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Car TalkRe: Third Party Insurance. What Does It Cover? by Ayo25: 10:14am On Feb 15, 2017
For genuine and affordable insurance policies and vehicle papers including drivers license call Ayo on 08183844095 or come to VIS Office, Wharf Zone. Apapa. Thank you.
AutosRe: Affordable And Genuine Vehicle Insurance by Ayo25(op): 5:45pm On Feb 03, 2017
Hbaba:
State ur price
Thank you. For third party vehicle Insurance the standard price in the industry is N5000 for Private vehicle and from N7500 upward for Commercial and truck e.t.c. But I can do it for you for N4000 and N5500 respectively.
For comprehensive insurance, it usually is 10 percent of the cost of the vehicle. But I can do it for 5 percent for you.
It is third party that is compoulsory under the law. But it is advisable to do comprehensive too as it covers cost of damages both to your vehicle and the other vrhicles. Thank you again.
AutosAffordable And Genuine Vehicle Insurance by Ayo25(op): 4:00pm On Feb 03, 2017
Please help and patronise me. Just got these job after staying at home for some years after school. Do your Motor Vehicle Insurance both Comprehensive and Third Party at very affordable rates. My rates are cheaper than what is obtainable in the industry. This is no scam. My office is inside VIS Office, Apapa Wharf(Adele Street). 08038542860, 08183844095. Ask of AYO. Thank you.
Car TalkRe: Please Help Me Print My Driver License. by Ayo25: 3:42pm On Feb 03, 2017
If you want to start the renewal process afresh, I could help. You will get your license in three weeks unfailingly.
Foreign AffairsRe: Jammeh Begs To Stay In His Village As ECOWAS Troop Storms Gambia by Ayo25: 10:04am On Jan 20, 2017
Ahahah, so Jonathan like Jammeh would have eventually begged to be allowed to reside in his own home town(Otuoke) if he had not hand over peacefully.lol
PoliticsRe: FG Suspends FRC Corporate Governance Code by Ayo25: 9:37pm On Jan 09, 2017
In Obazee's next life, he won't mess with Churches again.lol
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Basel Vs Arsenal :UCL (1 - 4) On 6th December 2016 by Ayo25: 9:19pm On Dec 06, 2016
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BusinessMMM: 7 Reasons Why Real Entrepreneurs Are Not Intrested. by Ayo25(op):
MMM is trending here in Nigeria. Every week, I get an average of five invites
across all social media
platforms to join the MMM
‘movement’. In the
unlikely event that you
have not heard of MMM, having just emerged
from a cave to
miraculously run into this
article, MMM is a platform
which in summary claims
to operate a mutual aid programme requesting
participants to provide
money to others and
promising returns of
30% of such monies after
30 days. It is a global platform
touted as a Ponzi scheme (as it obviously is) and
reported to be operated
by Sergei Mavrodi, a
Russian jailed in his
home country in the late
1990’s when his earliest schemes ripped Russians
millions of Dollars and led
to multiple suicides. Sergei Mavrodi Sergei Mavrodi The Nigerian adaptation
is an ingenious creation
displaying an
understanding of the
culture, beliefs and
thought processes of the typical Nigerian. Its
model stands out as a
lesson for all
entrepreneurs looking to
push their products into
new markets. Apart from these lessons
however I have had the
opportunity to discuss
the platform with
colleagues and there
seems to be no debate on the status of the
platform as a Ponzi
Scheme as it does tick all
boxes. See here for hints. Regardless of its status as
a Ponzi scheme however,
I still get people telling
me how it is still a useful
source of quick cash
before it crashes. For the following reasons, this
position as pragmatic as
it sounds does not quite
resonate with me and, I
believe, a lot of
entrepreneurs out there trying to build a product. Promise of big money
consistently with little
work huell-money Entrepreneurs know that
there are of course
things that you can do to make money without having to work all that
hard. But, it’s just not
possible for everyone
who joins a business to
be able to make so much
returns without working. Making money takes
work. Entrepreneurs also
know that NO business
on earth can consistently
provide such returns.
Businesses have ups and downs simple. The Principle of value Real entrepreneurs
understand that real
wealth is generated from
the creation of value and
not from instantaneous
windfalls resulting from concocted trade-offs.
They understand the
paradox of the lottery
winner…money minus
value does not equal
wealth. Understanding Money Real entrepreneurs
understand that money
is really not valuable in
itself. It is valuable
because people agree to
make it a medium of exchange for REAL value.
Its utility lies in its use as
current (hence currency)
for the movement of
value thereby obviating
the need for barter. A system running merely
on the exchange of
money for profit is
nothing but a SCAM.
Participating in such a
system like that only lends credence to the
scam. Not an investment risky-business I have heard people
liken the MMM system to
investing in shares. The
comparison is laughable.
When an investor buys
shares, he is taking real risks to contribute into
an entity that undertakes
in the creation of some
sort of value. Investing in shares takes
careful thought, analysis,
and assessment. He does
not expect consistent
returns. By buying
shares, the investor expresses faith in the
vision of the company
and faith in the
management to execute
the vision. It takes
knowledge to avoid serious burns. So NO,
MMM is not comparable to
investing in shares. The issue of focus Entrepreneurs are busy
trying to create and
perfect systems, solve
problems, devise
innovative answers to
challenges. They are bound to look at a get
rich quick scheme as a
mere distraction in terms
of the time and resources
to be expended into
chasing a venture that provides no ultimate
value addition to
themselves or the
society. The moral question If you are sure that a
system is a scam
propped up by the
resources of naïve but
trusting participants
being manipulated by experienced “confidence
men” with an uncanny
understanding of human
greed and a history of
taking advantage of it,
would you still support it with your money? The understanding of
risk Proponents of the
scheme tout the cliché;
“Nothing ventured,
nothing gained” because
it paints the contrarian
picture of a daring risk taker. Entrepreneurs
however understand the
difference between
gambling and
enlightened risk taking.
A gamble is taken without the
understanding or control
of the variables which
determine the desired
outcome. bungee-jump Investing involves
enlightened risk taking
premised on an
understanding of key
variables and a
reasonable grasp of possible eventualities. If I
commit to give my
money to a scheme over
which I have no control,
because of returns of
which I have no sight, I am not investing, I am
gambling. The times are hard.
Nigerians are seeing the
MMM scheme as some
sort of saviour from the
harsh realities of the
current recession despite the obvious signs that it
is not. To all those who
cannot resist the
temptation of quick easy
cash, please proceed
with extreme caution. To all those who do not
participate in the scheme
as a matter of principle,
know that you are not
alone. https://techpoint.ng/2016/12/02/mmm-entrepreneurs-not-interested/ lalasticlala come see this one on MMM o
CrimeWoman Injures Girl, Uses Her For Alms Begging. by Ayo25(op): 5:11pm On Nov 29, 2016
Samson Folarin The Lagos State Police Command has arrested two women – one Amadi and Mama Esther – for allegedly abusing a nine-year-old girl, Joy Esemonu,
in the FESTAC Town area of the state. PUNCH Metro gathered that Amadi allegedly poured chemical on Esemonu, which made her sustain injuries in different parts of her body. Our correspondent was told that Esemonu was subsequently
led everyday by the suspect to a pedestrian bridge in the FESTAC area where she was made to beg for alms from passersby. At the end of every begging trip, the two women reportedly shared the money collected. However, a Good Samaritan, who observed the victim’s condition on the bridge, reportedly alerted policemen from the FESTAC division, leading to the arrest of the two women. The matter was subsequently referred to the Office of the Public Defender, which transferred the victim to the National Agency for the Prohibition of Traffic in Persons and other related matters. A social worker who was privy to the case told our correspondent that Mama Esther
was a relation of the victim and had lured her from their village in Port Harcourt, Rivers State. He said, “The girl lived in Port Harcourt with her parents. But last year, her mother handed her over to Mama Esther after the latter promised to support the family by taking the girl to Lagos. She said the girl would continue her education when they get to Lagos. “However, when she brought her to Lagos, she decided to hand her over to Amadi, who she owed some money. The woman then decided to use her for begging. “The girl said she noticed that Amadi would make her sleep before pouring a substance suspected to be chemical on her body. By the time she woke up and scratched the spots after feeling some pains, they would become sore. The woman would then bandaged the place and take her out for begging. “She said whenever the injuries heal, she would make her sleep again and pour the chemical on her. The woman started with her bottoms and then her laps. She said such had happened about four different times.” Another source said Mama Esther, in her confession, claimed that she always collected between N2,500 to N3,000 as her share every day. The source said the money the women were making off the victim kept them in the fraudulent business. “The girl said although they lived in a slum in the Oyingbo area, the woman always took her to FESTAC to beg. She said there were other girls in the slum. She could not recall the exact place where her parents lived in Port Harcourt. She mentioned streets like Rumuokoro, Saint Jude and Rumola. She said she attended Saint Jude Academy and was in basic three before she was brought to Lagos. The girl explained that her younger sister, Ebierechi, was with another family. However, the suspect had maintained that they lived under the bridge,” he added. The Director of OPD, Mrs. Salami Olubukola, condemned the action of the women, saying the state would ensure that justice was served. She said, “This is a despicable act and the height of man’s inhumanity to man which must be condemned by all. Lagos State will never condone child abuse and cruelty and we shall go to any length to protect our children from barbaric acts.” The Police Public Relations Officer, SP Dolapo Badmos, said, “Investigation reveals that it is their stock in trade.” The NAPTIP Lagos zonal coordinator, Mr. Joseph Famakin, confirmed that the victim was in the agency’s shelter. He said, “The girl was brought to us last Friday and she is going through some psychological counseling and treatment. We are also investigating if there are other people involved in the crime. The two suspects are with the police.” punchng.com/woman-injures-girl-uses-alms-begging/
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Manchester United Vs Arsenal (1 - 1) On 19th November 2016 by Ayo25: 11:32am On Nov 19, 2016
ManUre 0 Arsenal 3....
CareerRe: Boss To Staff Relationship; The Opportunist - Bamisepeters' Blog by Ayo25: 8:49am On Nov 19, 2016
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PoliticsRe: Buhari Insists: Aisha Belongs In My Kitchen, She Should Stay Out Of Politics by Ayo25: 4:39pm On Oct 16, 2016
Even people from the tribe where women are forbaded to inherit properties are crucifying the president for saying that his wife belongs to his kitchen. Funny hypocrisy!
PoliticsRe: DSS Lied Against Us, Judges- NJC (read Full Statement) by Ayo25: 10:19pm On Oct 14, 2016
DLioness:
Learn to get facts right b4 asserting any gibberish!
My post was clear enough. I never intended to nor did present anything as fact. I never supported the DSS, neither I am I against them. The subject of my post is just the judiciary pure and simple and not just on current events but a holistic review of judicial system in Nigeria throughout history. Why are some of you fond of putting words in peoples mouth and making wrong inferences that people do not even make or intend to make in their post? Is it every discussion that you turn into APC vs PDP? Is it everybody that is interested in zombie and wailer name calling in Nigeria? So one cannot even have a proper, objective and sensible discussion again devoid of APC and PDP nonsense. Mr man read and digest posts very well before spewing garbages on peoples mentions o.
PoliticsRe: Owie: If My Wife Does What Aisha Buhari Did She'll Return To Her Parents by Ayo25: 9:55pm On Oct 14, 2016
Even people from the tribe where women are forbaded to inherit properties are crucifying the president for saying that his wife belongs to his kitchen. Funny hypocrisy!
PoliticsRe: DSS Lied Against Us, Judges- NJC (read Full Statement) by Ayo25: 9:03pm On Oct 14, 2016
BraniacX:
My reference to you being stup1d was that you made no point while believing that you made one! cool if you had said you gave your personal opinion, that would've been more acceptable and my retort would've been that your opinion is ill informed and not based on knowledge of facts!
Now let me prove to you that my calling you stup1d isn't an insult just a statement of fact

1. Did you read as in actually read the NJC response in details and see where after dismissal of a certain judge they actually copied to the police for criminal prosecution?

2. Did you read where the DSS actually had a case tried with as usual a lofty "charge of corruption" against a judge but couldn't provide evidence of corruption to find that judge guilty?

3. How many cases brought by the DSS under this admin has been backed by actual evidence (not media stories and fantasies like the phantom mountains of cash in akwa-ibom state house)?

4. Have you taken up my challenge and provided evidence of corruption of any customary court judge, not even magistrate or high court (I'm giving you the most basic challenge)? Seeing as judges corruption is "common knowledge" undecided

When you attain my level of education and exposure, posts like yours will come of as annoyingly Stup1d so don't blame me, blame yourself for being ........................... lipsrsealed well you know already
When I see an educated fellow I will know. If you ever are as educated as you claim, you should know that nobody is saying nonsense. Everyone only expresses their opinion. If you say somebody is saying nonsense or are stupid because they are expressing their opinion, then you are no less stupid because you are merely expressing your opinion as the other person. Infact you are the real definition of stupidity and you are a big fool. A fool is somebody who thinks he knows but knows nothing. You dnt deserve any enlightened response and I will not dignify you with one. You are claiming educated and exposed when your grammar and expression has given you away as a semi-literate. You better go return your certificate to whatever institution you obtained it from. I am sure they will gladly refund all the fees you have paid. Ewu.
PoliticsRe: DSS Lied Against Us, Judges- NJC (read Full Statement) by Ayo25: 8:21pm On Oct 14, 2016
BraniacX:
Your stupidity is very depressing! Did you even read? Accusations of corruption without the means to prove such is what you get when the DSS is staffed with and led by illiterate and pseudo-literate quota system beneficiaries of which i have reason to believe you're one!
And that phrase "common knowledge" is a fallacy in academia but feel free to prove me wrong by personally providing evidence to prove just one judge as being corrupt since the corroborating evidence of such corruption "allegation" is easily accessible seeing as it is "common knowledge" undecided
Someone made his point and you called him stupid. Ok, your father's stupidity must be legendary that was why he gave birth to a daft son like you.
PoliticsRe: The Spiritual Side Of Aso Villa By Reuben Abati by Ayo25: 6:38pm On Oct 14, 2016
Ahah, but you did everthing to remain in power. Now that you are out, you are claiming being happy to be out! Ok we have heard. Next story please.
PoliticsRe: DSS Lied Against Us, Judges- NJC (read Full Statement) by Ayo25: 4:48pm On Oct 14, 2016
mandax:
Ask: what breeds corruption in Nigeria.

When we ask you people to join the political restructuring train to bring political leaders closest to the people and thus accountable to the people, you people refuse, and insist on Abuja over-centralized unitary government system. The government system makes a few persons in far-away Abuja to collect revenues from all over Nigeria, mostly from oil, and share to the states governors and local government councils chairmen.

Even a blind can see that this government system breeds corruption.

But President Buhari tells you that he is fighting corruption. How many people have been jailed? How much money has he recovered?

Cut the root of corruption by removing excess powers from Abuja and bring the powers closer to the people who shall then be able to check how leaders spend every kobo of the public.

But northern Nigeria benefits from the existing political system from the large number of states and hundreds of local government councils.

So?
Did you even know me? Have I seen you before? What do you mean by when we tell you people? Which people? Do you even know my view on the political structure of Nigeria? gerrahia men.
PoliticsRe: DSS Lied Against Us, Judges- NJC (read Full Statement) by Ayo25: 4:40pm On Oct 14, 2016
Sermwell:
Keep decieving yourself o, you hear? How many governor, president, senator or house of rep member have been jailed in this country? Or are you saying there is no corruption in those arms of government?
Learn to read and comprehend. I have not said anything about any other arm of government. I have not put up any word in defense of any of them. The subject under discussion is the judiciary. Other arms of government will get their backlash when it is the time.
PoliticsRe: DSS Lied Against Us, Judges- NJC (read Full Statement) by Ayo25: 4:09pm On Oct 14, 2016
DLioness:
Thats wer the pwr of NJC ends. It is nt a cot of law dt can jail them. It is lft to the police and A. G. (ministry of justice) to do their work of prosecution. The point is wn it cms to breach of cot of conduct for judicial officers, NJC is the first constitutionally recognisd body to handl it. So tel ur dss to stop harrasin our sitting judges.

The police cn only arrest a judge wn he or she commits a crime lik rape, murder etc and nt a breach of code of conduct lik collection of bribe.
What do you mean tell your DSS. Did you see anywhere I support DSS in the post. Learn to read and comprehend.
PoliticsRe: DSS Lied Against Us, Judges- NJC (read Full Statement) by Ayo25:
The NJC should go and sit down. They let themselves down and brought upon themselves the disgrace they are currently going through. The question that boggles the mind about the Nigerian judiciary is that despite that it is common knowledge that the judiciary is one of the most corrupt in the world, no judge has ever been jailed in Nigeria's history.All the NJC has been doing with regards to the discipline of corrupt judges, is to sack them. But the culpable judges go and enjoy their proceeds of corruption and move about freely. Is that the kind of adjudication they as judges give to common men? Are judges any more human than the rest of us? One thing is certain, after this whole debacle the Nigerian judicial system will never remain the same.
Jokes EtcRe: If You Have These 15 Childhood Memories Then You Are A Real Ajepako by Ayo25: 10:28pm On Oct 04, 2016
In those days of acrobatic displays of steady, iron bender, cartoon, gbungba, baflit e.t.c. I could remember one weird incident then. A boy was suppose to do throwing steady, the kind where you put your leg on a persons interlocked hands and he throws you at the count of three. The boy who is to be thrown has not perfected the act. The person who is to throw him has very good muscles and strenght. At the count of three he threw the boy with all the power he can muster. The boy went high up into the air and landed badly, landing with his head and fainted. Seeing this, na so everybody pick race. The boy was later resusciated. I remember it now and smile.
PhonesRe: Phone Manufacturers That You Hate by Ayo25: 8:49am On Oct 04, 2016
Is a Nigerian wired to hate? We cannot manufacture any yet we can hate other peoples work. Na wa o.
European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Arsenal Vs Basel : UCL (2 - 0) On 28th September 2016 by Ayo25: 7:08pm On Sep 28, 2016
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EducationRe: Hijab: Obey Court Order, Muslims Warn Lagos Schools by Ayo25: 6:53am On Sep 19, 2016
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European Football (EPL, UEFA, La Liga)Re: Watford Vs Manchester United (3 - 1) On 18th September 2016 by Ayo25: 1:56pm On Sep 18, 2016
pk 4 Watford.... Goal Deeney.... ahahah Manure run down!
PhonesRe: Nigerian Man Buying Iphone7 In Malaysia Videos Himself (Video) by Ayo25: 12:20pm On Sep 18, 2016
project8:
and there is recession bact home
If the witches in my village were holding my destiny, would I have 500k to buy iPhone7?
PoliticsRe: Arinzechukwu Awogu Flays Obi Over Utterances Against Ndigbo by Ayo25: 11:35am On Sep 16, 2016
KINGwax007:
Someone opened a thread and said some ethnic groups were trying to divide Igbos by coining names such as 'Delta-igbo' and the likes...

That's funny because Igbis were never united in the first place...

Ojukwu couldn't win his constituency when he ran for senate and didn't get 0.1 percent of the whole Igbo region when he tried to run for presidency...

If I say, 'bastard Igbo' now, Shey I lie ni?

Shey Obi no be bastard so?
Tell me..
You made some salient points with the Igbos not ever been united. Not just the Igbos but even the South-South. GEJ would never have emerged President if not because of the route he took. He would never have been voted for by even his own people if he had contested on the platform of another party and not as an Incumbent after benefitting from the death of his Principal. The same Jonathan they are crying for after his ouster. Rather than admit they are their own worst enemies, they would blame anything or anybody for their woes. Yeye!
PoliticsBREAKING: Companies Plead Guilty To Laundering “patience Jonathan’s $15m” by Ayo25(op): 1:40pm On Sep 15, 2016
Ramon Oladimeji
The four companies charged alongside a former Special Adviser on Domestic Affairs to ex-President Jonathan, Waripamo Dudafa, and two others with money laundering have pleaded guilty to the offence.
The four companies pleaded guilty to conspiring with Dudafa and the two others to launder a sum of $15, 591,700 before a Federal High Court in Lagos on Thursday.
The companies are: Pluto Property and Investment Company Limited; Seagate Property Development & Investment Co. Limited; Trans Ocean Property and Investment Company Limited; and Avalon Global Property Development Company Limited.
The Economic and Financial Crimes Commission had since frozen the $15.6m found in the four companies’ accounts in Skye Bank.
But wife of ex-President Jonathan, Patience, has sued the EFCC and Skye Bank, laying claims to the money.
http://punchng.com/companies-pleaded-guilty-laundering-patience-jonathans-15m/
EducationSouth-african Universities To Offer B.SC Witchcraft by Ayo25(op): 10:43am On Sep 15, 2016
The South African Minister of Higher Education and Training, Blade Nzimande has announced plans to have witchcraft included in the curriculum from 2018.
Speaking to representatives from student unions around the country, the minister announced the shocking move and urged future university entrees to consider taking Witchcraft. “There is a lot we can learn from witchcraft, like how they fly in that winnowing basket. Imagine if we learn that skill. It will eradicate traffic jams and everyone will just get in their basket and fly. It also means we will not be importing fuel anymore.” Blade said.
The announcement was met with boos and bottle throws from the packed auditorium who had gone to the meeting hoping the minister would announce a 0% fee increase for the coming year. The unperturbed minister also invited renowned witches to make an appointment with his office so they can have their skills tested and those outstanding would then be hired as lecturers.
He also invited witches from across the border, promising them permanent residents permits. “I spoke to Gibs (Minister of Home affairs Malusi Gigaba) and he agreed to issue witches from outside South Africa with permanent residence permits. I heard Malawi and Zimbabwe have an impressive collection of witches. We are hoping they will heed the call”, he added.
Applications is said to be closing on the 30th of September at midnight, after which an appointed panel with conduct interviews. There currently is an opening for 109 witches.
http://livemonitor.co.za/south-african-universities-to-offer-bsc-witchcraft/
Lalasticlala come hear something o. When are you submitting your application between.
FamilyShe Has Remained Childless Ever Since She Aborted Because Of Her White Wedding by Ayo25(op): 8:46am On Sep 10, 2016
“I found out I was pregnant when it was four months away from our wedding day. The discovery was devastating. Abortion became the only option for me.
The wedding invitation cards had been printed and dispatched. The hall had been rented and paid for.
I and my fiancé had been planning our wedding and attending pre-marital counselling in church. Part of the requirement for the eligibility for a church wedding included a negative pregnancy test which would have been carried out at about a week from the wedding date.
I decided to abort the pregnancy. It was devastating but I had to do it, partly because I am the only daughter of my parents and they had always dreamt of organizing a massive white wedding for me. I couldn’t bear to disappoint her and a host of other aunties who had already invested in our ‘Aso-ebi’.
It was the hardest decision of my life and it tears me apart every day. I thought I would get pregnant again immediately after the wedding, but it is eight years after I walked down the aisle and I am still trying to conceive. I am now a shadow of former boisterous self. I have been living with deep regret and shame over my past action. I wish God could find a place in his heart to forgive me”.
The story of Stella (not real name) represents a percentage of women who are struggling with their emotions after an abortion. Many women and men alike experience complex emotions, whether the decision for abortion was for the right medical reasons or for other reasons.
Abortion and infertility
Having an abortion won’t usually affect your chances of becoming pregnant and having normal pregnancies in the future. There is however a risk to your fertility and future pregnancies if you develop a womb infection that isn’t treated promptly. In rare cases, multiple dilations and curettages (the cleaning out of the uterus, also known as D& C) can cause scarring at the top of the cervix or uterus.
Other causes leading to infertility after an abortion has been attributed to the perforation of the uterus, incompetent cervix, pelvic inflammatory disease (PID) which can increase the risk of ectopic pregnancy, where an egg implants itself outside of the womb. A procedure called hysteroscopy can be used to investigate and correct this problems.
History of the white wedding gown
A church wedding is not compulsory! In a recent expose by renowned Family Life coach, Praise Fowowe he reveals that the white wedding gown doesn’t signify purity. “It was a concept that became popular in 1840, when Victoria wore a white gown to incorporate some lace she prized. The picture went viral and many opted for it afterwards”. The veiling of the bride originated from the idea that she must be hidden from evil spirits lest she becomes vulnerable to enchantments. “So the wedding veil was to scare of spirits”.
The wedding reception originally held at the bride’s home for the couple to receive their community and the family’s financial standing often dictated the style and magnitude of the reception.
Unresolved grief
While a previous abortion may affect your chances of getting pregnant or sustaining one, it is more important to rid yourself of guilt. Many of the complex emotions women are left to cope with after abortion and delayed conception, begins as soon as a woman learns or suspect she is pregnant. Confusion, fear, guilt, shame, isolation, anxiety usually sets in the case of an unplanned pregnancy.
Loss
Grieving is a natural human process and it is important that we allow ourselves and others to feel grief after a loss just like any experience of loss, the emotions after an abortion will differ from person to person. You can deal with the loss in a much more positive and useful way by representing it in a meaningful way. Grief and loss are emotions, just like anger and fear are emotions. We can feel grief and loss after losing a loved one, a relationship break-up, or a job.
Guilt
Some women experience Post Abortion Stress syndrome (PASS). Those affected can find themselves experiencing a common set of physical or emotional issues after experiencing momentary relief. Abortion is also often accompanied by complex feelings of guilt if they feel it has compromised their spiritual, ethical or political beliefs. In this cases, guilt can be resolved by forgiving oneself and seeking forgiveness from God or a spiritual higher power. You may need to talk to someone about it to help you move through the process.
Shame
Many are afraid of sharing their physical and emotional experiences due to the fear and shame of political and religious backlash. Shame is a more prevalent emotion that can be felt depending on one’s religion. “Shame is something we feel based on our perception that others think we could or should have done differently”.
Isolation
The fear of judgment and feeling alone can cause many women who are dealing with guilt, loss and even infertility after an abortion to remain quiet. It is a disenfranchised grief and loss that the society does not validate. People do not also feel the need to grief the loss because it was their choice or because of the stigma associated with the act.
Please know that it’s part of your story and you have every right to experience every emotion that comes with it. While this is not a way of validating your action, it is seeking a greater release that helps you move on to be all that you were destined to be in life. The emotions of guilt and shame is crippling. Consider opening up to a professional counselor or therapist, while also seeking a support system.
Ify is a life, emotions and behavioural change coach who is passionate about helping couples and families navigate their path to wellness, fertility and parenthood.
https://lifestyle.thecable.ng/abortion-white-wedding-8-years-later-im-still-childless/
PoliticsRe: Edo Election: PDP Registered 8,000 Militants, Oshiomhole Tells IGP by Ayo25: 6:03am On Sep 10, 2016
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