Thanks everyone. After speaking my mind, felt beta

I have not been to church service or choir rehearsal for some days now running to weeks. I have never missed Sunday service in my for almost 20 years plus. My church is far from me, so I transport twice to get there. Going to church and serving God is my hobby but having transport fare to go to church is hard.
I am a teacher. Salary sometimes is not enough, I like to go to church. I miss choir. I wished I had my personal business that fetch me money everyday. I would always see transport
Though if I don't go to my church due to transportation, I will attend any close to me.
Tomorrow is choir thanksgiving, I don't couldn't go to choir rehearsal this morning because of T. Fare. I had 150 yesterday but I used it to buy indomie super pack because I hadn't eaten till 4 yesterday. I have stomach ulcer. I couldnt bear the hunger. I have been a helper to orphans even though I am one and had been helpers to people. If you read my previous tread ,you will know. Why do I experience this even when I help others?
Tomorrow is choir thanksgiving, we also have choir program by 4 tomorrow evening. I can't even go to my church tomorrow. depression is setting in. Just so tired. No insult please. I am going through already, don't add to it

God always works in mysterious ways. There is this girl. She was raped while she was going to all night years ago. She became deaf while she was 300 level in AAU Ekpoma. She was rejected severally from different works she applied for. But God gave her that beauty and Favour. I met her this year. I solicited for her that people should buy ear aid for her but no one responded. I spoke to my boss that we should employ her. And she was employed at my place of work. She never disappointed me. She did the best in her job. You won't know she is dear if you are not told. She can only speak. She later bought me a pair of shoe to appreciate me. Now, she is gloriously married. What a joy !!! Never give up on anyone

Good morning my fellow nairalander. I do like helping people. It is something that is inside me. I easy feel compassionate when I see others in need.
There is a girl I know in Benin here, she cannot hear. She became deaf because of a particular illness in 2013 while she was still in Ambrose Alli University ekpoma. She was in her 300l when it happened. I decided to help her by asking my proprietress to employ her. I am a teacher in a private school . because I am close to the proprietress and her family, the lady employed her. She can speak fluently but she can't hear. Sometimes, I had to help her with explanation because after she finished explaining,she cannot get feedback from the pupils.
She resides in Benin. I don't need money, all I need is for someone to help send EAR AID to me in Benin. She can only hear with the help of ear aid. She has been working in our school for some months now. U can even send me an email if u want to give it to her in person
Please help with an EAR AID.
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Umaruxoxo:
Lala front page abeg .I take wetin u de worship beg u

Please I don't who can help me push on front page. Please help

Good morning my fellow nairalander. I do like helping people. It is something that is inside me. I easy feel compassionate when I see others in need.
There is a girl I know in Benin here, she cannot hear. She became deaf because of a particular illness in 2013 while she was still in Ambrose Alli University ekpoma. She was in her 300l when it happened. I decided to help her by asking my proprietress to employ her. I am a teacher in a private school . because I am close to the proprietress and her family, the lady employed her. She can speak fluently but she can't hear. Sometimes, I had to help her with explanation because after she finished explaining,she cannot get feedback from the pupils.
She resides in Benin. I don't need money, all I need is for someone to help send EAR AID to me in Benin. She can only hear with the help of ear aid. She has been working in our school for some months now. U can even send me an email if u want to give it to her in person
Please help with an EAR AID.
lalastica front page please

Good morning my fellow nairalander. I do like helping people. It is something that is inside me. I easy feel compassionate when I see others in need.
There is a girl I know in Benin here, she cannot hear. She became deaf because of a particular illness in 2013 while she was still in Ambrose Alli University ekpoma. She was in her 300l when it happened. I decided to help her by asking my proprietress to employ her. I am a teacher in a private school . because I am close to the proprietress and her family, the lady employed her. She can speak fluently but she can't hear. Sometimes, I had to help her with explanation because after she finished explaining,she cannot get feedback from the pupils.
She resides in Benin. I don't need money, all I need is for someone to help send EAR AID to me in Benin. She can only hear with the help of ear aid. She has been working in our school for some months now. U can even send me an email if u want to give it to her in person
Please help with an EAR AID.

You can change, believe this, that is the beginning of your changes

1F30M4:


It's good you feel better now..

I understand you perfectly.. I'll tell you the truth, people will always talk.. You can never please everybody, there will always be someone/people that'll come out to say negative things about you, even those you've never interacted with all your life.. Even if you decide to lay your life for their sake, they'll still have something to say, good & bad.. Do not let this bother you at all cos people will always always talk, know this & know peace.. Shalom!

Thanks so much. I appreciate this kind and encouraging words. It's just that, sometimes, I get depressed when I hear negative comment about me. I feel encouraged

Thanks so much everyone, I am truely encouraged

Don't frawn at the english
Right from childhood ,I am always bother about what people will say about me. When I hear someone speaking against me, I feel down especially when I hear those I never thought would speak against me. I cared so much about what people would say about me ,that I started trying to please everybody. I would all out and do my best for others but if I make one mistake inside a hundred things, people would speak against me. So I decided to turn myself to an introvert,still people still talk about me
The people's words that pain me the most are those I thought are my close friends. I wouldn't have known they do gossip against me until one day or two where u will coincidentally hear them speaking against you.

Who have experience this, please share how you deal with the pain of people who you never thought would speak against you,spoke against you.
I usually get depressed when someone I trust do these things.
Please help with your advise

Firstly I don't support sex before marriage but I will give you this best possible advice

U are the most heartless person I have ever seen . in fact u are worst than a traitor.

Firstly: some girls don't enjoy sex because of some obvious reasons like genital mutilation and others. However there are solutions that can be lasting for those girls

One of the people I counsel last year ,his wife had this same issue. The man obviously wanted to enjoy more sex with his wife but that didn't work because his wife had genital mutilation. Because he loved his wife so much,he seek medical advice from people who are experts. And today , they both enjoy sex. Although the enjoyment of sex didnt happen in one day, it was a gradual process but the man was patient.
Tell her the truth,tell her u don't enjoy sex with her and that u don't want to cheat on her in the near future . that is why u wanted to end the relationship with her. But now, u have reason it deeply,so u will to stay in the relationship and put the marriage through. Don't give up on that girl , don't leave people the way u met them . help her to find a lasting solution.

Never forget,love has it own challenges,it is when we face that challenges and overcome it,that is when we can say, true love

some girls are the cause they want elaborate wedding when they know the guy cannot afford it

SportsHD:
I'm not even married yet but i know I'm getting a divorce.
As a future divorcee, life's good. yunno banging pretty beaches, my kids going to the best school. My ex wife receiving her allowance every month.

It's nice to finally have freedom.

is it the kind of life u want to live for yourself. it is better to keep mute than to say a negative word. I won't be surprised is it is a teenager or someone in his early 20s that is writing this

thanks for the your advice. she has ended the relationship

if you were to rent a house, would you prefer the house where Landlord is or where Landlady is? Which is better? give reasons

DBestDoc:


I don’t think her decision to reject the proposal came from a place of wisdom. She may have made another mistake while trying to avoid future mistakes, except of course she doesn’t like the guy.
@ the part in bold is actually the reason for courtship and proposal is the first step to that.

She probably doesn’t know that courtship is the time to study one’s partner and if compatibility is questioned, both parties can part ways amicably.

Courtship is not same as marriage or sleeping together and nobody says you’re getting married the second you get engaged.

I for one do not fancy long Period of dating and courtship. For me, 6 months ( dating and courtship periods inclusive) is more than enough to get the little information you need to decide whether to move or stay and sign the dotted lines.

I think she’s still hung on the past and yet to sort her emotions out properly.

I wish her the best going forward.

I didn't blame her because u know these days,majority of the engagements always end up on social media. people will go and paste it on social media and if the marriage doesn't happen,it will be a shame because a lot of people have seen it on social media.
secondly, I think courtship should always come before proposing because after proposing, marriage plans should set in.

Vision101:
Is your friend financially stable? In comparison with the man who is higher financially? I sense that there is an attraction other than love. That's why he is rushing it. It's a serious red flag. I recommend that she calls it off.

no she isn't, she is just a teacher, even to fend for herself a times is not easy for her. she lives with her mum. I think she is scared because of her past relationship. according to her, it is wrong to accept a proposal when u have not known the person or spend quality time with the person. but believe me, she is one of the nicest person u could ever think of. although I have told her severally that the father of her child can come back but she insist he must have moved on. but for the new guy,I don't trust him because I felt it is too sudden

Richy4:
she should have applied wisdom.... What she should have done was to agree in front of everyone and disagree privately just to save face...My opinion though...
She should have told him all her worries in private that they should give each other sometime to get to know each other that the four time of being together is not enough... he would have understand that part... To be honest, If I'm the guy I will not like to see her again even though her worries were valid...Some times it's not really nice to propose in public, because that person with be surprised with the outcome...

I told her the same thing that she should have accepted the guy in public and later say no in Private. according to her she didn't want to repeat her past mistake. I advise her not to take that guy serious because humanly speaking that guy would want to react in the near future because of the embarrassment. I don't know if I gave the right advice

A friend of mine called me and told me what happened to her. this happened recently.
she is a single mother. she said she went to meet her boyfriend (not the father of her child) on an outing. As they were there, unknowingly to her, her boyfriend friends and their girl friends were all there. Before you know it, the guy knelt down and propose to her, they were recording, but my friend said she refused. according to her, her boyfriend was not happy. one of her boyfriend friends called her to ask her why she refused to accept the proposal and she told him the reason. according to her, she said she has only met the boy four times and they just started dating two months ago. in order words, it was too early for the boy to propose. after she explained all that happened, I told her she did the right thing. I also told her not to take the relationship serious because the boy may want to use her and dump her because of the embarrassment she gave him in public.
on a second thought, I felt a little bad because I might have given her the wrong advice.
should she continue the relationship or step out of the relationship because of the embarrassment she caused the guy by refusing to accept

op dont give up. God will never allow the temptation that is bigger than u to come to u (1 Cor 10:13). God will make a way for you.

Shinapraise:
Let have a foundation for this pm me 08161127336

thank. but I just called your number but it is not going through

Pauladex:
I think you have a gud heart, but you won't get anything serious to help them with your approach. Interview both of them to hear their full story, inform them about your intentions and get their pictures with their account numbers if possible. In that way people will take you serious. Any lazy youth can come up with what you wrote,that is why have to do more to legitimize your story.

I have not informed the both of them. but as long as I see them, their thoughts will always come to mind. I would love to follow your approach but I don't know if she would want to go public on social media help. but will speak to her today to know how she will look it.

secondly, if you doubt me, drop your contact in my email address,I will call you and both of us will go there together and you will see for yourself. the description of their place are very easy. thanks for your words.

BarrSly:
I am seeing some hearing aid which is much cheaper than what you indicated up there. I can be willing to come assist the moment I am back in the country. As for the amputee please get a quote as to what it will cost to get her an artificial leg (Jumia or something I can verify myself) let’s see what we can do.

Thank you.

Ps: please don’t inbox me let all dealings be done out here.

thank you sir I appreciate so much. God bless you richly. for the amputee, I don't know the cost but I will ask her today if she has made any inquiries before now.

I would even prefer it is also public on this platform for transparency. I can give you the name of the street where she resides. it is a popular place in Aduwawa, Benin City. but just let me know when you are ready.

For the ear aid, I am surprised it is not as costly as I thought. I would appreciate it if I can get it across to her. Her mother have a tailoring shop in M.M way Benin city. it is close to Edo college .

once again thank you so much. only God can reward you for your kind gesture

op listen carefully, there is a philosophy I usually use. ask yourself these questions
1. will you allow someone to cohabit with your daughter or sister for 6years without paying her bride price?

2.will you be happy if someone else uses cohabit with your daughter or sister and the person will find a good excuse to work away after 6years

in conclusion,treat ladies the way you want your daughter or sister to be treated. remember, what you sow ,you reap.

there is no perfect woman in this world. you will never find one even if you try.
Any man who have peace in his or her home,must have been a forgiven person. if you say that lady is not good anymore,don't worry, God will visit her with a better person than you and guess what, you may never find someone that is as good as her.

u are indirectly saying your wife is cheating, I pity because the worst relationship advice usually come from men in nairaland. they will lambast your wife.
go to your wife, speak calmly with her, she will tell you everything. act friendly. don't act like a boss. act like you care. May you locate wisdom in your word

pardon my English
I naturally have compassion on people especially those I know that cannot pay me back. sometimes, I try to do the little I can since I am private school teacher. sometimes if I cannot help, I will start praying for

there is this lady in my church that her leg is amputated. she is a committed member and also comes to wash the church. she is beautiful . I have compassion towards her but I can't do more than I have. I am on my knees, please let's help her with an artificial leg. it will go a long way. she resides in Aduwawa in Benin City.
secondly, there is a beautiful girl that works in her mom's tailoring shop at M.M Way benin city. in 2013 while she was studying in Ambrose Alli University Ekpoma, she was sick and in the process,she couldn't hear anymore. up till now, she cannot hear. please let's help her with hearing aid. she could not buy hearing because it is expensive. last night ,a friend told me he saw the hearing aid within the range of 15k to 30k.. that is the cheapest I have heard of. the ones they sell in government hospital are more than a 120k. please help with any of these two. May God do for you what you cannot do for yourself.
please send me emails on billionsmark414@gmail.com.
thanks once again
if you doubt me, come to Benin

there was a little mistake in the Gmail. i just corrected it. thanks

you might not believe but you can come see for yourself in Benin at Aduwawa and the other person at m.m way

pardon my English
I naturally have compassion on people especially those I know that cannot pay me back. sometimes, I try to do the little I can since I am private school teacher. sometimes if I cannot help, I will start praying for them

there is this lady in my church that her leg is amputated. she is a committed member and also comes to wash the church. she is beautiful . I have compassion towards her but I can't do more than I have. I am on my knees, please let's help her with an artificial leg. it will go a long way. she resides in Aduwawa in Benin City.
secondly, there is a beautiful girl that works in her mom's tailoring shop at benin city. in 2013 while she was studying in Ambrose Alli University Ekpoma, she was sick and in the process,she couldn't hear anymore. up till now, she cannot hear. please let's help her with hearing aid. she could not buy hearing because it is expensive. last night ,a friend told me he saw the hearing aid within the range of 15k to 30k.. that is the cheapest I have heard of. the ones they sell in government hospital are more than a 120k. please help with any of these two. May God do for you what you cannot do for yourself.
please send me emails on billionsclub414@gmail.com.
thanks once again

pardon my English
I naturally have compassion on people especially those I know that cannot pay me back. sometimes, I try to do the little I can since I am private school teacher. sometimes if I cannot help, I will start praying for

there is this lady in my church that her leg is amputated. she is a committed member and also comes to wash the church. she is beautiful . I have compassion towards her but I can't do more than I have. I am on my knees, please let's help her with an artificial leg. it will go a long way. she resides in Aduwawa in Benin City.
secondly, there is a beautiful girl that works in her mom's tailoring shop at M.M Way benin city. in 2013 while she was studying in Ambrose Alli University Ekpoma, she was sick and in the process,she couldn't hear anymore. up till now, she cannot hear. please let's help her with hearing aid. she could not buy hearing because it is expensive. last night ,a friend told me he saw the hearing aid within the range of 15k to 30k.. that is the cheapest I have heard of. the ones they sell in government hospital are more than a 120k. please help with any of these two. May God do for you what you cannot do for yourself.
please send me emails on billionsmark414@gmail.com.
thanks once again
if you doubt me, come to Benin

these days,if you post a sensible thing without the word "sex" in it, people intend not to comment. in every social media like Facebook, WhatsApp,Twitter, Instagram , nairaland etc. Everyone loves to be appreciated. that is why, if you start a blog, and the word sex is not included, that blog will not amount to anything.
This generation value sex more than their children. they would rather spend 45k on a prostitute who gives them different styles than pay school fees of 25k school fees for their children.
The truth is if men would focus on their families, rather than looking for sex in different corners, the world would have been a better place. To make the whole country better, we need to start from families.

it pains so much when you hear men say "they cannot be eating the same soup for a long time. Is sex food? definitely not, sex is good. we all love sex but not to the detriment of making the future of our children unsafe.
if you want to change the world, start from yourself.
let's be sincere, there is no award for the best " sexer" in the world. I know women are also not helping matters but we need to start with men.
Having 13 girlfriends is not a sign that you are a big boy, you are wasting time and resources, train your children. if you don't have children, plan for your future and for your kids. The Bible says "a good man leaves an inheritance for his children's children". the word is enough for the wise

No matter who you are or where you are from, never forget to do good to others. We are all family.
Just to make this brief and simple, we are going to be praying for one another through out this week. we going to do this individually, nairalanders let's take out two (minutes) out of the 24 hours a day to pray for others who might be going through tough times.
STEPS IN ACHIEVING THIS GOAL
1. Any nairalander will write a piece of what they are going through or their heart desires, and others who sees it will take out two minutes to declare God's word or Pray for them individually and when you are through,
2 You will reply the person here on this platform and say IT IS DONE...GLORY
NOTE: I KNOW THIS IS A WRONG SECTION TO POST BUT I LIKE TO DO THIS HERE BECAUSE MY SPIRIT TOLD ME SO. MAYBE THERE IS SOMEONE THAT REALLY NEED THIS
I BEG EVERYONE TO PLEASE PARTICIPATE
Start dropping your prayer request or heart desires