this is a useless topic because
u are sound like a teenager
u are not a focused person if not u should have pursue your dreams first and other things will follow.
u are after fornication. u are not in love but u are there to get something from the girl.
u are immature
focus on your dreams, use your head to think what u need to do that will change your levels.
this is a nonsense topic that is calling for senseless attention. I know some myopic Nairaland will still come here and say rubbish.

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Kingpinukecy:
Let ur cousin give her Type A test or Titration test, any of the test will work better on her.

explain the type A test

this story is totally true but the fact that it happens with different girls makes my cousin looks strange. what should he tell his present girl, who is already expecting money from him. if he doesn't meet up to expectations, she might break up with him. and he truly loves her,

real

My cousin is a graduate from AAU. He is working and they are paying him in 5figures. Anytime he want to receive,he will usually fall in love with a girl. he will use his earnings to take care of the girl he is in love with but the relationship always ends after the money is finished. This usually happens every time the money is about to come. And it usually happens with different girls at different time. whenever he want to receive, he must fall in love and use the money on the girl. Next week, he is going to receive again, he is already in love with someone already, the girl is asking for house rent and want to expand her business. The girl said she is ready to settle down with him but the boy is afraid that history might repeat itself. He wants to start a big business now but he wants to use almost half of the money to pay her house right rent and invest on her business. should he invest in herHow will he know if the girl is the the other ? what test can he give to the girl to be sure she won't run away

My cousin is a graduate from AAU. He is working and they are paying him in 5figures. Anytime he want to receive,he will usually fall in love with a girl. he will use his earnings to take care of the girl he is in love with but the relationship always ends after the money is finished. This usually happens every time the money is about to come. And it usually happens with different girls at different time. whenever he want to receive, he must fall in love and use the money on the girl. Next week, he is going to receive again, he is already in love with someone already, the girl is asking for house rent and want to expand her business. The girl said she is ready to settle down with him but the boy is afraid that history might repeat itself. He wants to start a big business now but he wants to use almost half of the money to pay her house right rent and invest on her business. should he invest in herHow will he know if the girl is the the other ? what test can he give to the girl to be sure she won't run away

constant nagging is the worst form of nagging.

the right thing done in the wrong way is wrong. I am a very blunt person but I have observed that most people don't like to be corrected harshly. I belt u don't like it too. u need to work on yourself on this. u can be blunt and still be soft. u were too harsh on her. Until we understand that we are humans that we make deliberate and indeliberate mistakes, we might not know how the other person feels. There are wives who doesn't know how to cook but their husbands knows how they cope with them.
secondly u are a kid. I say that with a loud voice because of the way u said u are banging her. is sex an achievement only teenagers talk that way.

Mr man, u are a kid. I repeat with a very loud voice, u are kid. The way u fooled and insult your mother in law here simply means u have a wicked or a wrong heart towards her. Her status was not what started the quarrel between u and ur wife. it is only children that blame others when they are at fault

Truth be told, u don't like your mother in law, one day u are going to insult her in her presence or in present of your wife. Settle it in your heart, u will keep blaming your mother in law when something happen

U are selling your wife dignity to your so called nonsense friend who is a bad adviser, check his home, I won't be surprised if that your friend is not doing well in his marriage

Humble yourself, go and apologize to your wife, don't make it look like u are trying to know where she slept, act like a man who truly have a special kind of love towards his wife

u spoke my mind ,let start this in a small way

Living as a teacher, I have seen some things that breaks my heart. one of which are IRRESPONSIBLE FATHERS. They may pay school fees for their children but they are never sensitive to their children. It breaks my heart. They pose or appear they are doing their best for their kids but the truth is, they are just living in shadows.
One of the girls I tutored, her dad when he has a feud with Tue mum, the children normally suffers for it. The man takes it on his female children.
Another female student dad nags for every little thing the girl does. The man is like a bully because know him a little
Fathers hear this and hear me well, "when discipline is not mixed with love, it becomes harshness and perhaps wickedness.
No one is saying u should not discipline your child but there is an adage that says "when you beat a child with your right hand, draw the child with the other hand.
Besides they say" too much of everything is bad. scolding them everytime will make them think you don't love them. Ask yourself these questions
1. When Last did you discuss or interact with your female child
2. When last did you tell her you love her because if u Dont tell her that u love her, when she finds someone that tells her that outside, she will easily be deceived
3. When last did u show your female daughter love. You can show love by buying her gifts, watching a movie with her, playing with her
4. Teach her about sex education
Finally, I know mothers are also guilty of this, because there is a lady friend, she was guilty of this, but she quickly notice her daughter was becoming distant, after telling her the above word, she began to see change. Father take your daughter seriously, who knows, she might be the answers u have been praying for. Good morning everyone

getting married is not building trust. Trust is built and u must keep building trust. u are to be blame 70percent because you know your husband that he doesn't like you interacting with strangers and u find yourself not able to comply to what he needs. men Luke their wives as introvert because extrovert women are prone to cheat and bring trouble to the home through the spirit of tafiaology.

From your words, it seems u have a lot of people u do discuss with, having too many friends can influence your marriage. Rather than having many people u are talking to, look for a very few people to communicate with. make only like one or two your friend

Communication is the beginning of Any relationship. if u communicate with anyone for a short period of time, u might start developing feelings for that one. Your husband should be your best friend. I know you could also have friends outside your marriage but reduce your constant interactions with strangers

Finally, discuss with your husband, be more transparent. if another man or guy comes to talk to you, let him notice you are married . introduce your husband stylishly and cut the communication on time. good luck

Living as a teacher, I have seen some things that breaks my heart. one of which are IRRESPONSIBLE FATHERS. They may pay school fees for their children but they are never sensitive to their children. It breaks my heart. They pose or appear they are doing their best for their kids but the truth is, they are just living in shadows.
One of the girls I tutored, her dad when he has a feud with Tue mum, the children normally suffers for it. The man takes it on his female children.
Another female student dad nags for every little thing the girl does. The man is like a bully because know him a little
Fathers hear this and hear me well, "when discipline is not mixed with love, it becomes harshness and perhaps wickedness.
No one is saying u should not discipline your child but there is an adage that says "when you beat a child with your right hand, draw the child with the other hand.
Besides they say" too much of everything is bad. scolding them everytime will make them think you don't love them. Ask yourself these questions
1. When Last did you discuss or interact with your female child
2. When last did you tell her you love her because if u Dont tell her that u love her, when she finds someone that tells her that outside, she will easily be deceived
3. When last did u show your female daughter love. You can show love by buying her gifts, watching a movie with her, playing with her
4. Teach her about sex education
Finally, I know mothers are also guilty of this, because there is a lady friend, she was guilty of this, but she quickly notice her daughter was becoming distant, after telling her the above word, she began to see change. Father take your daughter seriously, who knows, she might be the answers u have been praying for. Good morning everyone [/quote]

Living as a teacher, I have seen some things that breaks my heart. one of which are IRRESPONSIBLE FATHERS. They may pay school fees for their children but they are never sensitive to their children. It breaks my heart. They pose or appear they are doing their best for their kids but the truth is, they are just living in shadows.
One of the girls I tutored, her dad when he has a feud with Tue mum, the children normally suffers for it. The man takes it on his female children.
Another female student dad nags for every little thing the girl does. The man is like a bully because know him a little
Fathers hear this and hear me well, "when discipline is not mixed with love, it becomes harshness and perhaps wickedness.
No one is saying u should not discipline your child but there is an adage that says "when you beat a child with your right hand, draw the child with the other hand.
Besides they say" too much of everything is bad. scolding them everytime will make them think you don't love them. Ask yourself these questions
1. When Last did you discuss or interact with your female child
2. When last did you tell her you love her because if u Dont tell her that u love her, when she finds someone that tells her that outside, she will easily be deceived
3. When last did u show your female daughter love. You can show love by buying her gifts, watching a movie with her, playing with her
4. Teach her about sex education
Finally, I know mothers are also guilty of this, because there is a lady friend, she was guilty of this, but she quickly notice her daughter was becoming distant, after telling her the above word, she began to see change. Father take your daughter seriously, who knows, she might be the answers u have been praying for. Good morning everyone

I totally feel sorry for you, no one truly understand what you are going through. I really want to talk with you in person. dm me.

Omar09:


I was in a WhatsApp group oh... Catching fun till one dude like that pm me.. I replied, we chatted then one thing led to another I told him of a girl who was trying to change my perception of women these days n that I feared she wants to date me but she trying to make me into that little boy she wants and can control, me never give am chance. The guy come ask me wetin I want I tell am say I no deh ready for relationship all I want is her pussy that's all.
My man started preaching feminism shitt to me and how women were being oppressed. I asked him what he stood to gain defending the so called creature out to demolish you for their personal gain and ego. He fucking blocked me and kicked me out of the WhatsApp group. But this argument was done in private.

Just because someone acted wrongly to u doesn't make everyone the same. I don't have to prove myself. I am new to Nairaland but the little time I have spent here,i have seen demeaning words from males of Nairalanders. Ask yourself , Can u call your daughter hoe? I guess your answer is no. Treat people with respect even if u don't view things thame same way

Martinez39:
It's surprising how a man's brain and destiny can be so lost in a woman's laps and pussy that he would create an idiotic thread like this. The op is a perfectly conditioned simp. Who knows if he is trolling? It's hard to tell the difference these days.

Don't be myopic in view. Don't deviate from what I pointed out. No man in his right senses can call his mother hoe. If u don't want to change, u can continue to call any name that you like. we are human. we should at least respect each other including females

Pettyprincess:

Op In case you don't know,nairaland is a place where broke guys lay their frustration on ladies here due to rejection!!! They call every ladies hoe forgetting they indirectly calling their mothers nd sisters hoe!!!
You will never see reasonable guy insulting women!!! Because if you have respect for your mother you wnt come online nd be insulting same specie as your mum!!!
Op if you are a guy nd actually typed this God will bless you abundantly!!!

God bless you too sir. it is so annoying when I hear them say some stupid unnecessary things women. I just can't understand the boys here on Nairaland. Most of them needs orientation

crackhaus:

This statement is valid ONLY if it encompasses the positives as well as the negatives.

What I mean is this - your statement also implies that for every great woman out here who has made a name for herself in her society and in the larger world, her successes are nothing else but only a reflection of what men made of her.

Is this your supposition?

you are correct on this. but the kind of insults and on girls in this platform is so irritating. they use demeaning words like hoes, that is inhuman.

The new trend of boys discussing their ordeals in the hands of girls is very irritating. They only talk about the bad the girls are doing and not what they are doing wrong. Women are only reflection of what men makes of them. it is pitiable that Nairaland boys talk trash about girls. Most guys will never have a lasting relationship not to talk of lasting relationship because of their attitude. Some guys are
1 Sex maniac: Anytime they see a girl comes to visit, they want to take advantage of having as many round as they can have. All they think is sex.
2. Most guys are irresponsible: They cannot provide the basic needs of the girl. Money is a language in which love understands. Loving her is not enough, do your best but don't out -best your best. Be responsible for something in her life. U cannot provide all her needs but do your best
3. Most guys prefer sex talk to friendship talk. Talk about your plans for your future. At times,avoid sex talk. most a girl notice u are after sex, that relationship is gone.
If boys can reduce their sex urge, it will save them a lot of respect from girls. Don't allow your erection give u direction. use your head, not your heart.
Women are the most wonderful being on heart. if there was no women, the world would have be less fun. Women are the spices of men.

acesboy:
Are you indirectly telling me, sex should not be involve in relationship between me and babe.

I am neither saying yes or no to your question but when there is no limit to something, It becomes irritating
besides the way boys insult girls on these platform is so irritating. They use words like hoes among others. they demean girls. there is a big partiality here. Only boys do most of the complain here. Girls don't really have their own opinions. Even their opinions are trappled upon. This is a typical African mentality that derail the world of love.
Boys on this platform must learn to respect girls.

The new trend of boys discussing their ordeals in the hands of girls is very irritating. They only talk about the bad the girls are doing and not what they are doing wrong. Women are only reflection of what men makes of them. it is pitiable that Nairaland boys talk trash about girls. Most guys will never have a lasting relationship not to talk of lasting relationship because of their attitude. Some guys are
1 Sex maniac: Anytime they see a girl comes to visit, they want to take advantage of having as many round as they can have. All they think is sex.
2. Most guys are irresponsible: They cannot provide the basic needs of the girl. Money is a language in which love understands. Loving her is not enough, do your best but don't out -best your best. Be responsible for something in her life. U cannot provide all her needs but do your best
3. Most guys prefer sex talk to friendship talk. Talk about your plans for your future. At times,avoid sex talk. most a girl notice u are after sex, that relationship is gone.
If boys can reduce their sex urge, it will save them a lot of respect from girls. Don't allow your erection give u direction. use your head, not your heart.
Women are the most wonderful being on heart. if there was no women, the world would have be less fun. Women are the spices of men.

some people don't like when u are remorseful. they would scold u and stop trusting u. I had this experience growing up. I always tell the truth when I am wrong. I usually admit what I did wrong even when the person may never know is me. I am no longer like that anymore because people will make u look like the worst sinner on earth. they will scold u and never trust u again.
if she could tellu the truth, marry her. trust
her again. Give her another chance but if u refused, u are going to meet someone who is more worse and that person will never tell u some dirty truth

I really want to settle down next year 2020 but I don't know how to start a relationship. I am a very shy person. I am male. if you are interested please send me a message or reach me on facebook
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falling in love with this single mother. He always thought about setting down with her but until recently. she said she can't marry him in the rye state the boy is in right now. the boy only has a little bed, a standing fan, a laptop and a phone with a teaching job. he always aspire to go back to school to finish his degree but no enough finance yet. he is 31. same age with the girl. she said she cannot settle down with him. She even said she can't date Esan or Ibo because she would her dated one of her friend or a group member who has been asking her out. She even said she doesn't like a boy that have small body. His heart is broken because he foreseen a broken relationship. What should he do?

falling in love with this single mother. He always thought about setting down with her but until recently. she said she can't marry him in the rye state the boy is in right now. the boy only has a little bed, a standing fan, a laptop and a phone with a teaching job. he always aspire to go back to school to finish his degree but no enough finance yet. he is 31. same age with the girl. she said she cannot settle down with him. She even said she can't date Esan or Ibo because she would her dated one of her friend or a group member who has been asking her out. She even said she doesn't like a boy that have small body. His heart is broken because he foreseen a broken relationship. What should he do?

MrBrownJay1:


bro... it is no secret that Nigerian are foolishly driven by society and religion.
many of you would swear you can never marry such lady but let your parents or pastor tell you that you should, and you will quickly oblige.....FURTHERMORE: if that single mother is Linda Ikeji, Tiwa Savage or Genevieve then see how all you bunch of hypocrites would change your tune.

That is very true

the problem is that he is deeply in love with her

There are different reasons why marriages don't last.

1. Because of selfishness. Both married men and women are too selfish to reach a compromise. The reason for nagging by the woman and the violent complain by the man is selfishness. Any marriage that is not based on selfishness will last long

2. Storing offences instead of forgiving and overlooking some things. Some men complain about every little thing. no woman is 100percent perfect. if u correct her today and she does the same thing the next minute, forgive her. always forgive her in advance. she is human. the major reason marriage fail is because husband and wife pile up offences, some even write the date and time their wife offends them. if she offends you, forgive and ignore

3. Money issues. Husbands should tell their wife their income. let them know what u are doing and how u are doing it. if u have 5naira, discuss with her how u want it to be spend or invested. Give her her own share for household stuff. women spend more than their husbands give them. don't be too Secretive

4. Don't always expect her to do the right thing. She will sometimes act foolish. correct her in love. don't use abusive words on her

5. Never use abusive words on her no matter what. Even if she deserves it. Learn to be quiet when u are angry with her or better still, go out to cool off. Any man that argue with a woman is doing the right thing in the wrong way. Women don't forget your abusive words even after apologies. learn to use the right words

6. Know the best time to correct her. Most people don't like harsh measures during correction. so if u are angry, walk away or be quiet. Get to know when she is in a good happy mood before you can correct her. U don't have to make it that that very moment . be wise

Love her with all you got. let her see the love

are u saying marrying single mothers is right?