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Good observation Op.

It doesn't take a lot to keep fit btw other than discipline and commitment. Most women may not feel bothered about it maybe due to a busy schedule etc. Typically healthy living is 70% balanced diet and 30% exercise. It's possible to regain a good shape after childbirth.

21st century marriages should be a team sport. At any slight weight gain, I'll be dragging her behind out for exercises .

Ishilove:
This one sounds like a diploma kid or year one student. Smh. You better face your books and leave idle gossip.




Scratch that, this thread is the creation of a Jambite. The vibes are all over.

This thread is a nonstory.

What if she stumbles on this thread?

I really don't condone stuff like this. If you're in for a relationship that could lead to something, I'd say go for it. Most girls don't know what they want, but you can show her instead of talking so much.

Everyone is technically single until married.

hisexcellency34:
Wasteful Chelsea. How can you loan one of the best strikers in the world? Morata that teams like Man Utd, Barca and Arsenal are dying to have

Hahaha you're having a laugh mate.

Meanwhile, good riddance to Morata. Can't wait for summer to bring Icardi to SW6.

semyman:
Moving train, crush all looters and their agents

I saw this on Twitter

PS. I'm a neutral.

Fuckuignos:
hello. you have my attention

Is this how you convince a neutral who hasn't made up his mind on who to vote for?

I think I understand. Have a blessed life.

Chizuru01:
And don't cry wolf when that wealthy man in your community locks up your poor as.s in ATM for 5 years and when court gives order for your release, he will flout it. Afterall if you ask him, he will say buhari started it.

Remember not to cry when our judiciary losses its value because if you do, Shame on you.

Fuckuignos

Please can you respond to this. I'm a neutral by the way and I love to see how this can turn into an intelligent conversation between 2 brilliant minds.

LOL I enjoyed this one.

Gullible lot.

ideynl1:
FG should deploy war planes, gunships and aircraft carrier around the US border to serve as a serious warning to them.

Its time we send our military to our foreign allies within US for war drill so that they will know the Baba means business. Baba show them he is a 6-star General.

Apart from English and sarcasm, which other language do you speak?

funmisticqueen:
No wonder. It os only males wothoit strong paternal influence that talk like this

Yes hun, my paternal influence was remote but it was felt notwithstanding.

Still, it takes nothing away from the fact that the 21st century lady should strive to be independent and forward thinking but I'm not to judge whoever thinks otherwise.

Very lovely thread.

Shout to the boys who believe they don't have to buy love, because there will always be a higher bidder.

To the girls who want to be comfortable, but realize that all that glitters is not gold, and wealth may be gone in an instant; girls who look out for deep and meaningful qualities in a man...

May we all meet people deserving of our characteristics.

20 years from now, we will all see the outcome of decisions we take today.

Kudos to the MVPs on this thread
LUCAS99 wetdick escapefromusa LastDance Syberkate Omoge87 et al.

Saffi
I'm sorry for calling you a numpty and a dolt. It was out of character for me.

Saffi:
If you like, write essays upon essays to dispute my claims, I speak the truth and that’s facts and that’s why most of you men are triggered. Nothing you say will convince me to settle with a guy who only has potential. If I cannot see something substantial already that can grow, I’m not buying it. Good luck to all the ladies who want to build a man, you will lose more than you gain. Bye bye.

You just don't get it, do you? There's no crime in wanting money and all the flashy things, and living with the outcome of the choice after marriage, if the man becomes richer or otherwise.

Because some chose to live their lives on another standard doesn't make them stupid. I respect your opinion, so you should respect that of others.

Same rule applies to me if I marry a girl primarily based on her body. I'm (maybe) stuck with her even after 20 years and I find her repulsive.

LastDance
I agree with you, most of us are writing based on our backgrounds as I earlier alluded to. My sister works. She has no need to depend on any man if she doesn't want to. So the concept of dating a leech is strange to me.

escapefromusa:
Nothing wrong with a woman who has a role in productivity to aim for a wealthy man - she's a pillar. But their is everything wrong with a woman who's role is consumption to aim for a wealthy man - she's a termite.
This is where you are wrong in principle.

Brilliant comment mate, I echo your sentiments as well.

Omoge87
Girl, I don't who you are, where you're from but you're the kind of woman I pray for. I read every bit of what you wrote.
I'm a very conservative and sensitive person and I can easily tell when/if a girl is profiling me based on my material worth, and when I notice that, I RUN away. I don't need a trophy wife, I need the Pro 31 kind of woman.
Honestly, I've never in my life seen comments like this from a Nigerian (and I'm assuming you're one. Foreign girls think way differently.
I don't date women for their bodies, I look for deeper qualities in them, and so in my just opinion, I think I deserve someone who thinks the same way.

Saffi:
Darling, I never said being independent is gross. I said the act of resisting help and acting like you can do it all is gross, especially if a man who is truly interested in you is willing to help. No matter how independent you are, you can accept assistance from a man regardless of if he’s your husband or not as long as he is wholeheartedly willing to do so. It’s not a big deal and you’re making into such a huge issue which will in the end be detrimental to yourself. If someone helps you willingly why would they expect you to pay them back if things don’t work out? I think you’re mentally scarred by some situations that have happened to you in the past which has resulted to you putting up this shield against yourself, protecting your heart unnecessarily. It has now made you extremely masculine and you now perform the duties of a man in a relationship, and for some reason you believe this is normal?

Anyways each to their own, I hope this your mentality works for you in the long run. Good luck.

You're a numpty saffi and I say this without reservation and I'm usually a polite person. You're the kind of girl my momma warned me against. You started your response in a very sensible way but rounded it up like a dolt. She made very important remarks which you failed to address.

No matter how independent you are, you can accept assistance from a man regardless of if he’s your husband or not as long as he is wholeheartedly willing to do so. - She says she DOES not refuse offers for help but it depends on the magnitude.


If someone helps you willingly why would they expect you to pay them back if things don’t work out? - Girls who do not demand infact deserve the universe. There is no problem with 'someone' helping. Remember, a relationship is a two-way street and 'helping' is not gender specific. So think of it this way, he has been helping, helping, helping and helping, what exactly is your own contribution? to be the proverbial termite (as per escapefromusa)?
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I respect people's opinions but don't pull down someone else's opinions just because you feel you have a superior argument.

Scenarios
1. Girls who support men in no way (liabilities) - They want to profile and marry men primarily because of their wealth even as they regard other things as secondary, good for them.

2. Girls who support men as much as they can (maybe working etc)- They want to profile and marry men primarily because of their wealth even as they regard other things as secondary, good for them.

3. Girls who support men as well as they can (maybe working etc)- They don't really care about wealth as much as someone who they truly love and vibe with, to build a future together, good for them.

4. Girls who support men in no way (liabilities) - They don't really care about wealth as much as someone who they truly love and vibe with, to build a future together, good for them.

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I wonder if scenario 4 ever happens, as it's the antithesis of scenario 1. Anyways, anyone is free to do whatever they want with their lives.

EDIT.

I think our backgrounds have a major role in this. My mom has always been a pillar in my life. I'm not sure I would be where I am today if she was not working her socks to support her household. So naturally, I would be averse to a girl who sounds lazy.

It's all about our backgrounds to a large extent.

Bouncingbabyboy:
bros you don tay here oo ....2008!!! Legend

What am I then?

az94:
Nairaland is fast becoming a cabbage land

Please what is the meaning of that?

atiku4President:
Someone has come to retire Serena.

I wee not take this. You're a liar.

bongolistik:
And don't be quick to forget that Samsung phones are made by Asians

Yes, made for the entire world. Let Tecno market in the U.S.

1StopRudeness:
Justify her actions?? U are making it sound like she tackled the guy at gun point... She didn't ask for his one year salary, they r just hanging out, ladies like to cared for even when they are richer than u...no Biggie

A decent girl cannot ask a friend to make hair for her.??it's just hair oga Ade....I don't know ur definition of decent jare....grab a sense of humour..No take life too hard ooo
Help the economy.
As we enter the weekend, pay for someone's hairdo..
It won't kill you, and it won't make her hoe. Just to add..it on a lighter mood

If it's for humor, no problem.

On a more serious note though, I'd rather go hungry spending money on people with legitimate needs, family and the like. By the way, I don't encounter such girls you're referring to. I've never paid for hair-do before. This is where is starts from I guess. From paying for hair-do to other financial demands (that even your siblings don't make).

And trust me, girls who don't demand usually deserve the world. It's about perspective.

bravesoul247:
and the much talked about Xiaomi as well ba? I guess it's inferior based on your assertion ba?

Don't mind me. I just have my reservations about how those guys flood our markets with their products. You'd stop to think maybe if we had a better regulatory landscape, brands won't produce phones that they'd barely use in their home countries.

bravesoul247:
Even if he does work for Meizu, I'm sure you know its not bad as well? Just as you guys tag anybody that say anything good about Tecno, TECNO Marketers

Lol phones made by Asians specially for Africans.

Yankee101:
Definitely, no matter the party, any Governor must sit up to an extent in Lagos. It has a high concentration of educated and high networth individuals, businesses and expatriates.

True. It's a shame that up north, it's the reverse and we have to deal with their excessive power.

Lol

Wearing glasses? Absolute drivel

Is the aim to appear smart or be actually smart?

1StopRudeness:
U seff know say I get u..she never ask for too much....
Na them dey lose pass, a man hardly ever feels used after sex like women.....so them dey try get some gain incase u start to form James bond after sex...

Guy....pay for the hair....no Biggie..if it no even reach 7k seff for that kind babe..some times, expression weave 3k + 1k5 hairstylist charge.

u never jam confirm thief wey go tell u say her mama or brother dey hospital say she need N76,950 for bills....Omo...I don waka small...

What kind of advice is this? they are not in a relationship yet. He's just hanging out with her and she's making those demands. You seem like you're trying to justify the girl's actions. If she was your daughter, would you condone her behaviour? be honest.
Economy is hard bla bla bla, it's no gender sensitive.

Your notion on this issue is skewed.

A decent girl from a decent home would not behave like this.

QuickStandard:
The bolded got me laughing.

Bro no be my fault, I be business man.

Pls don't mind that guy. There are girls out there who are independent and would even take you out. Don't be forced into thinking all Nigerian girls are leeches. Most are anyway, but yeah some still have sense.

I'm still waiting for credit-less, data-less mesh communication between smart phones of the same brand.

bongolistik
When do we get to the point where you admit you work for Meizu?

Yankee101:
Lagos has more money than the average Nigerian State plus she inherited assets as the former Capital of the Country. The level of development on ground already often confuses people into thinking the APC led governments have been doing any significant development, but they have not.

I want to partially agree with you. Independent of party lines, Lagos will continue to churn out progressive minded people. I think it's not fair to discount the current administration's efforts.

gabazin080:
When superman flies you call him a hero.. But when your granny flies you call her a witch..come on guys let's support local talent.

What kind of drink do you fancy, my friend?

hisexcellency34:
Na by force? The poor woman said she is not fighting again. No more money to campaign

I swear you're a crazy person and that picture is so apt.

Valerie47:
On my wedding day, I will use ugu green, carrot orange and a touch of yellow bulb .

Lmao

We will put a color wheel on the I.V.

Who else is bothered about what emerald green looks like?

Women and their complicated lives

joelenesleek

Have you found him yet?

Weblady:
as if countless men haven't touched it
Pretender!

How many accounts have you opened on here?