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If you love him and love all the qualities he has and he too wants to be with you please dont break up with him.

Give him time to breath. I know you have lot of aspiration and you want the best for him just give him space to decide. He hears all you have said dont push him from pillar to post let him make the decision. This one tell him ok what do you want to do now. Definitely he wont say nothing let him pick one if he says nothing leave him . Make your own way follow your own part advice him when need be but dont push . Too much pressure is on him now and as a man he is considering alot of things. You are talking but you are not communicating.
Communicating is different from just talking.

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Please get a job and settle down first before using marriage which will come in three years that is if it happens to bother us with advice. You are still dating if you will marry her sef you dont no you are just assuming. Get to know her better.

Please get a job and settle down first before using marriage which will come in three years that is if it happens to bother us with advice. You are still dating if you will marry her sef you dont no you are just assuming.

anything she does to you do it to her. If she feels bad tell her thats how you felt too simple. With time she begins to change.

Is better you go to a hospital . Get to see a doctor. He will do the follow up till you get better

I advice you be man enough if you want to stay with her. Dont be soft for her if not she wont stop the anger issue. Tell her you love her and want to spend the rest of your life with her but if she continues to behave like she is not mannered that you cant deal with that. That girl will break your head if you dont manage the whole thing now. Tell her to know how to control her anger and response. Better anytime she is angry she should keep quiet no matter how angry she is she shouldnt utter a word.
If she feels there are other men out there tell her to her face no one will accept her with bad anger issue tell her to go and try it. Some men will beat her black and purple . Tell her straight . Make all your point to her and keep quiet. No matter what she says dont say anything after you have made your point. If she doesnt change please tell her you need a break. Stay away from her for two three month. Give her time to change and work on herself

Let me tell you the truth. Please do not regret any of your action. You want to say you prefare him to beat you? As long as you have a relationship?

You are the one that have kept yourself in the dark , you have continued to look at the past and forgotten to look at the future. Drop the past remove your mind from the fact that he is doing fine and you are not.take your mind away from him. And forge ahead. You were not married to him and you owe him no obligation. Please dont give young girls this your advice. Nobody should take shit from a relationship because you want to keep it. Love yourselves enough and work things out together thats just it. Young girls shouldnt co habit in school as husband and wife. Teach girls to have dignity in keeping there body not having mind blowing sex in school.
Just forge ahead. The more you look at the past it will continue to hunt you.
Keep in shape take care of yourself look beautiful and a good man will come. Above all pray and ask God for direction. Period

Sex is not why you travelled? But part of why you travel.

Yet you have initiated it couple of times which she declined now you are feeling played.

I dont understand

You no somthing i have noticed when a man wants to tell a story relating to a woman you guys try to paint a particular image in our mind so you instigate a particular response.


You dont want sex but you want the sex and now saying she didnt give you the sex.
Met her months ago you are sending her monthly income. As per what! That justifies why she should sleep with you?
When you start somthing you cant finish don come back here

For once why dont you take sex out of the picture for a relationship to blossom if it should. Everytime a boy meets a girl you want sex to justify your feelings for her or her feeling towards you. You get the sex and constantly you get it and thats is. when you decide ohh this girl is draining me of money i want to leave her or you cook up other reason you are not compatible then you leave.
Make somthing meaningful of a relationship. Paying her month is for what exactly for the sex you have been anticipating?

Rest on mama

Dont bother yourself she just doesnt want you to see her as cheap cause it happened quickly.

She showed you signs of not being interested in the relationship you should have just walked away but you kept finding your way back into her life. Let her go.!! Na small thing dey put person for trouble . All those cheering you to go and do wont be there when anything contrary to your plan comes up.

Must you be with her. Some people cant just handle rejection. Let her go and forget about her.

You too move on

The man is just trying to show his control power in front of his mother if this is the first time of laying hands on her

Let the lady relax and focus on herself. No one is worth dying for this days. If you are financially strong to take care of your self do. Let him marry his mother if he want to.

See ehh do what you want. Which one are you looking for opinion for. The only thing you are thinking about is nipple flashed at your front. They are using your destiny to prepare egusi soup. Dont focus on your life make person hear word.

Please tell your friend whatever has a beginning has an end. When her parent start like that she should tune off. Like be there but not there. When they abuse her in her mind she should make positive proclamations on her life. She should see better days ahead . Most people went through such from parents but most over come it .She will over come it. Let her keep a positive mind . Dont feel bad at all develop that mind to be you, who you are who you want to be.

See better days ahead. Just do your best.

Samakus:
Whether the story is about you or truly about your friend, I don't care.

My advice!!! As a Pastor's daughter, the girl's parent and outsiders expect her to be of best behavior possible. Tell your friend the truth! She should amend her ways. I don't know her but if her parents are saying that she's spoiling her siblings, they're probably correct. Nobody knows a child more than the parents.

At 20, your friend or you is at the whoring stage. She should watch it. If she's of the right kind of behavior, her parents will turn around and bless her. Nothing is as painful as a parent seeing a child they're taking all manner of pains for misbehave. Let alone, pastors. I know a lot of pastors' children that are so wayward that I began to imagine if they're hearing the gospel at all.

Talk to your friend. Talk to yourself too. Because birds of the same feather flocks together. Let her change her ways.

As for the point of being depressed, nobody likes it when they scold him or her. Tell her to take it in good faith and reassess her lifestyle. She will be good. Unless she's really long gone into the abyss of immorality!

P.S. I understand that most girls hate it when you tell them the truth. So you or other people can bash me. It takes nothing away from me nor the fact that her parents wants the best for her. Let her adjust and be the child that every parents wants their children to be or she can continue crying foul and taking the route of 'ila n'iyi'.

HER/YOUR CHOICE!!!

What nonsense are you even typing. Did you even use your common sense. How can you talk about somone you dont know in such a manner. What you should be concerned about is her state of mind now . You think every young girl is a hoe cause she is young. Are you even normal? Someone is calling for help for her friend and all you could write is judgment against her. You are wicked and have no human sympathy.

Be a man about it. Tell her to stop every form of communication with whatever crush she has. Maybe she is just trying to make you jealous and take her seriously or she really has a crush. But when a girl has a crush most times they wont tell you any thing. For her to be telling you all this show its not true. But if you feel she is telling the truth just tell her to cut all communication with the guy. Just say it and get on to another issue or leave her presence.
You cant be in a relationship and be telling your partner i love you but i like the other guy as a friend. She wants your permission to date him under your nose in the name of friend. Because that other guy didnt come to be just friend too. So make your point known simple

Ask her what her decision about it is.


If you decide to keep it, Then you must be responsible for everything she needs.

She too must understand that you cant afford somthings which means both of you have to come together as one to pull this true. It maybe smooth it maybe rocky but whatever decision you take be calm and calculated also. She is human show her care and love always even when you dont have money show her you care.

Better you talk to her about it and be straight with it. Tell her you are not ready for silly games
If she is into somone eles then you walk away gently. That sex chating and all that.


Or rather maybe she isnt into you just yet.


If a woman has not created a stand with you just expect anything you see.

You should have abused him well. Is like you lack words?

This is serious. Let them extend money sharing too

mabeni:
thanks but can't we do whatever we should have done after given birth? Heard some people gets married even after given birth to 4 children

Something is wrong with you. So to do it properly now hard for you
After four children ko after four ni.

Date her if you want to love her if you want to. All you want from her is sex . Since you didnt get it you want to dump her. You see say your aim is not even pure. But you want her to be true with you.

Let the girl go if you are not serious with her.

She is after my money you see wetin dey cause am

24kmagic:
As a man, once you're able to fvck any girl you approached, you already won. All the calls, the efforts, the outings and the shoppings are all aiming towards sex. Shey you don fvck her? Oya breakup.

It's either you're damaging her kpekus or breaking her heart. If you're not doing any of these two things, you're the woman in the relationship.

For God's sake which man leaves his phone with a b!tch just because he wants to prove that he's faithful? What rubbish is that? It's a sign of "weakness." She should be the one doing that to prove that she's a wife material. Even if you don't have any side chick, you dare not let her know. In fact, you'll need to pretend that you have many girls disturbing you, if not she'll just rubbish you. Girls? Hmm

Again, I can bet my left ball that money was the key factor you used in getting her. The way you kept stressing how you buy her this and that, shopping for this and that, I can say money was a major factor in getting her. Shey you don fvck her? Oya, leave her.

She's in for the cash, she doesn't like you like you think. Reason why I don't always succumb to the "make money and girls will follow you notion." Money will get you girls but it won't get you their loyalty. No girl turns down the idea of a man coming to meet her people except she doesn't love him, which is the case here.

Finally, I want you all reading this to know that "NO GIRL DESERVES A GOOD THING" and the earlier guys realise that, the better. That good thing you think she deserves, she doesn't deserve it because she doesn't want it.

What she wants and deserves are pain, cry, games, cheating, lies, manipulations, STDs, and every form of one discomfort or the other.

If you can do all these without laying a finger on her, you're EVERY GIRL'S DREAM MAN.

Forget what they say online

Hmmm. You as a person deserve good thing? Like as you dey talk now you deserve better thing? As in if a person reads all the things you just wrote down it shows you deserve anything? Sorry is your name. If you go on with this mentality you will sit down at 70 alone and rejected.

Next time she packs let her remain there. Is like that your friend is not man enough. He is a sisi.

Tell her next time she leaves the house she should never come back anytime she calls his mum names you wont take it likely.

Infact that is for peace to rain.
When she abuses your mum abuse her mum or father back or somoene she likes in the family

What are you feeling like.

You are pained or what

Why are you worried and giving motivational talk.

She doesnt want you again move on jare.

This guy is still hurting from years rejection. He still went to converse with her. Are you not ashamed?

You know what ?keep the marriage thing with her aside for now. Just drop it in a bucket first. Then try to understand this girl and the kind of person she is.

You say she is broke and no one to take care if her. You really tried giving her such amount for hostel and she needs to be reminded to say thank you.

Study her. We dont know her person but you do. Let her not be the type when she doesnt get from you she will start cheating or sleeping around and still be with you for those telling you dont give her money.
She is broke. In a relationship with you. And you dont offer her anything and she still with you ?hmmm forget it she will get it somewhere eles.

Face it now squarely
Keep your marriage aside then know her person

What is she coming to your house to do.

Every time come to My House
The office she even tries to come you have kissing her and holding her waist what will now happen in your house

You think she is dump. I know most men just think when you behave somehow the lady isn't aware of your every move.

If you want to sleep with her tell her. Your house is not a redemption center. Stop feeling because you are giving 5k if that is even true sef you want to use that to feel you are serious with her.

You want to sleep with her period.

How does it sound when someone is having sex and answering calls I don't understand. May suspicion no kill you. Confront her with this lot is biko.
Ask her and tell her if you found out that she cheated on you are walking out. Tell her nothing is hiding under the sun bla bla bla. Talk to her not us

There is no with time I will love him. If you don't love him you don't. You are not attracted to him. Follow your mind not what other people say. Now you don go Bleep am now. Does he really love you sef
Some are just looking for who to pass time with. When he pass out that is when you will know the level of his love for you.
Keep your heart dony rush it. Abeg no give corper your thing again.