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this is the new norm due to copycatting the west. We've lost the essence of marriage all togethe.

She's older right

Zik of Africa

Havilaah1:
Seriously it baffles me how he's forgetting other good qualities i have cos of this issue.
This same people I'm not yet closed I've sent gifts and cash on birthdays. I don't know how to pretend, i know some girls will pretend in situations like this and go back to their old ways once married.

I'm my heart of heart your boyfriend doesn't really know you.

It's funny people's comments have being saying he is supposed to choose his family over you but that doesn't relate here cos it's not a competition.

These family members who are complaining what efforts have they made to get close to you ? A few chats doesn't automatically make us buddies speaking for myself and I can relate with you cos I abhor chatting I can decide not to do WhatsApp for one month and I won't lose sleep at all so I can relate.

If he still has parent(s) you could try to up your communication with them, bi-weekly calls and airtime from time to time just to let them know you're thinking about them. As for his siblings you could try if you like but they're being dramatic including your boyfriend. Goodluck

Aforxzy:
This is not encouraging at all..such brillant students should be given automatic employment amongst other gifts..

Automatic employment from secondary school.. aunty easy oo

expertman:
Nuce one even at old age she still loves him endlessly.

She and baba nah 5 and 6 if to say the ladies of today walahi nah birds them be she go don fly away.

Kudos ma'am

In photos

Penflame:
Good day!

I am a graduate who just passed out of service last month, I got a Graphic/Web Designer job with an airline ticketing agency in my state of deployment while still in service. According to my employer, the company is just coming up (I saw "Established in 1992" outside the office) and so he pleaded to be paying me ₦20,000 per month. I agreed, because I wasn't done with service and also because I need an extra source of income.

Fast forward to month end, the man paid me ₦15,000 without remorse, he only said the company is not generating much income yet. He paid the same amount the following month, and I complained to the Admin Manager, I don't know if she informed him.

On the third month, he paid ₦17,000 and was even expecting me to come and thank him for the extra ₦2,000.

This is a company that I have laboured so much for just within the 3 months of working there. I designed a website for the company, even though the Director refused to fund the domain, I made sure the company is visible and accessible in social media networks, I put the company's location up in Google map.

He was even giving me tasks that doesn't relate to my role to do, tasks like switching on the generator, typing correspondences and documents, etc.

Just early this month, I worked up to the Director in his office and requested for an offer letter (at least, that will show he really employed me and I will be able to see my job role and how much he will be paying me), he promised to work on it and he has not done anything about it up till now.

Now, I am done with service and the whole thing is becoming worse in the office, but still he will be saying he wants me and my skills.

Please what should I do? Because I am really getting fed up.

That makes it easy to leave, make extra copies of your CV

Everything looks unkempt

Clearly a lie. I

ersonleads:
I'm presently working with a reputable company. I met a girl I really flow with. She's matured & understanding. She's in her 400level in school & I said within myself never to let her pass me by. We've come to a compromise that she should finish before I take her to the alter. Want to do so when She's 22yrs of age. I'm 11yrs older than her.

Please I need your Advice if I'm doing the right thing?

Bros carry go. All the best

BCASH:
If you went to public secondary school in South West and you did not know the song off hand.

We need to do deliverance for you

Oh really.. I thought twas coined in a particular school (igbobi College cos of the person that taught) I didn't know it was common place.

femi4:
Chemistry....too many laws n symbols to memorize

Recite Avogadro's law:
Avogadro's law lo so wipe,....

Equal volume of all the gases at the same temperature and pressure contains the same number of molecules.......... I learnt this song from a friend that went to your college (he taught us the version in University when when lived together) funny enough I'm a lawyer..

Dem dem

Tonero5200:
Hi.

Honestly speaking am really worried, have dated my fiance for sometime now. So we finally decided to tie the knot.
She suggested we do it this year November and I concurred, so we've been saving towards it ever since.

Last 2 months I made my intentions known to her family, that I will like to marry their daughter. Due to the conversations I had With her parents, I told them I wanted it small.. because am not financialy buoyant.

But To my surprise, her dad said I shouldn't worry about it, they are going to support me ( which is most likely Normal)

(They gave me traditional rite's, which I sorted out by myself)

With the traditional right drawing close, last month I learnt from my fiancee..her parents are planning to buy 2 cow for the traditional and white wedding. (I was surprised)

The following week, the hall she choosed for the reception of the white wedding, has already been paid for by her dad which was about 500k excluding the decorations which they also took care of ( even though I opted we could have done the reception in the church)

But my fiancee told me her dad is inviting alot of well-wishers home and abroad to come celebrate with us.both his fellow staffs and all.

* I bought 2 bag of rice and groundnut oils

* We paid for the cakes

* We paid for drinks

* We sorted things out (invitation cards, pre shoot photos)

But was surprised 2 days to the traditional marriage, more expensive drinks were rolling in.

On the d day of the white wedding, I realised, they cooked more than 8 bags of rice ( coconut, jollof, banga and fried) meats were surplused.
Alot of people came from her family's, while my own families were just there.. they did get the message.

Someone even said it to my mom face. THAT THIS GIRL PAPA TRY O.

please, I don't want to sound like am a bad person or I don't know good.
Offcus I appreciate her parents efforts, but am just a little bit worried.

As a man, won't this come to haunt me in the future?

I honestly don't see anything to worry about, the igbo adage "ogo bu chi onye" definitely applies only this time you aren't the one giving.
Would you rather have the burden of your inlaws on your shoulders with that of your new family ? I'm sure your answer would be in the negative.
Count it as a blessing but to show that you're a wise man, go buy a bottle of expensive wine and go say thank you to your father in law first. You're part of the lucky ones.
The only thing you should make sure to do is that you and your wife keep everything within the your home plans,fights etc.

Wish you a Happy marriage.

Is beer a sin ?

Cool

pwettyme:
1.My baby girl shortly after birth.
Such a crazyy feeling...I was only wishing I could breath in life into her.

2.On the 29th of October 2021 my mum was laid to rest. I couldn't touch or feel her because her casket was embodied in glass....I really wish I did. Such a vibrant and powerful woman with high educational qualification...was lust laying down cold.
Life is cruel.

Sorry for your losses. May they rest in Peace

Drunkard1:
Me and my kid bro wen we were living with my grandma in the village due to my parents steady fighing issue. We where playing in the bush wen we went to fetch firewood. He was bitten by a snake a puff adder. I was 11 and he was like 6years at that time. I remember him telling me he was bitten by a scorpion and i told him it was a chookoo chookoo he step on. We where playing but his mood and body changed he became instant quiet. I thought he doesnt want to play the fact he did not cry still shocked me till this day i would have known something terrible happend to him. I was still playing he lie down one place sweating i still ignore him playing around did not know he was dying. Wen i saw a big firewood i told him to bring cutlass let me cut it. He did not answer why lying down. I had to shout but he still did not anwer.i had to get close i notice his leg was swolen and kind of dark. I knew something was wrong instead of me to carry him and go home for help i left him there ran home nobody was there went to my neibor dey followed me. Wen we got there he was dead. I had to touch him to know if he was alright. He quickly carried my broda and ran out of the bush told me to come with him. Then i saw the monster snake that bit my brother in a dry grass staring at me. I couldnt do anything cos i though it was a scorpoin or a chooko chooko was just confuse. Had to run after the man. He took him to a herbalist and dey told us it was a snake. I did not cry was thinking he would wake up that was the last i saw him. The neibor took him to his place and ask me to stay outside he would wake up. I was just lost in the world my only bro i play with forgeting our family issue. Wen my grandma came home. I heard her shouting crying. I knew is over. Since den i am not close to my other siblings i feel playing with them would result to bad thing and i was so careless not to help my brother.. And till this day i hate my parents and myself the more. He was the only true love i have cos we where both close. Very generous. Wis i have to turn back the time. I would have kill that moster if i heard know it was it that bite my brother. Dead to all snake and to all parents ruining there children future cos u cant keep shit together by simple understanding.

Too bad.. so sorry for your loss. Don't beat yourself too much, you were young and couldn't have known and also be grateful for your life that snake could've bitten you too.

What you should do is not let his memory fade, you could name a child, foundation, scholarship or research grant after him if you have the means. All the best.

Ocholu:
I see what you did dear. So after using me to satisfy your sexual fantasies and cravings naso you wan dispose me?

You think I am not on Nairaland abi? You have guts to come online to rant but don't have the balls to confront me in person.

Anyways, I will be leaving your house this evening. Make sure to refund all the funds I sent you yesterday. Plus my chain and the laptop I got you.

We Are Done!!

IgweOfNnewi:
Anambra will always dominate, Emoney Allen Onyema bishop of Ozulubu, Obi Cubana, Arthur Eze, emeka offor

I bu ezigbote ewu.

Gee64:
My Wife died in April this year in my arms.

Haa. So sorry for your loss. May she continue to rest in Peace and may God give your family the strength to bear.

lomprico:
who died, your dad?
I don't understand your story

A neighbor

mdokaba1:
@ placing a “forever long kiss” was the exact thing I did to my late Mum’s corpse just two weeks ago.

I did it immediate the Doc pronounced her dead.

And to think that my mums corps was the closest eye contact I have ever had with a corps, talk more of kissing one.

And I am fulfilled and forever grateful that I did that.

So sorry for your loss. May she rest in Peace

Benitoh:
I'm in the church

When father finish the Mass, I'll comment

Pressing your phone

SATANlST post=1 you y07601560:
this early sunday morning when your mates are hustling or planning to go to church, u are starting it up with this type of negativity.
both u and the mod that felt it was ok to move this to front page are mad
u should have said u helped to carry a dead body instead of asking ur father rubbish

You know it is good to have this topic FP, every once in a while it is good to remember that we're only transiting here & any day we could be meeting our maker.

Sonnobax15:

That was my late sister,back in 2013......She was lying down in her room lifelessly....And no one was around...The worst part was that where she was living was a very remote area where there weren't neighbours........ The minute I arrived,all of a sudden,na once rain begin fall . You can imagine that kind of scary scenario . But I wasn't really scared tho, because she was my closest sister,whom I had always confided in . If I no fit see her run when she was sick and alive,why then should I be be scared and run away from her corpse...........

So I used her cloth to cover her corpse,and waited till the rain stopped......Then I ran back home to inform my dad and other siblings

I no dey forget that day..

Sorry about your loss bro. May she continue to rest in peace.

Is this old age cos he's looking sickly.

By the way why do we marry women that are way younger than us is it so that they'll take care of us in our old age ?

Just another thread to bash women. If you can't take her terms just bounce don't be bitter about it.. Sometimes men we have this skewed mentality that everything is about us.

Baamisere:
Help Me! I'm Fed Up

I've been dating my girlfriend for about 3 years now and she has been a good woman through and through. I've met her parents and we're discussing on the next step. She has been supportive, responsible and caring despite our tribal difference.

However, the problem I'm having with her is that when she's angry she tends to use foul languages and curses on me which I don't like. She end up apologizing after the ranting but I'm tired of going over this. Please how can I deal with this attitude of hers?

I need honest contributions to this thread.

Watch this girl assault you physically in the marriage.