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Flexherbal:
Both of you need to see a counselor.

bross i get u...but in this case counseling ain't gonna work..this is who she is....bross u beta opt out b4 d rain of regrets pour on u....
what r u still doing there....I THINK BEING SINGLE AS A MAN IS THE BEST THING THAT CAB EVER HAPPEN 2 ANY BROTHER....most women nawadays no de add anything 2 a hustler life

My guy I'm gonna advice u like a brother...if u continue woth this so called marriage...you'll die b4 ur time and she'll probably cheat on u with high class dudes.. (that's if she ain't doing it already)..she has no respect 4u...she's a spoilt Bratt...With all these complains abt our girls...i ain't sure if I'm gonna get married at all...cos i like my stressless life...

my guy cut ur coat according 2 ur size....this one is oversized coat oo....read d handwriting on d wall....NO MAKE MISTAKE WHEN OTHER DEAD GUYS DON MAKE... u beta let her go.....a million responsible girls r out there that will appreciate ur effort...this one go kill u with nag....like they say 'HELL IS WAY MORE BETTER THAN AN UNHEALTHY MARRIAGE'....a word is enough 4 d wise...GOOD LUCK...

ExAngel007:
Then quit the relationship and go and marry God.

Perfect advice ever...if u ain't ready 4 sex...pls stay outta relationships...wait untill God go drop one man frm heaven...if he doesn't touch u...you'll still complain...if he does....na wahala...

DiKK sucking Lips....
Funny Op

LorDBolton:
Another ignorant assumption... I criticised you ,therefore I must be broke??

Yet u claim you're well educated?

Insult u?? Actually you've already done a great job of insulting yourself i'm only echoing what you typed.

If you aint just being a troll then obviously Life is yet to humble you.

the best comment ever...ur head de dia...

Gflat:
lol, as expected. Not too hard to break down your message.
You should try dating someone who is better and capable dear

WTFUCK are you saying Bro...are u saying her bf isn't capable? are u better than her bf...or hv u seen her bf b4...u don already conclude say her bf isn't capable/better by askin her 2 date a better n capable guy...nawa 4u oo....hope u are very wealthy?...advicing d girls 2 dump dia broke bf...but remember a guy must go broke b4 being rich(only if he's frm a rich family)...stop all these ur shallow thinking bro... you've seen nothing yet...

Niggaz ain't smiling at all...it's her opinion though...nt ur girlfriend's...so why worry guys....pls just let her go...no need 4 d insults n curses...can't really say she didn't deserve it after all...

God bless u sist....n thanks 4 d compliment by the way (By calling us UGLY)

Joavid:
These threads on nairaland never cease to amaze me.

Your friend is dating a controlling maniac who is also physically abusive, entitled, rude and you are asking us if it's a red flag?

Are your senses still with you even if your friend has lost his?

There is something called breakup

Some topics just defy logic and common sense

leave him...let him be asking stupid questions....u think u r still a kid...na until u go hear say...ur younger brother has been shot(God forbid) na dat time ur brains go reset....no go borrow sense...even my 7yrs old cosine would never ask such stupid n senseless questions...

zadok60:
How do i work on myself?....
I really want to know please

stay single for sometime and figure out what's wrong with u n why is ur r/ship going down easily....only u can figure it out urself...by staying single 4 sometime....good luck

buygala:
There are two possibilities here:

He just developed the sex issues recently and is yet to come to terms with that fact..

Or

He has always had those sex inadequacies. ..but he arranged himself with some sex enhancers in the early stages of the marriage, because he wanted to take your virginity like a boss, and enjoy the tight ermmmm...ermmm while the tightness lasted

And there is the possibility that having used all those burantashi on you, and kids having been produced and your vagina having expanded significantly, he no longer sees any reason to continue risking his overall health just to satisfy you ... in any case, he may think since he married you a virgin, you wouldn't know any better and will see his 2-minute sex stunts or no stunt except kids are needed as normal for married peeps

My advice:

Please cheat on him so that your sanity can be maintained .... being starved of sex is worse than being starved of food...it messes up the mind in a million ways... ..... and no, hoping and praying won't help you ... You have to take the bull by the horn and help yourself ...at your age, your sex hormones are still pretty strong. ..it would be courting disaster to unreasonably resist them.

Ignore him, get some good sex outside since he doesn't even want to acknowledge there is a problem with his abuna, much less take steps towards solving the problem and fulfilling his conjugal duty towards you

And no..getting some good sex outside won't make you a worse mum...as for being a worse wife to your hubby, he deserves it anyway....but if You can help it, still be a good wife ...but please find a way to cheat incognito. ..many are doing it and still have functional families who have no idea of what is going on

don't ever cheat on ur hubby oo..because he'll eventually find out...d moment he finds out you'll loose ur home n d respect of ur kids....u knw hw d society is....it's always difficult 2 get a nice hubby wen u r divorced...not to talk of having 2 kids...so b wise my dear....

try getting him herbal medicine..it works like magic... I've heard so many testimonies...i think it's beta dan english drugs...since he won't follow u 2 d hospital....go n get herbal/roots for weak erection 4 him...explain to d seller he/she will mix a concussion 4 ur hubby 2 drink...trust me within 2 to 3weeks he'll be very active....u can thank me later....
most times the problem is 2 much sugar in d system.... (or pie)....herbal drugs will do d magic trust me...
GOOD LUCK. ..

4 months and u r complaining....mine doesn't last up to a month...b4 i get tired of the r/ship...maybe r/ship isn't 4 me anyways...that's why I'm trying so hard 2 stay outta r/ship till i figure out d prob...I've been single for abt 4 months now...because I'm tired of hurting d pretty innocent once....

so maybe u should stay outta relationship 4 now so u can work on urself....

no be for those when wanndo court marriage. ...4 me it's a NO NO....
after all d hustlin n busslin...1 who wen pretends 2 b a wife go come claim half of my property...No 4 dis 9ja...
i rather hv a baby mama n pay her off then ...
Rubbish

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bukatyne:
What does equal caring partner mean?

@OP: Whatever rocks an individual's boat.

Wouldn't deal with a baby daddy too.

Yeah gurl u r right. ...but a man is a man.....here in 9ja...a baby daddy can easily get married 2 a pretty non-baby mama without stress so long he's comfortable (SOME men de even marry 2 to 3 wives sef)...where as a baby mama might find it very difficult...unless she's going 4 a baby dady(might still b difficult...because of our society)our society sees a baby mama as a Tokunbo (already used property)...we still hv lots of pretty single ladies still searching 4 a comfortable man(evn if na baby daddy..dem no care)...so that's why it's pretty difficult here in 9ja unless with God's intervention...I've seen so many of them.... i hv a young cute male frnd( fada of 2...twins) yet girls de run follow am like Hot currency...he cn evn get married 2 a 18 or 21 yrs old virgin...
SO IT IS WHAT IT IS....
just wish f society go do something abt all these stuff because of our women... (unborn daughters )

PabloOmoEscobar:
like you get choice

like you get choice? what do u mean?

I so much dislike white females shape....very shapeless creatures....huh

If my Gf tries this bullshiit with me n hv the efontry 2 confront me after passing or falling 4 d trap...i go brk up with her dat very moment n mk sure i hv a very romantic affair with her best frnd or her sister/relative... just 2 punish her mercilessly....4ktards

Greatzeus:
That's a lie she doesn't love you. Its either she thinks she does or she is just deceiving you.
Now,she said your stick is small,how small is small? What is the yardstick she used in categorizing it as small? 2,3,4, or what inches? My guy let her go.
She is messing with your self esteem and it shows from your write up.
Girls who have been with many guys most of the times are the ones who are always disaffectionate about their guys' stick size,they have seen it all,name it Different shapes and sizes,different tribes and different political zones , don't deceive yourself,how could someone who loves you buy you drugs( not prescribed by a specialist and with unknown side effects) to increase your joy stick? You guys are not even couples, she wants to have good sex period,she doesn't love you.
Imagine a guy buying drugs for his babe to increase her boob size,it shows that's what he cares most about her. How does small boob size decrease sexual satisfaction or marital bliss?
You need someone who will take you as you are,leave that girl,all she wants is sex not you. Assuming you are suffering from Pre mature ejaculation,and she is buying drugs for you,that would be beautiful, because it is curable,but for you to enlarge your stick,you will need a surgery or waste your life and money trying to change what God gave you.
Leave your stick the way it is,there is someone out there your stick is perfect for,you feel me.

u killed it. ..thisbis exactly what i was trying 2 imply...the girl doesn't love him at all...she just wnt a huge dick...n doesn't even care abt d side effect...
if he eventually get married 2 such girl. ..she'll definitely cheat on him continuously. ..

dingbang:
sometimes we should learn to be positive. She knows better when it comes to issues like this. Ur comment alone made her to realize you are not even ready to find a solution to your problem which made her pissed, I think u should stop apologizing and work on your small penis.

can som1 increase his joystick by taken drugs?...i don't think it works dat way

I don't think u can increase d size of ur d*ck by takin any drugs....does drugs work?

i don't think so...

sumesis30:
Not that I didn't listen to her, I made an hopeless statement concerning the drug that "what if the all her effort to make my joystick bigger doesn't yield results, what will be reaction towards me. Since that time, she has been misbehaving, this so called girl has been very committed to me before in all aspects of life. It seems she's not hopeful in the result again. Even if I call her to see me now she might not come. We haven't communicated since Sunday.

she just might be getting d big d*ck outside....bross dis one don go...I'll advice u 2 let go....because she'll definitely cheat on u in d nearest future...if she never even start now...it's clear she's cheating already...she's suppose 2 be proud of u....luv u 4 u n not 4 wht u hv or not
well na ur matter....if na me i go tey 4get abt her...there r many girls that will luv ur d*ck more...pls n pls don't do any surgery because of any girl ooo...hmnn

kilode100:
Go and do surgery and fatten the cock biko. You no dey shame ni? This one go carry finger dey wound person anyhow for down below. I can't deal mehn!

don't u think surgery might be dangerous...i think it has its own side effects 2....mehn a girl that can't accept u d way u were created she doesn't deserve u....there r 101 girls that will be willing 2 hv u....omo let d gurl go because she'll definitely cheat on u in d nearest future...
if u wan increase ur stuff...let it b because u wnt to...pls don't do it 4 d sake of any B!tch....wen wahala go burst due 2 d surgery nw...she'll be nowhere 2 b found....don't be scared of loosing her...aren't u a man...women 2 over plenty 4 u 2 de fear...with d right resources u can get any woman u wnt...even foreigners...infact already dump her...she doesn't luv u enof...na big dick she luv

pweetychyka:
I came across dis moniker today n I can't stop laffing!
Only peeps who understands igbo will be able to relate

'ogologoamu'

Long Amu...

firstking01:
I no try?

na u try pass

firstking01:
I view and pass.

ok

It's a bit Lengthy but very Encouraging...Enjoy...

This has become one of the challenges faced by many young girls today. If you go to prayer houses, majority of the intentions are prayer for a life partner. And this calls for concern.
Casting our minds back to the time of our mothers and grandmothers, was there rarely much of a "Husband Scarcity" problem? Or, Maybe then, the women had values and were prepared to build a home and not park into a built home. Then, once a young man comes of age and can at least feed himself and his wife, he goes out in search of a wife and the woman really appreciates him and helps him to build a future.
What I'm trying to say is this...We created what we now see as "Husband Scarcity" for ourselves. Ask an average girl to define her dream husband; you get things like "he has to be tall, handsome, fair(now Dark), and rich, own a house at least, and be presentable" and then she adds "God fearing" in order not to sound so worldly. Then, check the number of girls around you and the number of men that meet that standard, and you will see the problem. You hear girls say, "I cannot suffer in my father's house and then go and start suffering with a man." What a wonderful dream! What if from the beginning, you have everything you want and there is no suffering, and later in the marriage, the table turns around, then comes suffering? Will you run away? No one prays for suffering, but it is good to start small and end big, than start big and end small. The problem is that the description majority of girls give of their ideal man is virtually the same. When 50 girls want the same kind of man and the man that fits what they want is just 1 man, and the man can only pick one. Then, what becomes of 49 others? They simply start lamenting of "Husband Scarcity". Another irony of our time is that it is hard, due to the face of our economy (recession ) to find a man who is of marriage age who possesses all those qualities, legally ,even the number of yahoo guys these days isn't enough to match all those searching for already made husbands.
If you look around, majority of the ladies of substance, of good value and virtue, who are ready to build a home with a man who has prospects, are married and not complaining of husband scarcity. The easiest way to find a husband now, is to change your view of who a husband is. A husband is that man God made and then saw that it may be hard for him to really actualize his purpose for making him, without a help mate and then made the woman and gave to him, and he felt complete and fulfilled.
MARRIAGE IS NOT A POVERTY ALLEVIATION PROGRAM.
It is a mission of building the family of God here on earth. For those who see marriage as a way out of poverty, it is a way into bondage. Women are HOME BUILDERS, not HOME WARMERS... DON'T CONFUSE A MAN'S PATH WITH HIS DESTINY. Where he is today, may only be a route to where God has destined him to be tomorrow. Another truth is that YOU MAY BE THE ONLY FAST MEANS TO THAT HIS DESTINATION. Join in alleviating "husband scarcity".
PICK UP THE RIGHT VALUES.
I am not saying that you should pick anyone that comes your way and talks of marriage, not all men are husband materials. What I am saying is that you should stop setting your standard on material acquisitions or
physical appearances. Look beyond the physical.
WHAT MAKES A MAN WHO HE IS, IS NOT WHAT HE OWNS OR HOW HE LOOKS, IT IS WHAT HE IS MADE UP OF.
And that which he is made of is, most times, not seen with the physical eyes, only its effects can be seen.
Marriage is a permanent thing. Whatever is seen is temporal and that which is not seen is permanent. God did not just make Eve for making sake; He made her for Adam's need to be met.
What do you all think...

then try not touching her at all n don't allow her to touch u 4 like a month...sleep in different rooms...keep late light...switch of ur phone...let's see whose going beg who....
but u de 4k up...men of these days....U allowed her 2 be giving u conditions...wen na she suppose 2 de beg 4 sex

1Alex4u:
In sincerity I saw this trait in her while we courted and I expressed displeasure in it. She seemed improving though in bits. I felt the change will continue as we progress into marriage but how wrong was I!!

in reality, no lady is 100% perfect b4 marriage, it's always a question of what can one manage while in the marriage no wht can you one hope to change.....

bross 4get all this stuff u r saying...u r damn 2 soft 4 some1 like her...i bet she must b thinking of using charm on u...that 1 na if she neva even start de use am sef....u beta ask 4 separation..if she no still change (i knw she'll neva change because it's who she is)...then jejely ask 4 divorce b4 u die of hrt attack...men wen de die at d age of 42/45 of hrt attack no de go tru half of what u t going tru...I've hrd n see 2 many but not like urs....I'M SORRY 4 U...CHAIIII

kaboninc:
Firstly...and lastly, that foul mouth is all I need to say NO! That's the first thing I look for in a woman. Her month.. .haba I no fit stand. Like the op said, sometimes we just have to see reasons with some women get battered because they brought it upon themselves.

And if I was in your shoes, I'll ask for a separation and if it doesn't work, I'll divorce her pronto!

There's nothing, no treasure, no gift, no luxury, nothing as sweet as having peace of mind.

Honestly, I'll just quietly leave her oh. All other 'flaws' you mentioned are not peculiar to a particular tribe but all tribes. So the first and most important issue is the mouth. There's a limit to one's tolerance.

i wonder what d guy is still doin with her...na until she go poison his food?...she's not a gf material nt 2 talk of being a wife material ...bross if u wnt 2 live a peaceful life u beta divorce her ass b4 she go kill u n tk over u property...i believe her mom must hv a hnd in all these...b if care isn't tkn she go begin use juju on u...na wetin most sabi do
be wise b4 it's 2late

she use charm on u?
if u continue with this woman i swear u go die of hrt attack b4 50 without a child...she no even fit gv u a child yet she de treat u like shit...u r busy askin what 2 do...threaten her with divorce if she doesn't change....if she still doesnt change my guy u beta opt out because she no love or regard u at all...u beta wise up...she's a barren b!tch