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kulyie: yellow fifa :Dna their new name be that ? This is serious 8-)

Tgirl4real: Hmmm...

U got me thinking here Biolabee. Are u saying these women are only pretending till they get the ring?

Note that some men came up on this thread that they are married to older women and the age is never an issue except one.

I believe that the age thing is a thing of the mind and has to do with your personality and exposure.

If you as a woman see the man as the head in your marriage, u will submit whether or not you are older.

I believe such relationships will work better if the couples have related b4 as friends not minding the age difference.

For example, I have younger men as friends that relate with me on that friendship level. I respect them cos I learn from them and they have sum'n up there to offer. They are matured.

Also, I have younger men that relate with me on Sister/friend level, they look up to me and hope to learn things from me and ofcourse, I also learn from them. But as u can see, the relationship is already geared towards a sister - brother kinda thing and age is already playing a significant part. In that regard, it might be difficult to accept that kinda person as the head cos u are already like a sugar mummy to him indirectly.


I dunno if u get what I am trying to say.

salsera: @cleverdude
to answer your question survey the marriage issues on family section - do u honestly think the reason had to do with the wife being older? i'm yet to come across one where a spouse said 'ah is it because i'm younger'.
And talking of rules - which rules? its a marriage not a school

Cmon lets be realistic here - leadership got nothing to with age whether it be in the home or at work.

This same thread has more men saying they are married to people older than them and they are fine

onegig: Your question really hit some nerves here.

Had a kinda large nuclear cum extended family structure and my nuclear family struggled to send all of us to school i.e uni. but the other family opted for trade and a mix of uni.

But today, those from the other family who had trade training are doing perfectly okay but we that schooled and did everything are still just strugglling to patch things up.

If i look back I wish I had a technical skill much earlier before proceeding to Uni although I do now. But Speaking from experience, I would say as long as you can afford to give your kids sound secondary/high school education. I.e. ability to read, write and comprehend what goes around them then a little trade training of between 1-2 years should be encouraged before even thinking of proceeding to university. By then they would even be able to subsidize their education themselves and earn little money part time which would aid their schooling.

As a rejoinder most of my elders are still in the lurch trying to acquire more certs with meager resources when they realized that even the B.sc they had have not turned up very positive and my dad is kinda bitter about the situation of things.

jp philips: questionable character is what it is, if a lecturer sees you as aristo tested and he thinks he is aristo worthy how is he harassing you?
you have a market and clients are happy to patronize.

was she under duress when she chose the life she is living in school?

outrage: What is this man saying? In the mids of clerics saying things like this and nobody can correct him?


You don't seek consent of any wife before you can add additional one, its better to letter know but you don't owe it to her.

It is said go to the world and mutiply..

kulyie: hahahah baba oyo na wa o na everyday you dey always do honeymoon? Suffri suffri o.let iya juniour sef see your face for ground na and leave all this small small girls with skinny legs alone abi how una dey call am,ehen 'awon elese tooth pick'

WhyMe222: No. It was work that brought them together. She worked directly under him, though she was later moved to a different department but they have already struck a cord then and the friendship extended to the family. He visited when my wife put to bed and a few other times. He also atimes brings her home from work.

coogar: fathers can't raise children?
kids at a very young age whose mothers died of sickness don't exist in this world? this woman is a curse to the kid! matter of fact, the OP should get a paternity test done - he might not be the biological father after all and should that be the case, he should just make a clean break.

coogar: oh please - cut the sentiments.....
if i ever cheat as a husband, my wife should do whatever pleases her. i would not forgive her if she cheats, she shouldn't forgive me too.



if this woman had said no, this would never have happened. every sexual congress you hear about has 100% culpability of a woman unless it's rape. goodness gracious - not once, not twice, not thrice and you people are talking about forgiveness. forgiveness my white bütt!

coogar: if that mother is a disgrace to womanhood then to hell with her. what kind of friend cheats with his friend's wife? did he råpe her? the decision to sleep or not to sleëp with a man lies with the woman. the wife made vows to her husband, what has this gotta do with the friend? this doesn't take two - the wife is the lethargic devil!

coogar: this is marriage - not some around the corner relationship.



a pröstitute is better than this woman. at least, with a prostitute i know what to expect and any waywardness would not throw me into a state of shock.



which is the more reason i would be angry - she ought to have known better.



she committed a cardinal sin.....

coogar: strippers are not cheats and they are not whores..... if you wait long enough till 4am, their husbands/partners come to take them home! stripping is a profession, please don't compare it to infidelity!



i want to know the kind of foundation or example that cheating father is setting for his child. surely, what he's doing is edifying, isn't it?



your over-emphasis on separation is the reason i cited the drug addict instance. if the mother is going to do more harm psychologically to the child then it's better they are separated. i shudder to think what kind of upbringing a mother of this ilk would give to get child. she would probably be sending her on errand at age 5 to go buy condoms.




to each his own,
personally, i would not let my child grow with such a disgusting woman. screwing another man during lactation period. how grotesque!!!! some women make me sick to my stomach!

WhyMe222: We have talked about joint custody if the marriage finally collapses which is very likely. I agree my little girl will be better off with her mum. But the thought of her not growing up under my watch is killing me. I love her to bits and wanna enjoy her stages of growth. But this I am going to miss. It's killing me.

coogar: the child is in more danger growing with a whorish mother that lacks any decorum or scruples. i am sure you would also make this same point if a mother is a drug-addict. whoever told you children cannot be separated from their mothers is brainless - women are the biggest offenders when it comes to child abuse - go figure!

coogar: how can she be good to her kid when she's screwing another man while lactating? the kid is not being punished, the kid is being protected before her mother pass her whorish genes to the little child.

coogar: what makes this story bizarre is the double betrayal. my friend and my wife. how does one truly forgive such? if that happens to me there would be 2 or 3 people taking a first class ticket to the hottest part of hell. the op could have been killed.