoe say I've been through a lot.

I'll be like "shut it bittch, you mean a lot has been through you"

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Romance › Re: How Do You Motivate Yourself To Approach A Girl? by austyn0(m): 4:13pm On Mar 20, 2019

Gaspardd:
Lol, no be so but just imagine your daughter comes home with a man shes been talking about, and he says he's a zoo keeper, how wud you feel?

If it was the century before, I would gladly accept both of 'em provided it is built as a result of love. But baba, that word be like scam for this our century so I would only pray my daughter comes home with a man of great quality.

Romance › Re: Drama Between Abuja Lady And Her Boyfriend After She Asked Him To Pack Out by austyn0(m): 1:53pm On Mar 20, 2019

What must Boma have done to warrant such unacceptable level of embarrassment?? grin

Romance › Re: I Gave Him Hot Sex, My Salaries, Yet He Cheated With Bread & Beans Seller - Lady by austyn0(m): 1:34pm On Mar 20, 2019

In the Twitter comment section, someone asked, "Did you ever cook ewa and bread for him?" grin

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Romance › Re: "Why I Turned Down A Guy That Asked Me Out" - Twitter User by austyn0(m): 9:51am On Mar 20, 2019

Her name is Ada, I am not surprised. Ndi ana akpo Ada na adaliko adaliko always.

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Romance › Re: How Do You Motivate Yourself To Approach A Girl? by austyn0(m): 9:45am On Mar 20, 2019

WilliamsChelster:
You tell a lady you’re a zoo keeper and expect her to instantly like you

Zookeeper them no be human beings? Are they not worthy to be liked? grin

Romance › Re: How Do You Motivate Yourself To Approach A Girl? by austyn0(m): 9:37am On Mar 20, 2019

Gaspardd:
Hmmm good, but since the places you meet ladies are limited maybe church or sth which is good. But some ladies will just fùck your brain up when you see them across the street or sth, in this case i just assume you would just look the other way or just have a fit of stare.

Where I meet ladies aren't limited, they are everywhere. My place of work na "site" itself grin

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And yeeeah, all I do is stare for a moment and appreciate God's magnificent handiwork on that beautifully endowed random lady on the street because I find it somewhat embarrassing approaching them. I grew up that way and feel if she refuses me publicly, I would lose the respect people have for me because of the "gay" kinda lifestyle I live. Funny isn't??

Romance › Re: Relationship Shouldn't Be All About Sex by austyn0(m): 9:44pm On Mar 19, 2019

MariaLavina:
but there is currently a break in transmission.

Expanciate grin

Romance › Re: Help I Don't Have A GF At 31 by austyn0(m): 9:38pm On Mar 19, 2019

Marvyx:
Chronological age doesn't determine emotional maturity.

Are you ready for a woman now? Because trust me, they come with a lot of baggage. They can kill you before your time.

So... Are you ready? If yes, meet Ubunja.

Comment of the day.. grin

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Romance › Re: Old Men Generally Treat Me Better At The Moment by austyn0(m): 9:34pm On Mar 19, 2019

Why is it that people are still lacking in knowledge of how the world is evolving and changing drastically by the day?

Op, realistically, it will only get worse with younger guys of this century and the next for ladies. Every nig' out there is facing reality that it is difficult and next to impossible to find a worthy lady. So, manage your life, ignore bashing from younger men and pray you find a worthy man for you or you can as well chose to end up with the old men and the repercussions wey de follow am. Finally, the choice is yours...

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Romance › Re: How Do You Motivate Yourself To Approach A Girl? by austyn0(m): 8:56pm On Mar 19, 2019

Brotherly,, you should have just passed your message and we will comment. That picture is totally uncalled for nau. grin

On the matter at hand..

I was brought up in a very Christened family and I took after my father for shyness. I grew up fighting that battle of not been able to raise my head and look at an admirer(lady), no be small thing. I am still fighting the battle though buh I thank God I have conquered 80% of the cities cool

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I don't approach random ladies, like on the streets or something. I only take up the challenge when at a fun place or anywhere cool..The only thing that prevents me from appraching a random lady today is my dull packaging. If I no package well, I go jejelistically respect myself buh if I am well packaged, sister you won't see me coming buh you will feel me coming. grin

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Romance › Re: Check Out Big Booty Girl's Pics by austyn0(m): 8:53pm On Mar 19, 2019

lefulefu:

In a thread like this, you need not be surprised if you find our able Chairman of the Ukwu region, Lefulefu feeding his sight.. grin

BTW,, that ass is an asset mehn. grin

Romance › Re: . by austyn0(m): 8:45pm On Mar 19, 2019

MissRaine69:
Tired of reading about these whining ninjas who are in relationships with kids.

Kids isn't really the word to use here, even adults make mistakes.
Thing is, some men fail to understand what is needed from them to make their woman stay on and true.

Romance › Re: Is She Giving Me Greenlight? Should I Shoot My Shot? by austyn0(m): 8:39pm On Mar 19, 2019

shogsman:
What does not kill you makes you stronger ke,e be like day you never get accident b4.

The injured parts go strong pass before after healing baba. No joke with that saying oo

Romance › Re: . by austyn0(m): 4:09pm On Mar 19, 2019

MissRaine69:
Can you two kindly break up and do all of us a favour? This won’t end .
This tit for tat behaviour is what juveniles do not adults.
You are both immature if you cannot resolve your differences. You beg , she pretends, she then goes and does something to get even and nothing gets resolved .
Neither of you is emotionally intelligent enough to realise that there is no trust here. This is not a relationship if there is no trust.
She needs to move out.

Straight up baby!

Romance › Re: . by austyn0(m): 4:07pm On Mar 19, 2019

Dipsie:
Thank you, she going the extra mile is an issue to be worried about.
She has made mistakes too which hardly led to anything extra like this has.
Thanks for your response

Don't get all worked up over this issue man, communication is key to everything. Arrange a heart to heart discussion with her and both of you should air everything in your heart, only then will you know if you are to continue or bid her a refreshing goodbye.

Romance › Re: See Photos As Woman Delivers 6 Babies In Just 9 Minutes by austyn0(m): 1:35pm On Mar 19, 2019

Igbo ladies always repping anywhere, anytime, anyday..

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Romance › Re: . by austyn0(m): 1:13pm On Mar 19, 2019

Margy:
OP!

I am going to write a few things for you!
First do not, I repeat do not listen to most advise you see above.. some people are broken and speak out of their brokenness! They never say anything good.

I do not believe in judging a case from one side, if only I hear her part of the story, then I'll advice accordingly!

But, from this single story of yours, why on earth will you destroy the trust you both built for 3 years in a twinkling of an eye!

First, you invited a female colleague to your house, and never deem it fit to tell the one you love forehand? You broke trust,
Secondly, you commented on a post you are available, that means you don't appreciate and value the woman you have!

No girl, no girl will take this likely, it takes time to build trust but this trust can be destroyed in seconds. You broke the trust. Now, she'll never forget!.. some thing in her will keep telling her to act fast. I am not surprise she already found someone taking her to work! Trust me, she is trying to find solace! She might not even like that dude.
I guess, this is the only time she has defaulted...
Now, you fix it. Fix what you've broken! Make your ways straight, value her and stop trying to compare her!. Tell her everything, nothing is hidden under this earth. If after 3years because a man picks her up you want to breakup with her!!! Then you are sailing on a wrong boat.

Read my lips: There is no good girl out there! Mould the one you have, stick to her.... las las..na the same anatomy all girls have and na the same werey all girls have it all depends how you press the button.

That girl loves you! Fix this

Great piece, very nice...

BUT....

You are making it sound like the guy is the only person to be faulted. Yes, he broke the trust and should be faulted for not telling the shawty abou the colleague that visited, no sane woman would not think negative. The second story of joking on an article isn't worth excogitating on because the same way I would be okay with my shoddie befriending other guys, provided she isn't laying with them, she too should be able to trust that I won't cheat on her.. The major problem here is, the dude mentioned he has been apologizing like he killed the one person that could save Nigeria from its damnation, yet she stood her ground and went all the way to find his substitute. A girl that is bent on revenge,,tell me sweetheart, what is left to be fixed and how is it gonna' be fixed??

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Romance › Re: . by austyn0(m): 1:03pm On Mar 19, 2019

Trendytessy:
I always like your comments
Good day ma

Why you no go like am, birds of a feather.

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