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well..all i can say is that...ur mum ain't tryin at all...u r 30 already...who knows when d nxt guy will show up if u decide to tk ur mom's advice....Since she doesn't wnt u 2 get married to him she should provide a good loving husband 4 u....simple as that...u r 30 n time isn't on ur side...mk she calm down oooo. ...dem no de pick hiod hubby 4 ground

this biitch is very funny...she wen de gv advice...why d advice no work 4 her...if naso boys de marry runs girls dem 4 don marry her sharply na....even boyfriend she no fit get...u de dia de gv advice....senseless she-goat

pressy09:
Abeg no let money shut you out of love o jare! love is expensive

who told u love is expensive?
the best thing in life is free...and d best thing is love...n love is suppose to be free n very cheap....
but nigerians.....hmnnn

Jesus...only 1 child...and a girl for that matter...still u went ahead to do family planning without his consent?..i don't blame d man at all...vcos i'ld do worse...i may never talk 2 u again
....madam sorry to say...but you've driven ur hubby into d arms of another woman...he'll start seeking for a male child/children else where...good luck with winning him back....u 4kd up big time...it's suppose to be a joint decision...

Chibydinho:
. Love weakened me.. lesson learnt.

shut up ur mouth.... u r such a weak pucci.. .i hate niggaz like u

Chibydinho:
I doubt if its better sex because she gets much more from me ( not bragging though)... The main issue is that I noticed the other guy has been spending his life savings on her... That's scary because I can't see a reason why a sensible man should be that extravagant... I'm considering opting out honestly...Thanks.

my guy sorry 4 dis...but u r a complete 4k boi...u r here still considering whether 2 dump her or not...when u suppose don drop her tay tay....kai...boys of these days...u guys r d reason these girls ain't loyal anymore n they r proud of it...u b her number 1 maga now...frm lub to maga 101....she sampling 2 dicks at d same time....wen e be say na u girls soppose de fight over.....na u suppose de sample 2 puccies...
ok now...tell me...what does she hv that u cnt find elsewhere?...money?...pucci, good character?...loyalty?.....so what d hecl r u still doing with such disloyal hoe...
u b really disappointment...sorry I'm just being paranoid with these bushitz of urs

Chibydinho:
That is what I'm thinking too... Just that its not been easy for me...

u are such a young pucci..
why would u allow a girl to be playing u like nairabet....my guy u are 4kin up big time...u beta act like u don't care anymore....stop calling her....when she calls pick her calls...but don't call nor text her at all...
if i were in ur shoes....I'll call it quit without telling her...i'll just walk away....she knws u r too much of a cold pucci...that's why she's playin u like this...a girl cant try this poo with me....because i no de make d mistake 2 de carry dem 4 mind...dem always de rest 4 my shoulder...wen e don de heavy i go just drop her like hot soup n....unto d nxt one...
girls don't like/appreciate nice guys...de luv d carefree/not caring brothers like us....
be wise my man n stop actin like a slack cold pucci...

my guy u beta learn ur lesson. ..never tk all these 21st century ladies 2 serious....4me i dont need a lady in my life...according 2 skales they are just there 4 our enjoyment and making of babies... nothing more...
NEVER EVER GIVE A LADY (EXPECIALLY 9JA GIRLS) UPTO 35% OF UR TRUST/LOVE....NEVER EVER...I BELIEVE YOU'VE LEARNT UR LESSONS. ..luv ur family with ur life...n trust no b*tch...
good luck with gettin d unworthy amaka back....
4k boi

stupid hopless 4kn retardeddd niggga....Putting a B*tch happiness b4 urs...You'll die very young of High BP....
allowin a Hoe to toil on ur emotions ain't healthy..u r pleading for her luv instead of calling d shuts (dumpin her 4 good) n hustle for d paper....
B*tchez ain't worth d stress na....these 21 century B*tches ain't loyal...
women no de value men wen love them...de prefer players....that's why she's runnig back 2 d arms of the Married Henry guy. ..because he's a player...girls luv n respect niggaz of this kind...u shouldn't hv tkn dis girl 2 serious...gv her little tym wen d guy don chop her scatter. ..he go dump her...na den she go remember ur love..n carry d shaft wen d guy don remin come gv u..based on d fool n 4k boy wen u be i knw you'll tk her back....smh

HerPov:
I say give him a taste of his own medicine without the cheating. Put a pin on your phone first. Then get a female friend to play along without telling her why, save her number under a male name on some random number. Now start messaging her back and forth. Laugh, have fun and go out and about as you please. Take his position as the head of your home and challenge it. Come home at odd hours and basically drive him mad. Give him a job to do in monitoring your movements since he had enough time on his hands to cheat give him something to do. Before all this I would advice you separate. Leave his home and get him to work for this relationship. Get him to feel your absence so he can decide where his heart lays. Please don't forgive him to soon! He has to feel his world shatter like you felt yours. Believe nothing he says to you until he earns his trust back. Ignore these people talking about forgiveness, what he did is a sin against you and God and it should not be forgiven so lightly. Just imagine how he would disgrace you if the tables had turned! He would throw you out of your home and take your child! He would tell everyone that would listen.

1. Leave the house/ if you can't then leave the bed.
2. Trick him into thinking that you are seeing another man without doing it (be on your phone, act suspicious, and don't pick up his calls when you're outside - make excuses if asked why)
3. Make him do the work of winning you and your trust back. Do not forgive this lightly or he will think this is the new norm.
4. Tell your family and his family, don't cover his shame for him.
5. Go for marriage counselling.

WTF is this?
what kind of advice is this...my dear no man can take ths ish*. .unless u r tired of ur marriage then u can take this advice...try this and loose ur hubby/marriage sharply....you'll be thrown outta his house in few seconds...u r lucky ur hubby still got conscience...sm men will turn d stuff on u immediately...begin ask u what gave u d right 2 hack his phone...but if u knw u r fed up of ur marriage or u can't stand his cheating ass anymore...then tk a break (separate)...no need to punish him. ..just divorce him...tryin to punish him will only push him to d arms of his ex. . (mind u...d hubby of his ex might decide 2 divorce his wife....that's what I'll do if it was my wife?) ...well, its ur life...Punish him or do what mks u happy...4 me as a man...I'll 4gv my wife n send her packin.. then look 4 a sweeter, sexier n well mannered girl as a wife....so d ball is in ur court...tread wisely...

10-12 yrs isn't much naaa...lets say ..a 35yrs guy dating a 25 yrs girl...is there anything wrong in that?..were u especting d ladies to date guys 2 to 3 yrs older...i think 10 yrs difference is cool...besides ladies age quickly these days compared to there counterparts(male)...

Jahblessme:
Sorry for the betrayal.I know you are coming from a place of hurt and pain.


Hopefully,you understand that the other woman wasn't acting alone,your husband was also actively 'destroying' your marriage.

Can it be fixed?I don't know.many men and women are living with spouses who have cheated or are cheating,how successful they are ,I cannot say.Many live in total resentment,some forgive and go on to build a stronger marriage especially if the man is the cheat,I'm speaking of naija setting cos trust me all the responses here would be different if the case had been reversed and it was you that was planning se xcapade.

Punish him however you deem fit,you are the aggrieved.Dont let anyone tell you the way you feel is not valid or the extent of your pain,they cannot feel the same hurt you are feeling,neither should they tell you when it is enough.They will all be threatning you with losing the man bull shait.He is the one who has betrayed you and should be able to suffer the consequence and whatever you dish out till the marriage is fixed( aside torture and poison and any form of extremism)

They will try to find a way to twist it and blame you like you pushed him, meanwhile we know that a cheatwill cheat no matter what.Just listen to your heart and do what is best for you,If your marriage has been happy as you say I believe he will sacrifice all to fix things.If na one chance...

Remember to test for STDs ,you want to be alive for your kids.To rebuild trust may take forever or a few years but it is made easier when both of you are willing to work together to plug any gaps.If una nor fit..
Its up to.you two.

Good luck and sorry.

nice advice...but how else do u wnt her to punish him...there's no other way...she's done it already...d man conscience go de judge am now....tell me...how else can she punish him...na small pikin wen she go de flog?...or will she deprive him frm having sex with her...we all knw that will push him to d oda lady...if d lady's husband decides to divorce that lady....hmnn wahala go de because she go definitely begin drag ur husband with u...so my dear i don't think there's anything u can do than to gv him d silent treatment...if u decide to divorce him...he'll move on within d space of 2 months 2 d arms of d other shameless lady...i believe something must have prompted d man to do this...since he's been a good husband to u...
i think u should handle him with maturity...but if u still wnt to punish him...then DIVORCE HIM...d man 4ked up though...n u r lucky he's still got conscience...if not he'll turn d stuff around n start askin u what gave u d right to hack his fone...na that one go come b d case....women de try oo..if it were u now...there's 90% possibility that u r going back 2 ur father's house...
may God strengthen ur marriage...

Toks2008:
Look away from slay queens....there are other responsible and focused ladies.

For where?
4 9ja here?
where are they?
ofcos all d ladies can't be slay queens...but there are very few good girls these days....i repeat very few...like 5 outta 100...if nt less
2 mk matter worse...d rate at which runs de go on d increase 4 9ja here...it's so alarming...almost all pretty female students are runs girls...after dem don taste n suck all d available dicksons finish..both my grand father age n some dirty aboki ppl just for few coins...dem go con de look 4 God fearing innocent young n handsome man to sell their weak pusssy to.(inform of bride price)...mehn...i rather rest n enjoy my singlehood until further notice ..marriage isn't compulsory...a man must not marry 2 b complete...

4k that shiit...Must a man get married?...so many young brothers wen i knw don decide not to get married...and I've seen so many happy brothers living their life without worries n HBP (ie WOMEN )...
why do i need to get married?...i can get a kid outside wedlock n i cn get what other married men are gettin for free...without stress....
the divorce rate nowadays is so 4kn high...and na d children de suffer am pass....so tell me why do i need a woman in my life.... (most women these days are demons....gold 4kn diggers....most don't care abt u but ur wealth...)
4k that shiit i rather be single and be happy than 2 be in these modern bondage called marriage with a worthless 9ja lady....I'm 4kn happy without a naggin biiitch in my life...LIFE IS REALLY SWEET WHEN U SURROUND UR SELF WITH UR LOVED ONES n HAPPY PPL... (FAMILY)...NOT BIITCHES...LIFE'S 2 SHORT 4 THAT

grossintel:
You stand a better chance of changing her favorite TV opera than changing a nagging wife. I have a nagging girlfriend I want to marry and I know I can't change her. I just have to live with it and ignore this side of her, it's what makes her.. Her

bross u no like ur life at all. ..e be like say u no wan live long with peace of mind...na d one wen u go de avoid to go back home u de find...wen u go hear her voice ur hrt go cut...Hmnn..well, its ur life...i rada remain single without staffing for 3yrs than to settle for a naggin Biitch...HOD 4BID BAT THING

adam500hr:
Was not blind, met within 3 wks, got pregnant, told my parents i cant marry her cos i dont know her well, sbut they said in order to avoid shame for her family cos her pops was a pastor and that i woudnt want the same fate to become of my own daughter, that i'll just have to marry her. Thats where the story of my life began.

JESU...really?
ur parents no mean well 4 u at all ooo...at this time wen there r lots of Jezebel in sheep's clothing...

adam500hr:
You are right, The car I bought for her, she asked me why its not bought in her name, I for one never have thought about entitlement in marriages, it didnt hit my mind for once, immediately i knew she was sensing, if anything happends, what would she fall back on, I asked why she would think that deep, she said its only normal that if you buy something for someone, it should be in their name. My hand fall.

what are u still doing with such an ungrateful woman....that woman go kill u ooo...very ungrateful...she's cheating on u already just because u refused 2 gv her d money...she 4got all you've done 4 her at once...her mind don already de outside....she'll never be contended with what you're giving her...omo na ur cross ..na u mk d mistake of marryin her..naybe thinking that after marriage she'll change...i believe she married u 4 financial security alone...dat woman no love u...she's already telling u that she might consider staying because of d kids...JESUS CHRIST.. .i mean who does that...person wen don matured n wen love u no go reason like dat..this woman will never change...
if I'm in ur shoes (God 4bid) I'll investigate 2 b very sure she did something n when I'm convinced...then I'll send her bk 2 her parents house with nothing but her...or mk she go follow her lover...then find one younger pretty angel replace her so i no go think abt her betrayal much...
SORRY BRO U R IN A MESS ALREADY....guys r getting wiser now...This is why i ain't sure that I'll ever get married...me wan live peacefully without High Blood Pressure...

God 4bid...breast milk...4 real?
it disgusts me...i cant even put my tongue on her nipple if she's breast feeding...the taste of human milk...eewww

PaulKillerman:
Your problem is summed up in one word ANGER , bro , u are quick to it, you have to work on it before it completely consumes you;





On the other hand; if u wanna remain unmarried like us, (that see women as tools meant to be only forked ) please be my guest and take a front row...

bross u get sense...4me i don't think I'll get married...naaa....as long as baby mamas do exist...i cherish my peace of mind more than anything in life...and 9ja women can't gv me that....hence, i don't need a wife wen i can get as many 4ks 4 free...i no wan die young...be warned guys...it ain't compulsory that u must get married..

my guy i no go lie u....na one chance u enter so....if na me...i prefer my peace of mind pass d sweetest thing 4 dis life....dis marriage wen u de enter so...it'll never work...b4 u married her i guess she was loyal...nw she don de do pass her self because she don bcome mrs...to be completely honest u might not leave more than 7yrs. 4 u die of hrt attack (God 4bid)....pls if u knw she ain't d loyal type...separate frm her asap or rather gv her d divorce she's requesting 4...na she go suffer am pass...tk care of ur child...u cn get joint custody... (if i were to be in ur shoes...this is what I'm gonna do)...i believe u saw all these traits of hers bt u were blinded by false love....hence, u ignored it...
Bross carry ur cross

ehen....now u are talking...as she don leave no ever accept her back...no matter what...
just start saving up money to pay her back....bross if she comes back begging n u accept her back...na u sabi ooo...then...na only u carry WAKA COME go be ur name...she's evil....try as much as possible 2 be busy so u don't think of her that much....GOOD LUCK n welcome 2 a new beginning...

hush hush...boi u ain't tryin at all. ..a little b*tch is physically, verbally n emotionally abusing u...u are here asking what to do..ever since she lend u money...u never hear word...despite all d help you've been providing her....do u think she'll ever gonna change...don't u think this is the reason guys keep dumping her...can't u see she is nothing but a trash...she ain't worthy of ur love at all....u r there still askin what 2 do...u said u can't send her out...obviously u can't brk up with her because u r so 4kn blinded by love...no wonder she's playing soccer with ur scrotum...very soon that slap she promised u...u go collect am in front of ur friends...so tell me what advice do u wnt frm us now...u n i knows she ain't ever gonna change..this is who she is...
MY GUY MATCH THIS B*TCH COMOT FRM UR HOUSE b4 she carry belle frm one sharp guy come gv u...she doesn't luv u...she's just managing u because u r d only Nigerian dat can put up with her trashy attitude..n she's used to that.. so now stop being an over slacked pusssy...pay her up asap...but 1st fling her like a page of a novel....u r d legit owner of ur apartment even d police knows that...she can't do anything...no fear...u to weak...even white woman no fit tk half of wetin u de take...last time i checked...most 9ja gurls no de appreciate nice guys because dey treat them like fools (mugu) n weak guys..so be smart...no offence though...

adorablepepple:
So your own advice is asking her to ask her husband what she is doing wrong? So the ex is doing it right e kwa...... is he a perfect man himself That he should expect his wife to be perfect? Madam the ball is in your court ,if you like go on your knees and beg him to tell you the qualities of his ex or better still visit the ex and ask her what she is doing that is right mtcheeew. I have said my own in my previous comment ...take it or leave it

calm down sist...why d long hiss....did i say anything wrong or did i insulted u?....abeg easy....we r all tryjn to help some1 so no change hand 4me because me too get bad mouth...

adorablepepple:
Madam talk to your husband and make him understand how you feel, if he doesnt change. Madam it's time you get yourself a guy or relative who will act as your ex and start intensive chatting with the person. In fact put your phone on lock too , laugh unnecessarily. Start dressing hot hot, give it to him left right, hot hot and ignore him. Your man is your baby deal with him like you would with you child.

lolz....u wnt him to send her back to her father's house?...abeg aunty...this ur advice is 2 risky...she'll suceed in pushing him into d lady's arm....men got much ego....once he senses dt u r cheating...u r gone...ain't no 2 ways abt it...

i suggest u confront him in a light manner....let him knw his r/ship with his mistress is tearing ur family apart...xpecially ur kids...ask him if there's something u ain't doing right...i think he still loves u dearly...he wan just chop clean mouth...most men de do stuffs like that....it doesn't mean he loves u less...
MARRIAGE WAHALA....

Protagonist:
Thanks gbegemaster, the stupid thing is that I love her and can't stay away. And she knows that.

just listen 2 urself..."i love her. can't stay away n she knows that"...then stop complaining...until she stabs u 2 death....ok now tell me...u can stay away...so what do u wnt us to do 4 u?...since you've made up ur mind nt to walk away....No offense bross...u r so 4kn weak...n she knws that...that's why she'll continue 2 treat u like a trash until u start acting like a man with 2 balls...HuH...
i hate brothers like this...

ideyhere:
I can just imagine the earth quake that would've happened on NL if this was to be a girl's post.

OP congratulations. ..hope you'll still come and give us the "after" gist

why would they be a quake?...
well...i knw hw some N-laners act....but it's just sex....SEX IS 4KN OVER RATED GERE IN 9JA...

Maxi112:
were you checking time on top of her?

40mins romance and everything? you no try oh

which Romance?....I de talk of d bag bang...i no add romance oo...

Alero3Arubi:
I honestly don't know.
But I haven't seen any man that doesn't like boobs or ass and I have none.

don't worry dearie....you'll definitely get d one that like u 4u...not 4 ur physical qualities...bt for d unseen ones....me i luv asss n boooobs...bt d last gf i had got none...yet we dated for long..n that's d longest period of time I've ever bn in a r/ship...so don't worry...

Alero3Arubi:
I honestly don't know.
But I haven't seen any man that doesn't like boobs or ass and I have none.

don't worry dearie....you'll definitely get d one that like u 4u...not 4 ur physical qualities...bt for d unseen ones....me i luv asss n boooobs...bt d last gf i had got none...yet we dated for long..n that's d longest period of time I've ever bn in a r/ship...so don't worry...

Alero3Arubi:
I honestly don't know.
But I haven't seen any man that doesn't like boobs or ass and I have none.

don't worry dearie....you'll definitely get d one that like u 4u...not 4 ur physical qualities...bt for d unseen ones....me i luv asss n boooobs...bt d last gf i had got none...yet we dated for long..n that's d longest r/ship I've ever had...

ladies of nowadays are something else....i no want die of High Bp b4 my time....I'm nt even sure if i'm ever gonna get married....because 2 get a gud loving gf material de hard nt 2 talk of Wife material...
Thus, single life is far beta dan family life...i don't think i need a woman in my life....most got nothing 2 offer...
i rather hv a baby outta wedlock...n pay her off...so that i can hv a complete peace of mind

Maxi112:
really? I pray he last beyond 2mins.


he portrayed himself as davido... I hope he got the 30bl to splash

2 mins? HuH...
when i 1st had sex i lasted upto 40 mins for 1st round....so my dear his gonna last more dan 2mins