WannaHowzit:


They can't even point to one successful big business or multinational from Nigeria that operates in SA. Their businesses are all criminal enterprises or borne from criminal proceeds 👎🏽🇳🇬

The bitterness and hate among black africa is shameful and disgusting. I use to think it's a Nigerian thing, but I see its a disease of all black Africa. No wonder the backwardness of them all without exception.

highoctane:

A thousand years before the Almighty God is just like a day. He created mankind to live forever, life everlasting he had put in the heart of men.( Read the bible book of Ecclesiastic 3:11) that is the primary reason why no one wants to die.
One day no longer than necessary, his unfailing promise for you and I to live and enjoy life in perfect conditions will be fully realized though the sacrificial death of his Son Christ Jesus. That was the primary purpose why Christ Jesus came to earth. John 3:16, Matthew 20:28, Revelation 21:3-5

Thanks very much for the sermon. I believed and preached this same doctrine for decades. I served as an elder for many years as well just so you know my pedigree in that religion. Finally though, I woke up and realised the truth about the so-called TRUTH.
Well, let's just say I no longer believe in the doctrine you've shared about man living forever. It's not true, but I don't expect you to agree with me, because if I were you; and ofcourse I was like you for much of my life, I would not agree with me either. But that's fine. It took what can at best be described as a miracle for me to wake up to not just your religion(my former religion), but from religion in general. It has also taking a number of years now of rigorous research, enquiry, but most importantly, self reflection to come to the point now where I don't need no religion, no holy scriptures, or any being to tell me my left from my right - or the TRUTH.

All I can tell you though is that true peace exist only within the self, ie if you're willing and bold enough to find it. It does not exist in any holy book or religion. The holy book you quoted from and upon which your believe is based is a good book, but it is not what you've been taught to believe about it. By the time you find out what it really is, then you'd appreciate that book the more.

Thank you once more for the zeal with which you responded to my post.
I wish you a life of peace, free from the guilt that your religion and its teachings constantly make you feel especially each meeting day and field service weekends: the guilt of never doing enough or meeting up, the guilt of not giving your God your best no matter how badly you wish and want to. Peace beyond your imagination awaits you the day you dear to investigate that religion and the basis upon which their ever changing teachings and doctrines(new light) emanate.

DeepSight:


Well said. Your moniker is truly apt.

So is yours.

Cheers

BeigJawnson:


He didn't say he will live forever... He only said he wish people can live for ever... Na wa ooo

It's the wish I was addressing actually. I'm aware he won't live forever. No one will: human ain't designed to live forever.

EreluRoz:
RIP she's still young. I wish we can all live forever

By the time you live for 1,000 years you'll be begging for death, because then it will become obvious to you that your body and this planet earth is a prison.

Danielomisco:
Kanu is a good player,I still cant understand how Okocha is rated higher.

The records and awards proves you're correct

TNORWAY:
you always try to be smart but it's obvious you are not.......if I have this kind of mentality of yours, I would have unfollowed this thread long ago...... always looking for wetin no lost.

I see you've got it all figured out.

Congratulations

Fall on your own sword

IbeOkehie:


Oga Gerrard is a gem. A very good man. A higher level of thinking. Except that one time he fell into the gutter because he was thinking of big breasts. He's forgiven though.

Good Luck to Nigerians.

😂

Gerrard59:
cc: IbeOkehie

Well done OP. I applaud your determination, perseverance and, most importantly your honesty. You try because if na me at that age, I won't migrate to anywhere. There has to be a time in a man's life he enjoys the reward for his hard work. Nevertheless, well done.



The bold would be criticised by Nairalanders, rightfully so, so get prepared.

Generally, developed countries are safer and law abiding. In fact, some developing countries are also pretty safe because of their demographics and could be safer as they become prosperous. Factors which are the bedrock of law abiding societies with high HDIndcies are:

- Democracy
- Free markets which result in economic prosperity
- Property Rights
- Ethnic or racial or religious dominance by a group or groups. This is the most important factor in assessing how safe a society is regardless of how prosperous it might be. Some ethnic or racial or religious groups have belligerent characteristics.

Reading your response reassures me there are still people of depth in nigeria irrespective. I've practically been retired since the age of 38. I still work very passively and earn just enough income as well from modest assets. This was what I've always wanted from my childhood since the days of my reading rich dad. Nigeria is disappointing, yes, but I can't for the life of me, imagine migrating only to go doing physical labour in my forties for whatever pay unless ofcourse if there's a war in nigeria.

People, always follow your intuition. Think of what truely matters to you in life. It's not always about better pay or civilization. I for one don't like civilization as we know it today, and I'm not alone in feeling this way judging by what I see everyday. Many in civilised societies are unhappy and are seeking refuge offgrid away from their so-called civilization.

[quote author=Peter532 post=126659646]I don't know if I should be angry or just smile and take it as it is. This is someone that I fed, I clothed despite us being closed friends since we were kids. He knows everything about me that my parents don't even know till dates..We could go to a gathering together and I will be the one ordering and paying for everything we bought even recently because I always acted like the big bro and he accepted I guess .. Just last week I saw it on his status about is house opening invite. I later got a dm from him that same evening telling me about it that I should come through.

It came as a surprise I admit, even though I know he was doing quite well for himself. I know some will call it entitlement mentality but since I considered we were close like a brother we even ate from same plate last 2weeks, I thought I should have known atleast.

Note: I noticed so many people will come in here to call me names, even some accusing me to be someone with bad motives and sort I smile. Not everyone has a evil mindset like you or some persons you know, It's just that when you expect so much from people you hold very close to your heart you might get disappointed and it hurts badly.

Especially when you know you can't do that same thing to that person. I only brought it out here because I wanted to know maybe I'm overreacting because I feel a deep level of betrayal but hey I am happy for him and I will attend the house opening tomorrow.

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What if he was trying to save you from yourself(ego)?

Let's admit it, it's difficult to see, swallow, and celebrate a close friend's success.

It's called hives. It's a histamine reaction

Possibly Sidenafil overdose.
Side effects includes hypotension and heartfailure.

segcymoor:



You are correct but then you are incorrect


You can be alone even while in club

Unquestionably, Happiness is found within but one needs to get to a level in spiritual development to attain such real genuine happiness

Note: So called happiness mean many things to different people

Money
Sex
Club
Friend
Oppressing fellow human
.. just name
However all this is shallow happiness


Only Jesus may give deep and genuine happiness

Money, sex, friend, etc, can't be happiness. Happiness is sought through those. Just like an airplane is not London, but the means through which you get to London.

Any happiness that comes from outside of the self is at best transcient. The happiness you experience with things does not come from things, but from inside you.
There's a way of accessing the happiness self inside you without things, and when you master this way, happiness becomes your nature, not an event in your life.

Ronaldo723:
I find it so extremely difficult to keep friends before you say Jack we have gotten issues don't know what's wrong with me


I can stay in the house for a week without my neighbors knowing I'm around


Please I need help my social lifestyle is dead

Are you a highly sensitive person(hsp)?

If yes, you might find this thread link below helpful

https://www.nairaland.com/7670195/highly-sensitive-person-hsp-come

shantti:
I seriously need to relocate from this country where I would physically attend sessions that caters for hsp. My own is extreme.

Am not understood here at all, like at all
Everyone thinks I have great pride.

There are groups you can join online, where likeminds share their stories, struggles, and concerns daily. I believe they'll prove helpful pending when you are able to move. There are also materials on the trait online that better helps you understand yourself.

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oazeez1991:
As an HSP, I find it difficult to make friends cos I don't just have the energy. All I got are acquittances, which are always influenced based on the circumstances unfolding.

I hardly seek for help, and I also dread rejection. Should one willingly offer to help me, but after my rejection, the person insisted and went on with it, I would automatically see myself being indebted to such person, and what would cloud my mind is a way of doing something as a form of payback for such generosity for the person.

As a guy, I act too sensitive and emotional for one, as I feel things to the extreme and over analyze every situation. I feel bad when I say, NO to someone and do regret afterwards, even though my stand was the right thing to do. My conscience wouldn't just let go.

The way I think doesn't most times, resonate with way other's think cos what seems to be abnormal and improper to me, is what the society adopted and glorified.

Just recently, I received two goodnews which I wasn't expecting that moment, I just got super overwhelmed with it that my body became so hot and active, the adrenaline was just too much for me to curtail, that I had to go take a shower to calm myself a bit.

I observe every little changes in someone or in a room, and I get to easily spot a fellow introvert.

My personality trait was kinda rare and weird aswell, INFJ-T (Introverted, Intuitive, Feelings, Judgemental - Turbulent), plus I'm Melancholic in nature, coupled with my Cancer Zodiac Sign (even though most don't believe in this stuff, but I funnily do cos it mostly describe my person).

Loving wisely has been something I'm finding difficult to do, cos I love easily and it's always to the extreme, and when I get hurt, it do affect me deeply. I presently still surfer from heartbreak of over 4-years ago and still blame myself for not listening to my inner self when it was showing me the glaring red flags which I overlooked, not until the shit hit me on the face.

My mood swings wouldn't even help matter, this minute I'm happy, the next, I'm depressed. I mostly keep to myself and only relate with people I'm already familiar with to some certain degree and feel secure around.

I hate anything violence and abrupt changes. I've read different books to probably help me out, even though, there are some improvements, I still feel somehow about my person. Books like, WHY U ACT THE WAY U DO; ATOMIC HABIT; QUIET, THE POWER OF INTROVERT IN A WORLD THAT WON'T STOP TALKING, etel.

I joined some foreign Facebook groups like Empath, Old Soul, and the likes, I felt the westerners understand this differences in personality than we do here in Africa, and I also belong to an Introvert WhatsApp Group which also have been one of my coping mechanics, getting to have people who share similarities with myself, give this idea of, YOU AREN'T ALONE sense of belonging.

It has really not been easy coping in a world dominated by those who shared a diverse personality with one.

Wow!!! Thank you so much for taking the time to share your struggles here with us. Believe you me, I can perfectly identify with you. So far, I think you come closest in terms of commonalities with I, but perhaps only because you've taken the pain of going into more details than most of us have done here.
To be honest, I think you're doing very well already, in that, you're taking steps to both enlighten yourself and rob minds with likeminds.
My advice for you is to stay the path, keep doing what you're doing. Continue to educate yourself using various available materials and associating with likeminds such as the groups you're already subscribed to.

However, the most important thing you want to do is to realise that what you have is not a burden, but a gift. And please don't convince yourself of this or believe it, no, you need to realise this for yourself. It has to be your reality. And how do you do this? You do this by taking time to really analyse the trait(hsp), and then ponder, is it really the trait that's upsetting you or is it the fact that you're different from most, or that others see you as weird that is the problem?
If you're different, remember that only a "different person" can make a difference in the world. You must get comfortable with being different, otherwise, you'll never be able to explore the wonderful gift that nature has bestowed in you, and you end up people pleasing all the time. Every great person I've ever known was considered weird.

Stop trying to conform to the world. The problem with the world today is the problem of conformism; people ain't questioning the status quo enough, most are too afraid to be different. But all greats were those who dared to be different. That's why with due respect, I see some religious people as hypocrites; on the one hand they say they're followers of say Jesus for example, but they're not willing to be nonconformist as Jesus was, they're are not willing to standout from the crowd as there master.

Brother Nature has bestowed upon you the potential for greatness - take it. And I'm not taking about greatness in terms of fame.

If you're a truth seeker, by all means pursue that path. Spirituality has been my greatest strength. I experienced my awakening in pursuit of truth. Note that I'm not talking about religion but Spirituality in terms of self realisation. I have found peace in Spirituality.

Wishing you peace

Psychopatheko:
Everything about this write up is describe me like am just tired am always having issues with people around me it’s just any little thing i tend to feel peoples pain like mine, it’s always extreme I stopped having friends, and I hate myself for feeling too much empathy I wish I can cure this, over thinking and also thinking about the future like now I already know the pain I’ll feel tomorrow like it’s just weird and most time it’s accurate

As you may have noted from the contributions on the thread thus far, you're far from alone. What you've got is not a burden but a gift from the universe. Let the reality of your nature be yes, "your own reality". Then you'll begin to see the incredible beauty and power that you posses. And yes, as with every good gift from God or the Universe, it comes with its blunt side. But the blunt side is necessary too.

It's good to have you share your struggles here. Feel free to ask any questions here. I'll try to always find the time to share my perspectives, and I believe others here too will gladly throw in a word or two .

Wishing you peace always

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Treassured:
Waoh

I miss this Thread😎

Awakened38 I trust you have been Good hun?

Absolutely @Treassured . I'm doing as good as can be.

Great to hear from you again. I've personally missed everyone. Hope you're fine yourself ☺.

Where's the deputy president and vice president?

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Does this describe you? 😂 Hilarious!

Treassured:


You have the Best of my Feelings.

Warm Regards.

Same here 🤔

Treassured:


First let me Apologize for my late Reply. It has been a quite busy Week for me.

Hehe and I'm very eager to send an Emoji because this Post got me like. But I'm yet to Confirm your Gender lol🤣

You Write so Good. You must be a Poet. You will pass for the likes of ChimaAmanda and her likes. I'm Humbled.

I'm bouncing Into your DM now🏃🏻

Thanks so much for your generous remarks. Trust me you got my head bloated by your comparison of me to the likes of ChimaAmanda 😂; I nearly almost fainted o 😂. You're now the second person to speak to my writing potentiality. I thinks it's time for me to think seriously about the prospect, although I'm very lazy with execution.

I've responded to your dm.

Treassured:


Lol exactly.

I'm not a Freak of Material Things.

I'm Very Adventurous🏂

I feel you 😊

Treassured:


Good Morning Awakened.

I trust you had a great Night.

I would like to ask what's your Gender??

Hahahahahaha 😂

Looks like you're seeking a better half 😂
Anyway don't mind me; just kidding.

I personally have a feeling that, important informations may sometimes be viewed or recieved with sentiment if it's identified with a particular gender as the source. I may be wrong, but personally, I've seen that happen with me a few times. Not that I take the information more or less seriously based on the gender, no, but there's the tendency to feel that this information may not apply to me because I'm of a different gender from the informant, or that the worldview of the informant is different from mine, so therefore the information may not apply as such.

To that extent I personally prefer to remain gender anonymous here as much as possible, so my contributions can be seen with as little gender bias as possible .

However, I can assure you that you're most probably right with your guess about my gender 😂.
But if you're really interested in knowing, just do me a dm, and I'll gladly tell you.

Nice having you here @Treassured. I can feel your positive energies.

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Exmilitant:
I wouldn't feel bad learning about my dad's other family.

i am not emotionally attached to anyone or anything.
i was born that way.

I find your post interesting. What about the things you own; are you emotionally detached from them?

Are you saying you don't care if you loose or gain? I'll love to know more

Treassured:


Seems like I was the one who Typed this Epitsle. You Just described me except for the Not Leaving Nigeria Part.

I want to Travel around the World.

Lol 😂. Travelling around the world is it for me too. Just not for material pursuit I mean, but for the adventure. There's no greater fun for me than that. I think it's same for most HSPs.

Treassured:


Lol I perfectly understand you because I have been there. The good thing about me Is I have Evolved. You need to Pick Up Some Books, Read About and Research on Human Nature like your life depends on It. Visit Different Places, Meet People and Experience Real Life Experiences.

It took me Donkey Years too before I eventually discovered Human True Nature and Many classified Informations I have an Insight Into now.

Some Human Beings aren't exactly what they Potray themselves to be. Some Humans are Predators. I wouldn't want to Dive Deep Into this Hole. It's what you must do by Yourself.

It Is the reason whenever I look at Myself, I always say to Myself I'm A Treasure because I know I'm a An Altruist. And we all Know Altruistic Humans are Few In Numbers.

The Picture below depict how some people would take Advantage of you when they notice you are too Nice and Fragile😂

You're very correct when you said, it's a journey of self discovery; I speak from experience too. Its a long but rewarding journey.

One possibility open to all HSP's, is the opportunity of getting to know the Divine, of spiritual awakening, and possibly, spiritual enlightenment. And no, I'm not talking about religion; I'm talking about real spirituality, where you're not taught by anyone to know God, where you're not shown God by anyone, but where you experience the Divine for yourself.
It's a beautiful path; that's all I can say. I'm grateful everyday for being HSP, even as I struggle with the challenges therein

Treassured:
OP everything you Wrote up there Is True.

But With Regards to the Fragile Part, You are right on that too. As for me, I used to be Fragile. To buttress my Epistle, I have this Babie Facial look which some people tend to tease me with like "Hey Babie Face"😂

But due to Some Unanticipated Circumstances which resulted to Bad Experience. I had to develop A Very Thick Skin. Although I still have my Good Heart Intact which nothing will ever Change. But my Antennas are always at Alert now most especially when I'm around Strangers. I will always keep being myself Regardless of Some Situations I have gone through In life.

Since my Childhood days, I have always known who I am. I have always known there Is something special about me. I'm the Most Intelligent among my Family Members. How I wish I could go Into details but this will do lol. I keep learning so much about Life and Myself as I continue to grow. Knowing and discovering more about myself was the reason why I choose this Monicker Treassured.

You've literally said everything about me In your Post except for the Fragile Part which I emphasized on earlier, Thanks to Evolution. Everyday I fall In Love with myself. Although I'm an Mild OCD & PTSD Patient lol but not Severe. Neatness, Cleanliness, Orderliness, Quietness, Just to mention a few are some of my many Attributes.

Some Ignoramus people see me as Weird but Who Cares. I'm Highly Sensitive. I'm me and I love Myself❤

@Treassured, its a delight to have you share your story with this community of the gifted. I can assure your that every HSP here can comprehend and relate with that your long story that is too long to tell here lol . So we welcome you with open arms.

As for the fragility, in fact you couldn't have been more correct. One of my goals here is to help HSP's do exactly what you're doing, which is toughen up. Every HSP has got to toughen up, otherwise we will remain miserable. The truth is that, HSP's are not Fragile in the sense of the word, it is just that others tend to see us so. What many don't realise is that, like someone did mention here in a post earlier, a HSP can be just as vicious if not more vicious than non HSP's when frustrated. But my goal here is to make sure that no HSP has to travel that path because of ignorance about what is supposedly a gift of nature.

I agree with you, we must reject been exploited by others for our humane nature.