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This is an old video jor. Seen it before.

TheGiftedOne:
Brazen conduct.

why did you open the thread? You wanted to see videos of brazen conduct?

ijewejones:
Oga,stop deceiving ur brain & the society you live & exist in.

You are human & you grew up to follow the 'tradition' even if it's against your belief & religion.

Separating yourself makes you 'an animal' & you know animals don't behave in such ways(I doubt how a human like you will behave sheepishly)

THE TRUTH IS YOU'RE TOEING THE LINE OF THE SOCIETY/CHRISTIANS even if it's against your religion..

What are you trying to prove??

lol. Separating oneself makes one an animal? Yeah, the right thing is to do stuff because everyone else is doing it. Typical sheeple mentality. No wonder you lot are religious - everyone else is and it's less stressful when you don't need to think for yourself but just follow 'tradition'.

Enjoy your tradition, man.

Hmmm..... Like King James did so they can be separate from the Roman Catholic church.

ijewejones:
I like you slimy ways of calling me names..now the bolded was sighted as examples (you now using it against me).

Are you a Christian? If yes,how come you didn't impose your "not celebrating" on your fellow christians by going to deliver jobs to them today!?

do I look like your Santa that rides on magical reindeers delivering packages? I don't have a bag of jobs waiting for Christmas to be delivered.

There's nothing special about today that I'd have to do something to 'not celebrate' it. Plus I don't impose anything on anyone. Celebrate what you wish. Just don't deny 'facts' about its origins and customs or act like those people who recognize those facts are being deceptive.

Minjim:
Let ur no be no
And ur yes be yes

You don't want something, kindly turn it down. You can give reasons like,
"oh, I already have enough and so and so person is still bringing more. Why not give it to this person, she really needs it more than I do now. "

not everyone can handle pressure. I don't give a damn what you think of me when I say no, but the next person might. Same way not everyone can stand being turned down. There's plenty space under the sky for us all.

If you want people to be comfortable saying no, don't make their 'no' seem an offence. Humans are creatures of the herd, and only a few dare to walk away from the herd. There would always be those who would say 'yes' just so you don't get offended. If you let them know you wouldn't be offended regardless of their answer, they would be free to be themselves and 'let their no be no'.

Didn't read the post, but congrats! I hope it inspires others to never give up.

bestabigaelever:
No be only them o, people dey do am too
They look at u like this especially those with nose rings and tattoos
That's why I dey tell all my friends both boys and girls, make we dey low key, no piercing no tattoos, even though we bad

lol. Yeah. We are pretty shortsighted in this part of the world. Europe used to be like that too (even burning people on suspicion of witchcraft), so there's hope for Africa.

ijewejones:
You keep answering..you ain't but "it doesn't mean it doesn't happen" but are you into rape?

Does it mean if "world rape day was declared" you won't parttake? But are you a rapist?


But you observed it & still claiming you ain't a parttaker,then tell me what are you doing then?

you don't sound very smart. Either that you you are blissfully ignorant as to what 'observing' a day/occassion means.

Rape is not the same as world rape day. Also the fact that such a day exists and you breathe on that day doesn't mean you observed it. I mentioned that so you'd see how silly it is to say one is a partaker by simply knowing something happens.

If you observe muslim festivals too along side your Christmas, that's your business and between you and whoever you worship. After all, Christmas was borrowed in the first place.

I don't observe any of your religious festivals. They are meaningless feel-good occasions that try to mask the fact that religion is the number one tool of deceit and oppression.

It's because everyone is pressured to do stuff they really don't want to. You know how many times I reject gifts and get weird looks? Some get upset that others didn't eat their food. Why would you get angry someone (especially someone you haven't really been close to) doesn't want to eat your food? Na by force? Abi you put something?

For someone else who cares deeply what others think of them, it's just easier to take it (to please the giver) and throw it away (because of fear or whatever).

It's the same culture that makes it a taboo to reject gifts that also raised people to fear the unknown.

Stop pressuring people to take your gifts and this would happen less.

ijewejones:
Yes bro..now,did Christmas celebration came to you suddenly? Isn't it what you already know it's gonna come b4 today(irrespective of your religion)?

In as much as you're a Christian, you're a partaker in Christmas (whether you celebrate or not)..now these are reasons why Muslim think christians are divided.

ALL CHRISTIANS KNOW ABOUT CHRISTMAS,if you/one don't celebrate it,is something altogether

knowing about something makes you a partaker?

Are you a partaker in theft, rape and murder? Unless you want to deny knowledge that these things happen.

Someone like the apostle Paul (and all Christians in his time) didn't know about Christmas because the pagan festival wasn't adopted yet.

Religious folks are much more interested in uniformity and appearances than they are in acknowledging truth. That's sad.

bestabigaelever:
On February I was on my way from ogbomosho to Ilorin to deliver jewelries to a customer, I was on low cut tinted gold, Sars stop my bus, asked me to come because of my hair, after searching, they asked me to go
Since then, I always dress like alhaja to Ilorin, even If I carry drugs since I don dress well, I no go get problem

as in, this is one of the big problems with law enforcement in this country. They look at the wrong things and the real criminals usually slip by unnoticed while they are harassing someone for looking different.

To be fair, it's not just the police. It's a Nigerian thing to prejudge based on appearance. Most of us Nigerians are guilty of it mostly because of religion and tradition. We look at people and immediately assume they are good or bad based on their looks.

The police simply have guns and authority backed by the law. Many Nigerians complaining would also harass other Nigerians if they had the guns and authority.

Hairyrapunzel:
Says deputy Jesus

I'm not deputy Jesus. I just don't like the hypocrisy in religion. You have borrowed a lot from other religions but are trying to pretend the reason you have christmas trees and easter eggs and santa is because you love Jesus. Be honest enough to acknowledge the roots of your beloved festival. Don't condemn the religions you borrowed it from while stylishly celebrating their festivals with another name.

Hairyrapunzel:
My celebration ain't pagan cos I ain't a pagan. Deal with it.

Merry Christmas

you think you aren't a pagan

You are likely a pagan to the next person that doesn't worship the same god as you, even if one religion is really no different from the next. The muslims would happily call you 'infidel'.

ijewejones:
Is there any English word like "usurp" in your dictionary..let me pretend I didn't see the bolded.

In as much as one is enjoying any "opportunity" to achieve once aim(prove me wrong if you ain't 'usurping' the opportunity now )

same way you are 'usurping' the opportunity provided by the pagan festival to achieve your aim of merriment but pretending it's about Jesus?

If offices are locked because of security reasons in the area (for example), we'd still all stay at home. It's not a 'dividend' in anyway, as I'm not even one who hates my work and is looking for opportunities not go. I work from home sometimes, and today is no different from yesterday or the day before. It's just more inconvenient.

Hairyrapunzel:
Last last you still can't show us bible verse condemning celebrating jesus birthday.

Why won't I be merry? Yes Christmas to Christians is about Jesus christ.

See someone that doesn't believe in magical stuff?
You that you believe that your all loving sky daddy is coming to destroy/kill/murder/slaughter wicked/worldly people because they refused to join your religion and worship God through your gb so you guys can inherit earth.


Is there any magical thinking greater than this?


Merry Christmas.

no idea what the emboldened crap means. Someone that does not believe in magical stuff? How does this validate Christmas trees and Santa? Does this mean you believe Santa exists, or you don't think it's a big deal that the Bible denounces magic?

Enjoy your celebration man. It's pagan, own it if you like it. No one is beating you up.

ijewejones:
You said it all...they enjoy all

okay, staying at home on public holidays mean you enjoy Muslim festivals too? That's quite a silly take.

So for employed workers, they should go to the locked offices because they don't celebrate Christmas?

ijewejones:
All join bro..everyday isn't "Christmas" but the holidays isn't excluded in the dividends

there are holidays for muslim celebrations too, and you stay at home. What's your point?

Hairyrapunzel:
Millions of nigerians don't know their actual birthday. They adopt birthdays and celebrate on those days. Your argument is dead on arrival.

just say you need a reason to merry, and stop pretending it's actually about Jesus. Jesus lived 33 full years and some months. He had 33 opportunities to celebrate his birthday. Did he celebrate any? If not, why not?

You think birth day celebrations didn't exist then? Or you think the Bible writers remembered to write about another person's wedding (at Cana) but forgot to mention even one of Jesus' birthday celebrations?

If Christmas was truly about Jesus, how come we have pagan stuff like Christmas trees, or magical characters like Santa Claus (as the official face of Christmas). Christianizing it (from birthday of the Sun god to that of the son of God) is about the same as when those Israelites made a golden calf and then declared that they would celebrate a festival to God (Yahweh/Jehovah). God was not deceived by the naming.

ijewejones:
They don't celebrate Christmas



But they INDIRECTLY enjoy the dividends attached to the celebration


Story that touches the heart & tickles the bumbum

which dividends? The inflated prices during that period? Increased crime? Terrible vehicular and pedestrian traffic congestion in the days leading to the holidays?

This is how they build a sense of entitlement in these kids. Tell them that they are entitled to gifts this period and they dare to gang up on someone for not giving them gifts.

Katier00:
I perfectly understand that. I have also experience being in bondage in the name of I house and feed you so you must obey my command anytime. All I am saying is that something is not right. We women love sex so much, so why should we deny ourselves such endless pleasure to hurt the man

1) to manipulate him, because hormones mean men want sex more frequently. Whoever wants it more is at the mercy of the one who wants it less.
2) she's probably cheating.

midnighter:
Nope, it's totally necessary. Pain is as much a part of life as pleasure.

If you couldn't experience sadness you wouldn't know what happiness was. If everything was easy and painless to obtain, you wouldn't value it.

After seeing and sitting through the process of styling and making that hair, the child will learn to appreciate the importance of being patient for a good result as they grow older.

And they will know what styles and techniques they prefer. It's part of building their self-image.

The solution to a problem is not necessarily avoiding it altogether but finding a way to muddle through.

this is how Nigerians (across generations) have been conditioned to accept and even idolize suffering.

I don't know who did this to you but you don't need to pass through avoidable pain/stress before you can enjoy life.

Oga, you are being manipulated.

There's a huge chance she's cheating on you and needs you to bring more money to sponsor her cheating ways. Have you ever seen anyone kissing an ATM? It's only good enough for the money.

You can try to gather solid (bullshitt-proof) evidence of this cheating and then confront her, or you can beat her at her game.

If the latter, lock your own shop. Engross yourself in activities you enjoy and don't even look at her in any sexual way. Treat her like a room mate and limit the money you spend (if it's not directly for the family). Bad part about this is, you might actually stop being interested in sex with her.

She would be the one trying to find out why you don't touch her anymore. If she's cheating, she's also going to immediately suspect you of cheating (because like minds). If she asks, tell her you cannot be begging for sex, and that if you have to, it's meaningless. It doesn't mean you don't like sex any more, you have simply lost interest in having it with her because what should be enjoyable is now stressful. You have to be blunt yet gentle for this to work.

Don't let any woman (even your wife) turn you to her slave.

Tiger2020:
Can you imagine ,i wanted to buy a good phone(RN8) for someone but after I sent her to go see the phone at the showroom so as to know if the camera is OK for her,to my greatest surprise she returned with a sad news ,"that the camera isn't good,that its too natural and doesn't filter faces(removes pimple shade),so she choose tecno camon 12 because it does that which she claims note 8 doesn't do(filtering without editing),so o wanna ask note 8 users ,doesnt note 8 filter faces?

oh lord

ngwababe:
We're on same page bro. But coming out to lay the whole blames on ladies, that's unfair na.

I believe this self-development whatever, is a two-way thing. We need each other to grow in life, nobody has ever done it alone. Thank you.

in my opinion, the thread isn't out to lay all the blame on the women, but to remind some to quit playing the victim card and realize they shouldn't expect the man who ticks all her boxes to not want a woman who ticks all his boxes too.

That's fair enough.

ngwababe:
Then, do not stay with her for so long. A year or two can make one see reasons on whether to stay or not. Don't waste no one time.

two months might even be enough for people to see deal breakers in partners or potential partners and take a walk. Some others take much longer. Some keep hoping things would change until they realize it would never, mostly because too many persons pretend to be what they are not.

It's not really in our place to decide when a person should decide to take a walk, or what constitutes a waste of time in another person's relationship. Nothing prevents the lady whose time is being 'wasted' from walking away early on, seeing as her partner wants someone she isn't.

Also we don't accuse a lady of wasting the guy's time when she wakes up (after lots of investment in her education or career) and decides he is no longer good enough for her. Let's keep the same energy please.

ngwababe:
I'm yet to see a lady that will fold her hands, when an opportunity calls. Bro, give me an example please?

Choices differs. A guy might be eyeing an educationist, but then falls in love with a business woman. While forcing her to go to school, and she refuses, then you come to tell that she doesn't have vision? Or self-development?

Bro, you know what you want in a woman. Look for your type, your like, someone with same vision with you, and I don't think you'll force her into developing herself.

Here's your example. Had to go dig for the thread.
https://www.nairaland.com/4835411/sent-n500k-fiancee-open-shop

Aunty was sponsored to a catering school and given half a million to open a shop. She spent it on 'family issues' instead.

Just knowing what you want is not enough. You also have to know what traits she has that fall under the umbrella of 'what you want'. That only comes from interaction and observation. In other words, you can't 'find your type' by watching from afar.

Traits like financial irresponsibility aren't written on the forehead, so you still have to spend some time with that burdensome partner before realizing it's hopeless to try to help them develop themselves or their careers.

That's why I totally understand when people choose to walk away from relationships they've spent some time in. Outsiders can scream 'you should have carried her/him along' all they want, as if they have a clue.

Esseite:
Do the people that make the Jean's have two heads?... is it not the same blood that flows through your veins that goes through theirs?...

What has all the jeans you have been wearing added to your growth in life?

Okonjo wear majorly Ankara and today she is a more renowned African than you and myself with our Jean's..

please don't be stupid. People have their tastes in fashion and you can't force someone to wear what they don't like wearing just so they can be regarded as 'African'

The Nigerian fashion industry should learn to accommodate these different tastes, and produce quality clothes that are as good as or better than those imported.

ngwababe:
All I know is, a man with vision will always carry his girl along. No sane man moves, leaving his girl behind.

When a man leaves a lady, it's obvious the lady wasn't his first choice, someone somewhere was, and he was building her vision too.

no one likes a burden. If she prefers to fold her arms and be carried along without making an effort to walk with him, he'd likely drop the burden at some point, especially when he realizes he deserves better. A relationship isn't a charity.

Ginaz:
Some people will just come and be writing rubbish . That’s how you give men the right to just do anyhow things and get away free.

Which man in his right senses would watch his girlfriend grow up with him with no dreams of her own or even if the lady doesn’t have dreams, he can’t build her up? That means the guy doesn’t care anyway and he is just using the girl for sex.

Girls I would advise you to follow men who have visions, aspirations and a future cos even if you were the most dumbest girl in the whole world, their dreams would rub off on you to make you become better.

Na only empty and wicked boyfriends na fit do that . They are building their lives , they know the girl isn’t making any steps to build hers but would hang around, f***k her for years only to dump her like a trash. If she didn’t have plans, why not leave her ? Why hang around and use her and dump her? It’s very painful .

There is no excuse whatever in the planet that justifies that. It’s very painful and I sympathize with any lady facing this situation.

The man simply would have left her since she wasn’t good enough than to dump her at the last minute.

this one is so pained. I hope you rant with this same energy when ladies are sponsored by their partners to school and on graduating, decide he isn't good enough for them anymore.

If there's any gender exploiting the other, it's the female exploiting the male and still playing the victim when things don't turn out the way their manipulative ass expects.