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Holluwhakemmy:
dont bother, allow your friend to handle it.

I have been thinking about my question to you for a couple of minutes now and I understand what you bring to the table, but it... Okay,nlet me ask Ubunja. I'll mention you.

Holluwhakemmy:
it doesn't concern you. Thanks.

No, I'm just asking for a friend.

Holluwhakemmy:
Congtatulations. Lord where are thou? Remember me,

Really? But seriously, are you really interested in getting married? What do you bring to the table?

Rabson44:
I normally ignore you guys but I just want you to know that all Jews and christains can't stop the rapid growth in Islam, go to Europe and find out, isreals have failed God so as christains are lost, Bible is now a corrupt book with alot of contradictions, let's sit and watch, at the end of time, we'll know who God's with, whether the Jews that don't believe in Jesus or the christains that claim God has inherited a son.

If hundred people witnessed the same event before their very eyes and are asked to give a detailed report, I'm telling you this, there would be some seemingly contradictions in their narratives. No two ways about it, but if one guy is asked to give a detailed report about an event and he still ends up contradicting himself, then you have an e.jot right there and that is what your prophet is. There are tons of contradictions in the Quran and surprisingly, the Quran is a plagiarized copy of the Bible written by one e, jt.

DawahToTheWorld:
Curse of Allah upon Netanyahu Israel and their allies

Curse on the custodians of the covenant for defending themselves?

So hard retaliation is terrorism?

YourVILAGEpeple:
I dey East....
Why not look for a bedroom apartment.... It equals sharing 2 bedroom with someone...
It's for your peace of mind shaaa

I grab. Thanks.

Penpaddie:
God I'm scared, with the kinda stories I'm seeing here, i just rented a self con in Abuja and planned bringing in a roommate to split the bills, but the kind of stories I'm seeing here, I'll just change my mind, i can't pretend talk more tolerating any bullshit.

How much is it? Let's split. Which parts of Abuja?

YourVILAGEpeple:
I started living in off campus lodge in finally year... I needed to concentrate on my studies and run away from distractions at home... Na so I choose My 100level padi oh.... Didn't know my guy na Green snake.....
We started living together January.... He came with food stuffs, I came with over 300% of what he came with.... Na so we begin chop life nah...
When food finished ... Na me dey bring food because I travel home every weekend, When am going back to the lodge, my Mama go give me plenty soup and stew, My boy Dey chop 2 or 3meats on a plate of food from the stew and soup my mama gave me, when I confronted him... he said they don't eat with one meat in their house but this guy no bring shishi, he no travel from January to December..... I had to start eating with 4meats at a time.... I even told my mom to put just 4meats... If I come back... I eat 3 at a time and leave 1 for him.
If food finish... Baba go dey chop indomie back to back.... If I comot.... He will use my beverages... Anytime he informs me that his cousins or galfriends are coming..... I go make sure say I finish the available food for house , then I go comot go family house.

I even Jammed another one again during my Nysc....

Same character and stupid lifestyle.... I endured again till he left 4months after....
I had to set the new Rules with the new roommate that came after him....

My property is mine alone....
My food na my food...
My clothes my my clothes....
My toothpaste na my toothpaste
My slippers na my slippers
My spoon na my spoon..
Even toiletries and needles....
Na so I begin enjoy my life again... Less stress...

Nobi me dem go kill with bad character...

Now...One of my friends is asking me to share 2bedroom with him.... I laffed cos I know say I no get strength to stress my life.

Where do you stay? Kaduna? Share 2 bedroom with me. I'd pay half of your annual rent and just like you, my thing is mine too.

Zabiboy:

Exactly what wh0re's say everytime...
Trying to emotionally blackmail men and then manipulate the ones that fall...
She might even say she was raped 4 times
Crazy Crazy world

Oh common, don't be a Thomas. I know, I know, you are.

Believe it or not, and I don't care if you believe me or you don't, I was in a party and I was partying hard.

Lo.

The guy behind me pushed me hard and I fell on one guy who was rock hard and that was how I lost it - my virginity.

It was a traumatic experience and a big lesson for me.


When I look back and ponder how I got penetrated a second time, I can't help but cry.

The following week again, I went to a different club and same thing happened.

I was dancing to Sound Garden's album and I just got pushed really hard.

That was how I lost my virginity a second time.

BynGO:
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I only need two videos.

Cybersecurity videos and Ethical hacking videos - all of them.

How much are you going to charge for transportation and the service because I live in Kano.

ambitiouschap17:
The rate is 371 per $

Which bank?

371?

Just say the truth: you are Bleep.ing joking, right?

Amazzonkdp:
more than

Let me know your fee for coaching.

If I understand you correctly, I'd be promoting some popular books on Kindle. But these books are already saturated by others who are promoting them, so how does one make like 7 sales a day if your book price is atleast reasonable.

To be honest, if you tell me to join say Fiverr or Upwork with the same prospects, I'd reject the request.

sweetmelanin:
I understand the sentiment and I know how terrifying it is to almost lose a loved one. I'm glad your wife could survive this terrible illness called cancer but I need Christians to be careful when telling "testimonies" such as this..

..don't get me wrong, I'm a Christian myself but the truth is, I just find testimonies like this kinda selfish and self-serving. Millions of Christians die everyday... many are even more righteous than you and me..would you say they aren't true believers? Would you say God doesn't love them as much as he loves you and your wife?
What about the millions of unbelievers who have survived cancer and other deadly diseases? Did God choose to save them over His own children who succumbed to the illness and died?

All I'm saying is, people (believer or non believer) will die at their appointed time. Perhaps it's simply not your wife's time return to the earth..
Nonetheless, I'm happy for you guys all the same.


Modified:


Comments like this prove my point exactly.

Madam God sometimes changes his mind in human dealings and he doesn't change his mind come what may, sometimes.

AerialMapper:
I am in Abuja and we have unlimited but note that unlimited is subject to Fair use policy. After 120 GB, peak time speeds is reduced from 30mbps to 3 mbps.

Which service provider?

kalu61:
You need to sit down and talk with her as l said. You really need savings too.

Deny yourself of pleasure now and save. If you can work from your father's house leveraging on his support to make savings, you can still place your mum on monthly stipend.

Listen. So long as you eat outside, you will hardly save. Try to cook your own food even if it means entering her kitchen to prepare one.

Deny myself pleasure and save? That's a good school of thought though but I don't buy into that, lol.

I don't eat outside. I hardly do. You don't have to go to a restaurant to treat yourself right. Right now, I just spent 350 on Nasco Cornflakes, Goldenmorn, and Cerelac with milk. I mean, you don't have to spend in a restaurant and I do that very, very often.

I don't spend based on my earnings but I spend based on basic needs. My needs should propel me to strive for higher earnings and not box me to a corner because I earn peanuts.

That's just me though.


They don't live in the same state else I'd be back a long time ago.

Amazzonkdp:
Wahala no dey finish �

So I can earn $300 a month on KDP if you teach me?

kalu61:
ops let me help you since almost nobody wants to attend to you.

Forget the online business since it's not consistent.

Now you earn 40k -3k Tfare. ( 37k)

You said you eat once a day( l guess from your mum's pot) then sometimes you can go 4 days straight without eating( I guess from your mum's pot)

Let me assume you buy your toiletries, cream, data, cloths, shoes etc 8k (29k)

Let's say you save 15k monthly. (14k)

Miscellaneous 3k (12k)

pocket money 4k (8k)

But you live under your mum's roof and Nepal bill

Giving her 5-8k is okay.


But it seems there is part of you that hates her which is affecting your affection towards her. If not, nothing is too big for your mum. If there is, increase your savings and find another place.

Lastly, if your mum's is accusing you of over spending, forget your hatred towards her and evaluate if what she is saying is true.

Do you go after women?
Do you hang out alot and spend at the bar?
Do you buy things you want instead of things you need?
What types of friends do you keep?

If you mother is the nagging type, try to ignore her sometime.

Just to still be a bit obscure, from that 40k salary, I give more than twice the average of your quoted amount.

I don't hate her. I hate her attitude and unfortunately I can't live with it. The only thing that consumes a large chunk of my money is stomach infrastructure. I can't even save 10k when the next payday comes.

shege45:
Lol bro, seems you just wanna avoid bills. The reality is you just need to start getting used to doing things with money. You’re an adult and at some point you’d stay alone. Try to get used to it

Getting used to it is an understatement. I am moving out to avoid this unpleasant experience and condition. In fact, I told her that she's NOT going to know my new place of abode. We may live in the same state and that's if I still decide to remain in the same state.

shege45:
Na my papa dey pay rent. See just imagine that you stay alone or stay with a friend. You dey look am like this because say na your mom. Once you’re above a certain age, see it like your parents are doing you a favour by allowing you stay with them. If you stayed alone or with someone, you’d save a portion of your income for rent, and other bills. You’d also eat from that money. Staying with your mom just subsidize these things. Just remove the entitlement mentality and you’d understand what I am saying. When know things hard na why most of us still dey parents house at certain age but you also have to help.

I was living rent free in my father's purchased house when she called me to come over. I didn't have to pay for anything in my dad's house where I lived. I'm living with you now and you are making things difficult for me even though I drop something every month. If I didn't live with her, wouldn't she eat and pay for all the necessities

kalu61:
ops let me help you since almost nobody wants to attend to you.

Forget the online business since it's not consistent.

Now you earn 40k -3k Tfare. ( 37)

You said you eat once a day( l guess from your mum's pot) then sometimes you can 4 days eating( I guess from your mum's pot)

Nnmadi what would you give. I have to mention that I just got this job and I have not failed to give the said amount since September, I think.

OGWILLS123:
If i may ask op where is your dad

They are not together. My dad bought his house a long time ago and is living there with my siblings and family

shege45:
If you eat therr and don’t pay rent, it’s right for you to drop something monthly. Not only that, if things finish for house, you can buy without looking at anyone’s face. This shows sign of responsibility because if you were on your own, you’d spend more than that. I used to stay with my mom until almost 2 years ago when i left the country. Then I earned 35k but gave her 5k monnthly. I planned myself around 30k every month. Though e no dey do me I also took it upon myself to buy water for the house weekly. It just depicts responsibility

Hmm, 5k? Did your mom live with your dad?

OGWILLS123:
If we say now nigerian girl's her useless, you people will be ranting nonsense. Just take a good look at the level of entitlement mentality the op mom is having . Op if you can, dump that demanding b*tch called "your mom" , after all you owe no one anything in this life . Bottom line: Any nigerian being that have hole in between is two legs is useless

No, what you just said is borderline misogyny.

However, my mother is too entitled. Everytime (when she's in a call) she would say may we eat the fruit of our labou. Before I got this job, see talk hehe

. Like her entitlement mentality is way over the top that I once swore that even with my bald head, the woman I would marry would beg me with tears of blood. Some people are just horrible.

MickzyDonald:
5k I can't give more than that because there might some cases where you'll need to drop cash in the house

Lol. 5k on a 40k salary? Are you fucking kidding?

Shoodboi:
I understand your situation of wanting to help out, but you need to consider your condition first...

Have you ever seen a blind man leading a blind man?

No!

You need to get your finances in check first before you can support your mom, else you'll keep living from hand to mouth, surviving from day to day, and running around in circles.

Thank you very much. However, I still want to know what you would give like a percentage of your earnings if you are not comfortable with dropping exact figures lol.

MickzyDonald:
The money is very little but mother's and their greed at times, I'd sudden maybe 5k or below

Yes that's right because if you do the maths, that's less than 1, 500 in a day. If you can't give me exact amount, give me a percentage range. What would you give.

I want to know what would be considered okay. It is going to be different by individuals but let me know what you would give if you earn 40k and live with your mom or do not live with mom or mom lives with dad who provides her needs and she doesn't have to pay rent as she now does.

These conditions are different obviously and the amount would also differ too, right?

What would you give. I am not going to tell what I give yet, I want to hear genuine opinions because right now, she's saying I do almost nothing for her because of my spending habits.

Cholls:
My brother any amount will do...most important thing is to take care of her.

Yes, but suppose you were me, I'm not going to talk about my own spending habits or her bad attitude, but suppose you were me, what would you give her knowing full well that her separation was more her fault than dad's

dumahi:
Nothing since she sells provision. From what you said, you are not even earning anything. 40k and still talking about giving your mom who is self-employed?

Lol.

whom you live with.

I live with my mom. Late 20s.

If you were in my shoes and you earn 40k, 3k transport, eat only once, sometimes you would not eat for four straight days.

You earn on the web but it is not consistent. Sometimes $50 in three months and sometimes nothing sef.

If you were in my shoes, how much would you give your mom who is divorced and whom you live with. She sells provision.

So us that didn't apply nkor?

AerialMapper:
Netflix, Youtube, apple music. The Mrs needs a lot of data for instagram and all. It is better to have an unlimited plan than a capped plan.

Okay, but you must be Lagos based because we don't have unlimited cap outside Lagos.