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Mr Oga, den no teach you summary for school ni? You tink sey na every body get time to dey read epistle? Summarize the thing jare!

@OP

You be d real guy. Sharp Man!

mehn beejaei. .u dont know how annoying it is to listen to ppl who dont know anything about anything telling u rubbish

a lot of them have not been in nigeria for over 15yrs. . but they will swear they are very current about the goings on on ground

i lived in abuja,for 4yrs i travelled to a couple of cities up north
those guys are even more patroitic and believe in one nigeria than some of us down south
and there are a lot of christians up north local to the area,not just the ones moving in from the south

they see everyone as nigerians. . .
lol u will fall in love again if u hear a northern girl speak hausa to u(its so sexy)
and smile warmly as they do so too. . .
so leave matter and 4get these fools on here

@paddy_lo

That is the Nigeria I am in love with and miss very much. I hope its not too late when I return.

@oyb

That is really sad. So it means we can not brush aside these ethnic/religious bigotry as just e-fun.

@paddy_lo

That got me all cracking up

u are either a psycho. . .or suffering from delusion

someone tells u he has not seen anything like that in real life and u from wherever u are living tell him its his fault
and he should OPEN his eyes

@Kobojujnkie

I know that up north, there are people who believe in some forms of radical Islam and consequently hate Christians and southerners. But I will like to believe this is the minority. I also know that majority of our politicians are ethnic bigots, especially with stuff like, self-determination, resource control, rotational presidency etc. In fact, the whole idea of Federal Character that uplifts ethnicity over merit in federal appointments is based on the belief that  majority of Nigerians are ethnic jingoists. Damn, even in Lagos, we hear about stuff like zoning this to Ikorodu Divisin and that to Epe division. For the most part, the people involved in all these have a reason to be bigots- corruption, access to the nasonal akara, bringing resources to their areas etc. But the average Nigerian, the guy next door, the mallam that sells u chewing gum in the morning, the Ibo guy whose Okada u take to work, the Fualni guy from whom you buy kulikuli during lunch, the abeokuta guy who is the conductor on the bus back home, the niger delata guy who is the secretary at work, your boss who might come from benue, these ordinary people, do they believe that the the next person is worse than them because of his/her ethnicity/religion?

Who are the ones that voted Nigeria?

This is my 200th post. And since when did females become interested in football?

Wow! I did not expect this huge response when I first created this thread. And I must say the replies have been very educating. I believe that one size does not fit all and what is one man's poison may be another man's meat. There are some skills necessary for being a successful entrepreneur and others necessary for being an employee. An anlogy: No matter how disciplined, smart, nerdy, entrepreneurial, holy or anything Bill Gates is, he will never be a better dancer than Micheal Jackson, if he does not have the right combination of talent and character to be a successful musician/dancer. In other words, I believe that despite the many benefits of being an entrepreneur, there are a group of people that have the right combination of talents and character to be successful entrepreneurs. Agreed, the temperament for being an entrepreneur can be learnt, but that can only take you so far. So I believe a person has to weigh his/her abilities in terms of entrepreneurial endeavors before jumping on the band wagon. I will rather be the second-in-command to Bill Gates than the owner of an ice-cream shop in Lagos. Other opinions welcomed.

Since I started monitoring activities on nairaland, I have observed with shock and disappointment the alarming number of posts and replies that demean, with very acerbic words, one religion or ethnic group or the other. Having lived in Lagos for almost 20 years, I must say I never observed this character in Nigerians I came by. I was always proud of the cosmopolitan nature of Lagos that ensured that I could meet anyone form any part of Nigeria in Lagos and not feel like that person does not belong in Lagos. Indeed, one of the defining qualities of Lagos is the fact that it is highly diversified. Even if ethnic and religious bigotry existed, it was usually semi-jocular and not as acidic as the ones I see here. So I ask, is the average nigerian an ethnic/religious bigot or are people just posing for what they are not on NL just for the fun of it?

The guy dey inside your ass

@ifunaya

kudos to you. I kinda have the same problem and I guess I have learnt something.

Only one answer: THE ONE AND ONLY AJANLEKOKO. The guy is a phecking legend!

I am sick and tired of agbayas and hypocrites coming here to tell someone to "read his books." This is what irritates me about Nigerians. They are always ready to prove level. They are either older than you, wiser than you, richer than you, or something else. Someone is asking for advise for a particular problem and all some people can write is "read your books." Wtf? Pray tell, if you have nothing to say, why not keep shut. Abi dem use typing on nairaland swear for una people ni?

My guy, I can imagine how u feel and what led u to it. All the pressure from friends and the feeling that you have to do it to cross a bridge in your life. I will say u should decide whether or not you really wan to become sexually active at this stage. If you decide to be sexually active, then, logically speaking, there is nothing bad about visiting a prostitute. I hope I never have to do it. But you are not me and I am not you. If you look at it carefully, you will see that many boyfriends treat their gf as prostitutes. Except this time they add emotions to it. Some of them know they don't love this girl and will never take her down the aisle, yet they remain because of things like attention, emotions, and most of all, SEX. But then, if you feel guilty about it and it is against the morals you stand for, you have an uphill climb, because it is hard, but not impossible, to get out of sex after you get into it. I will advice you start by getting yourself busy with other things e.g an hobby, church etc. Also, something I have realized is, when it comes to sexual relations, usually, it starts from the mind. So be careful about the things you fantasize about, or imagine. Watching indecency will you a lot. And if it is the case that you want to continue having sex, but not with a prostitute, then you have to walk up to a girl and tell her you want to have sex with her. If she says "Yes," you have sex, and if not, nothing spoil. But please don't follow the advises that say you should get a gf because you want to have sex.

That will definitely have to be ibkaye. Sometimes I wonder if she is Nigerian, with her very cool personality. I hope to meet in real life one day.

This is SuperStory! Wale Adenuga Productions! We are nothing but pencil in the hands of the creator!

@delagasky

Thanks. I now know I have my work cut out for me.

@Akinagirl

thank You.

From reading through this section, I have found out many people always talk about "doing something on the side" or "retiring early" etc. Is it really very important not to be working for someone? Those that are "strike out" minded, is not some people that will also work for you? How important is it to be independent/entrepreneurial career-wise?

Dis guy, I just dey feel you. You be real thinker ooo. I go put you next to Obama on my role models list.

Ajanlekoko, I have not met anyone more insight and perspective than you on this forum. Its so obvious that you THINK. And that must in some way account for your success. Please we need you in other sections like politics and romance.

From what I have been hearing nowadays, it seems the world is moving to a stage where you will only earn if you produce. It s almost like there will be a machine measuring one's productivity to determine one's income.

I hope I can adjust quick enough. I have definitely immersed myself in the Nigerian system of come to work, do nothing, and get paid at the end of the month.

Funny thing is I was just reading through the career section and I was seeing all of Ajanlekoko's insightful contrinutions and I was like I must come and see who won the poster of the year. I was not disappointed. More grease to your elbow Ajanlekoko.

Wow, finally I can get some really positive stuff from NL.

Ajanlekoko, you are a god-send. I am so pleased that I came across this thread as a I am very confused. I was very good in mathematics and the sciences back in school so I decided to go for Chemical Engineering in OAU. When I came to the US, my school did not have any engineering so I settled for Computer Science. I was lucky to meet some folks with good career visions and they made me sharpen up and be proactive about my career. Through this, I kept my GPA up and I got an internship with Black & Decker. The problem is I don't seem to have a natural love for Elect Elect, although I plan to get a PhD in Elect Elect after Undergrad. In fact, my internship sucks because it is kind of obvious that i do not have a natural enthusiasm for the computer work we do. Besides they delegate little or nothing to me. I don't even know what I love in terms of a career, but I know I love to think analytically and apply analytical thinking to solving relevant problems. So I decided that I will go into areas of Elect that apply Elect knowledge to solving societal problems e.g medicine. But I am worried that I may not like it and then may be stuck in it. Or maybe the job prospects are not very good in it. I hear that with a PhD I will be stuck in a school. I don't want a boring career. I want to go to bed everyday full of excitement and waiting eagerly for the next day, so I can go to work. If my experience at B & D is anything to go by, then I may never find the fulfillment I desire in Elect or Computer/Engineering in general. I am applying for some summer research programs now and they want a clear idea of what I desire career wise. Should I stick to my plans for Elect and hope that I find a way to apply this knowledge to solving social problems so that I can get fulfillment?