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Why are you looking for what to do to her? You are a wicked person. What was on your mind when you where sending the money? You wanted to sleep with her because you sent her transport. When she come you get transport to send her back?

Its your womanizing sef that got you to that. You sent her money she didnt come better forget it and just learn the lesson you should have learnt before now.

In this insecurity times in Nigeria. Any girl that falls for facebook friendship and just travels down to see a man she barely knows is at her own risk.

Having revenge in your mind wont help you. You dont know who she is and the kind of person she is. Better you forget that money. After all what is your reward sex after the sex what again .

She isnt right about what she did and those telling you to rape her do this and that wont be there when you pay the consequences. Let the money go .

Why did you go to her place in the first place if you dont have feelings for her.
Now you are asking what sef.
You want us to tell you to date her or seek permission from your friend before you do?
I simply dont understand.

The truth of the matter is she feel that will turn you on the more. Let just say its part of the whole get ready for sex thing. Like the way you feel sucking her will turn her on maybe the way she feel licking you ears will. Its just part of romance. Some women get turned on when their ear is lick some there boobs some their neck and so on.
Dont find it strange. But if you dont like it simply point it out to her that you get turned off with ear licking she will adjust.

You giving her that amount of money to start business shows you really love her and trust her.
The simple logic tell her she returning the capital you invested shows you can trust her anytime. That she may need help to invest more next time and you wont trust her to return it mean she isnt reliable to return it. Hope you understand the logic.
If it is not about the money let her be and forget the money. Give her a word to create memory next time she will need help then forget it. No matter how forcefully you try to collect the money she will give it to you when she has it or rather you may not get the money again. Which ever way just be cool with it.
But if its about the money abeg collect your money back you help her to stand she should be grateful enough to return the capital.
As for the birthday if you love her do what your mind says. I dont have any advice for that.

Have pics of your own ex on your phone and tell him you have moved on too.
Some people dont understand things until you do the same to them.
Pretend nothing is wrong and you are not bothered then do the same thing he is doing and see how he react maybe he can learn from that

Well it is not wrong for a lady to decide not to to have sex with you in a relationship and till marriage.

It is also not wrong that a man decide not be financialy commited in a relationship
Your choice

But who brought up the sex issue?

If you make sex an issue at the beginning of a relationship you are shooting yourself gun on the leg. What happen to other things that can enhance a relationship.
The guy claiming he wants to start somthing serious with the girl i dont think you are telling us and yourself the truth. The way you said you evaporated doesnt even show an atom of seriousness. She said no sex but said money can be involved you ran like an antelope because the word no sex was involved. There is actually no way you reasoned with her on getting to know each other better and sex should be put aside. For her to say money should be involved what lead to that ? Did you cut off some other conversation just to paint her bad ?. For guys who will comment the guy did a good thing. It means there is nothing you can offer in a relationship too. You just want to have a girl who will be sleeping with you. And when she says no sex you paint her as bad.

Any woman now who says no sex till marriage na bad person now. But you want to marry a good girl. A virgin abi.

One thing guys have refused to understand is test of motive .
Every girl want to know your motive when you come gushing out tales of love story. Ladies arent dump. When you approach her she has decided within if she wants you or not. Sex before marriage money before sex and all that crap is for you to show that person hidden in you. Run she knows the kind of person you are , stay your true reason for coming to her will still show.
Sex or money shouldn't be an issue if you are genuine.
Men shouldn't be running after women for sex in the name of love. You are just deceitful and a liar.

When the lady agrees to sex you cant even take care of her. You want her as bed mate with no responsibility. You are the same person to say i just met her last week we had sex all the time am tired of her. She is too loose. You go after another girl another relationship. Leaving that one who has committed her time and body to you. If you know you are not ready for a committed relationship stay off this ladies to find some better for them. Every womans biological clock is ticking. To go to waste there time . You may find out at the long run she will be the one to offer sex because she dim you worthy. When sex is brought up in a relationship dont make it an issue. Unless your brain is twisted around the butt
Fear God ooo

That guy is a big fool. That is why women , Ladies shouldnt jump into any relationship without background check.
When a lady say no sex till marriage now men will say she is not serious she is not even a virgin.
Most of this men just come to ruin your lives. Keep you in relationship for years till they are ready to let you go.
Ladies have to be wise.

This one na reason? Better dig deep before you start posting shit

When a woman is ready to settle down and looking forward to meeting Mr right abstinence is one thing they walk towards. They decide to keep themself clean. They cant bring back their virginity so rather they choose to abstain for the right one. A woman cant say she is ready for marriage you are not sure if the person you want to date will marry you why waste time again. Having sex with him and he keeps pretending before you know it two years is gone you break up start again. How many relationships will the woman go into untill she finds out she had slept with more that ten different men in the name of relationship. So its better who that cannot stay without sex now that am ready isnt ready for marriage but just to waste their time. Thats why women at that age dont want to indulge untill they know you have come to stay. Especially when a man makes sex an issue .

Where there picture na.

I laugh. This guy just think he has won a trophy by sleeping with a girl easily with cunny motive.
You feel like you have accomplished somthing big. If you know how useless and unreasonable you sound you wouldnt come up here writing nonsence. You may hide under estate and fake driver but when karma hits you , you wont recognise yourself again.
Keep playing till you meet your match.

Go for the heart.

All this responsibility shit is bullshit. You just looking for a reason to dump one. You think because she can pay her bills means you wont still do your manly duties?

As long as she works she is paying her bills without you dear but if you come into the picture your responsibility as a man must show

Better leave that guy. Too much sex you offer him is making him want more that what he deserves.

If you try it with him. My friend you its your anus that will suffer.

I once knew a friend who tried it in school saw her pooing and she was crying.

Plz dont try it for anyone. Its time for you to go clean. Clean up yourself from sexual indulgence plz.

That guy has no love for you. The sex he is enjoying has entered his head

Let her try garlic.
Just a clove of garlic peel the this out wash it before inserting cut small out of the garlic then insert inside .
Insert at night remove in the morning.

There are other types of insertions she can buy at a PHARMACY. Just tell them insertions for female genital cant remember the names. They have different one.

But first let her go for a swab test to know the type of infection she has. Then take it to a doctor she will be given serious of drugs and injection for 5 or 7 days with insertions

Good luck. Its not the womans fault. Infection can came from anywhere. Some is taking much surgery stuff affect vagina PH different things . From toilet from sex. Let her pee immediately after sex it reduces infection too. Drug .
Tell her not to leave it like that there is solution . Help her and she will be greatful to you.

YOU JUST MET HER THE NEXT THING YOU ARE SLEEPING WITH HER.

PEOPLE THEIR THING DOESNT STAY ONE PLACE

ONLY MEET GIRLS TO SLEEP WITH THEM NEXT.

YOU NEVER CONTACT NI

Google is close . This guy is screaming as if finding cloves of garlic is somthing spiritual or somthing. The person that put garlic there has told you its intentional what scary about it. Is that why you ran to Nairaland to scream . Ignorance dey worry you sef.

Simply Google it.

The answer is there i cant come and be explaining that to you

Its normal

For those who have gf with vagina odour let them try it.
Its surpose to be used in the night then removed in the morning for 2 days or 4day depending on how severe. They have other types of insertions women can buy at medical stores.

Its a good thing you are celibate. To avoid unwanted things attached to you. But let me tell you the truth dont depend on that guy forever. You will just waste a lot of your time. I was once in that shoe. Waited and waited talked and talked. I got tired of the whole story of am coming am coming. Stoped picking his call left him focus on things i can see. Meet someone wonderful dated and got married. Some people are just destiny waster better be wise.

My sisters one year 7 month baby hasnt poo for close to 5 days now. Its like when she want to poo she finds it unconfortable she begins to sweat and cry for some minutes then it goes away.
The doctor advised water lite food but it hasnt helped her poo in anyway.

Eat garden egg often it helps alot.

Thats how my father told me to send him 15k that an actor in Nigeria want to send him Laptop and other things. So in other to deliver it to him he need to pay 15k for it to be delivered.
I told him strictly if he want to give him that he will not need money to send it. Thats its fraud
My father didnt believe it.

She is quit right. Some men will date a lady and it is never in their mind to marry her. They keep forming serious relationship. Where are you what are you doing . Am missing you. Am thinking about you. All na lies upon lies. Immediately you leave their sight they are unto another woman. They can even be calling another woman right in your face. You feeling its nothing because it was infront of you.
Ladies have to be wise. Never take anyone too seriously till they are actually serious with the serious things.

Talk to me. Send me an email lets talk

I dont know why people still think Saraki is innocent in all that has or had been labelled against him. If Buhari is fighting corruption he should do so to the latter. I dont believe Saraki's hands are clean in offa killing. No matter what if fingers are pointed at you in one way or the other you are involved. Is either he knows about it and kept mute or he sponsored the whole thing. He may have all the money and some people are gullible to think what he will take from the bank is nothing. Trust no one . Whatever Saraki is guilty of will come out one day.

Hmmmm breaking up is not an option? You better make it an option before you regret it along the way. Terrible regrets. You are in and out of the hospital on a daily basics. You better start to move on from him. You seem not to understand what you are getting into. Until you bury three kids after suffering your eyes will open. You think is a small thing abi.
Go ahead if you wish to.
If the child actually survives after several hospital days . It never ends oo. Treatment continues oo.

I wonder why some guys are quick to say sleep with her and dump her. Sleeping with her and dumping her is now a Trophy you have won or what i dont understand .
Does that look an award to you? It satisfies your conscience or does it make you feel better ? What kind of lame idea is that.
To others saying it ,you think they havnt done it before? And even if they havnt because he caught her mean the girl will now what is sleep with you because of that or you will rape her for pay back?. I think its a very childish advise. It doesnt help anyone. The girl will go start a new life and so is the guy even after the bleeping. Anyone that say mark register and leave her you mean that with reduce the girls height beauty or intelligence. Please you guys should grow up.
Anyway for the writer. If you cant deal with her discuss such issue with her that you dont like all that chatting and if it happens again you may quit the relationship. For a girl who loves you will stop . If you cant continue quit . It is as simple as that.
Whats all this bleeping her and dumping her talk . Very myopic

Most people may not agree with me why some will, either way decision is still in your hands.
When i joined Half group of people who had Instagram handle some time past i didnt know much, but i decided to follow some people i admired as at that time, over time i just found out i am not learning new things from them , i dont see how they have gone on humanitarian service or helped anyone or what they have done to changed things in Nigeria. Bring up something to help the lesser once.
All i have seen is them uploading pictures of themselves everyday showing off cars and advertising their song or product. Nothing at all has been educating. I started by unfollowing Omotola. I have always admired her but at that nothing at all to change youth , their perception , encourage them , advise them even if you don't have anything to give them but how to make it in life can help anyone , encouragement. Its either she is taking pictures of herself in this country or that. Pictures of her taking breakfast, or one party or the other recently i took down everyone don jazzy, kcee , kiss Daniel everyone i cant even follow Davido everything about assurance of late ,and every one of them. I have just kept to one now. TONTO DIKE Not for anything but i have seen her interest in people and their needs. She helping single mothers. Giving gift . She goes to hospital does her feeding people on weekends and every other thing she does. Now i follow things that are educating, encouraging and helpful. I do business there now. And follow people in that line of business watching how they do things and improve too.
Life of a celebrity may not be totally fake but i believe if you spend your time looking at their exotic life style you may think your life is worse not knowing in real life you are better. Unfollow them and focus on things that will improve your life. Even if you want to be an actor you follow an actor you are not going to see anything that will help you in that line. People were busy like and commenting on Jenevieve Nnaji's picture on Instagram now knowing she is busy building her estate Like i said choice is yours either way. Have a good day.

milemimi93:
Sir we due respect, 90% of Nigerian ladies can't cook..

A good cook shouldn't be given time or second chance. At first chance, a good cook should hit it.

Op said this girl cooked twice and failed at both.

It's obvious she can't cook.

It is not a cooking competition. 90% of Ladies in Nigeria can cook quote me anywhere. Then all fast-food in Nigeria will be filled each time, With men lined up to buy food if thats the case. If 10% cant cook or dont want that shouldn't be a criteria to no a good wife.

Abeg give the girl a chance because of one day cooking you are already judgemental. Just first time cooking. Please she cant be perfect on first time cooking and that maybe the way she likes it. Everyone is different. And whatever is keeping her moody give her time and space to breath. Ring na next year December ooo. We never even reach this year December and you come here to make mouth.
What makes you think she will like to marry you sef? Did she write looking for husband on her face.
Stop placing yourself high while you are not Yeye ring you never buy. First day cooking you are making mouth ranting up and down showing muscle of how you can cook. If you can cook why didnt you do it and leave the girl to think if you are worth it or not. Mr perfect. I meet a guy who complains like you i dump your ass like a heart beat. Nonsense!

That thing you are look for hmmmnn
Does it mean women are the once with HIV or are the one thing that can give you HIV abeg relax whatever reason that made you go for that test is known by You alone .
Calm down you are safe

Sex on the first day doesnt really matter. If you want to be holy be holy. Do what you feel its right at that point. Do what yur mind says.

Knew my husband on phone for some time before we met physically. The second time we saw each other we had sex. . Dated for two years with good sex before we got married. The way we saw it we were meant for each other nobody was going anywhere . We married now and still loving it.

Where are all June 11 Birthday mate who turned 30 this month. Wishing you all a glorious 30th birthday . We shine where ever we are. We communicate more we relate more we love more. As we turn 30 today may our light never go dim. We will soar higher and live to our expectation.


HAPPY GLORIOUS 30TH BIRTHDAY

babyfaceafrica:
Jesus!!!!!..... You are OE of the reason people don't get married!!

Na your pocket ooo.
If you like don't focus on earning money to take care your family without the woman helping you. Be looking into her purse for contribution . Look away take responsibility and be focused on making things happen for yourself . And be a man .