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Mariangeles:
There’s one who’s a nairalander.

She absorbed her brother, but not totally.

bewov:
Please guys, I have something bothering me so much, I will really appreciate it if I can get a matured response.

These might be long, but please bare with me

There is this girl have been dating since March 2021. Although, we met in University days and we have been dating since 2017, but because I was graduating and she has 1 more year to spend in the school, I left her and travelled to Lagos to work, because I got a job in a company in Lagos, immediately I graduated. I needed to concentrate on my future so I told her I want to pause the relationship to focus, but I will definitely be back for her, I promised her this. She was a virgin then!

After working in the company for 2years, I also learnt some IT skills online while I was working in the company, and I was earning cool money from it, so I decided to quit the job and focus more on the online business.

My business have been doing well and I have about 2 other virtual assistant helping me out, anyway I was kind of comfortable, so I thought of fulfilling my promise to my girlfriend. I called her one morning, and she was shocked! We chatted a bit and I told her I want us to see urgently, we schedule a date for her to meet me in the hotel, because I was staying in Lekki and he stays around Surulere, I wanted an hotel close to her house, so she can return early.

We met at the hotel and I can see she missed me so much, around 3pm I told her I'm back and I want us to continue dating and I'm ready to settle down, she agreed and we have been dating, all this happened around March 2021. Around April, I travelled out for about 2months, but I was very communicating with her, and when I got back around June, I discovered she had sex with another guy in May. Now, I wouldn't say she did it because of money, because I pay her 20k every month for upkeep, sometimes I just pay her 30k! She is not a wayward girl though, and she is not a type that sleeps around with guys back then in school, but once i came back into her life, I see a different girl entirely, when I came back she wasn't a virgin anymore, it's not my problem anyway, because the truth is I never forgot her during all those years I left her behind.

I didn't tell her I knew she cheated on me, but all I do tell her was that she did something bad to me and I want her to open up to me about it, but my girl kept on denying it, she sworn with her life, that she didn't cheat on me, that night I was shocked. Then, I didn't talk about it again till September, I gave her those months to regret her actions and confess to me, but she never did, also I didn't stop helping her financially, I still pay her monthly for upkeep. I know you will be wondering why I give her money, right? This girl was with me and loyal to me when I had nothing, like nothing at all! She was raised by a single mother and she is struggling a lot, after graduating she decided to go for Hair Stylist training, that is where she is currently. So I just give her money monthly just to stay strong.

So around September I decided to tell her she cheated on me, although it was that once, she begged, cried and told me she was drunk and regretted it, she told me she doesn't want to tell me because she knows I will end the relationship, well to be candid I love her so much, so I decided to forgive her, but since that day, trusting her was very very difficult for me. Although, I do watch her and since then I have never seen anything of such from her.

January 2022, her mother stopped her from coming to my place, she wants me to come see her first before she can allow her daughter to come visit me again. So, I went to see her mom last month and I made my intentions known to her, I told her I will want to marry her daughter and she said she is okay with it, if her daughter is okay with me.

This girl is my type of girl but, she has some behaviours that sincerely I don't think I can deal with.

She has this mindset of "A woman should be equal to a man".

She doesn't respect me, she chats with random guys and if they invite her for outing, she goes with them, even if I tell her not to go! When she visits me, she says I must join her in doing the house chores, she will say "It's either you clean the house and I will wash the plates and cook, or she wash the plates and cook, while I clean the house". And sometimes if she wants to cook for me, she will want me to come to the kitchen with her and do some works, maybe Grind pepper with blender or slice onion, if I dont, she gets annoyed, saying will she be the one to be doing all?

She did something that annoyed me this morning, around 6am today I went to the filling station to get petrol, well she knows I eat early always, maybe 6am or 7am, I would have taken breakfast, but she has never dished me food at that time, I always do it myself whenever she is around. When I got back from the filling station, I still met my girlfriend on the bed pressing her phone, I told her I'm hungry and I will want to eat Spaghetti with tomato sauce, and she replied "Baby, please cook it yourself, you said I'm your queen, pamper me na" Really? What does that have to do with you cooking for your fiance?

Well, I was annoyed, I went to the kitchen and prepared the food myself, the truth is when the food was ready, I only dished my own and ate, she said "What about her? Won't she eat?" I didn't answer her!

Aside from this, sincerely sometimes she talks to me rudely, and one thing she and I knows is that she is very very stubborn and not ready to submit to any man. Sincerely, this attitude is making me scared of settling down with her, I want to propose her this year and do the marriage rights but with all this behaviours I'm thinking the marriage will be hell for me.

When she came over yesterday, I prepared food for her before her arrival, and I served her, all she could say was "What is this? The food taste bad! Is this food or poison?" She never gave a good compliments about the meal, yet she finished the food and went for second round.

Last night before we went to bed, I told her to warm the rice and the stew, she said it won't get spoilt that she will do it in the morning, I asked her if she is sure, she said Yes. And I went to the kitchen before preparing my Spaghetti, I saw the rice is already bad and can't be eaten, I showed it to her and she was like "haaa she doesn't know it will spoil"

Also, the chicken I bought yesterday to cook her the meal, I couldn't use all, I left some in the pot, and I forgot to warm it last night, my girl saw it while washing the plates this morning, and she was like "What is this?" I told her chicken and she said "And you didn't warm it" she left it there in the pot like that without doing anything to revive it. Before I went to the kitchen to do it myself!

She only washed the plates, bath and went to church this morning, she didn't arrange the bed, nor sweep the room littered with all we ate last night. I'm sure of the message she is passing to me... "Have washed the plates, you clean the house".

Please guys, I want to propose her around August and settle down with her in November, but this behaviours are the things turning me off.

Will she changed and act normal when we get married, or this will continue? The guys she chat with, which I told her I don't like it, she replied that "She will never and ever leave them". All these types of attitudes and not showing me respect, do you think she will change after we get married or she will continue?
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Please guys, I'm very confused here

Teeboy2300:
No need to get pissed. If money isn't the issue, the get the s20 ultra it's cheaper and better than the 11 pro max

OlamideTosyn:
Have you gotten? If no, what's your email, so I can send the few samples I have?

Teeboy2300:
You would get 2 s10 plus for the price of one iPhone 11 pro max

Wtf if this comparison??

tecnolad:
I don't understand what you mean by the bolded. I have never had to pay for ANY iOS update, and I'm sure every Apple product user can relate to that.

You dey confuse my bone marrow, comrade.

Badb0y4lyf:
Depends on what you want if you want a Smart phone go for Samsung. If you want a Camera phone go for iphone.

o9o9:
I have a 256gb iphone 11 pro max if you want to buy

Rahkman:
Android hungry broke tecno users will start hating on iPhone as usual if them dash dem comon iPhone 6 them go dey roll for ground with praises and adoration

seanwilliam:
Lol iPhone 11 Pro Max should compare with s20 series..


Reason to get 11pm
1. Very great battery ( it has one of the best batteries on smart phone, on heavy usage I get 9-10hrs.. it beats s10plus hands down )
2. Longer ( software) support
3. More secure
4. Ease of reselling
5. High resale value ( I used this same phone for 8months , bought it 360k and I sold it 365k).. although it’s still as neat as it is when I bought it. I handle phone with care just like my balls
6. Cheap to maintain..( screen repair is nothing compared to s10 o)
9. Camera
10. Class..
11. Faster processor

Reason to choose s10plus

1. Customization
2. Beautiful curved display
3. Wireless PowerShare
4. 5G

KJtemi:
the curved display is not beautiful when you start using it,only when you see it around

I used an s10 plus and it was too curved for my liking triggering unnecessary touch when holding the phone

The only thing is liked about the phone was its performance,clear loud stereo speakers(iPhones and Samsungs with stereo speakers are the best you can get out there in my opinion), display and battery nothing more nothing less coming from an iPhone x to the phone back then

Besides I don't think the op is ready to buy phone and is just wasting space on Nairlands server because the two phones are worlds apart when it comes to price

muyoge:
Your preference seems to show in the order of presentation. I guess you put what you prefer first while presenting your options.

Iphone5:
Overall Performance : the iPhone 11 beats the S10 plus

sanphem:
Good day guys

Please I just got admitted to University of Connecticut with full funding to study a PhD in Materials Science and Engineering.

Please I'll appreciate to know if there's anyone in Storrs, Connecticut who could be of great help during this transition phase

tonnymexx:
Please good people on this forum, I need list of affordable college or university I can apply?

Schools with free ielts, schools that accept tuition fees payment on arriver?

Also it is possible to use my NECO result to apply for another bsc age 23?

Thanks

ObodoNaija:
If you can get a recent one for the interview please do.

Rastaramsey:
Am done with 11pro max jare

IPIGSRHYPO:
Peter Obi-tuary, the lying Chinese man.
So that they can Lose together one more time.

sunlawphy:
Still selling
Whatsapp 09082777350

Bobby2020:
lol baba I didn’t block you , my elder brother wanted it. You can hit me on WhatsApp to reconfirm.

E ma binu

Goshiii:
Good morning.