Peachess:
Your dad is probably not under any spell. He's probably doing that cos the lady is giving him mind blowing sex (some men can be very silly) or he's infatuated at his age. Just tell your mum to divorce him ASAP if she can't handle his cheating ass, no woman deserve a cheating partner.

just de making mouth anyhow...u think to divorce as a woman is that easy. ...divorce affects d womam more than u can ever comprehend...they say who no go no go know....go and ask a dicorced woman...ask her to remove her pride and really tell u frm her heart how it feels...it ain't easy...unless u no love d man...u think d women that prays n go to all night, seek for advice n all just for d lord to bring back their hubby...u think they are fools....no worry wen u marry u go understand...probably u are still single that's why...good luck dear...knw that divorce isn't d answer....wether na d man or d woman...divorce ain't good...

i think being single is the best thing that could ever happen to a brother....marriage is a modern cage....and it ain't worth it...these days na women de benefit frm marriage....brothers why do we want to get married ...marriage is so over rated these days. ...stay single and enjoy your life to the fullest...some brother wen jump into marriage are getting outta d cage now...ain't nothing like freedom...with d high rate of divorce these days...why would any sensible man would wanna get caged by d union called married...when ur wife would likely cheat on you with ur best friend or brother....marriage ain't worth it...remain single, you'll live long and happy life...without High Blood Pressure....just get a woman pregnant and pay her off....i don't think we hv much good ladies (wife material) to go round...so 4k marriage...SINGLE LIFE IS THE BOMB....

blazepink:


I have been praying..
the 6months guy has all I want in a man.

but am afraid that I will break the student's heart. I don't just know..
the student us madly inlove with me

this is what u get when you decides to double date...you get confused, most of the time u loose both partners....don't be desperate for marriage....it doesn't pay at all...most desperate babes ended up with regrets n divorce, u knw when a woman get divorced in this country it takes d grace of God to be married again...so many unmarried ladies everywhere....so be becareful what u wish for in order not to end up with regrets or divorce...it ain't ur portion though...well, i know its ur life...u knw what's good for u...go for it and stop cheating...it has bad, negative effect on ladies than men...no spoil your reputation ooo...good luck

Emotionless100:
This is the outcome of "team foreign ladies", instead of him to marry a follow come Nigeria woman he go useless himself. Their law always favour women

which kind follow come 9ja lady...no be dem worst pass?. ...besides, that lady is a Nigerian....u think when u bring a Nigerian girl over she won't change...especially the ones wen study nursing over there...

yet people are still wondering why the sudden rise of baby mama ish*...no wonder Americans don't marry their women any more...they de run frm dia women to get matried to Chinese ladies....why their women de turn to baby mamas alone...i don't blame d men...cos I'll never get married to black Amercan woman. ..they r all the same..rather get married to a white women that'll love n gv u her maximum respect...They'll let u to be the man of the house....no be the she goat wen go de talk back at u....especially the black women...little wonder they are all baby mamas...who go marry this one full of drama....with no respect for an old woman....yet dem go de ask why black men de run to marry white women....

ok see tgis one now...Nigerians can over do things...see as she over do am than Black American females....That's what u get frm flying 9ja babes to America...when u mk d mistake of getting married to a 9ja girl in America or Uk...u die well...its better to get married to a good white woman than to married to all these thirsty forming American 9ja....

VirginDiva:
Don't understand why you people are attacking her and why nl male always get upset when they hear 'feminism'. If you believe that women should have the same political, social, and economic rights as men, you are a feminist. What most males want for their sis and moms

u might be right but u n i knw dat feminism is more than dat... same social, politocal power etc...Women want to be like men by all means...they wnt to hv d same right n authority as d male folks even for marriage too...u can't ask to be like a man n still expect to be treated like a lady (queen)...I'll treat u exactly d same way i treat other guys outside...no more gentle man shiitz...no more opening d car door 4 u and all...ladies hv taken feminism into another level...that's d problem....watch now...western men no longer get married to dia women ....na western women get d highest rate of baby mamas n single ladies 4 d whole world...because of d same feminism...THE WORD FEMINISM hs done much damn harm dan good...if dem bring those law come here...i trust our men...na unto baby mamas things so...no man go marry again...our girls go de rust...

9ja girls are all d same...u are looking for an already made man...at dis time wen things hard like hell....how many hv u made?..how many hv u helped?...de dia de wait till u get to 30 or 35...dis is why so many well to do ladies are still very single..till dem end up as a 2nd or 3rd wife....u knw getting a job these days is very very difficult...even a job dat pays as low as 30k...na problem too....if na man now...e no mind to marry a jobless woman and invest in her...open a good business 4 her....but 9ja woman...lai lai...dis is why there's high rate of single women in 9ja and more of baby mamas...see what gender equality has brought now...if na man de ur position...he go don help so many other men...and he go don even marry sef and open business 4 his wife...bt instead of women 2 do d same...they'll be looking for already made man...stingy set of ppl...wen job no de at all...now so how many men would agree to get married without a job...i never see ppl wen women don help for dis country without tellin d whole world abt it...dat na wetin men de do all d time n no one go knw abt am...if na man de ur position nw he'd v gotten married n established a good business for his wife.. .can u fo that for ur man? ofcos np...u can't...that's d work of a man...u wnt gender equality yet u can't do anything for ur partner. ..de dia de expect manner 2 drop frm heaven...most of d man you'd get frm dat range would be married to d lady dat struggled with him...or go get girlfriend dat was there for him wen he had nothing...while he'll help u while away ur time as his side chick....ppl sayin ur own de come...I've seen it happened over n over again...uptil nw Genevieve own never still come...i ain't against looking for what u want....wat I'm against is u looking down on men...well, good luck

Saliman22:
Please this is someone I want to marry, our marriage is next year July, I suppose to do the marriage this year but her dad and her uncle who is a permanent secretary in deputy governor office in my state said until she's in her final year in school.
Please help me because I love her
But ashamed please

are u hypnotized?
WTF is wrong with u...are u still contemplating on going on with d wedding preparation?...don't be a big fool my guy...dump dat girl without hesitating...

see this foolish man ooo..asking what he should do....u wan die early of high BP?... that girl is a 1st class LovePeddler...she's got no single respect for u...imagine...she slept with ur own brother 4 ur present....chai...that's d highest form of disrespect ever....without thinking twice....kick dat biitch outta ur house...and ur little brother too...make dem go continue where dem frm stop

freepop:
After thought 1:

- She's has shown all tendencies of leaving the relationship should another guy who's richer than me surfaces.

- Her mum is prejudiced against Yorubas. (They are Igbos).

- If I give her she'll be happy and jump up. If I don't, she she'll be mad at herself.

- Whether I give her or I don't, she'll leave the relationship if she wants to leave.

- I don't believe in buying love. Let it spring from the heart and test it real good.

- However, this education is critical to her life.

don't worry you'll learn ur lessons the hard way...most of igbo girls are money conscious...she doesn't hv a Bleep abt u....

One thing u should know abt most 9ja girls...they don't tend to stick with d man that went tru hell trying to train n carter for them while in skul...they always dump dem for a finer guy in school...my guy u never still learn lesson frm guys wen de complain abt dis same stuff all d time?...u just de train her for another man ...if her papa no fit train her mk she go rest na....I'll advice u never ever try that...not now, not ever....u can help her tru other stuffs...but not financing her education...if na ur sister i go gree train her..don't u hv relations that's in need of that money...women no de appreciate guys like u....my 2 cents

omoharry:
This one nor dey happen for Nigeria oo..in this part of the world na una dey rule..but oversea..well..you have to share your property with your wife according to the law..sad though.

really? who told u that...they do share property here in 9ja na...but na only if u do court marriage oo

zed7:
From my experience they all look decent at first, just when you start getting a little comfortable comes the disappointment. They start making demands, even the working class.
I agree with the Op, chat with any modern Nigerian girl, they no longer want to tolerate the challenges of marriage. Any little thing you'll hear them say "divorce" like it's now a badge of honour. We enjoy copying all the negatives of the whites whilst leaving out the positives. Nigerians are a peculiar set of people i swear. Very soon, just like the man in that article, we will switch to our other African sisters and leave them alone.

A 9ja girl will only inituate divorce if her stupiid husband is fooolish enough to pull tru with court marriage. ...women go de patient till God touch her husband's heart...if her hubby only agreed to do just church n traditional Marriage

omoharry:
you can not have baby mama and have peace with an American woman..they will drag ur ass to court for a larger chunk of what you are worth just for child support and she will live large on your sweat..if you think Nigerian woman are gold diggers(though you didnt say that) i believe you should try this American dragon queens.

my sister...they say who no go no know...i know there must be few good ones....but d currupt (oloshos) ones are just too godamn much these days....i dont think i can trust any woman...9ja or Americans...I've seen a lot....i think the best is just not to get married... I've seen where girl would convince a very hard working guy to enguage in court marriage, only to divorce him 3 yrs later and divide his properties...what do u call those ones...gold diggers right...or heartless gold diggin ho...women nowadays are something else...To the men in d house...if u must marry stay the hell outta Court marriage...ppl wen do am de regret dia life now....a once loving wife could change over night. ...weda she cheated or u did...she's leaving with half or more of ur sweat...be wise bro...good girls are rare (almost impossible nowadays)...

IsiCaterpillar:



My brother is a living witness. he is practically working for the woman and her boyfriend as i am typing this.

wait a minute...are u saying these laws work here in 9ja?...naaa..nothing like half of ur properties...only joint property...
My sister it doesn't work like that...

alizma:

if you do court wedding in nigeria, u are in for that.

Naaa....aint nothing like that at all....divorce favours d men most...here in 9ja

Atlantian:
The OP presented a very valid assertion, but these ignorant people have turned the advice into their myopic religious sermons. A smart man knows enough to sign a prenuptial agreement if you must engage in the court marriage thing, but best thing is to avoid it if possible. I really do not understand the reason a man should pay alimony for an ex until she finds a new husband, while they go around fucking every dick. I understand the child support but alimony is the reason many men are scared in marriage and becoming lame dogs cos no one wants to slave for a certain ex all his life.

brother..that shitz doesn't work here in 9ja....here in 9ja, divorce always favours the men...nothing like alimony....whether court marriage or not...there's nothi5like sharing of properties...only joint properties....court or no court ...nothing like alimony

The best is to stay unmarried, enjoy ur life to the fullest...if possible have a baby mama....pay her off n enjoy ur life...be happy and live long without high blood pressure...most women of nowadays are something else...i love my peace of mind...Life without women is the best...PEACE OUT

Martins4christ:
Thanks, Thats Helpful

But what really transpired between u guys...why did u break up with him...only to roll the pregnancy news on his doorstep....i believe he's mad at u...maybe for breakin up with him...that's why he trued to dodge d bullet...
why did u break up with him

Oyindidi:
why write like this? Capital in between sentence

Seriously?
What does capital letters have to do with her plight?
Madam she needs your advice..spill if u got any for her and stop making matter worse for her by adding to her misery...It ain't right dear....

Amarabae:
Men and Ashiri. SMH

did i ask you? why can't you mind your business Mrs Jonathan...Ur Mousy mouth de poke u? Learn to mind your business Aunty....it pays a lot thanks

Amarabae:
Men and Ashiri. SMH

did i ask you? why can't you mind your business Mrs Jonathan...Ur Mousy mouth de poke u? Learn to mind your business Aunty....it pays a lot thanks

KELVINXY:
Graduate this
Graduate that

UNILAG girls comes to mind.
Believe me if u come across one,u will have a rethink

what's up with these Unilag babes....i just de hear unilag babes this, unilag babes that...what abt them....what's wrong....pls enlighten me....

pocohantas:
You see, some of these ladies would have loved to remain with the love of their lives for however long it takes him to be ready...but, you people will not stop putting pressure on them. You have dated her for 4years? 4 years of constant testing and tasting. Now she is 25...Very soon emusmith will remind her she is 28 and single.

Don't worry bro, it's not your fault that things are this way. One thing you should understand is, most ladies don't have that patience of dating one guy for years. It's a risk in this Nigeria where they keep reminding you of biological clock and the guy can change his mind.

I know how you feel, i'll advise you channel your time into lucrative ventures. Don't go begging with catarrh falling out of your nose. That'll spell desperation and would turn her off, you'll lose your respect. Don't bug her with calls, call once and let go. If she deems it necessary to call, fine. If she doesn't...life goes on.

Wow...this stuff coming out from a 9ja Lady...wow....it means there's till hope for 9ja men...
i like u already...i for begin drag u with ur boo...but i ain't d relationship type....
buttom line...u are very sweet...love ur advice...pls do keep it up

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maikbanj:


Thanks bro

u are welcome my brother...i understand ur plight....i knw how it feels...I was once in school 2...i graduated frm d university in d yr 2011...so believe me wen i say i understand....
just mk ur book ur priority...every other thing can come later....

sorry to say bro....u are so naive....
4kn ignorant....why would u allow some biitch to determine ur happiness or sadness....

bross...most young girls (expecially students who thinks they are still very young to flex life while in school) are biitches....u better be wise....i wonder what kind of pussy ass niggas our mothers are birthing these days.. (SORRY 2 SAY)...
u are still young, still full of life...and still in school...so my lil brother...don't term ur priorities around a girl (a student biitch)...because 90 to 95% most times they'll dum ir sorry as for some total stranger ( a cuter/richer dude)...because most ladies are confused...they don'tknow what they want until its 2 late....especially d money conscious ones... (sadly most of dem are money conscious )

next time....try as much as possible not to mk any girl...expecially students....ur priority...just hv fun without much emotional involvement...else girls go ruin ur life on campus...they can bring a 1st class student down to 3rd class...no matter how intelligent n wise d guy may seem to be....(especially if d guy de act like u) they are CGPA killer...

Enjoy ur campus life...study ur books...hv fun...meet n make new male frnds (na dem go help u in future...not all these biitches u call good girls)...d sooner you start running shows without much emotions( d better 4u)...d sooner you'll realise life is less complicated without girlfriend in school...
GOOD LUCK

SingleDad1:
thanks bro. I appreciate you A-words. But apologizing to them , I did not offend anyone to my best knowledge.

well to the best of my knowledge...u are the one being threatened....if u value your life...do d right thing...even if a girl agree to de bang u regularly without commitment...that spiritual bond go ever over cloud her sense of reasoning...then she go start de develop feelings 4 u...na so God wire dem....unless she be professional Okpo....or she do have multiple sex partners...but if its just u....she'll definitely start developing feelings 4u....that's why i try as much as possible not to go more than 3 times....
pray mk u no meet ogbanje...because you'll definitely pay with ur life...if u decide 2 dump her....b wise. ..

My guy go relax urself....which 2 girls....they are just just being ladies...nothing more...wetin dem fit do...they can threaten for all i care...bt don't come near me....
my guy...that's what i normally do oo...i go 1st inform dem say i de emotionally unavailable b4 we start anything...that i don't wnt anything serious...but i go tk giod care of u like my gf..bt that's it...i cab leave at anytime..mostly after d 2nd sex..bt that no jst de work ooo...because after all these dem go still fall inlove with their eyes wide open....well, that's women 4 u....they work wuth their emotions more....i guess u should ignore them...but 1st try to apologize to them both....u sef u no try...why would u 4k 2 frnds...that's one shit I'll never do...my guy be carful...some 9ja girls r evil ...expecially d desperate ones...bye

That's why most 9ja women that made it b4 marriage are still single....later dem go de say 9ja men are scared of rich women...that's a big lie....who no go like marry an already made woman?....
Rich single women...here in 9ja..are something else here...

klassykute:
Nobody cheat pass girls jare dem sew d trophy of cheating for dem chest..... fucking naija girls... money or not dem go cheat

Very true...but not all though...MOST....very very very hard to get a loyal babe these days...If u like 4k her brains out everyday...a girl that'll cheat will cheat...
That's why i never 4giv...a cheating partner...don't 4gv me when u catch me because i no go reciprocare am wen dem turn d table around...

MARRIAGE MARRIAGE MARRIAGE!!!
MARRIAGE FIRE!!!
WHO MARRIAGE DON HELP THESE DAYS....
NO GO MAKE MUCH MONEY B4 MARRIAGE MK UR WIFE NAG U 2 DEATH....
MARRIAGE MY FOOT...I RATHER MAKE MORE MONEY...MORE MONEY....MORE MONEY AND MORE MONEY...FOR MY UNBORN CHILDREN/GRAND CHILDREN....MARRIAGE IS THE LAST THING ON MY MIND....(THAT'S IF I'M TO GET MARRIED)...BUT I'LL DEFINITELY MAKE BABIES....
WITH D RATE OF INFIDELITY AND DIVORCE THESE DAYS....I DON'T THINK MARRIAGE IS D REAL DEAL...
BROTHERS MK MORE MONEY B4 ALLOWING THAT BULLSHIT TOT TO CROSS UR INFANT MIND...MARRIAGE NA ANOTHER JOURNEY ALTOGETHER (NA LIFE CAGE)...NO B DIS OUR GENERATION U GO MARRY WIFE N EXPECT HER TO GV U MAXIMUM RESPECT...WHILE SHE DE SUFFER UNDER UR ROOF....NA LAST 2 GENERATIONS WE DE SEE THOSE TYPE OF WOMEN...NOT 2DAY...
BE WISE FELLASSSSS....