Shame on you poster.

Nice joke

ypad:

I have read the comments on this post and I wonder how narrow-minded some people could be. These local-minded set of should be scream out.

We are meant to comment on the issue on ground but some archaic tribalistics being will always want to display their senselessness in this forum. It’s
not only Nigerians that come to this forum but the World in large. Let’s behave mature.

However, it’s not good for a man to be rough with his.

mummy3:

ehhhh infact experienced is the best teller. How you take know, na him be say, you don waka round the whole akuna hotels wey dey for Naija.

HIV/AIDS IS REAL-OOOOOOOOOOOOO

lol

Did the son go to school or is it the journalist?

Really? He must be one sick fellow

True. I was offered a job in Aba and i turned it down when i saw the town. Sanitation is zero.

;d

What a hasty generalisation! Im not a lesbian for your info

Tell her to see a doctor bc it's not normal.

NO!.

agathamari:

im sorry but if he is willing to call off the entire wedding over the position of teh names on the invitation there are deeper issues here. this is a time to sit back and think. if your cerimony hinges on his name placement what will be brought up in the future, what other trivial things are going to cause dramatic ultimatums in the future?

Sorry ma'am, where in the my post did you see me state that he wants to call off the wedding? I said that he wants to know the reason why it's the woman first and not the man, and that we may not have a card if he doesn't see a good reason why it should be so. Na wa o!

(CNN) -- Dallas Wiens wanted to feel his 4-year-old daughter's kisses again, something he couldn't do after a horrific electrical accident disfigured his face.

But he'll be able to sense her touch again soon, doctors said Monday, less than two months after Wiens underwent the first full face transplant in the U.S.

In the meantime, Wiens already has little Scarlette's seal of approval. "She actually said, 'Daddy, you're so handsome,' " he said at a news conference Monday. "To her, I'm still Daddy. That in itself is an amazing thing."

Wiens' experience represents a new frontier for reconstructive surgery, said Dr. Jeffrey Janis of Parkland Hospital and University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas, who has treated Wiens from the time of his accident.

His injury happened in November 2008 when Wiens, now 26, was painting his church as a volunteer: His head got too close to a high-voltage power line, and he lost almost his entire face from the burns.

For 90 days, doctors kept him in a medically induced coma while they performed surgeries and he breathed through a ventilator. Many people didn't think he'd make it out of the intensive care unit, Janis said Monday.

But he did survive. Janis connected with Dr. Bohdan Pomahac, Burn Unit director at Brigham and Women's Hospital in Massachusetts, who had previously performed a partial face transplant. Pomahac became the team leader for more than 30 medical professionals who would take part in Wiens' surgery.


Even though the procedure was relatively pioneering -- few such transplants have been done throughout in the world -- Wiens didn't hesitate to agree to it, Janis said.

"I think he had his eyes on the goal, which was to feel his daughter's kisses again on his face, and nothing was going to stop him from doing that," Janis said.

In a 15-hour procedure in mid-March, doctors gave Wiens a donor forehead, nasal structure, nose, lips and facial skin. They also transplanted underlying muscles and nerves that will allow Wiens to have sensation and movement in his face.

"When I woke up, and I was able to feel I had features again -- eyes and a nose and a mouth -- I even said out loud that this could not be medically possible," Wiens said Monday. "But here I am today."

Wiens said his face "feels natural, as if it has become my own."

The face, spanning from the mid-scalp down to the neck, does not look like Wiens' own face or that of its original owner. That's because the appearance of a face is made of many components: skin, fat, muscle and bone. The skeleton of Wiens' head is his own and creates a unique face in combination with the donor's features.

But there is one thing that remains Wiens' signature from before the accident: his goatee. Even in the intensive care unit, he wanted to keep a goatee. It turns out that the donor's face, now part of Wiens' own, can grow hair. Even the hair on Wiens' head, from the mid-scalp area, is part of the donor skin (the hair on the back of Wiens' head is his own).

"The face that he received has the full ability to grow facial hair like any male," Janis said.

Currently, he can feel pressure on his face, Janis said. In the next six to nine months, Wiens will start to be able to feel light touch on his face and to move his face and lips, Pomahac said. His speech is currently a bit garbled, but doctors expect it to improve as more nerves begin to function.

The first thing Wiens could smell was lasagna at the hospital, which smelled "delicious," he said. And he remembers smelling hibiscus and other flowers brought into his room.

"To know I could smell a rose or anything like that again, really hit home for me," he said.

His hardest adjustment has been the loss of eyesight, "not because I'm blind but because I had to adapt my entire life around that," Wiens. He still has his right eyeball but no light perception, Pomahac said. There are shields where his eyes used to be, which can later be made to look more natural, Janis said.

Pomahac used to say there's no chance of restoring Wiens' sight, because of lack of technology, but now he says there could be hope for that to change in the future, he said at the news conference.

Over the past decade, there have been many advances in the area of face transplantation.

Nice joke

DJA:

This is a true reprsentation of the saying "Much ado about nothing". The man marries(takes in) the woman, since he's d one that proposes, while the woman gets married to (accepts) the man. So the grammatical construction determines whose name comes first. Whatever the case be careful of public opinion on marriage issues, as there a lot of subtle home-spoiling counsels, capable of reaping your union apart. Let the Bible,Holy Spirit and true Christian advice be your guide. Marriage is all about necessary compromise, remember no real man cherishes when his authority is questioned, but appreciates when softly and respectfully advised. But because something has been in practise does not always make it right"

Nice one. Thanks man.

@Stepheolu congrat in advance.

Dungren*:

OP,

The man's name comes first 'cos he's the one marrying the lady.

[b]I know churches that don't accept the lady's name coming first, as a result they inspect the I.V before it is print[/b]ed.

Have a happy married life.

Really? I didn't know churches consider such things.

Mrs.Chima:

How you know the guy infected her has a small thing?   

You obviously know nothing about Nigerian English

jennykadry:

Topic

Seriously is this what 2 grownups should be arguing about? you better watch out for that stubborn side of him. . . . . . . .''he is loving''  , ''it's what makes him sexy'' , he allows me voice my opinions'' e.t.c . . . . keep making excuses for him now instead of working on a way to settle that  unnecessarily stubborn side of him. You are busy finding it sexy e go dawn on you . . . . . . to be married, e dey shark like pammy I can live with it ,I find it sexy e.t.c na today

My 2cents.Accept it or leave it

Don't worry ma'am. He is a perfect gentleman. Thanks

sandokaa:

The groom must be an Ibo man! Nna, he is the one marrying the girl now, so why should his name be hidden behind her own? Abeg, na only woman wrapper go gree for that kind nonsense! It is either the man's name come first or no marriage!

He isn't Igbo. I don't know why everything must be judged along tribal lines here

Met him briefly at the airport but didn't exchange numbers. Thought about him a couple of time and wondered if i'll ever see that handsome dude again. Saw him again some months later in my office and the rest as they say is history.

I love pet names. Call my man Sunshine

Thanks y'all for ur nice and not-so-nice comments. We've agreed to have the card with his name first.

This decision was reached when we couldn't find any good reason why it shouldn't be so apart from the fact that it's a long time tradition. We believe that the reason is not good enough, and as someone said,it's our wedding so we can afford to make the rules. Thanks again for your inputs. More Blessings!

I hate the fact that some folks have up to a thousand not-so-good pictures on fb and they keep taging you

Putting the picture of a day old baby on fb. Seriously, why don't u enjoy the innocence of the baby for some hours b4 putting him/her on a public page .

Telling everyone on fb that u are home alone,ur hubby just left town and all those private info

ikoha:

Karen or whatever she is called is not a true ambassador of Nigeria, everything about her is fake; fake eye lashes, fake bosoms, fake accent and fake character. i know she bleeped her way into BBA Amplified, knowing that she and Vina the other Nigerian girl had revealed to the other housemates and Africa that they had shared a man back here in Lagos, and that man is no other person than maybe one of the chairmen of the programme organizers. Look at the two of them, an exact opposite of Nigerian beauty. I was at one of the audtions in Abuja, where i saw a litany of naturally endowed beautiful Nigerian women and I wonder how those two pigeons made it to the final list. Maybe someone was threatened with a blackmail and all he could do to salvage the situatoin was to settle with BBA Amplified.
and now look at what an irritant she has become in the house, shameless thing, Karen!

I knew they had someting in common

Busy_body:


Awwww, he only wants to know, bless him, if this is the only issue on the ground, then your job is not yet done then, I woulda posted the links, but . . . erm . . . er. . . Ify look away joo, lol. . .I have seen the reason why the lady's name comes first online somewhere, nothing major, just some time honoured tradition, search for it and print it off for your Fiance, then feel free to present it to him telling him he can have his name at the front, you could whilst doing this kneel down before him and tell him you are already honoured he considered you worthy enough to step in the role as the person he wants to spend the rest of his life with and the Mother of his future children, just to smoothen things over, since you must have rubbed him the wrong way for him to vent that its either his way or the highway.

Not telling you this to turn you into a doormat oh, it will just make him see you are genuinely contrite and also more importantly make him feel guilty and see he too was wrong for his disproportionate "you would do as you are told" response, oya go and grab your man and show him some good loving, lol. 

We googled and read the article on why it's usually the wife first y'day. One write-up has it that the reason is because it's the wife and her family that hosts the wedding party. He said if that is the reason (which he never heard of till now) that he may give in to that custom.

As for his stubborness, it comes with the whole package and can be damn sexy sometimes

Thanks y'all

BTW is there any difference btw Busy_body and busybody20

horny4u:

Oba lola willy's name came first on IV they sent me before gbademu katerine's name.
Its your wedding do it your way. What's more important as everyone has said is your hubby's petty stubborness makes it seem to me like you will be joining the plasma and fridge as possesions as opposed to co-pilot sha.
Congrats and best of luck!

Hey! He isn't that bad,in fact,he's the best when it comes to asking ma opinion and all that. Sister, rest your mind, i'm not going to join dem plasma and fridge .