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Yeye people,

Why not Abuja to lagos,

They had to choose a short distance so they can maximise the stealing and pretend it was a completed project

Estharfabian:
I'd give You "Husby" for half that price...

Well done jare

Don't mind these hypocrites,

What will u do with her? Sex Abi no be soo?

But wit Dat money my generation's history will be re written.

misspicy:
Op all these are Ajebo punishment o

the ones I did in boarding school

1)squatting for hours

2)walking with my knees on stony ground

3)carrying two iron buckets of water on both hands for hours

brb

Will u sent ur kids to a school dat practice such punishment?

Caracta:
Very nice thread. Thanks so much for sharing.

Now my question: How are you so sure they are going to die? Reminds me of when my dad was very ill. He had a heart disease and everyone thought he was going to die, including the doctor. Oh well, we said our goodbyes. We cried, we sang. Listened to a dying father bla bla bla.

This is the 5th year. My father is still alive.

I think we just like to wish things away. Like someone said, it's a culture thing. We just do not want to accept or 'give' up on our loved ones. I can't imagine a Nigerian widow sharing funny experiences of her late husband at his funeral. Even Linda Ikeji would blog about it.

I really appreciate this thread. I think it's a privilege to even know when one is dying.

popsy wasnt ready jare, no mind dat messenger of doom

the man has diabetes and all the complications dat comes with dat,

after a scan he was diagnosed with cancer, the thing has spread all over, his wife said wen she told him

he swore " bllody heck" u knw this british pple they are so reserved sometimes u wonder if they have feelings.

typical naija man wud ve been screaming '' i reject it ''

wman:
Hi. In one of your earlier posts, you mentioned something about a reading club. Please I'll like to join. My number is 08069557440.

really?? dat must be a long time ago,
am so busy these days i hardly have time for reading

but, if u lead, i will follow

UjSizzle:
This is a beautiful post bebe2. The man is blessed to have a such a wonderful wife. I hope he rests in peace.

Tnk u sis,

His family adores him, he too have shown them love .

Can u imagine even wit an amputated leg he used to escort his daughter to appointments just to keep her company on long drives.

The daughter is an international lawyer, she once told her dad day she didn't trust this particular client day if she us not out of the office in 30mins he shud call the police.

She came out of the office over an hour later only to meet her dad fast asleep , the poor man was too tired from the long drive.

hamjola:
@bebe2,are you still searching for the land you requested for?I have some for sale.

-(ea still searching .

wat do U have?

collinsz:
I need to be purchasing dollars from you, also do some other businesses since you are in the states. I demanded your contact cos i am Not always on nairaland, visit once in a while.

HI, am not in the state oo,

Am in the UK, I sometimes sell and buy dollar, but pounds us my main market.

I number is in my profile, am on watsapp too

Fellow Nigerians chopping life

While some are yet to eat breakfast

Royver:
This is a very deep and insightful topic. Kudos.
I remember one of the first deaths I experienced as a fresh intern just out of med school. The guy was a young dude in his late 20s and had HIV. I came to his bed when he was taking his last breaths. At that time HIV was still highly stigmatized disease and all his family had abandoned him to his fate. I saw his struggling and gasping for breath, sweat streaming down his face and very restless. I asked the nurse if anything could be done and she said no, he was already moribund. I could see the agony in his face as he struggled with death.
I had just finished watching an American movie where the guy had been talking to his comatose friend nd consoling him. And they say the last sense to go in death is hearing. So I bent close to him and whispered encouragement and told him he would be OK on the other side, that he shouldn't be afraid. The guy calmed down almost immediately. I squeezed his hand for a short while and then let go. It didn't take long after the fellow died. I honestly felt the talk helped him. It would be nice if people keyed more into this instead of screaming and sometimes hitting and pinching the dying.
Nice thread.

Am glad U watched dat American movie right before hand, if it was nollywood u wud ve picked him up and shook him he gets broken bones, lol.

Ok, pple pinch the dying? I guess they think dat will bring him/her back to life.

Very sad.

Pls search them before they leave ooo

Those pple sabi thief well well

Last time they can to benin kingdom we know how many treasure we lost

favoured234:
Thanks for sharing, guess it will give some people something to ponder about..
I strongly believe that its easier to bear our pains than pains of those we love
Now back to the woman..... I can just imagine all she went through and was left with no option than to be strong.
The husband in pains and her having sleepless night, praying earnestly for some sort of miracles
The husband in tears and she will be the one encouraging him but deep down she is having a bleeding heart.
She asking God too many questions because she feels helpless ......

My thought
Is she happy he died? No, but does she feel better now? Yes because he is out of the whole pain and resting in peace...

You are so right,

And They ve made alot of adjustments to fit his care around their lives.

His daughter just paid £40k to have their house extended so he can move around the house without the stress of using the stairs.

He was so loved, most have been painful for them to see him suffer.

crackhaus:
Lol, at least?

yes na, u go be nairaland great great gran pa

ok, i understand u guys trying to be loyal and all that,

but to call a spade a spade, those furnitures are beautiful

and i bet it will be nicely done.

u can get the naija furniture maker to make it but it wont be as clean, and it might never get done
come today come tmrw

dealing wit trade people in nigeria is painful, from tailors to to market women, look away and they will remove from
the crayfish or squeeze a nylon bag into the measuring cup before using to sell u rice.

aint no body got time time

cococandy:
The matter of life insurance is not even widely discussed much less asking one to pay their funeral insurance.
They will ask you if you're planning for them to die soon.

We love life too much. Hehehe.

My 80yr old mum was giving them holy ghost fire wen she was here oo

The thing used to get her angry, how can they be asking someone to pay for their own burial wen they are still alive? I go try explain to her tire

I beg not in dat naija heat,

crackhaus:
Ohhh, thank God... Lol

And here I thought you were trying to pass a message to me specifically regarding death and the after-life...my mind don cut before

No ooo, u still atleast 100 yrs left in u, I need break record na

Ewuro4:
Aunty Bebe thanks for sharing this and giving us another life lesson to learn.

I work in a Palative Unit where terminally ill patients are being comforted till their last day . So I get it. But like Tearoses emphasized, it's a culture thing, I tried to let people understand this fact but we have a long way to go.

I read about a UK doctor this morning, that was fired because he kept referring his terminally ill patients to TB Joshua for 'permanent healing'

What they don't understand is that when Death comes knocking , there's no going back, fact but very true.

May God help us all.




That is my request- Cremation. It has nothing to do with land shortage.

Then spread my ashes to ogunpa river so my enemies can sniff it in their brains. Hehe hehe

Hahaha u no dey disappoint

I knew u where a health care work never new it was palliative care, u must be very strong.

U need to see me crying dat day, our Rev and the man's wife were laughing at me. Thank God I had a scarf kept using it cover my face.

Lol @ the doctor's referal to TB Joshua,
Am sure u heard of the nurse that was screaming jesus while her patient was having a fit , I love my pple jare.

Think I will join the cremation crew, doesn't seem so bad afterall.

crackhaus:
bebe2, lovely and emotionally-deep piece.

I'm a little bit curious as to why you tagged me in the OP though, I could swear I did not see my moniker there when I read it earlier.

I was chatting to Ewuro4, and I thot oh I shud tag some sensible pple in that thread , lol

Ewuro4:
We dey my dear, Na work and family ohh , long time indeed

Yes oo,

There is a thread I want u to weigh in.

Am sure ur contribution will go along way in doing some good.

Trying to tag some sensible pple here but can't remember their monikers , lol

It's been a while

Ewuro4:


Some Nigerians here are running their mouth during a discourse about another Nigerian Family's son who chose to play for Canada instead of Nigeria. I asked them, was it Nigerian government that trained him? Yeye folks, funny they'll do exactly same if in their shoes.

How are you and fam Aunty bebe..

Ahhh, we are fine oo

How ur side?
na wa oo long time

Serving nigeria is a waste talent

veins2016:
my husband has been divorced for 5 years.we got married 2 yrs ago.his daughter visits once
or twice a month and stays for d weekend. d mum lives in d same city wit us. d problem is dat weneva his 14 yr old daughter comes,she prefers to sleep in our bed.we hav a 3 two bedroom apartment. we sleep in one room,d oda room is d guestroom.she came yesterd for d weekend.last nite at 2am and said she had stomach ache,afta stayimg with us for 20 mins,she said she felt beta but refusetd to go to her room,she stayed til d following morning.today she came to our room by 8pm and has refused to go to her room.i told my hband to go to d guestroom wit her since she claimed she was scared.does it m sense for a 14yr old to still want to sleep on our bed? she doesnt do dat to her mum.dey sleep in separe beds at home.

Maybe she just wants to be pampered.

U shud ask ur husband to go to the guest room when she comes and see if she will sleep with u alone or follow her dad.

I beg life is too short jare, let her sleep in the middle and cuddle her

My 5yr old still come to our bed, but not on my side oo, I have warned both her and her dad, I don't want to be disturbed .

eyinjuege:
My goodness!

I saw the title of this post hours ago and I just zoomed past writing it off as the usual NL fluke.

This is the most sensible post I've read on NL in ages.

Thank you for this.

Most Africans are expressive and shouting screaming is all ways of expressing their grief. However, most have never really thought of the feelings of the sick person, and how to make the transition of the terminally ill seamless.

Dying shouldn't be too scary especially for someone who probably knows hes dying if those around them can be calm and lucid enough to make the process smooth and peaceful.

I just love the openess of Some cultures about death, but it still spooky wen they advertise funeral insurance asking folks to pay for their funerals expense in advance .

allanphash7:
Here

Dats really fuñny

Pls lets bring back memes Thursday.

KzY:
Very touching! This thread brought me back to my Mom's passing. She died of brain tumor and complications of diabetes. Unfortunately, I was out of the country at that time, and my sister called me coz Mom is very critical. She could not speak but she can hear clearly as her tears was rolling down when she heard my voice. The last words i have said to her is "Nay you can sleep and rest now, don't worry about us", and assured her that I am going to take care of my younger sisters. Then for about two hours she passed away.

awww,

good she cud hear you, am sure that also gave u a sense of peace.

it is most difficult for those who live outside the country.

the number of pple dat have died since i left home, is unthinkable.

but thats life, lots of babies where born too

brabus:
Cremation. Tufiakwa!

dont knock it oo,

it wasnt dat bad, felt better than seeing ur loved one lowered to the ground and being covered with sand.

with this one u wall away and get a vase full of ashes the next day

AreaFada2:
Bebe my sister, not far at all o. I got no reply so far.
Happy new year.

By the way, I saw your thread on buying in 9ja or UK.

If you consider Lagos, Egbeda/Alimosho area is cool. You might get a 4 x 3 bed flats building at 22m, or 20m if you search wide enough. With C of O. Ok maybe little renovation/painting etc.

A flat can command 250k/annum = 1m. Short of 1.2m but not bad.

Though tenants can be a nightmare sometimes. I'm currently spending money on lawyer to evict a tenant.

Nor be to pay owed 8 months even be the discussion now, just to go.

i trust my pple,

i just want to do land flipping for now,

i cant deal with tenants wahala.

this aguveso guy seem to have good properties, but his sale tactics are so cold. am very reluctant msging him sef

brabus:
Which one is proving difficult?

ahhhh, how did u manage to get all dat?

old age dey show me oo

brabus:
Which one is proving difficult?

i searched for abijo, and it wasnt coming up

but i cud see mayfair garrdens

its so frustrating dat i dont know the area,

only been upto thomas estate

Aguveso:
2plots are available for sale @ Abijo, Ibeju Lekki, Lagos. Its a fast developing environment. The best deal of the season.

Title : fully gazetted
Price : 1.2million naira net

For enquiries, call or whatsapp 08038433289, 07082866791, 08050283324. BBM 56838635

pls can u give a brief description of the plot?

how much are lands currently being sold in that area?

how close is it to the main road?

AreaFada2:
Ok, waiting for pics, email:4

area.fada@yahoo.com

What is raft of two boards?

Thanks.

how far did u go with land??