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Since I started reading your post here on nairaland I discovered that nothing is impossible to achieve but most of us humans just lack the ideas on how to solve problems.

morning you all! funny as it sounds life is really unfair what you are dying to have another man is taking for granted awwww .nature is cruel to many and as It stands I have chosen a lifestyle and its difficult to go back it hurts Sometimes that I have really changed ( thanks to ubunja and harddon ) but the change has its own disadvantages but that's life for you every path you choose in life has its advantages and disadvantages.
If you truly want to find love as a guy remove your mind from looking for commited relationships and just play the game ,the more you chase love the further it runs from you ,the moment you adopt the abundance mentality the more love you get from women,The moment you stop seeing any woman as special thats the moment women see you as special I call it "street red pill" stop viewing women with the goddess mentality just because they played mind games on you,stop viewing them as a people who deserve you money, time ,efforts its,a trick they played on your. it is not the most comfortable lifestyles to live but its for your own good a word is enough for the wise.

only look for love when you feel like you are getting old and needs to settle down ,with your experience in the game you can find a good girl to marry it is one of the easiest things to do.

SenecaTheYonger:
You were making soooo much sense until you typed that bolded part . Well, no one can be hundred percent right.

you not getting my point bro,when a man is rejected,heart broken or used by women in the past he becomes Emotionally stronger and wiser when next he is dealing with women because he will naturally recheck himself to know where he went wrong 'once bitten twice shy ' I get women so easily these days unlike before when I was less confident and needy ,rejections and heartbreak has reshaped me to a stronger man with tougher skin, you may not understand though you are not in my shoe.

ednut1:
What is making guys weak these days

I swear the thing tire.

ednut1:
What is making guys weak these days

I swear the thing tire.

olaboy1:
Did you just type that last paragraph. Hell No women don’t give a shit about making you a stronger man emotionally and mentally with their mind games. The mind game is to extract your resources by first weakening you emotionally and mentally.

They don't do it consciously but subconsciously its is an uncontrollable instinct , a man who has being heartbroken of manipulated before becomes wiser and stronger in his next dealings with women, I remember in the past I was a shy,timid and needy guy women used me and and I was still rejected but as time went by I evolved into a strong man emotionally and mentally and I discovered I more attractive to women judging by the amount of women i have dated unlike before .

MrBrownJay1:
Not at all...in all what he has written there is no connection, no seduction....he expects an answer from a stranger, as if all women are the same. All women are different and some you can seduce in a short time while others take time.... and although that woman would know your INTENTIONS the minute you start to show interest in her, it would take time for her to know if you have the right attributes/characters/vibe to DESIRE YOU.

You sound like a confident man who knows his onions in life that is one beautiful trait women love in men,my men here including the op sounds insecure and 90% of women he meets will reject him with that kind of mentality ,that's the fact its not a curse.when a man knows his worth he is in control most women he meet will find him attractive and he will pickup many women but not all ,a real man doesn't give up easily he restrategises or look for another better option but sorry we live in a weak men's generation ,when I started learning seduction I thought I was going to learn sweet talking and lies to get women but no ,I discovered only making myself a better and strongerman my self esteem and confidence boosted to the skies I got motivated instead.

The funny thing I discovered about the mind games women play is that it is to make their man a stronger man emotionally and mentally.

I would prefer it was written by ubunja ,his write-ups can give you brain orgasms.

comradewanle:
Thank you. The platform is meant to educate ourselves not an avenue to abuse one gender. As far as I am concerned, no gender is perfect in life. Get man or woman you want and start complimenting each other. If one is looking for perfection, one will definitely go heaven cos nothing on earth is perfect.

Abi ooo its getting too much.

Every second everyday there is always a thread here bashing women here una own seff don pass ubunja ,its getting too stale and boring! no matter how much you complain women will never change, women are Governed by nature the moment you start loosing your masculinity to them get ready for the worst unfortunately many men here are not ready to be men they prefer the easy way which always lead to failure ,All the dating advicers we have here are always insulted and unappreciated like they don't have jobs but they are saying the truth until you are you are ready to become an alphamale kee suffering and then come to nairaland to wail.
anyways you guys should keep boiling stone.

This is a very confusing to many because the media seems to have brainwashed many men about what women really find attractive in men,this one will say look good ,the other will say have money yet we still wallow in ignorance like nothing works .itz a very confused path to follow because countless theories proposed but only few works what do women really want ?
Don't let society decieve you society is really misleading society preaches unconditional love when in reality it doesn't exist you and I know this well.

I want to tell you a short story ,am currently dating a girl secretly my gf doesn't know this ,she is my side chick when I first met the girl I got her number from her friend I started chatting her up and I called her too .the first time I called her we had a very long conversation in the process of calling a female neighbor of interrupted she started telling the girl I have countless girlfriends that I am a playboy that she should avoid me ,the girl heard her but she just laughed and continued the conversation with me,logically she is supposed to stop talking to me because she now knows am a playboy but she continued talking to me till this day she is still dating me.

why am a telling you this ? simple anybody teaching you women's behaviour in a logical way is the worst teacher ever never listen,women are illogical simple.a woman wants the opposite of what men want that girl knew I had a girlfriend but she still wants me.Do you know that women are more attracted to guys in relationships than single guys,why do you think girls still go for married men ?

in summary biologically women want an emotional strong man who can face challenging times ,not the lovey dovey nice guy a man who behaves like he is overfed with pussy ,a man wanted by other women ,women instantly feel attraction for you when they notice other women adore you.whenever you are dealing with women don't forget this law.

Sometimes I wonder the kind of thoughts that go through women's minds most times even the educated ones so illogical ,as a man I find it hard to even visit a lady I know for sex, no matter the level of konji but these our naija women never ceize to amuse me.How can you be lured by a man you have never met all your life in this dangerous planet ours into a hotel room because of monetary gains I feel little pity for the girls coz they will never learn let them keep going after rich guys itz a good thing afterall nobody wan suffer.

one reason I don't blame yahoo boys karma is real

sinbad042:
Aro mate we are kings others are bastards,if we don't see war,we war ourselves...blood for blood.

my guy you are brainwashed already no going back only God can open your eyes .

Funmmyastic:
Men do not need to provide for or protect us,we can fend for ourselves.

speak for yourself .

welcome to the computer age! our generation the generation of lazy men.since the death of eistein the world is yet to produce another set geniuses to solve human problems, how could that be possible when this new generation calls hardwork "stress" and success "luck" how can discoveries be made in such a lazy generation ,the generation of ball less ,emotionally weak men who limit themselves with entitlement mentality they want to be given but Dont want to earn it. I live in a virtually lonely world my thoughts and words are controversial,infact I discovered the redpill since the age of 11, I guess ubunja hasn't discovered it then lolzz ,from time memorial I knew a guy should not live to impress people or feel entitled to anything especially women I knew this since childhood but I lost it because most people do not buy my opinions and always critise it so I lost it gradually untill I discovered NL.

My purpose for writing this article open the eyes of youths on this forum on why success has far from them its not your village,parddon my grammatical or spelling errors ,the bitter truth is that most youths are lazy and impatient ,they want success quick and easy which we all know is almost impossible most times if they don't get what they want they quit and settle for less,if you want to be successful in life then you must discover your purpose and passion and pursue it relentless with an option of giving up no matter what ! as long as you are alive keep pushing and become an example to others one day the universe (nature ) will reward you don't wait for luck it will will only favour 1% of human population.(more to come)

cheers
bigpriik.

Funmmyastic:
Nice one,guys should stick to their red pill and ladies should stick to feminism.
It seems Op is confused,haha,you said women in the olden days respect and revere their husbands and cannot counter their verdicts; this is so because they had no education to know what is wrong or right.Then,the husbands cater for their wives needs but now as a woman the society expect you to contribute financialy for a successful marriage.
It is silly to say after a lady went through the same educational system as her male counterparts that she should not hold a dignified position and be in the helm of affairs as the males.And that's what feminism preaches.It is only ladies that has nothing tangible to contribute to their relationships can be controled anyhow like puppet.

what you stated above is the major problem, you women want to have equal rights with men because you are educated as you said,but yet you want men to still provide for you and protect you hence the entitlement mentality still lingers in your head .feminism is a scam.and like I said you can't cheat nature you ladies still crave to be under a man authority subconsciously since you still want men to provide for you and protect you is that not hypocrisy?a true feminist should be ready to pay her bills,by herself an iphone,protect herself am yet find such a woman in Nigeria.

Biglittlelois:
I see contradictions.....

hmmmmm

men are getting wiser lolzz i am happy kudos to ubunja,women are getting more powerless by the day its joyous.But many men are are still living in bondage and its still pains me they are not willing to change,
we live in a generation of weak men ,in the past men were emotionally superior but presently it women who are emotionally stronger than men hence the manipulation,in the days of of our forefathers women were under the man control she dares not talk when her husband talks ,she dares not go out of the house without her husband's permission but this 21st century everything has being reversed.
men Suffer in the hands of women today because we have altered the natural setting of social dynamics,imagine a generation where gays now have a say in the society,imagine a world were women are allowed to take part in governance,business,economics creatures who don't have stable emotions smh all these are against the law of nature.Naturally a man is suppose to be in control of the woman that is how nature wants it,we suffer with women today because we allowed women to play the role of men in the society when you try to cheat nature you suffer for it nature can never be cheated.

Thanks to the great ubunja and harddon for opening our eyes,as harddon always say " a man who has no control over his emotions and penis is not ready for relationships "for women will rearly submitt to him.niggas ,gentlemen stop being emotional with women stop treating women like children they are capable of taking care of themselves they are adults,if you wanna help let it be from your own will not because you were pressured to do so .

if you disobey nature by allowing women control you emotionally you will suffer the consequences nature is real.
women do not fall in love with richmen,gentlemen,nice guys,intelligent men etc women fall in love with men other women desire
ask celebrities, did you remember when Runtown bleeped his rich promoters girlfriend after he proposed to her with a 6 million naira ring ,do you still believe money is all women want money OK,dating is a game the one who cares less is in control.

spread the gospel.meanwhile mancity is loosing.

The truth of the matter is women do not like am emotionally weak guy its a total turnoff for them deep down they want you to behave like a guy who has many female options ,once a guy gives them that impression he instantly becomes attractive to them.a real man never takes women's actions and words serious most times they are fake.

BuikemWillz:
Write-ups and thought patterns like these are sickening to me. The fact you've been unfortunate and have been meeting people that think like you, or know people who have been, doesn't give you the effrontery to posit that there's no such thing as unconditional love. Unconditional love does exist...

my brother can you allow you sister to marry or date a street urchin or a bus conductors in the name of love be truthful to yourself.

AwkaetitiBabe:
Yea yea we know. Next topic pls

pained.

good morning pals hope you are having a nice day?
back to the topic,this is one harsh realty of life and a bitter pill to swallow ,never expect anybody to love you unconditionally it is the biggest scam ever,although in the past before the computer age set in people love unconditionally especially the men but now its gone forever.men are the only who tend to love unconditionally but it is now they are getting wiser and do otheewise
anygirl that tells you she loves you unconditiobally is jonseing you for real people are just attracted to your status that's all ,meaning humans are attracted to you class/level forget all the love talk you hear all around ,if you don't have a good source of income,you don't dress well,you are not confident as a guy (packaging) no lady will love you sefini

and as a lady if you are not beautiful,well behaved and cultured ,if you dont dress well no guy will love you for you never!

As for all those pastors that preached to you and all those relationship experts that gave you the idea of unconditional love they received you to get money from you ,you don't learn from people advice we learn better from experience not from advice.

emmaodet:
that is it bro.
learning from others experiences before it hits you.
thanks bro
truth is bitter and sometimes knowing people love you for what you can provide is sickening

yes ooo they keep preaching unconditional love but the below average bus conductors,keke drivers,truck pushers,road hawkers are rejected like trash by everyday we all see it every day but pretend it doesn't happen.Ask your pastor if he will allow his daughter marry a busconductor f***cking shiiit.

Dangerousboy:
Sir you did a wrong thing. If I were the people in that forum I will remove you. You know why? You were in a Christian forum where the word of God is shared as the solution and Christian doctrine upheld and there you were bringing a circular advice. Don't you know that there are wisdom and there is a superior wisdom which is from above? You were suppose to share godly wisdom there and not just common sense. I do follow ubanja, his work is cool and full of common sense but I don't agree with something's he says because it is not from above. It is only the one that comes from above that is above all.

you are writing trash.

emmaodet:
I don't know what is happening to me again because ever since i joined nairaland and started reading some threads and comments on nairaland, following people like ubunja and co, my life as never been the same again.
I thought social media is just a place for fun but it seems what we hear/watch and see as a way of shaping our lives.
Am a very quite, gentle and respected person in the church and my area but things are really happening fast that calls for concern.
Am in a church organised family whatsapp group with alot of respected families but of lately have been more or less an outcast in the group.
Last week, they raised a topic about Love and why people were commenting positively about how they love their wives and how their wives stood beside them when they were poor, i entered the forum and took the whole topic to the opposite direction. I told them about how Love is not enough to hold a relationship because most ladies will leave when no more money or they see a better option.
The forum went hay wire, cut fire and things went south.
Yesterda, they raised a topic about hiw not to condonea cheating partner and as usual i came into the forum and pointed out the fact that only if they know the high rate of infidelity, a large percentage of marriages will crash instantly.
Ever since my first issue, i noticed a lot of them are really avoiding me like a plague because i was raw, harsh and blunt unlike my previous self.
Ubunja, the manipulated man and pther topics of infidelity as really changed me alot and presently my wife is concerned about me because she said my comments were wild, different, raw etc
Am losing my mind pals, don't know what is happening to me.

Cc
Martinez39
Larryking540
Franchasng
Mekenz
Ubunja
Pansophist
Pocohantas

my nigga don't feel bad nairaland opens your eyes to the truths and realities of life because thousands of people share their life experiences here and we naturally learn from them consciously and subconsciously you can't escape it ,I keep saying it if you are not on nairaland your are almost lost in Nigeria we are the smartest set of people in Nigeria ,women marvel at my emotional strength and confidence ,guys see me as a weirdo but I know what I am doing.

people run away from truths in real life because it is a bitter pill to swallow,even your pastor and relationship experts cannot tell you the real truth about love and relationships all the keep preaching is unconditional love which we all know is impossible no woman or man can love you unconditionally never! but they keep preaching it leaving us in great confusion.

ubunja:
it's okay. You're Red Pill now. It's a very lonely world because the overwhelming majority are Blue Pill.


I personally avoid talks about love and romance etc. If I'm in that environment I bite my tongue and reserve my comments.

I know most people are living a lie. I live my truth quietly.

ubunja!

you are a demon ,I can't believe I laid two girls last week! so easily what! so this face value thing women do is real ?,and guess what these girls were forming holy holy at first and cant have sex with you i dont know you at first, pass I kept pressing on teasing them and I also promise them I will keep their dirty secret and guess what they yielded and we bleeped,I can't really understand myself these days my life has changed ever since I read you articles you are a genius can't wait for your blog.

what is the big deal if you have children in the 20s in your sixties is it a must to have children early.

Had a long discussion with my guys and they said I don't have a heart to love,they were really wrong I do love but I fear being controlled by women, I am not a playboy am just a guy who has absolute control over my emotions and it has really helped my dating life because women seem to be attracted to me more than when I was needy .of recent I met a very cute lady I felt something strong for ,I loved her more than my girlfriend so I decided to drop all my game and be natural with her, I quickly become a bit emotional around her I was caring and all but las las she rejected me ,you see?whenever I wanna approach women the normal way all guys do I usually fail so I stick to being a player and approach women with less emotions .

IAmSkinny:
Cus I no get money. And yes, I have read all ILegend's thread and his e-books (60%). At the end of the day, it all boils down to money.

your problem is your mindset.