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SpencerForbes:
The choice is yours Just ensure you are ready for the inevitable moments: explaining to your children why they lack a father at events like Parents/Teachers Forums, or handling situations where they need a parental figure when you are absent. You must be prepared to fully embody both the mother and father roles, like aunty Tonto (she even had to dress like a man on Father’s Day) to ensure your children never feel the void of the missing parent.

Goodluck ✌️

Don't mind her. They think having a child is only about money...

pansophist:
His first mistake was to go where he can spend 109k on the first date.

From the beginning, you can always predict the end. If on a first date, you begin hear funny locations like sheraton restaurant, or some rooftop places, you should not go there unless you can afford it.

Trying to give the perception of ''money no be problem'' is bad. If she think you are broke for being frugal, then she just confessed that she is not good for you. You cant have high tatse on someone's else pocket.

Men should understand that since they have the responsibility to spend, then they also have the right to choose how, where, and what to spend on. ''Responsibilities'' and ''rights'' go hand in hand.

If a girl insist on a particular place to meet and it seems expensive, playfully ask if she is the one taking you out. If her response seems like she is expecting you to foot the bills, then decline if it is above your budget.

A woman that likes you will happily meet you at a bus station, and walk in a park with just a bottle of water and groundnut.

You guys are just stressing yourselves over this matter. He will do it again. He went for a slay queen and was trying to be a "big boy" to her. The lady being smarter only wanted a meal ticket of him and utilized it big time, then he is online whining. I am sure he will do it again, his type are egotistic and don't learn.

Sonnobax15:

Imagine being thrown back into the labour market where the streets ain't even smiling at . At first,e memory go first blank when he receive the suspension...

Na then he go come remember say Michael Jackson na rapper
The worst path to even take is to consider a legal way to sort things out . Lawyers go drain you ,while magistrate go dey adjourn case up and down . You will be left regretting why you didn't just accept your sack as a part of your fate and move on with your life

He is more than people that can be thrown into the labour market. He has special skills but his lack of discipline might "kill" him completely.
To buy get another job and create another platform will be easy for this kind of person. Na people like us wey no get any special skills them fit throw for labour market.

LibertyRep:
No smoke without fire, you know.

One can't entirely trust the tax collectors


I wouldn't understand the rationale of using private consultants to do the exact job civil servants are being paid for.

This is rampant nowadays.

It is really crazy! So what's now the jobs of FIRS and CBN. To make matters worse, the Xpresspay private company will still be owned by them.

FreeStuffsNG:
Awesome!! This is absolutely brilliant 👏

There has been clamor for this for long but unlike his predecessors, Asiwaju Tinubu provided alternatives to protecting these important Nigerians.

The police officers are clearly underutilized as bodyguards. NSDC will need to recruit more as it is taking up more assignments from mining marshals now to VIP security.

Now the problem of insecurity has just been solved! How Genius!! You can clap for yourself and your pay-masters.

If you are AS Genotype, you will recover naturally without the ACT but if AA, then take it seriously...

Uptheante:
You just ended up talking rubbish.

Facebook is owned by an independent American citizen Mark Zuckerberg, not by the American govt. as you seem to insinuate.

As for Donald Trump, you can hate him or like him, but the truth still remains that he's the first world leader to call attention to christian genocide in Nigeria & even demonstrate willingness to stand up for Nigerian christians that are killed & destroyed by rampaging Islamic terrorists with govt. negligence.

None of the Europeans & their ilks were bold & courageous enough to stand up for the long-suffering Nigerian christians till Donald Trump came up. A lot of them knew what was happening to Nigerian christians but they looked the other way, because of either political correctness or cowardice to stand up for the oppressed.

You can go ahead & deny the obvious christian genocide in Nigeria, but hardcore evidences are everywhere.

You don't read to comprehend. You are just itchy to react.

This Zulum is deranged man! These are the misfits that we put in power to bury this country.
Criminal elements carrying advanced weapons around and killing people with it while you are organising prayer sessions to wish away the killers.
This Zulum must be one of the Terror Sponsors! If someone attacks with an AK 47 and all you can do is organise to pray against them, you a Saboteur! He has been sabotaging his people...

jchioma:
I’m shocked at Facebook for condescending so low to have this man’s account deleted. It does not tell well of the freedom of speech rights and privilege.

He should open X and other social media accounts. The truth and the reality on ground of the massacre against Christians and general insecurity must not be denied a platform. It will only empower the terrorists and their enablers.

Even America can't be trusted with all these their designations and re-designations. Is FACEBOOK not an American owned company? Are they unaware of the struggles of the man behind the account? So on what basis was it deleted? It's just rubbish to me! Trump we know has shown hatred towards Africans. Same man dumping condemned criminals on African soil is one screaming Christian Genocide in Nigeria (even though there is Christian Genocide), but he doesn't truly care, he is just putting up a show and trying to get back at Nigeria for Tinubu's deliberate avoidance of America and Nigeria's affiliations with BRICS.
It would have been better if it was Europeans coming to help out than this treacherous Trump.

Kobojunkie:
Weaponizing ignorance by way of ridiculous questions, can't help you any here. The comment you responded to clearly states the context in which all the above-listed would apply. So, why comment when you are not interested in engaging your brain at least?

You argue with so much write-up but little or no relevance. There isn't much to engage my brain with in your contraptions, it's mostly pointless volume.

Kobojunkie:
According to studies, the following are some of the aspects covered by many women in traditional marriage situations across the world every day(beside each is the lowest cost of hiring a professional to do the same work per year).

OP, can you afford to hire professionals to do this work that a woman does for men with whom they are in a relationship?

This is absolute null! What sort of imaginary analysis is this? You analyse as though men don't do house chores at all... So a professional has to be hired to handle what exactly?
Even if a domestic aid is to be hired, then it means the wife must be working and contributing financially and otherwise to the family.
This attitude of women always trying to act smart is really anti-social.
You want a man to provide all and then you have absolutely nothing to contribute to his life cos I don't see sex as a benefit in a relationship, that is just bullshit.

Kobojunkie:
Are you really asking me these questions in the year 2025 because you are truly ignorant of the benefits men gain from having relationships with women? Are you really saying this because you do not know by now how many of your grandmothers and mothers were shortchanged in most of their relationships by the men they were in relationships with?
Do you want us to believe that a man who expressed his desire to a woman who wants a man who will help fund the cost of her hair care needs should be able to date her without needing to fulfill the obligation which he signed up for? Are you asking me this because even now, you do not fully realize that the man benefits more from being in a relationship than the woman does?

A simple question. WHAT DOES A MAN BENEFIT IN A DATING RELATIONSHIP?

Throwback:
It is evident that our military leadership and government do not know what to do or need to be compelled to take the drastic actions they have been avoiding.

I very much welcome the attention that America and Trump are focusing on a truly disgraceful and shameful country that has failed to protect its own citizens from local terrorism since the past 15years.

A useless country where police and military news regale us with tales of how they engaged attackers and managing to kill only a few and chasing the rest of them into the bushes with presumably gunshot injuries, but same police and military men then return to their bases as though the threat has been neutralised?

Tinubu is currently failing in providing security for the country, but has time to conclude without failure as his verdict.

This is not the time for sentiments or politics, this is time for merciless vengeance.

It's either Tinubu did not really realise the magnitude and severity of what he was getting into or he just doesn't give a flyingfuck!

Kobojunkie:
So, a woman asking her man for money to take care of her hair needs is a street girl?

Why bother dating women when you are not willing to give even the bare minimum where dating is concerned? Why even engage women if you know you have nothing to offer them?

Which dating rule says a man must give a woman the money to make her hair? Or that you must take care of a woman's financial needs because you are dating her?
What does dating really mean to you girls of nowadays?
And what do you "dated" women have to offer except dragging equality and arguing women rights with a man? Same man you expect to care of your needs as if you are handicapped.

At least, the result of Tinubu's subsidy money is showing. Part of it is used to fund terrorism!
We the Southerners and Christians need to stop being docile and start gearing for our defences. It is never too late to start, else, these mofos will continue to attack us...

You just have to maintain your confidence. No send their papa, them no fit do you anything. But you don't make it so obvious.
You go still relate with them man-to-man, you no be street normally?
You sef go relate with them according to street level, you don't need to be a cultist, you already a Naija boy .
If you get money, once in a while you give them, if you no get let them know say you no get! No long stories and no fear them and no need of reporting them. Them full my area for here too, I just know how I dey handle them, I don't see them as a problem.

This is where I find Nigerians very stewpeed! When a Lieutenant Soldier demonstrated act of insolence against a higher authority, an FCT Minister, you all applauded him because you didn't like the personality involved but you forgot he represented an institution of Nigeria at that point.
Now that your highly respected Army has sabotaged Kebbi State and the entire country (not the first time they have done this), you want to question them? How? They are not answerable to anybody, you people already placed them above the country and the laws of the land.
The FG Government now closing down schools for terrorists and failed army. Our farmers had already been shut out of their farms, let them also shut down the entire country, so that we can all sit at home for terrorists to take over.

Kobojunkie:
For you to suggest that women should settle for the bottom of the barrel sample of men out there is already more than an admission that you hate women from your very core.

2. Calling out an immature man with a poverty mindset means I am defensive and ready to fight? Maybe you are right because I would rather not have my sisters, daughters, or anyone I love have any dealings with such individuals. You can keep them all for yourself. I have no need for them 🥱🥱

3. Sharing personal items? Is that how you choose to see it? OP never said the reason why she didn't want to give it to the girl had anything to do with them being personal items. Also, if OP's fiancé couldn't afford to purchase those items for his own sister who desired them, what are we discussing here? 🥱🥱

4. Go out there and ask the millions of women stuck in poverty-riddled/misery-mired/financially abusive situations out there if life isn't hard for them in that equation they got themselves all tangled up in. 🥱🥱🥱

Even from the way you itemise your points, na troublesome person you go be naturally.
Your grammar sef come be like say na English you study for school at Masters or PhD level.
I know I can't win you, I rest my argument here.

Nemesis0147:
you wish…..

Better!

Kobojunkie:
Awon scarcity mentality people.... na so una go carry men wey no even give una the bare minimum still dey beat chest say at least una get man. Una settle for man for marriage and now una wan advice others to settle like you all did, all because misery loves company.

Look, I would never advise a woman or even my daughter to settle when it comes to life or marriage. She is better off single and happy— there are so many women out there who are happy, single, and fulfilled— than unhappily, miserable, and living in survival mode in marriage, like so many single married women out there today are.

I am not a woman and I don't hate you but I don't fancy you all the same. You always sound so defensive and ready to fight. Relationship go hard you my sister, that's just how I perceive you.
Most people didn't support the idea of sharing personal items but when it got to your turn, you turned it to "pre-nuptial agreement". Is life really this difficult or you are just the one making it so hard?
Dey calm down abeg, true happiness is in marriage, if you get it above average. It doesn't have to be perfect. At least, that's how your Dad and mum had you and raised you together within a family with discipline, love and care. So why are you now a fighter?

GenFunction:
Even if he bought it for you,mans has no right to make such demands.
Ur bf is sausy

I swear! I can't imagine to ask my wife for such material for anyone, even if I bought it for her. It crazy and disgusting to me. And my wife has never tried such before, we are 10years already...

Kobojunkie:
You dey fiance a immature poverty-stricken man in this economy? You no like yourself or your life at all. Hating yourself is a primary warning sign/red flag here.

Do you even realize the many things that could go wrong if you marry this man? He could have his family coming to your place to take as they please when you both become married, and there wouldn't be much you could do about it then. Do you realize that the man you plan to marry would likely fund his family during your marriage with money you both should have been using to build your futures? These are some of the things that you should hash out in a prenuptial agreement before marriage. Additionally, consider a prenuptial agreement requiring that if both of you contribute financially to the marriage, then not only would the marriage's communal wealth belong to you both — meaning you both divide property from the marriage equally— but that you both handle as partners all the responsibilities in a marriage — a partnership relationship in place of master-slave marriage.

This is 2025, and we are entering 2026. If you do this to yourself, you will have yourself to blame for the duration of the marriage for all that befalls you. Start loving yourself and don't even bother getting a man until you have completely centered yourself and your interests — acquire self-love. Better step back and focus on your financial security and getting you a man who can carry his own weight to marry, if at all.

This "kobojunkie" lady dey always behave somehow. I am too sure you are single (I will be too surprised if you are not) and E go really hard you to get a man! You already built high walls around yourself, it will be good for you if you are not naija-based, else, you go learn.

Nemesis0147:
don’t mind them
Very selfish people….what are clothes and wig?
And what makes her think that she won’t be asking for a favor from the same lady in the future?

Na the man suppose bail out

You must be one of those people with such dirty habit.

Afriifa:
The question is if your Fiance has a car, and your brother asks you to help him ask your fiancé to borrow him his car for a similar event, if you guys refuses, the question now is that how would you handle it? Your answer to that question solves the problem.

Oga, it is not the same thing sir. Borrowing a car is far more reasonable than borrow a dress or wig, those are very personal items.
A car is less personal.
I find it disgusting and haven't really experienced it. But I have lent out my car before on several occasions and for different reasons but never clothing materials. That's crazy!

Since your wedding is in 4months, whatever we say now can't change anything.
You see marriage is not easy as it usually looks. So, to make it less challenging you need avoid some kinds of trouble. This particular case is one of it, but if you can cope with lending out your private materials it's fine.
And lastly if your fiance can be angry over something crazy like this, trust me he is not worth it. He probably with his family live a fake life, wanting to always appear more than they are.
Good luck to you!

Igirigimercenar:
My a.nger is on the y.orubas, why are they hellbent on preserving the unity of this country even after watching this?

Why why why?

Y.orubas,why are you guys so in love with Nigeria that you cannot see that it just can't work? Work with your fellow southerners so that Nigeria can be balkanized peacefully

Yorubas are not in love with Nigeria. They are truly cowards. We are truly cowards and support whoever we feel is stronger so we can be friends and safer with them.

This one too is another Reno. They stand for nothing but their stomach. The crazy part is they want to use whatever means to influence the people along whatever direction they sway even if it is a wrong way.

parags:
You are then in support of the deaths of all the people IPOB killed . The presenter on radio Rwanda was sentenced to death for incitement . The propagandists media guy in Germany was hanged for pushing the anti-semitic agenda during world War 2 that led to deaths of millions of jews . Some people are saying he only said things he didnt make people do it . I pray you all recover from what is wrong with you . Real people , families died because of Kanu .

So because of the chaos and injustices in the north , other criminals should be freed ? Can you guys hear yourselves ? This sentence is the appropriate and I support it fully . Any terrorist should be jailed for life !

And how many terrorists has been jailed for life?
Who are the terrorists in Nigeria?
All the defenders of Islamic terrorists in Nigeria, what has happened to any one of them? Have they done better or worse than Nnamdi Kanu has done?
I don't know what is our fear in this country? Is it fear for life? Life that you don't even really have. If them born you well make you travel interstate now from whatever region you are to another! Is that you life you are fearing for?
You claim to support justice but turn a blind eye at immense injustices going on.
People like you won't speak against the church killings that we have all seen. If not for the video, you people will say it's a propaganda. Even some are saying that already inspite of the hard evidence.
The monster we norture today will grow to consume us tomorrow...

QuotaSystem:
The court showed mercy indeed. All is well that ends well.

This is much better than any death penalty that would have made him a martyr, and his tomb a center for pilgrimage by his minions.

Thank you President Tinubu. Thank you Late President Buhari (that lured, captured and caged the skirt-chasing terrorist in the most legendary manner).

Katsina Prison loading….RIP Fendi

trutharena:
Death penalty is the appropriate punishment for treason.

Human biases will lead to the end of humanity. Death for Treason by the same Government that has the list of terrorism sponsors but chose to hide it.
Same Government now negotiating with terrorists in army uniforms and arms all over their bodies. Giving away our hard earned money to fund further terrorism.
Same Government that compromised the Nigeria Army with Terrorists in the name of repentance.
Then everybody in the Government involved in all these cover-ups must be killed. If that's how it is.
I am not in support of Nnamdi Kanu for his violent agitations but a lot of his claims and forecasts are here with us. Nigeria has become haven to terrorists and dungeon to freedom fighters.
These obvious ass-licking by Yorubas to Northerners will end up consuming us completely in the South-West. Look at the Owo church massacre of yorubas and now Eruku in Kwara of help women and children.
Yorubas are destined to be enslaved or unalived by Northerners eventually... This is what I see. The Igbos already took a stand but Yorubas are neither here nor there and will eventually be consumed, it's already happening.
Northerners already trooping in with their trucks and herds...

What are you concerned about? If not sentiments. These things you claimed the Easterners planning are already been executed by the Northerners and you aren't afraid of that.
My own concern is Yorubas should take a stand or be consumed. I am not in support of the sentencing of Nnamdi Kanu, if those who have done and still doing worse are holding meetings with the same Government.
This is mania! This is just insanity!!
As a Yoruba person, I can say currently we stand for nothing and we will be easy preys when Nigeria finally "cast", because it is going to "cast". It is just a matter of time...

trutharena:
Death penalty is the appropriate punishment for treason.

You people don't think before you talk. "Death for Treason" by the same Government that has the list of terrorism sponsors but chose to hide it.
Same Government now negotiating with terrorists in army uniforms and arms all over their bodies. Giving away our hard earned money to fund further terrorism.
Same Government that compromised the Nigeria Army with Terrorists in the name of repentance.
Then everybody in the Government involved in all these cover-ups must be killed. If that's how it is.
I am not in support of Nnamdi Kanu for his violent agitations but a lot of his claims and forecasts are here with us. Nigeria has become haven to terrorists and dungeon to freedom fighters.
These obvious ass-licking by Yorubas to Northerners will end up consuming us completely in the South-West. Look at the Owo church massacre of yorubas and now Eruku in Kwara of help women and children.
Yorubas are destined to be enslaved or unalived by Northerners eventually... This is what I see. The Igbos already took a stand but Yorubas are neither here nor there and will eventually be consumed, it's already happening.
Northerners already trooping in with their trucks and herds...

ebukal67x:
We dont need the charity of the Huizenga guy. We will sort ourselves out.

When everyone has been wiped out? Is that the sorting plan?