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Crazeman03:
Hello Nairalanders, Hope you guys are staying Safe. Please don't mind my writing, I will make it short as possible.

I met this wonderful lady Last year and everything has been going good until 7 months ago when she told me she was Hiv+. That hit me hard but that didn't change anything, she was surprised I didnt react and opening up to me didn't scare me because I'm negative though we haven't had sex yet before the moment.

Now it has been 4 months we've been having unprotected sex. I'm not afraid of contracting the virus, as she keeps taking med and her viral load is low. I made sure before we went for test before having unprotected sex. Her CD4 count is above 750 and viral load is below 20, which makes hiv undetectable in her.

Now one night around 3months ago, she woke me up in the middle of the night to ask me, why do I love her knowing fully well about her status because she could not believe she will ever have a relationship with someone negative not even in this Nigeria by the way they stigmatize hiv+ people. I told her the reason and I'm not afraid hiv is not the worse or the baddest of diseases. There are more killer diseases than HIV and HIV is not a diseases but a virus. Only attack your immune system and its no longer a deadly virus.

The problem I have now is that whenever I imagine myself having it and how I will popping drugs everyday, make me kinda moody towards her, because I always keep telling her to always take her drugs. Last night she discovered she is pregnant and I'm just imagining things how everything will play out, I know when she will put to bed she won't be able to breastfeed. People will ask questions. I really need to tell someone in my family but I don't know who. My mom my react and the other person I trust is my younger sister.

On her own part, only her elder sister and brother knew she has the virus. And she had it since 2007.

I only need an advice if I need to tell any member of my family, looking to settle down with her this October.

If not for Corona Virus ni. I'll have just said you guys should arrange traveling for her so that your family neither hers will experience the breastfeeding moments.

Simple, you save yourselves the burden of unnecessary explanation.

Anyway it's unfortunate that OP and the girl has brought this issue to the fore again.

See if you want to help a lady through school, help her.

Don't help with the mindset of marrying.

If she's promising you marriage,marry her before she finish from school. (Weird right)

If she's giving you pussy as payback just take it.

Give yourself sense and stop all this wailing thing.

If na your disadvantaged cousin she be, you no help her. Will you marry your cousin.

Don't make it seem like it is a bad thing to be of help.

That's a baby civet

Hopefully the Op gets this comment.

Yes, you have described your relationship as perfect but unfortunately you have to let go of the relationship in search of another perfect one if luck won't be against you.

My reason for saying you should let go is that she wasn't very honest upfront.
She could have told you the truth and let you decide if you want to live with that or not from the beginning instead of after 7months of you having committed your love to her.

I feel your pain that it's not easy to just have another man's son to take care of especially after you took up the mother's responsibility without marrying her legally yet.

If you must keep the relationship, these are my recommendations:

1. Check yourself deeply to know if you have any dark secrets you have not shared with her too.
If there's a dark spot, share it with her too and take it as a balance of the your pasts.

2. Before you become a monster foster father and horrible boyfriend overnight, you can approach a trusted man of God for spiritual leading (not someone who knows both of you). Maybe, just maybe you might get a leading that'll help you love the boy, readjust your idiosyncrasies,love your "family" afresh and be happy.

WARNING;
if you must take the child and continue with the relationship, consult a competent lawyer on how to go about a standard written agreement between your girlfriend, her family and yourself to forestall any future spring up of one miscreant coming to claim father or related occurrences.

Peace be unto you Op.

Obasanjo. Baba the baba

Shebi na him be Jesus concubine wey Dem leak blacklist of heaven to. Naira Marley Mafo

MJBOLT:

gradually people will wake up and realise religion is a scam and there is no god anywhere.

The reality I want y'all to wake up to is the fact that the church, mosque and several worship centres are the real scam.
God exists and he does things for people. However, our reliance on human ability and calculation makes it seem God is wicked.

Just focus on meditating on the word of God as well praying to him with faith. See church ehn, just negodu.

I agree with those who opined that you talk work sense into her head and let her go and think about what she wants to do.

Bros don't risk your ☮️ peace and joy either now or in the future for love that is readily threatened o.
Have a frantic discussion with her, listen carefully to her response �, take a decision.
Conclusively, if quitting is best, don't be afraid to let her go. Infact don't waste time to break up with her first.

All I can say is that you should settle first with your husband on how to deal with the matter. As soon as you have his backing, deal with those people accordingly.

I blame your husband though. He is a weak man. He needs one month internship with me.

When he returns, you will do Thanksgiving. What bullshit!!!

I have seen that you are far from someone one should join issues with.

God bless.

Transport University is a great idea but establishment of a new one when there are agencies that can be transformed makes no sense of the idea.

I support the revamp of the NITT but Buhari wants to do something for Daura. That's how I see it.

Anyone in Akure should come buy their Phone Accessories at OJBamidele Enterprises Adegbola Junction Akure Ondo State. Or call 08138376506

Sharming95:
Hw will dis guy head a whole ministry...sumone if given a company might not b able to run it well...abeg even if day said not too young to rule...no b to day ridicule and misuse it...just look at is appearance and hairstyle...he many experience him get...dis governor no try on dis...dis guy is not mature enuff for dat job

If you know him, you will just keep quiet, bow your head in shame because the only thing you are useful for is talking trash on Nairaland.

Drive home a reasonable point don't call no one a monkey.

Akingboye is not one of those corrupt politicians you know who have made you tired of being a Nigerian

It is unfortunate that people have lost their sense of reasoning on the altar of fanaticism and religious bigotry.

Both the poster and 2face did not say that God doesn't exist. They're only telling us to open our eyes to how religion, Christianity and the Bible have been used as a tool to enslave our minds.

None of them concluded that the Bible and it's contents isn't true neither did they say God is fake but the Christian religion that emanated from the two have over the years lost it's value. A pointer to the nearness of Jesus' coming.

Many of you criticising on here only remembered you are Christian after you saw the post. Twasnt like you really ever served the God you come out to defend.

Hypocrisy kill you there!!!

HOT: SABC INTERVIEW

Few days ago, while putting a finishing touch to his diaspora consultations in South Africa, Otunba Bamidele Akingboye (OBA), Ondo State Peoples Democratic Party (PDP)'s gubernatorial aspirant granted the South African Broadcasting Corporation (SABC) an exclusive interview that was streamed live.

Akingboye in the interview marshaled his plans for the good people of Ondo State if elected Governor come 2020.

In case you missed the interview, you can now watch the full clip on YouTube via:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vnDIQ3B8lLI :

Enjoy it:

Baba if dem tell you say God said and you fall for it forgetting that God can change destiny. You die well then.

ManirBK:
https://www.premiumtimesng.com/regional/ssouth-west/291818-osun-polls-tribunal-grants-pdps-application-to-inspect-election-materials.html

Having reshuffled the Tribuna, we can only hope this is not a PR move for the new tribunal.
After this they will strike hard on PDP. Just saying.

[quote author=itsdumebi post=72263393]@POLITICSNGR

Senator Magnus Ngei Abe has finally parted lips on his rumored defection from the APC to the PDP. Abe has denied the report.

The senator representing Rivers East in the Senate, in a text message to newsmen, wrote;

“How can I leave my father’s house and deny my inheritance? We built the house with our tears, our sweat, and our blood.”

“No stranger can chase me out of my home. Desperation leads to fake news. Ignore them and focus on the God of justice,” he said.

https://politicsngr.com/magnus-abe-speaks-dumping-apc-pdp/



Shehu Sani donated his generation, he eventually left. Baba you never reach home o. You miss road.

Crimecity:


Yomi a US Based Nigerian Young student has finally let the cat of the bag, Yomi is a Gay, and he came out yesterday.


Yomi is also the President Student Union Bournemouth University, He is the first black man to ever hold the position.


But guess what, Man is a gay, He made it public last night, and surprisingly his friends have been throwing massive support behind him, Including some Nigerians.


One of them who reached out to him, said he's also gay but based here in Nigeria, he's ye to find the courage in coming out..

See more:

https://zenithnaija.com/uk-based-nigerian-man-who-came-out-as-gay-reveals-what-his-parents-did/

I have a very strong feeling this same sex thing is just a momentary craze that will return to the background where it’s always been since ages past.
Many of this people have tasted the opposite before and they know it’s good. The problem is not the sex but the persons of the opposite sex.

bilms:
2019 will be the end of Saraki’s deceit in Kwara
https://mrrightsng..com/2018/10/2019-will-be-end-of-sarakis-deceit-in.html?m=1

The attention of Kwara Must Change has been brought to the lame remarks by the Director General of Bukola Saraki constituency office in person Alh Musa Abdullahi, who claimed that people who rejected Saraki’s deceit and babiallah kind of leadership in our revered Agbaji community are never successful.


To our understanding, this kind of faithless remark can only emanate from a person who is in prison of the mind.

Before his appointment as DG of Saraki’s constituency office, Alh Musa often share the feelings and messages of youths in Agbaji community about the mind blowing under-development and unemployment in the community.

Even to the blind, it was widely agreed that Bukola Saraki is a failure, not just in the whole of Kwara State, but also in his immediate community of Agbaji. This is why the entire youths of Agbaja supported the recall of Saraki, previously aborted due to INEC’s culpability.

Sensing that the people of Agbaji have equally resolved to send him parking like the rest of Kwara, Saraki promptly looked for someone whose loyalty is strictly tithed to their belly and Alh Musa was identified. It was for the purpose of silencing and misleading people and buying few others that he was appointed DG.

Immediately he was appointed, he suddenly turned his back on the same youths and singing a different song. He neglected the community for a long time and promptly enriched his pocket, only to resurface now that the election is getting close, claiming that those who rejected Saraki are not successful.

For us at Kwara Must Change, we believe that only Allah has the capacity to make people successful and only he can enrich whomever he wills, without resort to any other man. Evidences of people enriched by Allah abound in our communities. Through talent and hard work, many in our community have tested success beyond what any man have ever offer.

We therefore find the statement of Alh Musa as a remark from someone who doesn’t believe in Allah, subhanahu watahala, thereby equating man to God.

In truth, for people like Alhaji Musa, who have been held captive in Saraki’s dungeon for decades, such remark maybe true. But for all hard working Kwarans, particularly the youths in Agbaji, who put Allah first and work hard using their God given intellect, nothing can be further from the truth.

We are therefore using this opportunity to inform all well-meaning Kwarans that the first place Saraki will be defeated in 2019 is in Agbaji community.

For us, Saraki is now a past tense. We can say it very proudly and authoritatively that 2019 will be the end of Saraki’s deceit in Agbaji community and Kwara as a whole.

Kwara Must Change

We’ll say you said so.

Flexherbal:
We will keep sharing it...

You lied. You won’t do anything.

Alaye the op.
You dey form posh abi?
You better talk to her about it now.
You never see women for action,
If you no watch out well, you go love up, Bleep her pussy even marry before you realize that you were stupid for keeping quiet now.
All the dick no dey rise parroll, this man no come deceive us here.
Take caution before we start begging Lala to open a sad chapter 2 for you on NL.

Brother, I think you are only in a rush to meet your goals, sit back, take a deep breath, plan both well and you will see how amazingly you will run the school and your own business.

What anyone likes, let them say. Npower scheme is the only or most beautiful idea from this administration. Those complaining are those who ruined their own chance of being selected or lost the pre-selection because of ignorance and pride.

Working in a FG agency that is involved with the programme, you see how Nigerian graduates display folly. Some came up with fake documents for verification and some other were even called to come and they tell us we are scammers. Now you come to Nairaland to spew nonsense.

You give Npower wrong and uncoordinated information, you pick wrong answers during test, you fail to submit your test answers correctly and you say its someone in government that decided that you should not be selected

You should remember as well that quota based on how much participants needed in the areas and number of applicants per state was considered during pre-selection..

Go and know what you are talking about before you come out to say nonsense. You just talk without getting the right information.

Please Nairaland. What happened to the Npower room on your site. I can't find it there any longer and it'll be nice to have it. Many applicants and participants need these information.
Thanks.

@Op GIVE HER THE BENEFIT OF A DOUBT!!!

wolesmile:
This ranting is too much already. Of what use is crying when the head is cut? Why not forget all these childish "roforofo" fight and move on with your life. Tuface stole your song... Wizkid stole your song... Very soon, you'll accuse Chris Brown of stealing your songs too. Or PMB of stealing your presidency.

Bros, Break Up sex odikwa is a very sweet thing. You don't want to miss it. Reverse your life if you have. Protection dey forget pregnancy. Both of you should have sense of good location so getting caught is out of it.

The singular risk is what if you now enjoy it so much you both wanna have it again. Sexual gluttony kill you be that!!

With some coke, weed and drink, I see the face of another Lil Wayne. That dentition!!!

See Op. Think whatever you like. I don't see any bad shii in these.

You didn't prove any scam here. I guess you are the real scammer sef who hopes to scam the guy
A lot of details have been cut off from the conversation. Park well till sense fall on you!!

The President I suppose is still weak and recuperating. Why can't the VP represent him. The VP can only receive foreign visitors and visit only the President in foreign countries.
Without hastily concluding that its another medical check, I think Buhari needs to get truly well and let all the packaging end.
Since its a visit to Trump, I await pictures. Hoping it wouldn't be a delegate that would receive Buhari for President Trump.