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mistacoco2:
Hello guys,

For some days now I have been on a serious dilemma whether to resign from my federal government job that pays me above N200k for my current position and migrate to the UK or stay in naija and set up a business to augment my salary. I will be 34 years next year, I feel traveling to the uk for studies next year September will delay my chances of getting married, as I have planned not exceeding 34 years without getting married.

I belong to the school of thought that believes can make it in Nigeria despite all odds. However, considering the economic realities of the country, I have recently contemplating of japa and maybe get a Nigerian lady for marriage after my studies.

Please I earnestly need matured advice from you guys to know how to start the coming year.

Travel anywhere else not uk.i presently know some people in uk that are planning to return naija as they are stranded.no enough yansh washing job again to pay house rent.

treesun:
https://www.vanguardngr.com/2024/01/5-promises-from-tinubus-new-year-message/amp/

Talk n talk n talk....bastard

Ahmed0336:
It's nice seeing Sanwo Olu doing this even after the elections are over.
Had it been it was before the elections, many would have looked at it differently.

I tink he learnt a lesson during d election.It really pained him wen d people turned against him.Now he understands hes a young man that needs to be wit d people n not d cabal.even if u wit d cabal...dont throw it on d face of d people.

Yes as long as its a yoruba ronu on seat.Business tribalistic pastor.If na Hausa man dey there u wont be saying this rite now.No sensible person takes Adeboye serious becos he is running a business mpire

lekanolas:
Alhaji Musiliu Akinsanya, also known as MC Oluomo, has agreed to step down as Chairman of the Lagos Chapter of the National Union of Road Transport Workers (NURTW).

Oluomo took the decision on Sunday after a meeting with Governor Babajide Sanwo-Olu and other key stakeholders at Government House, Alausa, Ikeja .

Dressed in a white native attire, Oluomo agreed to cede power to Mustapha Adekunle (Sego), the current Treasurer of the union in the state.

Sources at the meeting told our correspondent that Oluomo was prevailed upon to contest for the presidency of the union since one of the factional President of the union Tajudeen Agbede is currently bedridden.

Agbede is said to be down with stroke.

Aside Sanwo-Olu, others at the meeting were Sanwo- Olu's Chief of Staff, Tayo Ayinde, Mr Oluwaseun Osiyemi ,Commissioner for Transportation, Sola Giwa, Special Adviser to the governor on Transportation, Commissioner of Police in Lagos and the Director  of DSS in Lagos, Dapo Amao.

Others at the meeting were the current exco members of the union in the state

The Lagos State chapter has been in crisis after some leaders of the union in the state passed a vote of no confidence on Oluomo few days after he was re-elected for a second term a month ago.

It was gathered that Oluomo decided to step down after mounting pressure from most of his powerful friends and influential figures in Lagos including Oba Saheed Ademola Elegushi.

Elegushi was said to have personally told Oluomo to step down or face imminent embarrassment from his loyalists.

It was further gathered that 80% of branch chairmen in Lagos have stopped remitting money to the union's state coffer, resulting in Oluomo's dwindling resources.

https://newsday.com.ng/mc-oluomo-steps-down-as-nurtw-chairman-in-lagos/

Lagos state governor,oba of lagos all involved in convincing a road trasport union boss of stepping down n u say there is not something more to this?d level of gangsterism tinubu introduced in lagos sha.where somebody like mc can call governor of state to order .

dawnomike:
Dating someone's wife is a straight way to death and hell!!!

There are many single ladies out there... why would any sane man wants another man's wife

Many of ur leaders hav slept wit someone wive n till date ,they are bastardly rich.stop attributing everything to religion.sleep wit a married person is bad whether man or woman n there is zero curse or death to follow.

ikeno:
You giving advice how how to sleep with other people wife😠 how would you feel if someone else is bleeping your wife. A tree is known by it's fruits.

If someone is sleeping wit my wife it means either me or my wife is an idiot.

Chevrolet076:
After more than 15 years since I visited a beach (Eleko beach), I anticipated seeing and having the usual beach feel of
strong roaring foamy waves,
very cold winds that can sweep you off your feet,
the wide expanse of water so wide and so blue that connects to the sky as far back as your eyes can see,
hundreds of sea creatures especially crabs running back into the sea as it recedes,
the freedom of trekking kilometers down both sides of the sea,
the non-existence of any foreign thing like tractors, restaurant etc close to the sea... Just the traditional dishes and feel.

Everything is so bad that I just felt I wasted money on overrated stuffs.

No roaring waves,
no cold winds,
swimming pool-like water waves and forced waves from the jet skis and boat l cruise.
Green colored sea filled with sea weed
Cans, bottle, food pack littering everywhere
Guys with intimidating looks smoking up and down
Loudspeakers playing useless music and disturbing the peace of the sea,
Almost non-existent sea shells. Except for few tiny ones
Tractors everywhere with security guard threatening you if you dare to cross over to landmark side
Sand heaped on all four sides of the sea making it look like a swimming pool. Imagine a whole beach o


Everything has been monitized and the beach is so small that it's choking.

You can only have fun by buying overpriced things. Boat cruise at 3k, horse riding for just a short distance at 2k per person, one tiny suya at 2k, entry fẹẹ increased to 2k as well.

If not for the other families that came with football which we started playing, what would my holiday look like?

It is well. I just think not everything should be monitized and milked so it loses its natural feel.

Felt so bad for nature. The beach's sadness penetrated through my bones

Try good beach or landmark beach n tank me later.

Truths9ja:
I don hear you. Even the clothes you are wearing belong to Lagos State government. You better don’t deceive yourself here 😆😆😆😆

Lol

Truths9ja:
I think they are angry and hungry cos’ of Lagos success and Yoruba people that built lagos State to world standard.

Wat m trying to say is u dnt own an estate in Lagos or even a house n yet u are celebrating n praising lagos.where is d sense in that.Lagos blongs to d government....none of us hav a share in d infrastructure or d beaches.

Truths9ja:
😂 I ate rice , stew with ponmo. You funny no be small

I jst asked becos those that praise Lagos that doesnt blong to dem are normally hungry n hav nothing beta to do.

Truths9ja:
Eko onibaje, no city beat Lagos State in West Africa and East Africa

Hav u eaten today?did u kii chicken?

I tot they were always prepared.

uyogabie:
I am a mother of four kids bro,I gave birth thrice 'cos I have twins.And Yes, I was patient.

Oh kudos

ictplotter:
Why blaming a peaceful Islam for radicalism and terrorism while Bible openly preaching radicalism, hates, disunity and terrorism but this is left for the western and America propagandists to answer?

Just imagine it was a Quran verses that stated this below but not Quran but Bible.

Matthew 10:34-36
“Do not think that I have come to bring peace to the earth; I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. For I have come to set a man against his father, and a daughter against her mother, and a daughter-in-law against her mother-in-law; and one's foes will be members of one's own household"

Luke 14 vs 26.
"If anyone comes to me and does not hate father and mother, wife and children, brothers and sisters—yes, even their own life—such a person cannot be my disciple."

Where did this mumu man emanate frm

uyogabie:
Be a little patient ma'am.

You can take a very long walk though or climb the staircase up and down.

If na ur pelvis d baby dey push u go patient?

My wife 39 too n waiting for water to break

NEWSCENTER:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mnitaMXqYl4?si=vJg30tHR3v_jr_AK

I hate that tinubu drug dealer...bt lets no be silly.hes d president n there mst be long convoys.d bastard had long convoys even b4 presidency. Lets criticise sensibly

Quintessence44:
If you are planning to JAPA, my advice as an economist and oil industry analyst is that you WAIT.

Give it at least a YEAR from today before making the final decision.

The Dangote refinery is a game-changer.

Nigeria becomes self-sufficient in refined petroleum products, and a net exporter of same, bar none in Africa.

That’s a huge deal.

A great many businesses will be established in the months and years ahead based on our self sufficiency in petroleum products.

Millions of new jobs will be created.

In fact one foreign report states that the establishment of the 20 billion dollar Dangote refinery in Lagos officially makes Nigeria an industrialised nation.

In addition, Nigeria will stop importing diesel, petroleum products, fertiliser and petrochemicals.

“That is saving over $26 billion in foreign exchange” per annum, according to official sources.

In addition to all this, the Dangote refinery will generate 12,000 megawatts of electricity.

You can imagine the impact this will have on the economy going forward.

To JAPA right when the nation is on the cusp of economic and industrial transformation is in my view, ill-advised.

Hence I urge a one-year moratorium on all JAPA - related activities.

Happy New Year all, and God bless Nigeria.

I bliev u didnt listen very well wen u been dey schl.Didnt u hear petroleum minister say d refinery doesnt mean price reduction.

Again ...after doing this almost 3 months ago

Wainey:
if u had read my first comment before calling me simp, I said if she was the one that gave u the job, then there is no issue in giving her 100k.

Next time try and read someone's commentn, no be to deh jump deh call someone simp

No vex sir

Yelight:
He might not be wrong he only need to tell you his why.

He is very wrong...there is no reason watsever

ariesbull:
he can use water....I bought brand new radiator last year I still use water

U radiator will be susceptible to rust quicker than someone using coolant.also u should know that coolant increases boiling point n reduces freezing point....making ur radiator work better efficiency. If u dnt hav leaks,my broda buy original coolant as per manufacturer recommendation.

Jjokke:
I bought a brand new radiator for my Lexus RX330.
I told the mechanic that I need to buy coolant. He said I should use ONLY water for some time (like 3 months) before using coolant.
Please I need opinions on this because I don't know if a new radiator require only water first before using coolant.

He is a compound fool.make sure u buy d right coolant becos it differs.i tink for toyota cars its a borate based coolant ....u might wanna google it.also buy original not fake.
All this roadside mechanic wit zero knowledge sef.

Wainey:
you are looking at it from the fact she is a woman.
In this Country where job opportunity is chocked, if someone gives me a job of 400k, I wouldn't mind giving that person 100k.

He never said she gave him d job...he said he maintains her wit 100k everymonth

Dagger111:
In 2016 she told me her salary was N35,000. And then two years later, when she got promoted, I asked about her salary and she said, “Oh these people, don’t mind them. They added only N8,000 to my old salary. Because of her meager salary, I’ve taken up so many responsibilities in the house without complaint. I pay for utilities and pay for food. I pay the fees of our two kids, clothe them, and take care of their medical bills. When my wife sends me a grocery list, she adds sanitary pads. She buys dresses and clothes, comes to show them to me, and asks me to pay for them. She started talking about a car when our second child came in. Things weren’t good on my side so I asked her to give me some time. She said, “I’ve saved something. I can add it to what you have so you pay me when your money comes.”

I agreed and took that money from her, topped it up to get her a car. For three months my ears never rest. She would wake up at dawn and ask me to pay what I owed her. I got tired and paid the money when I didn’t have much in my account.

One evening, I turned my laptop on and saw a lot of emails. I checked and it was my wife’s email that had been opened. I asked her, “Did you use my laptop?” She answered, “Yeah I was checking something.” I told her, “Then you didn’t log out.” She answered, “I forgot. Please log out for me.” I was about to log out when something caught my attention. I saw a mail with the subject, “January Payslip.” I opened and started going through. When I saw her gross salary, I was shocked. N654,734? And this girl has been crying poverty?

I went through the details. That night I couldn’t sleep. I was angry. I felt let down. I felt cheated. I felt played. We’ve been married for six good years and my wife earned that much without my knowledge? How much she earned didn’t bother me a lot than what she was using that money for. I decided not to talk immediately but rather do a little bit of investigation.

All my life I’ve held the view that it wasn’t right for anyone to go through their partner’s phone. It’s an invasion of privacy and it breeds mistrust in the relationship but that night, going through her phone was the only way to find out what I was looking for. I started with her best friend. Nothing much was found. Her family had a Whatsapp group. I read the messages there. I got few hints. I went through the chat with her father and that was when I realized my wife had bought a piece of land and had started building. Her father was in charge of the project. He had sent photos of the various stages of the building. At some point, her father said, “Thank you for helping out your brother. He would have been home had it not been you.”

She has only one brother—her senior brother. I went to look for the chat between them. Her senior brother lost his job and was home doing nothing so my wife bought her Hyundai i10 to use for Uber. Every week, her brother rendered an account and they split the money. From all indications, my wife was doing well for herself while she plays poor so she could rely on my salary. Why would she do that? I thought I was being a supportive husband so my wife could be proud of the man she married. When we bought land, it was her name and my name that appeared on the land title. That car I bought for her with a loan from her bears her name. I didn’t mind. I believed what’s hers was also mine.

The next morning she realized I wasn’t looking well. I was boiling on the inside but looking for a good opportunity to start the conversation. When I calmed down a little, I asked her, “So why would you do that to me?” She asked, “What have I done?” I answered, “You bought land, you never told me. You started building on it, you never told me. When are you going to tell me?” She was shocked. She asked, “Who told you all that?” I said, “Your father did.” She stood quiet for a while. She asked, “Why would my father tell you all that? What were you people talking about” I said, “I don’t know. You can ask him.”

We left it there. Some minutes later she came to me with her phone: “My father wants to talk to you.” The phone was already on a loudspeaker. Her father was clearly angry. He asked, almost shouting, “You said I told you my daughter has a building? Where did I say that and when?”
I asked, “Is it not true that my wife has a building project going on that you’re supervising?” He asked me, “I told you that?” I asked him, “Is it true or not?” After the back and forth I told them, “I read your messages last night. I saw the pictures. I read the various budget you had sent to my wife. I read the confirmation of the money receipts that you sent her. You’re a man. Would you be happy if your wife does this to you?” He started fumbling. He started apologizing saying he thought I was aware.”

My wife stood there motionless, didn’t know what to say. When her father hung up, I told her everything I knew, from her salary to the car she bought for her brother. I said, “Yet, even your sanitary pad, I buy them. You think I’m a fool? You’ll use your money to acquire your own properties and live on mine because you’re my wife? I hear. We’ll see.”

Trust was lost. Love was broken. We had to find a new way of living our lives going forward. Her father called me every morning and evening apologizing for everything and sometimes taking up the blame so I didn’t have to blame his daughter. I told him, “The emotional state I’m in right now, it would be hard to think straight or think forgiveness. Just give me space.” Three days later, they were in our house. The father, the mother, and the senior brother. They came to apologize. “Don’t let this break up the beautiful marriage you both have. If nothing at all, consider the kids and be lenient in your judgment.”

I listened to them. My position was still the same. “I need time to clear my mind. Just leave me alone to think.” From last month to this moment that I’m writing this, my wife had changed totally. She doesn’t ask for money but the house is being run smoothly. She has started paying for things she never paid for but that doesn’t move me. She has taught me a very great lesson and I’m taking it seriously. That in everything, I have to look out for myself and my family first. Lastly she told me, “If you want us to change the names on those properties, we can do so.” Guess whose name is on the property…her father’s name.”

I told her, “You don’t need to change anything. They are yours. You suffered for them so you can decide what you want to do with them.” The land I bought has our names. I’m selling it and take my money back. The car she’s driving has her name. I put a for-sale sticker on it some weeks ago. She agreed she’ll pay for the car. I’ve given her two months to pay up or I sell it and take my money.
She’s getting the message and I’m glad. Each one for himself, God for us all.
She keeps asking if I’m going to leave her. I keep telling her I won’t but if she wants a separation for a period, I will gladly give her. I’m not going to leave the marriage. I would give us some time to heal and see what may happen but when it comes to money, I’ve taken the lesson she taught me through her actions.

What will you do if you are in my position and feeling deeply hurt??

Some women are like that.they cannot detach with their family n make a new one.u like housemate to her while her parents dem na her true family.its really bad that she could do all this without telling u.she can plan ur funeral 2 years n ahead n u will never know.i cannot advice u to leave her this is a marriage.Bt wat i can advice is take charge.. take ur place as d man of d house n stop being mr Nice guy .Anything she wanna do wit her salary fem henceforth should be approved by u.Continue to pay rent n schl fees as thats ur number 1 responsibility as a man...no let am contribute for that one bt she has to chip in somehow.

Wainey:
I never cared about who liked my comment, I didn't even notice anyone liked the comment. you are irrelevant.

So if you think liking or unliking my comment is a big deal, then u are just as stupid as the OP.

Don't even worry about mentioning me, cos I never cared about that even

Bro for real...u a simp.bt d gud news is u can metamorphose into something beta...jst stop being a damn SIMP

Wainey:
Is she the one that got you that job?
Does she cook for you?
Does she sex you?
Does she wash your clothes and clean your house?
Is she welcoming to your family?
Does she talk about a future with you?
Is she 100% faithful to you?
Is she carrying your child in her womb?

If she meets all these, then she deserved the 100k monthly.

Sh3 still doesnt deserve it...its too mch for someone that earns only 400k

peter0071:
nice decision but even if she is not earning high, as long as she get prospects... she is a green light.

Invite us for your wedding o

Son of dem earn high income bt are not financially intelligent. They want to buy everything they desire without planning n budgeting. leave such ladies...they will drag u down. Invest in ur future.

Naijagram:
Seeking your thoughts, everyone!!!

I work as a salaried individual and earn around 400k monthly.

However, my girlfriend constantly asks for money. I give her almost 100k every month and she feels it's not enough for her. She's even voiced discontent, suggesting I only send her money when she explicitly requests it.

I'm beginning to suspect her motives, as she seems solely focused on my income.

She never suggests saving or helps in cutting costs; her primary interest lies in spending everything.
Despite my genuine love for her, I can't keep up with her demands. I had hopes for our future together, but it seems unlikely now.

I'm considering a breakup as a solution.

Has anyone navigated a similar situation?

Break up.I jst did same wit mine over having alot of money n still demanding salary every month frm me.Invest in ur future n forget any woman that wants to keep taking u back