thesicilian:
So you knew she was he was sleeping with the househelp and you didn't send her away, immediately, and only decided to send her away when she stole from you? The story is not clear.

Yes, and that is because there may be no evidence to support that notion, so now that the husband reacted violently to her telling the house maid to leave the house, what does that tell you about the irresponsible husband? And even at that, you expect her to allow the maid to stay in the house after stealing from her?

WantsandMore:
& here I was thinking you don't let your emotions get in the way of your thoughts...

Your emotions flew off the top of your brain when you started the insults first right? Yeah it hurts to get same energy right back I know,

Next time, caution yourself.

WantsandMore:
Ok. Sending you love & light. May we live long enough to recount the days of our folly.

And may your folly continue to follow you and your generation till the end of time

Sending you love and light too.

WantsandMore:
Possibly biglittlelois, Adam fell for Eve's manipulation has very little to do with IQ but with emotions. Emotion can betray anyone, even you acting as if you've not done something dumb before for when you were emotionally vulnerable.

That wasn't manipulation, Eve simply told Adam how she felt after she ate the apple, and he also wanted to feel same way instead obeying the instructions of God and using his common sense, that shows how little the IQ of men are filled with emotions and no logic, and no I've never ever done something emotionally dumb before, I don't let emotions control me to loose my dignity and integrity, not every one is like you.

Beverlyjean:


Yes ...that's u convincing....

Get your dictionary and know the difference between tell, advise, convince, and manipulation

These things shouldn't be too hard for grown up adults.

WantsandMore:
I imagine the dilemma of Adam and Eve before he bit that Apple

You all keep proving women right that most of you are not capable of applying wisdom and sense where necessary

Adam was so daft that he allowed Eve that was formed from his rib to put him in dilemma abi?

Jashub:
Women hate taking accountability for anything so I'm not surprised to see you say such . Anyway, you still dey that your papa house abi...?

How old are you?

Who operated on the husband? The wife or doctors?

Acidosis:


Replace "force" with "convince", "manipulate."

So if i tell or advice someone that his or her snoring can be medically fixed, and the person goes to the hospital for medical advice and diagnosis, and doctors says that it can definitely be fixed, then recommend a reputable hospital where it can be fixed, automatically means I convinced and manipulated the person so he or she will die? What kind of reasoning is that?

What has smuggling babes for the man got to do with his snoring condition and the mention of owning a room in a big house? This is just a failed attempt at blaming the wife for his death, because it's obvious they clearly want to paint her as evil and cheat her of her late husband's properties, or are the doctors in India that stupid not to know his snoring is a medical condition before embarking on the surgery? Surgery is a life and death situation that's why patients are made to sign consent forms that absolves doctors in case complications that lead to death occur.

Not only women, men too, I know of a married man that told his wife in a heated argument that he will cheat on her and nothing will happen, she then left the house for him to cheat at will, his next point of action was to tell everyone his wife left him for no reason

Lesson; Married couples should tame their words and watch what they say to each other.

WorldRichest:
Marriage is a scam nah. Those of us who are married and are not afraid of the truth knows this. Marriage is a bigger scam than Religion. Now the western world is doing away with the two frauds

Oga be bold to say your marriage is a scam nobody will beat you, and since its scam remove yourself from it, or do you like being scammed? Your papa and mama marriage na scam? Or If you grew up in a single parent home be bold and say it, then live up to that legacy by leaving your scam of a marriage, very simple stuff.

Geovanni412:


Just this week, a work colleague came in wearing a shawl

This man was apparently happily married with three children

When we talked further, he took off the shawl to reveal deep scars on his head.

He had a nasty quarrel with his wife. Whilst he was asleep, she used pestle to hit him on his ribs and on his head.

It's hard to feel optimistic about marriage when you hear some of the nasty stories of what men are going through in silence.

So your one colleague's marital issue is the basis to conclude that in all marriages, women are making men suffer in silence?

So many kids here......

chuksjuve:
Marriage is loosing relevance to you because you have choose to focus on the wrong set of people, hence that’s where your anger is coming from..

I’d advise you channel your view and direction to those who are successful in the same marriage that others are finding difficult ; I’m pretty sure you will delete these things you just wrote out from your mind and tender an apology for this miseducation you are doing..

This!!!

olaniyilukman:
there is nothing like mature in marriage, both parties are suffering in silent.....

There is maturity in marriage, you should ask your parents and be schooled, that is if you didn't grow up in a single parent home.

Obajemu:
Poverty is the cause why marriage is loosing relevance, this is because entitlement girls are the remaining we have outside now. Whereby entering into relationships is like venture to them

Since their parent can’t take care of them they believe someone’s son will do what their parent can’t do

therefore guys are not ready to marry girls that have no future, girls that can’t make impact and they are the ones remain in our society now

You should step out of your enclave, better yet change the class of females you move with, only then will you realise that the minute few you date or befriend are 0.0000001% of female population in Nigeria.

vibbb:
Lots of people (Ladies) miss interpret the through meaning of feminism and that has been a major set back to family life. Once you are being infected with feminism virus family life tends to have no true meaning any more. Most women who are crusaders of the so called feminism don't understand the through concept and applications.

Something is wrong with the way most of you think

What has feminism got to do with failed marriages? How the hell do you jump into conclusion that women are majorly the cause of failed marriages? In 2024 we still have adults thinking this way? Like a child? Smh.

cutecommend:
If people's first and best love was their spouses, and if the first love of their spouses was them, and if their first ever sex experiences was between them and their spouse in marriage; and the first ever sex experience of their spouses was with them in marriage. And if husbands are hardworking, loving teachable and kind, and wives are submissive, teachable and respectful, maybe marriage will be better...

One size does not fit all

What may work for you may not work for others.

nairalee:
What exactly is the attraction for marriage now?

Loneliness? Life is no longer as boring as in the 60's (u can now create your own fun in your own bedroom)

Procreation? With the advent of baby mamas we've realized it's cheaper and easier to get children without marriage

Sex? U can simply get sex now with small change without even stressing yourself.

Cooking? . With technology u can order any food of your dreams in 30mins or less.

Domestic chores? U can simply get a maid or machines to do basic chores.

Many of the past incentives for marriage are now outdated plus all the TERRIBLE news we hear/read daily.


Marriage is no longer as marketable as before

I've come to realise that so many people on nairaland are products of dysfunctional upbringing or a single parent household especially the males, or they are not loved at home, that's why they preach the abolishment of marriage, to continue the moral degradation of the society.

Raylight2:
there is no group for Christianity on Nairaland. There's Religion and Islam. Christians post on the general Religion group

Where the hell did you see Islam group anywhere on nairaland

Carcholce:


You have to make it a habit when dealing with women. Learn to become unpredictable. They will love and respect you more.

Who lied to you?

Procashtips:


Mind citing an example where Russia came partnered with a country and they ended up worse?

Isn't this the beginning? Isn't that how other Western countries started their subtle colonialism?

SoNature:


What's tuition fees in Covenant University again? Bros, the day that school starts charging what federal universities in Nigeria charge, we will have this debate.

Until then, just know that you need money to run universities and CU is one of the most expensive universities in Nigeria.

This arguement is not it all and shouldn't even be used as a yardstick, who exactly will subsidise fees for private universities? You? The federal government? Tell us who?

And fyi, Covenant University is one of the least expensive private university in Nigeria pls update yourself, the most expensive private university in Nigeria is between Afe Babalola and Babcock.

GUNITGuy:

Federal Government would soon Stop Subsidizing School especially this BAT government

Until then.....

obinna58:
She’s in better position to keep the kids safe in case of emergency 🚨

Explain in details how she can help all those kids in case not emergency pls?

13regular:
As much as I don't support the concept of school children going on a boat ride without life jackets, it is important to point out:

1. That the life vest the teacher is wearing is not for children.
2. The teacher wearing life vest will be useful in case of emergency.

ABOVE ALL, WHOEVER AUTHORIZED THAT BOAT RIDE FOR THE CHILDREN WITHOUT ADEQUATE SAFETY MEASURE OUGTH TO BE DECLARED "ENEMY OF THE STATE"!!!

1. Explain how your number (1) justifies what is clearly the problem in the picture

2. Explain in details how the teacher wearing life vest will help all those pupils in case of emergency.

We are waiting

A subtle takeover of Russia, gradually they will be like or far worse than France, honestly I don't see the difference here, these western countries clearly want to loot and reloot.

SoNature:


Those so-called billions explain why government schools charge us peanuts in tuition fees. Yes, university education is subsidized in Nigeria.

Again, the major source of revenue of universities is tuition fees, not subvention or endowments because they are inconsistent funding sources. Private universities charge as high as 300k per semester while some federal universities charge 50k in tuition fees.

Why Covenant University has established itself as a leading university in Nigeria is that it generates a lot of money from tuition fees and gets funding from the church and other GSI.

I maintain my position that private universities are supposed to be by far better than government universities in Nigeria because they are much richer.

You need a lot of money to run a university. Most of the world's leading universities don't charge less than 20 million per annum. For international students, you pay more than 70 million per annum.

Again, private universities are not supposed to do better than public universities, the fact that it is subsidised is enough reason to be the best, what exactly is the billions allocated every year to public universities used for? TETFUND intervention allocation that is in billions given to public universities every year what is it used for? Asides that, the exorbitant extra fees collected from the management of universities what exactly is it used for? Instead of university workers to demand improvement from the management in every department, they prefer to go on strike for increment of salary with nothing to show for it academically, your lecturers won't come for lectures till its close to exams, they extort students through handouts and give trashy mandates that 1st class belong to them, no wonder most public universities are always in shock when they see a lot of 1st class graduates from private universities, yet these same lecturers will behave themselves and give the best when they take up jobs in private universities, private universities with all their fees cannot get billions of allocation in a year so what are you saying?

The reason why most world leading universities charge alot is because their fees are not subsidised by their government, they fund themselves and get money from donation etc. if you want lecturers of public universities of Nigeria to sit up and do right by their students with tenable results, the federal government has to stop subsidising public schools and let them fend for themselves, but then Nigerians will never ever allow that because they thrive in lawlessness yet want to get the best result.

SoNature:


Look at the yardstick used for ranking those universities. Private universities are supposed to be doing much better than public schools because they have enough funding to reach their goals. Educational institutions are useless without money.

I have to praise Covenant University for outpacing other private universities that started before them like Igbenedion University and Madonna University. Those two varsities are merely glorified secondary schools.

Private schools are not suppose to do better than public schools because federal government funds public schools in billions every year, while private universities gets funding from donations and school fees, a very big shame to public Universities.

ignis:
Covenant University Tution Fee is about 50 Times UI Tution Fee... Why the comparison ?

Cover your head in shame if you think fees is the yardstick, federal Universities funded in billions every year by FG is lagging behind and this is all you can think of?

bolaayenimo:
Yinmu...covenant advance secondary school to UI the first and the best

You should be ashamed that a private Christian university beats all other washed down federal Universities, a big shame to the federal government.

richie240:
Dey play!

Okay.

richie240:

Granted not all divorcees date married men.
Can you allow your son date/marry a divorcee of 4 children??

Yes I can, if that will make him happy

You should do away with trying to police other people's lives either family or not, they do not define your existence, the world is big enough for everyone to live and let live.