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antidisestablis:
Thanks very much for your contribution, Yes! I may be very gentle but not unwise, I don't want to be hasty in taking decision,i took her back not because she emotionally blackmailed me but because of so many things that I may not even to say now. It is very difficult for any lady I'm dating to cheat I have a weird sense, I'm very good in detecting things.
My fiancée was very subtle in doing her things, you can hardly know but God the revealer of truth revealed it. And concerning the issue of sex we both agreed not to do it and also i'm one of those guys out there who still against premarital sex. I have not taken the final decision about her, I keep watching her to see the outcome of the situation.
Thanks

Ok i get you my G....good luck though. ...1 question 4u...
What if after d ur wedding you discovered she ain't a Virgin no more or u can barely satisfy half of her sexual urge...what are u gonna do then...u guys might be sexually incompatible...you'll never know....so tell me ?

Well, everybody with their own problem...mine...i get tired of girls easily...can't sex a girl 2wice (can go few rounds...but after dat day...I'll be less sexually attractive 2 her...and that's a problem...)
So my guy...I troway cap 4u...bros u de try...pls keep it up.....can't even keep a gf for 2 to 3 weeks without getting tired of d r/ship...

Well....na d foolish idiotic men when go allow stupid fools (biitches) to abuse dem na.....for me i can't deal with any form of abuse because i don't hv time for that....if a lady insults me I'll return d favour without thinking twice...if a biitch hits/slaps me in public....I'll hit/slap d shit outta her immediately...i don't abuse but I'm always ready to return d favour....only 4k boys get abused....

Very childish way of reasoning @OP....
ur way of reasoning is too 4kd up....(na 12 yrs old girl suppose to de talk like dis...#greet me first)
i think u have a big EGO...lets say one of ur hubby frnd decides 2 pay u and ur fiance a visit...n u knw u are a little older than him...naso u go de wait 4 him to greet u 1st?...if u continue with this orientation of yours you'll start attracting bad belle to ur life....never knw what 2moro holds 4u...that smallie wen u de look down on jsut because u senior am.. fit b ur boss 2moro (can help u)...

my elder brother is married...and I'm way older than his wife...yet i do d greetings 1st whenever i see her....does that remove a dime frm me....Nah...

U think you've won?
i pity u..u just won d battle n not d war...u 4got u r getting married into this family....u don already de get problems with ur inlaw...instead of u trying 2 win their hearts over...u r busy tryin to win a battle...go ask around and see how inlaws can make ur home a living hell 4 u....

U better grow up girl...u r still a girlfriend n not a wife yet...don't let that boi childish attitude bring problems between u n ur hubby's family ppl...that childish boy is way closer to his family than you'll ever be (he fit mk ur in-laws hate u)...if he succeeds in turning ur inlaws against u...madam...ur own don finish...because dat home sweet home go turn to hell sweet hell. ..
be wise...trash d issues with ir bro-in-law...n try to win him over...so wen u n ur hubby get small matter 2moro...he go follow settle una....simple as that..
greetings is nothing...mks u more matured than him....u really get time ooo

Very childish way of reasoning @OP....
now listen...

Well, for me, i think having a baby mama and paying her off is the best these days...since to get a good girl these days is like expecting manner to fall frm heaven...i can't imagine myself in a toxic marriage/relationship (I'm single by choice n I'm very happy n loving it...got my peace of mind...can do anything i wnt...go anywhere i like...hang out with friends)...i don't wanna die young of High blood Pressure etc... it's better to be alone and be happy...(although at times you'll feel d loneliness.)...
infact i think it's d best....rather than getting married 2day n gettin divorce 2moro....life's 2 short guys...

do whateverakes u happy...

this man....u never still learn ur lesson?. ..u de allow d girl to blackmail u emotionally...just as we told u earlier...no worry a cheater hardly change....she'll be very careful next time...afterall she knows ur MUMU BUTTON....u r just too soft....women will keep playing u until u r ready to grow some balls....
this is d red flag ppl are always talking abt...na d red flag u de ignore now so (i hope u don't regret it in d nearest future...i think she's likely 2 change after wedding) ...i believe d reason she delayed sex with her side bf...because she be virgin...like say she no be virgin she 4 don 4k d guy taya....body no be firewood....how would u be dating a girl without sex...2moro after wedding..wen u discovered she ain't dat innocent virgin u perceived her to be...(maybe her hole 2 wide n deep)..by den e go don late small...because ppl will start askin u if u married her 4 her virginity or for love....
be wise....SHE JUST BLACKMAILED U EMOTIONALLY...LIKE WE TOLD U EARLIER ON....and u ignorantly fell for it just as i projected...well, its ur life...no one can live it 4 u...
well i wish u all d best...

Ok

This is one of d reasons why young men should stay away frm marriage...marriage ain't what it used to be anymore....women boldly cheats more than men these days....so many foolish men are training another's man child unknowingly...
this biitch has d guts 2 show her peak level of foolishness on social media...
I don't see d need of getting married...rather than producing kids....

God help us all....single guys r much more happier than married men (caged fools)....mk ur money...enjoy life...live long....life's 2 shot n sweet to die young of HBP....I THINK STAYING SINGLE IS FAR BETTER THAN GETTING MARRIED TO THESE BICHES....
stay single, have unlimited fun n live happy...

makydebbie:
You that can boast of MSc program, your write up is nothing to write home about. Una fit each other jare.

my sister pls be easy on him naaaw, what did he do 2 u to deserve this hrt brkn words...may be he made few mistakes while composing the write up...but that ain't enough reason 2 back lash him..common dear...

My Guy...no be ur pix i de see like this so?

4get that tin bro...U na badt Guy....
maybe not now...but later in d future...

Ok...Mr Op...it is what it is...d same way most guys see d pretty girls (girls with good fashion sense) as d unserious/philandering type.. (with more dan 2 or 3 boyfriends... most times true)..d same way de look at d cute brothers as players(brothers with good dress sense)....sometimes true also..because when u r cute d opposite sex usually find u very attracted...WHO NO LIKE FINE THINGS?...expecially wen u got d Game...

SO DON'T BLAME THEM...IT IS WHAT IT IS...

Nowadays u don't need to be very cute 2 b considered a player...just get small money..n u come sabi package urself....dem don de see u as a player b that (that's what most girls think)...They all see me as a player...i don't know why..they normally say i got d player's look...d way I dress...d way i walk n talk...i mean i just don't get it...but it is what it is...so i just don't care anymore...because what dey say doesn't stop me frm getting d kind of girl i wnt...so i think it's up to u...e de ur hand bro...

being handsome wouldn't stop u frm getting a nice pretty girl as girlfriend...WHEN U GOT D GAME....U GOT D FAME....being cute its a big plus n not a minus...maybe u r missing something....I'm just sayin'

ok

sisisioge:
You ate lying! Married Women don't cheat like that. Unless u have legit examples, don't even think of this slander!

Jesus Christ... Are u being serious right now....
Married women don't cheat?...d fact dat you ain't cheating doesn't mean other women ain't...infact i believe say na women de carry d cup now on adultry compared 2 dia counterpart....
Some married girls sef don/de ask me out...i get frnds wen young married women still de disturb till 2day...so sister married women (especially young ones) cheat
JESUES...IT AIN'T EASY 4 SOME GUYS OOO....

antidisestablis:
Never say I'm not thinking right the shit happens to people, is my turn today, it could be yours tomorrow. I have read so many stories like this in Nairaland and even joke with it, when it happens to me now , I know how it feels to be betrayed by the one u truly love. Thanks

I get u ...but tell me..do u think u r thinking str8? Be honest with yourself....when u r in love....most of d time u don't think str8...so tell me now...i lie?
I no lie...I've been in luv b4 but not like this...how cn u. be asking such question when d girl u luv is playin u 4 a fool...n playin with ur emotions because she knws u r 2 soft...my brother e get d kind of hrt brk u get get ehn...ur hrt go grow thick beards...
And again..if u were thinking str8 you'd never ask such question....and yes, it can happn 2 any one...u asked 4 advice....so u are gettin as many as possible...now it's left 4 u to choose d best out of all...thanks n i wosh u d best brother...JUST B CAREFUL NEXT TIME....GIRLS SABI PRETEND

nonut:
Antidisestablis, this is the best comment here so far.
She's cheating on you emotionally and it's just a matter of time before she cheats on you physically.
Women always take advantage of men like you, men who are always available and adore them too much. If you marry her, you'll end up having your heart broken.
If a woman loves you and you propose to her, her world automatically revolves around you. That's not the case here.
You need to start your search all over again.

thanks man...that guy isn't thinking right at all...he's blind folded by love

dangotesmummy:
*yinmu*
Oya let the curses begin
Ode oshi

ok.. thanks 4 ur time n God bless....Good bye

dangotesmummy:
*yinmu*
Oya let the curses begin
Ode oshi

ok.. thanks n God bless....Good bye

dangotesmummy:
*yinmu*

sorry...who are u...? do u hv a name?
let this b d 1st n last time you'll ever quote me?...
I'll just give u benefit of doubt...
i don't knw u...u don't know me...then why d curse..?
was i talking 2 u?
quote me again I'll curse d hell outta u n ur generations ...i get bad mouth 2....

antidisestablis:
I'm not saying I was preventing her from having friends perhaps she has many male friends, there are some I know that I do chat with occasionally. But if u notice some things in d life of a woman u want to spend your life with is better u do some finding before it is too late. If she cannot receive some calls in my presence though I don't touch her phone but sometimes she delete her chat history what else is she hiding I'm not accusing her of anything yet because there is no concrete evidence.
Marriage is life time journey I cannot avoid to marry someone I cannot trust, the examples I sighted is just few of several things I have discovered about her, so for me to find out some things about d person I want to marry u call that insecurity, is my life to live not yours . I won't wait till I catch her in bed with a man. To avoid story that touches I need to take actions now! Thanks

De here de shout i need to tk action now...no go tk action already...my brother what de hell are u waiting for?

antidisestablis:
My guy it seems you are on the way oooo, she loves attention more than anything, she is a kind of lady u must call several times a day, she calls too very often and also she loves chatting very well. She out of city for now we chatted about it initially she was not taking it very well later she succumbed and she admitted that d guy has wooed her before but she said she is not dating him. She later said she is sorry and she will do sth about d closeness with the guy.

My guy now i understand...u de 4k up...ladie will always take brothes like u 4 granted...u r to godamn available 4her....i think she's cheating on u some how....i think she's seriously considering that guy....so be wise...u need to trash this issue with her immediately b4 its too late...if i were 2 be in ur shoes (bt I'll never be in ur shoes...a lady cannot tk me 4 granted...not in this life) ...i take this as a red flag...I'll be tempted to leave her...she ain't loyal at all...most ladies (expecially d good ones)..will always choose a bad guy(a player) over a good guy..know that...even if she distance herself frm dat guy.. i think she's likely to cheat with that same man wen u guys get married....she's emotionally cheating on u...very soon she'll be doing it physically with him...

I RATHER STAY SINGLE AND LEAVE A PEACEFUL LONG LIFE...CATCH MY FUN CONTINOUSLY...THAN TO BE IN THIS UR SHITTY SITUATION...I THINK NOT GETTING MARRIED IS D IDEAL SHIIT THESE DAYS SINCE FINDING A LOYAL GIRL IN 9JA IS LIKE GETTIN A MILLION NAIRA MONTHLY JOB IN 9JA....STAY SINGLE N LEAVE LONG...PEACE OUT

A BITCH WILL ALWAYS BE A BITCH... (VIRGIN OR NOT)

Dicksonpal:
Na so I straff one Toto, business dey crawl ,car self dey spoil like tomato... I come dey run from woman ...this life .. Toto causing problem since otipe

no mind dem. ..after dem don follow all those suga daddies/aboki with 14 inches Diick finish n dem punny don reach d elastic limit wit no going back...dem go con de look 4 young God fearing man to marry their low level gold digging slacked pussy...
but it doesn't always work dat way....
continue de slay ppl marriage....

IamZod:
Barman give this my nigga, a chilled bottle of Champagne.

yea thanks maan...I'm tired of hearing all these silly stories all d time....
i prefer a Hennesy though

romeorails:
Bro, u said it all. I know what some of my friends so tho these girls. Well since they want the idea of use paper to get their punany, shower them with false care, spend the money and kumba their yansh till u pick the next victim. I love the idea let's kwantinu

I give the dough and she gives her yansh in returns till I'm tired


Though the good ones are still there but u see majority of these gals na jembe-jembe

Yes ofcos...e de always work for the greedy biitches...the money conscious biitches...
just continue de tap for free while ur money go de 'on its coming' till u taya..d greedy ones de very easy 2 deceive..then u gv am one silly excuse afta u don taya...

poweredcom:
thank you sir .....wish I can buy u three bottles of beer hahahha you and me Na d same

thanks man...but i prefer 2 bottles of HENNESY...

luminouz:
N my specialty is student gehs! Not stressful at all!

well...i guess you are lucky...4me it's a NO NO

vic224real:
N nu

Unless you don't any female in your family.

ofcos i do...what are u saying?

BTENISON:
stay with her till i'm stronger.
p.s she is still in school

i always tell fellas...if u are a graduate(working or not)...then u don't hv any business dating an undergraduate girl (it feeds more on ur finances...it's vry stressful etc..it ain't worth it)...u hv nothing 2 gain...but u hv more 2 loose...sooner or later she'll dump u 4 a more handsome guy...I've seen it happen over n over again..(although...not all girls)...it's so rare to see a pretty young girl that would be 100% loyal to u while in school...it's very rare... they r more likely 2 cheat with younger cute brothers(outta sight...outta mind)....expecially in ur case (u no get money)...well, just talk to her...

4me i hv no 4kn business datig a student...not now not ever (unless 4 fun...n she go de aware)

So bross...focus on urself more...hustle hard...make money....girls go de run after u....Money 1st...ladies later....BUSINESS B4 PLEASURE

Folalade:
Thanks 4 being real.
The financial gains is the least of my worries. Am an independent lady. The emotional stress and pains is my challenge

If the financial gain is d least of ur worries. ..then i see no reason why u r still with him....u are financially independent accoding to u...n u said u wnt to stop being a side chick...then u hv to start frm somewhere...
quit d r/ship with ur suga daddy....n start afresh with a single dude...girl u r destroyin someones happiness...i knw deep inside u...u knw what u r doing is very wrong...n u wouldn't wnt a younger slay queen 2 do d same 2 u..

i can tell... you wnt him to leave his wife 4 u 2...because if he does n ask u to marry him...I'm sure u will...

U ain't gettin any younger girl...u r just waistin ur time with him because he'll never leave he's dear wife 4u...NO DE DECEIVE YOURSELF...quit s relationship ASAP...4 ur own good...take care

tanyah0001:
Honestly I was going to save my virginity with marriage. I don't mind leaving him but I will lay a curse on him I swear cause I was so pressured into doing it and he was even telling me it was an oath to stay together forever. I will lay a curse on him.

HAHAHAHAHAHA....HAHAHAHAHAHA
Sounds like NOLLYWOOD 2 ME....u wnt to lay a curse on
....virginity isn't shiit to me....who care abt virginity these days...i don't
were you forced to hv sex with him?
..u be God wen wan lay curse on ur bf....he isn't leaving u 4 thise hoes...if he is..then he's a big foool..
u got no proof he's sleeping with other chicks (he may not )...
if u wnt to leave....pls leave...i ain't saying what he's doing is right ooo...pls dont get me wrong....is just that u saying you'll lay a curse on him...sounds like a NOLLYWOOD SCRIPT TO ME...ur curse would be as useless as pouring water on a rock...
if na about hrt brk u go lay curse taya...because men go brk ur hrt taya...n it's part of life because it'll only mk u stronger n wiser...curse nor de work unless u go diabolical...are u ready 4 that?..because there r consequences...i knw u are not...so my dear 4get it...

after all, guys get dumped everyday...yet no one de talk abt curse...I've been dumped 2...i cried...yet i moved on...
So..it is what it is...this is life...I'll advice u to investigate to mk sure he's cheating on u b4 leaving him....WELL MOST MEN CHEAT...85 TO 90 OF RICH WELL TO DO DUDES CHEAT....A GUY WILL BE LOYAL ONLY IF HE'S EXTREMELY BROKE OR IF HE'S DAMN NOT ATTRACTIVE...i doubt you'll go 4 an unattractive man....
SMHHH

sorry to say...but for even thinking of taking her back...u must be a foolish pussy...i mean what type of men are we breeding in 9ja these days...2moro wen u get married to her n her ex husband comes to apologize she'll dump u again as usual....if u ever tk her back...then u deserve whatever you'll get on d ling run...is d word FOOL written in ur forehead?
....if yes then take her back...but if no..u beta think with ur brain man....WTF IS WRONG WITH YOUNG MEN THESE DAYS...

besides she's already married....she be 2nd hand now....u need a tear rubber lady....that man go don bleep d hell outta her...nai u de consider to take...after all she put u tru...she has no regard/respect or luv 4 u....she was just managing u because u were her only option then....n she used d pastor as her excuse...right now i think u are d only option left. ..n she knws u r very vulnerable....that no matter what...weakling heart will take her bck...no wonder sje takes u 4 granted...d moment she finds another ex..she'll dump u for him as usual....because the word LOOSER is written all over u.....once again...sorry to say but u are a complete pussy nigga...instead of thinking with ur head u are thinking with ur hrt....RUBBISH MAN...u 2 weak....see as luv don turn u into a compound mugu...u better wise up....if ur mom still de beg u 2 tk her back...i bet she no like ur happiness... Chaiii

SHUT THE 4K UP....
SO U MEAN IT'S OK 4 A RICH MAN TO BREAK A GIRL'S HEART...BUT ITS BAD 4 A BROKE GUY TO DO D SAME....I DON'T BUY THIS BRO....

...SO ARE U SAYING IT'S OK FOR A BIITCH 2 ALWAYS DUMP HER STUGGLING BF 4 THE RICHER GUY?

THAT'S WHY I KEEP TELLING BROTHERS DON'T TK THESE BIITCHES SERIOUS...MOST AIN'T WORTH THE STRESS.....

THAT'S WHY THEY ALWAYS GET USED AND SMASHED 2 D WALL...LEFT WITH FALLING BREAST....AND SLACKED KITTY....because THEY ALWAYS PREFER A WELL 2 DO BROTHER....N MOST RICH BROTHERS ARE PLAYERS....

I AM WHAT I AM...I AIN'T SURE IF I'M EVER GONNA GET MARRIED... MOST GIRLS NOWADAYS AIN'T WORTH IT... (ALL THOUGH THERE MAY STILL BE FEW GOOD ONES....BUT RARE)

BIITCHES LOOKING 4 RICH NIGGAS 2 BRINKG DOWN....WELL NOT ME...

Atmmachine:

I wouldn't marry you even if your parents pays me $60 million

You sound like a little kid that's ​not yet ready for marriage

The dude wastes his money to come visit you in the USA, you still not happy ??

This is one of the many reasons why i will never get married, our generation is bleeped

He watched porn on your computer ?? What the hell,
adults do watch porn, can you swear with your life that you haven't watched porn

Your father told him that he doesn't wanna sell you to him that's why he told your fiance to buy cheap stuff and just pay your bride price

You got angry because he didn't buy you gold jewelry ??

How many gold watch have you bought for him ??

Tell me a good reason why you deserve gold jewelry, does he owe you ??

I wish i could find that guy, he deserves a cold beer and an award for the smartest person on earth

He dodged a bullet

2 bottle of Hennesy 4 u my brother....this is why I'll always choose to hv a babby making machine (baby mama) that 2 get married....