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Thepasserby:
maturity is not quite an easy word to define or describe. But Let me just say He should know your worth and treat you like a lady, not one who is double minded and incapable of taking his own decisions Or being totally responsible for his actions. He should be someone whom you and your secrets are safe with. He should be someone who has a known a bit about life and not just some random Nigga who knows only what He was told by his parents. If He is matured, you will know even from the aura surrounding him and everything He does.

I don't even know How to put it but in all, a matured man can always be differentiated from the boys even in the midst of the crowd. It is not a function of age Or size, it is a thing of the mind.

Was I able to help?

That was beyond help. It's clearly understood. Thanks.

OP, maybe you can't see them to be sexy because you're a guy

The question should be thrown to the ladies. Oya, ladies where art thou

It seems PMB will be in trouble someday. I just hope he won't be disgracefully thrown out. Cos the cunny ways OBJ and Tinubu are stylishly sending some kind of messages.... .. ......

Till then. I'm watching

Thepasserby:
Yes please. Know whom you are dealing with before you hand over your pride to be trampled upon by a boy and his gang.

Thank you so much.

I hope I'm not being a burden with this question I want to ask?

If it pleases you, Can you let the ladies know some of the qualities shown by a man that proves he is matured.

Thepasserby:
It's a matter of maturity. I see No reason why women shouldn't voice out if they love someone. It takes lots of courage even for the guys to do that, so please speak up. Tell him Or her, the worst you can get is a NO.

You mean if a lady decides to propose, she should be sure the man is matured before she proceeds. Right?

lordm:
You no wan marry na

You never talk anything na

Please What are the views of Christians? Is it Advisable for christian ladies to propose to a man? Is it right for the lady to be the first to tell the man she loves him?

If Yes, what are the pros and cons?

And if No, what are the reasons?

Will a Christian man respect the lady who proposed to him or would he love her the same way?


These questions were inspired by this message Sent to me on Whatsapp.

1st year(In university)

I was sitting in the lecture room, looking at that girl sitting next to me. She was my ‘best friend’. She had nice hair, humble and was very beautiful. I wish I could tell her that I loved her so much, but I didn’t want to break the bond. After lectures, she walked to me, borrowed some notes of the previous class hugged and pecked me goodbye.

I wish I told her, I wish she knew
That I wanted us to be more than just friends
I loved her, but I was shy
I didn’t know why.



2nd year

My phone rang, it was her; she called me to tell me how much she was hurt. Her boyfriend just broke her heart. She asked me to go keep her company. I went to see her; coz she was my best friend. As I sat next to her, I looked her in the eye, wishing she was mine. After two hours of having fun and hanging out, she was okay; so I left her to go to bed. Before I left, she looked me in the eye with a beautiful smile, hugged me goodbye.

I wish I told her, I wish she knew
That I wanted us to be more than just friends
I loved her, but I was shy
I didn’t know why.

3rd year

One day, before the grand school end year party, she asked me to accompany her to the school dance. I was very happy, because every moment with her was special. But we went to the party ‘as just friends’. After the party, I sat at the door. I looked at her, as she chatted with her friends. She happened to look at me, and then gave me that killer smile.



I wish I told her, I wish she knew
That I wanted us to be more than just friends
I loved her, but I was shy
I didn’t know why.




Graduation day


Days, weeks, months passed. It was the graduation day, so happy and excited we had completed our studies. She stood up, to go pick her certificate. As she walked elegantly, I couldn’t stop staring at her. I wanted her to be mine, but she didn’t notice me like that. Before she left, she came with her graduation gown, looked at me, gave me a smile and told me, ‘your forever my best friend’



I wish I told her, I wish she knew
That I wanted us to be more than just friends
I loved her, but I was shy
I didn’t know why.



Wedding day

3 years down the line, in the church, she walks down the aisle, with her parents on her side.

It really hurts me, since my chance is now gone. I love her too much, but I got to let her go. She is being married with another man.

I wanted her to be mine, but she didn’t see me like that. But as she walked she looked at me and gave me that killer smile. Whispered to me “BEST FRIEND EVER”



I wish I told her, I wish she knew

That I wanted us to be more than just friends

I loved her, but I was shy
I didn't know why




Burial day

Days, months, years passed.5 years later, I went to mourn the love of my life. The love I was afraid to tell. As I viewed her lain body, it hurt me that she left without knowing I loved her.

During the service, they read her diary. The mc began

‘I stare at him; I would love to have him in my life. I try to simulate situations, but he doesn’t seem to notice
me.’ I love him, I wish he knew. I would really want us to be more than just friends. I love him but am shy to say. I don’t know why.



My strength was over, I Knelt before the crowd, as tears dropped down my chicks. Those words touched me deeply. I wish I told her. But its now too late, she is gone.


I wish I told her, I wish she knew

That I wanted us to be more than just friends

I loved her, but I was shy

I didn’t know why.



BREAK THE SILENCE> IF YOU LOVE SOMEONE; TELL THEM.


SHARE TO ENCOURAGE MEN THAT ARE STILL boys!! ND GIRLS THAT ARE SHy
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Don't dare if it will come between you and GOD though

European Summer Time is the variation of standard clock time that is applied in most European countries, not including Iceland, Belarus, Turkey and Russia — in the period between spring and autumn, during which clocks are advanced by one hour from the time observed in the rest of the year, in order to make the most efficient use of seasonal daylight. It corresponds to the notion and practice of "daylight saving time" to be found in many other parts of the world.

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Summer_Time_in_Europe

27 Mar 2016 - Daylight Saving Time Started
When local standard time was about to reach
Sunday, 27 March 2016, 02:00:00 clocks were turned forward 1 hour to
Sunday, 27 March 2016, 03:00:00 local daylight time instead
Sunrise and sunset was about 1 hour later on 27 Mar 2016 than the day before.

https://www.timeanddate.com/time/change/france?year=2016

On October 30, 2016 at 3 in the morning the clocks are changed back from Winter Time to Daylight Savings Time in France. The clocks have to be shifted from 3 to 2 am. So, the people can enjoy this very hour twice. The winter time, also called normal or standard time, is going to be valid until the next Time Change to daylight savings time in the upcoming year

http://www.timechange.info/france-2016/



I'm still in need of some explanations

I learnt the reason for changing the clock backwards or forward is due to changes in summer and winter or the length of day and length of time.

I hope it's not a daft question. But I seriously need a detailed explanation to the understanding of a lay man.

If time can be changed manually due to some meteorological reasons I wish to understand better, doesn't that mean it can also be manipulated for selfish or I'll rather say political reasons?

Please, I would be extremely grateful if anyone can explain to my understanding the reason for clock changes or time zone change in European countries.

I'm more interested in that of France though. But I'm sure the explanations related to other countries will suffice.

GoodMuyis:
I think Nairaland mod owe The Christian Community Apology for pushing a false and defaming story to FP

Even in the first Place the Thread suppose to be in Diary seeing the nature of the story being a perssonal life story

I'm waiting for the day they'll apologize. You really have to study the kind of threads from the religion section that make front page.

paulGrundy:
He may not even be whom he claimed to have been. He may have been a mere cell leader, not even a pastor. On the internet anything is possible people can assume a different identity.

I think the title of his threads should be:
-Memoirs of a disgruntled theist

It wouldn't surprise me a bit if he isn't who he claimed.

These days, it seems we have a lot of wolves here looking for sheep to devour.

damogul:
Did you say i should give him time to do his research? What research? His story is 6yrs old so where is the research required to do when he is an eye witness?

He says he knew this person in his school days so did he research before saying so?

Contrariwise i am the one who needs to carry out a research and not him.

The one you quoted is funny.

Maybe he meant you should give him time for research so he can correct his story or defend the loopholes in it.

Don't you think so?

Because I also don't understand the research someone giving his own life story wants to carry out in order to give a believable conclusion.

If he needs a research then it's a story and not a real life experience.

Were the others who had to wait sinners and why did God not answer their own prayer? (I will address this question later)

Please address them before the noise makers come for you.

The part below is for all Christians, and yes Hardmirror is included

the truth is that no man can fully comprehend God or know what he knows but I am content to always appreciate the little knowledge I have of and from him.

My submission is that anyone who tries to fully know/explain God will lose his mind but anyone who ignores Him will lose his soul, thus, I am content with Deut 29:29.

Well Deuteronomy 29:29 says:

The secret things belong unto the LORD our God: but those things which are revealed belong unto us and to our children for ever, that we may do all the words of this law.

He is the creator and is never subject to the wishes, prayers, wills, emotions, needs of his creation even though he responds to them as a responsibility.

Even if any man comes up with “logical” reasons for such experiences, it doesn’t change the fact that they are yet real to me and I keep on getting assurances of His love for me as a father.

This is my favorite :

All the accounts I have shared with you are first hand experiences and you have the choice to believe or disbelieve them, it still doesn’t change God or whether they are true or not but I know whom I have believed, the things I have seen, touched and handled in my walk with Him and am convinced that He lives forevermore .

analice107:
Am still sure you are out of it.

Before the soul of any man gets convicted by the Holy Spirit, the message of salvation is first presented to that soul without which, the soul won't even know it's been doomed for eternity if it did not repent.

And that message is being presented by a man, not the Holy Spirit.

If the Holy Spirit could convict souls and get them converted on his own, he wont need man . But a vessel is most needed in the tranmission of that message, before any conviction can take place.
Satan doest not preach the gospel of salvation.

His agents can mention salvation, but the Gospel which breaks pride, arrogance, anger. unforgiveness, hate, and replaces all with Love, tolerance, care for others, giving to others. Its not and cannot be preached by satan.

satan can not work again himself. Its the law of the spirit.

Sir, you still do not know the message of salvation.

It's so amazing, the bolded. What a message?! That without man, the Holy Spirit can't do anything. I thought it was the other way round.

It's also amazing how you mean all preachers all over the world are true men of God just because they preach salvation in one of their messages.

Not because we want to defend supposed men of God mean we should take glory that is due to God away from Him.

If you can't defend those that preach salvation without dishonoring God, then please think twice.

We are not created to defend God, not to talk of defending his supposed servants especially to the extent of saying God can't save a man without the help of a man.

Be careful dear, especially if you truly love God.

I rest my case.

skeendyke:
HardMirror, I hope you run back to God because as it is you are being hunted by the devil since departing from Christ. The devil will act swiftly to ensure that you never get the chance to repent from your sins.

I don't know why God is so real to some of us but others find it very difficult to have that conviction of His reality which ultimately leads to the HardMirror case.

As such I am reminded of Rick Joyner's book, The Quest. A must read for every believer in Christ.

You just reminded me of that book, The Final Quest. It is a great book. After reading that book, I felt I wasn't in this world anymore. I saw things almost completely through the eyes of Jesus. I felt so not part of this world to the extent my body couldn't take it anymore.

Anything or anybody I see made me think deeply even to the point of tears. I wonder how God cope with such feelings by having all of us, whether dead, alive, in hell or not just before His gaze, under His watch.

My physical body couldn't bear that feeling. I wouldn't have survived carrying such burden, it was just too much. I had to come down from that level so I can easily fulfill my purpose here. It wasn't easy seeing things close to the exact way God sees them. It's just too much for our mind and body.

Have you read the other parts of the book: the call, the torch and the sword.

It's been a very long time I read them. I need to do that again.

All the spiritual activities he said he once partook in were fake. Therefore he never performed any spiritual activity successfully. Even speaking in tongues, I wonder how real it was to him.

In other words, everything that made him brag he was once an outstanding Christian, he faked them since they all turned out not to be real.

Let's conclude maybe, just maybe he is annoyed with God because he realized he doesn't have the gift of performing miracles.

Hardmirror

I don't know the little God gave you that you couldn't maximize it and you couldn't endure enough to get to another level.

You're angry because you needed powers to elevate your status but you were denied that. Now you're blackmailing those with the gifts, who it took them years of endurance, patience, and hunger for more of God to get to that level. Some got it easily though.

I remembered a story I read about a prophetess. She could tell what and what is wrong with someone or what will happen to them tomorrow. At a point in time, she wasn't satisfied with that level anymore. She needed more power.

So she prayed to God to give her the gift of performing miracles but she felt God wasn't answering her or God was too slow.

Then in anger, she told God that the devil is better than him because He gives his children anything they want instantly. It was like she said she prefer to be a child of the devil because he gives such gifts instantly. She renounced Christ from there.

I don't know how that story ended but I remember it was said that the Spirit of God left her immediately.

That's the story you just remind me of.

I'm sure you know Heb 6:4-6. And you understand it better than me. I pray you are given grace over that scripture.

skeendyke:
SuperSuave,

First, I apologize for late reply.

To begin, everyone on earth has a mission in this life. It doesn't matter what belief we practice; we all have a task to fulfill. This task or mission is not exclusive to Christians. Heck, many Christians don't even know what their mission is on earth. They think their chosen vocation automatically translates to their God-given mission. That is living under deception.

Your mission on earth is far more important than all the wealth you have amassed and all the stages of success you have achieved in life. These are necessary but insignificant when compared to your God-given mission.

You said it yourself that you did not ask to be born in Nigeria, or to Christian parents, or to be a member of a particular tribe. Have you even asked yourself why you were born in this age and not the time before Christ? You must know that God, in His wisdom, has placed you where He needs you to be, a unique place where no one else can fit but you. Your purpose makes you unique. He had already planned your birth place, those who will be your parents, the tribe where you will come from and the age He will manifest you long before He created this world which, as you may know, is more than a hundred million years. That means your position has been carefully thought out by God long before your great great ancestors were ever born. It means you are a Nigerian for a purpose. It is no mistake that you are here. God brought you here to perform a task for which He gave you a unique gift to perform that task. Again, everybody has a task to perform that is unique to their personality and each person has a gift to help them succeed in their field.

Okay, maybe I hear you say, "Well, I did not ask to come to this world neither did I ask to be unique or be given any gift. Why do I have to be a part of this evil and wicked world so that I am made to come here without having any say in the matter?"

Of course, you had no part in the decision to come to this world. However, let me ask you a question or two. When your biological father sends you on an errand do you begin to question his right to send you on that errand? Do you begin to throw questions at him like why he brought you to existence, why he makes laws that keep you from enjoying the things of life, why he punishes you when you go wrong, etc. Does that not reflect rebellion against authority? Now, imagine that you are the father and your son throws these questions at you how would you answer him? Would you dare ask your father these questions? You never had any say in the decision to go a particular errand, however, you could choose to obey or rebel once the decision has been made. Your obedience or otherwise will ultimately have an impact on your relationship with your father. Every true father loves an obedient son or daughter dearly, and though they will still love the rebellious one but it cannot compare to the love they have for the obedient one. It is the prayer of every man and woman, including you, to have an obedient child that listens to his/her parents, isn't it?

How much more God the Father of you and your father and your father's father's fathers? In essence, you are being rebellious by asking your Father why He should send you to this world. You are questioning His right and authority to send you on an errand to this world to fulfill a task and return home. What kind of a son does that? Would you give your wayward and rebellious son a pat in the back for his ways, would his rebellious nature make you proud as a father, would you encourage him in his rebellion against your authority by giving him a handsome reward for every time he rebels against you?

Does your heart leap with joy whenever your thoughts wander and rest on your disobedient son?

Never planned to comment on any thread today. But, come on, this is just perfect.

Just Perfect!

"I was referring to my day being made for change in the White House! I am truly sorry for any hard feeling this may have caused! Those who know me know that I'm not of any way racist! Again, I would like to apologize for this getting out of hand," she told the Washington Post.
However, she later told WSAZ radio station that
the public response had become a "hate crime
against me", and that she plans to file lawsuits
against those who have slandered her .

You want to be forgiven but you don't want to forgive others for the same crime you committed. Smh

skeendyke:
It is not about God saving them from punishment or death if it comes to that. God rescued Peter and Paul from incarceration but did He save them from their cruel deaths? Shadrach, Meshach and Abednego said the God they served was able to save them from the flames but that if He did not they would not bow down to the image of the king.

God did not rescue the Apostles from the gruesome deaths they suffered with the exception of John so that he would write the book of Revelation. He did not rescue the early Christians from being burnt on the stake, freezing to death in the cold, from being torn to pieces by wild animals and from being beheaded for their faith in Him because if they persecuted and killed Christ they would do the same to His followers.

May God give these Iranians the strength not to depart from the faith as a result of the persecution they face .

Amen!

Seun:
Trust me, we'll know if it's you. Let him join and let's talk to him.

You do your best not to be bias. That's Honourable.

Would have loved to ask questions on the choice of the forum's wallpaper but I wouldn't like to derail this thread.
So I'll just let it go.

I hope I'm not the only one seeing a background picture or is it called wallpaper on this forum.

Seun, what kind of picture is being displayed on the background of your site. Can you make us see the full image?

I'm seeing a man with a Bible being tempted by a lady or so.

I know you won't answer me though but I wish I could assess the picture.

Besides it makes some words look blurred.

rexben:
Christianity is not unique.
It would've been unique if Christians actually follow Jesus as they claim.
Christians are disciples of Paul and not Jesus

Even Paul was against anyone saying they were his disciples.

I gave you milk, not solid food, for you were not yet ready for it. Indeed, you are still not ready. You are still worldly. For since there is jealousy and quarreling among you, are you not worldly? Are you not acting like mere humans? For when one says, “I follow Paul,” and another, “I follow Apollos,” are you not mere human beings? What, after all, is Apollos? And what is Paul? Only servants, through whom you came to believe—as the Lord has assigned to each his task. I planted the seed, Apollos watered it, but God has been making it grow. So neither the one who plants nor the one who waters is anything, but only God, who makes things grow. The one who plants and the one who waters have one purpose, and they will each be rewarded according to their own labor. For we are co-workers in Godʼs service; you are Godʼs field, Godʼs building. By the grace God has given me, I laid a foundation as a wise builder, and someone else is building on it. But each one should build with care. For no one can lay any foundation other than the one already laid, which is Jesus Christ.
1 Corinthians 3:2-11 NIV
http://bible.com/111/1co.3.2-11.NIV

It's quite understandable but the disciples didn't reject the name you know. The unbelievers saw them to be like father like son hence the name Christians.

So you don't agree with the Bible?

rexben:
Check my post on Who should name a child

The name or tag 'Christians' is a name generally accepted by the world,it is a name accepted by a group of people who claim to follow Jesus.
The name Christian is said to mean 'christ-like' --- doing what Christ did.
The origin of the tag Christians
The first time the name surfaced was 46-48 AD. The disciples were first called Christians in Antioch. Acts 11:26.
and when he found him, he brought him to Antioch. So for a whole year Barnabas and Saul met with the church and taught a significant number of people. Now it was in Antioch that the disciples were first called Christians.
Acts 11:26 NET
The tag Christians was given to believers in Antioch by unbelievers[men,the world]. I wonder why people who supposedly follow Jesus adopt a name given by the world[those that hate(d) Jesus John 7:7;17:14].
The world cannot hate you, but it hates me, because I am testifying about it that its deeds are evil.
John 7:7
I have given them your word, and the world has hated them, because they do not belong to the world, just as I do not belong to the world.
John 17:14 NET
Who should name a child?
A child is named by his or her parents. The parents of a child is obliged to name their child. Let me ask a question here; can you bear a name given to you by people who hate your father?
Who should name a believer?
A believer is said to be a person that believes in Jesus. So, the person solely obliged to name a believer is Jesus[for all that belongs to God also belongs to Jesus John 17:10] and not the world [the world is controlled by the devil Matt 4:8-9]. How will the world[haters of Jesus and His Father John 17:14] name a believers and this believers joyfully accepted the name then and even now?
8 Again, the devil took him to a very high mountain, and showed him all the kingdoms of the world and their grandeur. 9 And he said to him, "I will give you all these things if you throw yourself to the ground and worship me."
Matt 4:8-9 NET
Jesus said His disciples are not of this world John 17:14. If they are not of this world, they will not associate themselves with the name given by the world. If any disciple of Jesus needs a tag, let him/her go to Jesus words and pick a name. Jesus used many names to qualify his disciples. He called them disciples Matt 10:24,branches John 15:1,sheep John 10:2,friends John 15:15,brothers John 20:17,little flock Luke 12:32,my ecclesia Matt 16:18.

https://www.nairaland.com/3272568/should-name-new-baby

Are you saying we shouldn't identify with the name Christians because it wasn't revealed first by believers?

otemanuduno:
brainwashed

Thanks dear.

This thread will look kind of fair if naijadeyhia comes online especially since he was mentioned.

OP, Can't you pause this thread for a while till he shows up?

He used to supposedly come out with a thundering voice to show his supremacy to the Isrealites, but now that there are video cameras and recorders, he has somehow stopped.

I Can't laugh enough. OP you're so funny.

I'm sure you got this - All things were and are created for His pleasure. It means He created us to please Him. So the question should be are we pleasing Him? What pleases God? What can I do to please God?


Most of your questions are not for humans to answer but for God to answer.

If I never believed God exists, if I never believed which one is the true God since I've heard those gods see all things and can hear everything, I'll just speak out from my heart and say - God of all gods, I want to believe in you but I need you to help me believe, please reveal yourself to me and help my unbelief. That's all

If after doing all this from my innermost heart and supreme God no show Himself, Omo na OYO that God dey ooo because me I Don do my part.

I wish you the best OP

Much love.

The only source of evidence to prove some people wrong has also been destroyed.

The pastors who do this detestable things, the doctors who tagged along with them and the ones who also frame up a story to destroy evidence -.. ...

Well God says, HE will build His church and the gates of hell shall not prevail against it.

Even if all evidences are burnt down, even when lies are told, even when the churches are being mocked at, even when it seems the enemy is winning - The Lord will arise and build His church and the gates of hell will not prevail against it.

God wins always.

Lennycool:
I don't want to argue too. But the truth is you're only practicing your religion because you were born where you were born and at this time. Change any of those two parameters and you would be in another religion. I didn't say my side was right or wrong but it is the most logical.
There are 4000 plus Gods in the world, each with its own loyal followers and history. It is either they are all real which you will admit is impossible, since they contradict each other or they are largely non existent.
I refuse you believe that one side out of the thousands is correct and the rest wrong without concrete evidence.
I refuse to believe on just faith alone. As faith is found in all religions, evidence on the other hand is not.

I believe there are other gods. I believe there are different paths to follow but I also believe out of all those gods and paths only one is the truth. Because we can't have many truths since they don't agree with each other.

Let's just hope and pray we are on the right path.

But don't you think if there is a God, then HE is God because He is too big for your logical mind to contain Him? How else will He be God if our logical mind that has a limit contain His fulness.

So dear, please, let's just hope and pray to be on the right path.

CeoMYN:
You are right at the bolded part, but it's different now.
I have broken free.

Let's all just hope truly we are free. Let's all hope and pray that we're indeed in the right path.

I believe in different paths of / to life but I'm sure only one stands out.

I pray we all locate that one before it's too late.

Let's all be careful here. We shouldn't behave as if we are not happy something good happens to someone. Let's rejoice with her. She's a nairaland member for crying out loud.

This is not a place for atheists and theists to gather and make fun of each other. It is not a place for you to look for the survival of the fittest. It is a place to rejoice with our sister.

Seun, I believe in you so much. Please don't forget there is time for everything. You don't resurrect a dead matter that doesn't bring joy to the soul of another.

All of you should take your stupid, senseless and selfish arguments away from this thread except you are here to rejoice with the Op.

AND I wouldn't like anyone to get on my nerves here. All of you derailing this thread are wrong. Whether theists or not, you're all wrong.

otemanuduno:
You always make yourself feel and look important and I laugh in Swahili at that. Naijadeyhia(aka the 419), Pls stop paying people to open all manner of misleading threads on nairaland because I AM HERE to record the truth of every version of lies you and your likes propagates(including the lies of yahweh(satan) your god).
LAST WARNING: DON'T USE YOUR MONEY TO DECEIVE THE IGNORANT PEOPLE OF MY COUNTRY, OR ELSE PEOPLE OF THE FUTURE SHALL READ OF YOU(SAMUEL EKWEME aka Naijadeyhia/4evergod) AS A VILLAIN AND A SCAMMER!!!

A WORD IS ENOUGH FOR THE WISE!!!

Please forgive me but must you go that far? Even without evidence he paid people to tell lies?