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Da Doctor:
UWC.
Please eat more food or apply therapeutic lines.
You have a child and your backside looks like flat wood
what then was the guy digging. wasnt he hearing the tear and wear 'rusty' sound?? jUst asking. let me check your profile again

manny4life:
You guys put TOO MUCH attachment to things, he can't be called daddy obviously he isn't the real dad, so that's out of the question. He can't be called uncle for obvious reason why mom and uncle can't be on the same bed, so now the only option is to call him by a nickname---it doesn't have to be his name. People from separated home often call their step parents, grandparent using a nice petty nickname.

Da Doctor:
@BABE. U know waht i mean , U ARE FUCHKING SKINNY. I CANT EVEN DEAL your TYPE FOR FAR TO KILL U OR TWIST your WAIST.I dont want no casualty with dislocated vertebrae.

kelz88:
Killz, aren't you familiar with the O.T?

jay bee:
You are wicked oh . . .Just put her outta her misery that the thread is technically not about you  but just hypothetical scenario or what not

lol. Nope.

Hardunnii:
Yeah, d spirit showed me, lay good examples for your daughter, give her a stable home

You're a mess. A big ol' mess. A stable home = marraige? Olodo.  

Hardunnii:
Ofcourse, lookín foward to that night
Btw, i dnt judge, i only adviced nt to move in uñtil she's married to d guy

Da Doctor:
THE QUESTION ISNT WHAT YOUR DOTA WOULD CALL HIM, BUT HOW BOTH WOULD RECEIVE EACH OTHER NOW AND IN THE FUTURE. SINCE U ARE INTO IT. LET your EXPERIENCES TEACH U TO REMAIN IN your MARRIAGE. AFTERALL IT WAS FOR BETTER FOR WORSE OR DID HE GET U PREGNANT UNKNOWINGLY AND NOW U WANA MARRY your LEGAL HUBBY?

Da Doctor:

AND HOPE THIS ONE WONT GIVE U 2 CHILDREN AND DIVORCE U. NASTY FOOL!!! WHOEVER IT WAS. U OR YOUR REP COS I CANT BELIEVE ITS U. U ARE TOO KINNY TO STAND SUCH.

sexkillz:
[color=#000070]Speak for your self on that regards boo! If you dont listen to everything, what's the point of listening to some in the first place?
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sexkillz:
[color=#000070]Not when the 1st century solutions work better then 21st century ones![/color]

Hardunnii:
Lol
Not everyone come here to impress ppl like u do. Live a responsible life, your daughter is lookin up to u

Hm. I'm here to impress? Aren't you the one trying to impress? Am I not the "irresponsible" one? Why are you lying? What happened to the spirit speaking through you a while ago?   It fled? It directed you to lie?

Discombobulated human.  

Hardunnii:
Dont know why ppl keep sayin ppl who r not happy in mariages, wat abt the ones that are happy?? In everytin, try to luk at d postives, my folks are still happily married, they had their ups n downs, bt they r still together n we d children benefited most.

Hardunnii:
@coogar why would anyone lie abt virginity

sexkillz:
[color=#000070]***Speaking in Osun Accent***
Unless you tell me right here and now that you are not a Christian, and that you have never adhered to what the bible says, then i'll let you pass. Else what you just typed above is what my village elders refer to as "Hypocritical Nonsense, that makes NO sense!"
If you are a christian and refuse to listen to what the Bible says what the hell are you then?[/color]

Easy on your choice of words. Don't push it.

I'm a christian. I don't listen to everything the bable says. You're not even supposed to. Or are you?

21st century Christians are fond of solving 21st century problems with 1st century solutions.

Jesus is not proud of us. Trust me. We are a bunch of lazy folks; too lazy to think.

Hardunnii:
^^^^he who has ears, let him/her hear what the spirit is telling the church

Hardunnii:
@sexkillz Good points, help me tell them.

sexkillz:
[color=#000070] Nothing good comes out of it![/color]

Hardunnii:
I av said my own, if u like let d guy use you, well all u need do is find anoda n move in again. Just feel for d poor little girl

Bodija girl, you're pushing it.  Don't let me descend on you this beautiful morning.

My little girl doesn't need your nasty, stained, hypocritical, holier-than-thou, feelings. Throw your unsolicited feelings in the bin.

Oya, carry your Ghana-must-go purse and exit this thread. Farewell.

Ujujoan:
Okay maybe it's not a model idea, [b]but there are greater ills with the world than a lady moving in with her bf. [/b]Besides she obviously has her reasons . . . . who are you to judge her

Hardunnii:
She can call him whatever she likes, what you should be concerned abt is teaching your daughter moral principles which will be a diff task, since you dont have one urself, poor girl goodluck.

Hardunnii:
@kimberluge for the record, av never known a man
On d issue, she probably didnt marry d gals dad, now she's moving in wit anoda dude, its wrong, call a spade a spade n not a garden fork

freecocoa:
What are you people saying about calling him whatever she likes,that's not sense making,let her call him,DADDY 2 joor and her real father DADDY or call him PAPA while she maintains Dad for her father.
Seriously though,In nigeria this is even the least thing to worry about cos truss mi,there are lots of names to call him with UNCLE topping the list,in nigeria one doesn't have to be a relative before they can be your "uncle" we started having uncles from kindergarten through,primary and secondary schools,all our male teachers were"uncle"and the females"aunty" you can even tell a stranger "excuse me uncle or brother what's the time?"so its not even an issue likewise the "Daddy" sef,she's 6 she should be able to differentiate which one is her real dad,I have cousins of 4 and below who call my father "daddy"it doesn't mean they don't know their real dad,its just common to call an elderly person mum or dad especially the yoruba people sef.
  If she was igbo,I'd have suggested she called him DEDE,come sef BABE!this your story is suspicious cos this wouldn't be an issue in naija especially with yoruba folks,she go don dey call am daddy before she even realize he wants to marry her mum.

I'm Yoruba, and I'm not bush!   The only person that should be called "daddy" is your "legal" daddy. The only people that should be called "uncles" are your damn Uncles.

A name/title should be "invented" for folks in my partner's situation.

deekseen:
BABE!: Little angel, we are moving in with Uncle Jide next week.
Little angel: so what do i call him now?
BABE!: you can call him daddy.
Little angel: so in a week's time my uncle will now be my daddy? What about my real daddy?
BABE!: sweetheart, you'll call uncle Jide daddy because we will be living together as a family and he will be a father-figure in the house. Your real daddy is still your real father, uncle Jide isn't your father, just your daddy cos we will be a family. Is that okay?
Little angel: Ermm No mummy. I have a REAL daddy and a FAKE daddy?
BABE!: No, baby. Not atall.
Little angel: You just said my dad is my REAL father, which makes Uncle Jide a FAKE.
BABE!:Uncle Jide is not your real father, neither is he fake. He is your "father-figure".
Little angel: Mummy?
BABE!: Yes angel?
Little angle: What is the opposite of Real, and why do I have two daddies? My best friend has only one.  
BABE!:  ------------

Matter not settled. You nefa jam. My baby is smart!

Eiregirl:
OH MY GOD!!!!!! The poor child! I'm not Nigerian, my husband is. He's Yoruba. I met him when my daughter was 10 months old. Her dad is VERY much in her life. My daughter is almost 7 years old now and she calls my husband by his first name!!!! He's not her dad, although he has reared her with me. I don't see the big deal. It's a name!!!! She calls her dad "dad" and she calls my husband by his first name!!!

coogar:
that makes it even more difficult.
how do you make her understand which "dad" is the "real dad".

coogar:
what kind of yoruba man is your partner?
born/bred in naija or the british-born?

this issue wouldn't have been a problem in lagos. every child has about 60 daddies.
the fathers of all your friends are your "daddies". some landlords even want them to be addressed as daddies.

coogar:
what do you want her to call him?

coogar:
is her biological dad in her life? if that's the case then she cannot call 2 different men "daddy"

Yes, he's still very much in her life.

Calling him by a nickname is still like calling him by his first name.  

coogar:
this question is ambiguous.  

MsDarkSkin:
Calling someone (an adult) by their first name is disrespectful virtually everywhere but my point is she shouldn't be calling him 'dad' esp. if her father is alive and in her life.

coogar:
if he's yoruba - your daugher cannot call him by name.

she can't even call him "uncle". i am yet to see where an uncle and a mum are sleeping in the same bed.

i can't think of any name that fits your partner. let her call him santa claus.

coogar:
before i answer this - what part of nigeria is this man from?
if he's from the south west, you are in trouble.

MsDarkSkin:
her step father. His first name, a nickname or what ever.

If her biological father is in her life, there is NO need for another man
to have the title father or dad as far as she is concerned. PERIOD.

coogar:
apparently, sexkillz and his goons are jealous they are not scandinavians!
if someone claims to be from finland, how does that affect the weight of fish in sexkillz's pot of soup?
i am beginning to think sexkillz live a sad uninteresting life.

It's not easy to be from Finland you know--. Ko easy atall.   I'm not really surprised at the reaction I'm getting from Nigerians. Very Typical. Overly emotional folks. Why do you think the joint is still a third fifth world country?   Better matter dey for ground, nah trivial matters they prefer to "solve".

Tenk God I yam a Finns. Up EU baby!    

freecocoa:
Madam fish abi na finn,we have heared you,I wonder wetin for happen if na England or America you dey.

Rotflmao. Deluded humans. Buhahahahaha.  

Tenk God I yam a Finns.

Idowuogbo:
Oh goodness I open anoda thread to comment and all I see is ayan Finn diss ayam Finn dat,dammmnnn we get it.Kills she is Finn liv am abeg kai no b today she collect d residential permit shes legal in Finland we don hia blawwdddy hell.Eeemm michelin she doesn't look mix race oo if she does den Michael Jackson na half caste,her hair na correct Eddy murphy afro hair unless u were looking @ anoda pic sha.Anyways Babe u are Finn I agree so end it u don't always have 2 bring it up,and one more tin I don't like dis phrase u use "U Nigerians".Its no cute stop using it Peace!

coogar:
tell her to watch her italian arse then - too many anti-europeans in this zone these days.

michelin89:
I am 100% percent Nigerian. Whether or not BABE! looks 100% Nigerian, she has finnish blood in her and that'll defintely show up in her future generations.

michelin89:
@BABE!
Your black blood strong well well. Loving your hair. And u look really adorable. Love your legs!

coogar:
really? that's really you?
i like your waist.

I'm not the Noun. I do the verb.

I'm 5'3. Pretty short.