₦airaland Forum

Morning missblanche
Have a nice day

2legit2qwt: So have you changed your mind about marriage now?

Oga at the top, you don show?
I tire o

im minding my biz doll

you are the one trolling for love lolz

pls investigate wella so that u dont hook a married man and you open a revenge thread like blueivy

Interesting metamorphosis from a thread complaining about the necessity of marriage to a toasting avenue

Ok

I WOULD HAVE SAID MORE BUT I DON'T WANT TO SAY ONE THING AND MY OGA AT THE TOP WILL SAY ANOTHER

ISH

Watching goings on chopping my guguru....

Frankly I'm impressed you actually tried to engage ostrich in a convo.

You ladies are truly mature

Please guys ignore ostrich so a slinging match does not occur on this thread

Kudos ladies

peleson: This topic is about abuse by women to men n NOT by wife to husband.
What happens to those that have been abused verbally or otherwise by step mothers, elder sisters , aunts, brothers wife etc.

if you have any experience to share along that line, it will be cool also.

Abuse is abuse no matter the medium

Phinalphantasy: Awww..nice of you...I just started a new job in the IT dept of a coy...quite a lot to learn and it makes me just read...

Congrats bro


Carmi, its just the second part that was unanswered, i put the whole thing just to show the thought flow
missblanche will be waiting for your response also

when asked why he did not come for media chat

coogar: Idowuogbo:

Lmao! Yes! It's my life o! As badosky, my disciples dem large gan! Now wot? Onigbese alayilojuti aka mama olobo express!

---

idowu, kindly help me translate this bit.....

[s]Now what? Shameless debtor aka Mama P.unny Express or Mama Monkey Express [/s]

I am just a translator o ...

Quite rightly ma, you answered the first set of questions by yourself and Maya
FIRST QUESTION

Maya2pretty:@biolabee polygamy bawo? y wont monogamy work? pls its not an option and as 4 a rich guy, to me a rich guy is a successful guy (mainly in career, with good investments) that can take care of all his needs without breakin a sweat which extends into takin care of his wants without breakin a sweat, or maybe few drops lol

biolabee:
this defintion of rich in my opinion extends to politicians, government contractors and middle aged guys not always the young dudes
So are these kind of guys available to single ladies except divorcees or baby daddys

I suggested polygamy to know what this forum thought since economic empowerment is not really an issue for you guys
So all those olden days of jealousy and in fighting over property is a non-issue

So will empowered young women consider this

I then asked another set
SECOND QUESTION

carmelion
Hmmm....From this your post I can only understand two things

1)Why are ladies after money
2)The economic situation is not favourable too the guys
3)The ladies should now agree to share their men.so that nobody would be left "outside"

Now let me ask you?Is it that you re a married man so,you know what you will gain if women agree to this.--->extra kitties right?But then,you guys don't need us to agree na before you do your thing.I mean some married men stiil cheat.

Now if you are a single guy,what will you gain,if we agree,I mean you stil need more money to run a polygamous home,you know.

Please I need answers because you not the only one that has brought this issue up here.

biolabee
ermm... before they tag me polygamic

1. I never said ladies are after money but wanted to really understand what constitutes a rich man to the single ladies
Someone i think xyoung has actually tried to expatiate on a spectrum of males but obviously this is not enough as what i hear is someone who can thow down

What do women really want in this aspect as life is full of ups and down
The richguy today may be a normal guy tomorrow while the nerd/akushe of today is the lord of the manor tomorrow

2. Economically the reality is that today women are empowered and can on their own pay for vacations, toys and stuff so why do they still ask for this requirement of guys being wealthy

Is it linked to the olden days of "if u suffer with a man, he will leave you? "

3. On sharing, what are the common vices of polygamy?
children fighting over inheritance, women left in the lurch after the death of the man, bla bla bla - it all comes to money and comfort

If the women are comfortable, would they be open to polygamy since their financial future is supposedly independent of the man

This is better than the neo-modernistic notion of "impreganate-me-i-dont-want-a-hubby" girls you see nowadays

Now for single v married

I put it to you that polygamy is even more stressful than just having free kitty have you tried managing one woman, try 2

the woman has kids for you o.. issus like school fees, naming, hospital runs, sharing resources equally etc

Only a foolish man will say he prefers polygamy to cheating on his wife with a girl that knows the deal already

sisifunmi: So surveyprof is now sam's bossom friend!!!! Hmmmmmmm.... This is getting more interesting ... Ama watch till the very end sha ni. I hope wunmi won't open another thread tagged ' my experience with survey prof'? Well, I dey here dey watch

Titled "My Experience with Survey prof who was meant to Mediate"

LMAO

carmelion: Thanks ivynwa,wooow, that's a big teddy bear you 've got there!

there are some dolls,i have not seen it in awhile

These guys are missing. lol,chikeorji,Honerico,dahonestboss,dipwaters,Soyedele,Dailynews,Phinalphantasy,Simpleyeahmee,Kabonic,charliemorgano,rooneyboy,Meilyn,kengali eeeem,i hope am not forgetting anyone?.Xyoung,Madrista007.SamjonnyB,Biolabee,phew!.hope you guys are doing great?take it easy with the hustling .

The list is so long mehn,just checking on everyone.

Not missing, check in at least once everyday
I am surprised as the sudden change of tone from siman but I love the mature way you defused the tension
You truly are a cool, mature head

Any other reaction from you could have led to an unnecessary escalation and worse, thread hijacking

Also i like the way you gave missblanche practical ideas on how to look more matured than her countenance seems to make her look
Good one

I am still waiting for responses for my questions asked earlier thats why i did not really say anything thus far

switosman: wife disrespect to husband is multifaceted.

disrespect from the wife is then ABUSIVE and if its abusive then it could be physically or verbally.

wife abusing the husband is mostly verbal and ladies caught up in such act are suffering from personality disorder.

I am current a victim of an abusive relationship. When I was holding a job, she will loose her mind and wash me down, accuse for things I am not even guilty of, and calls me names. Then I lost my job and hell broke loose. I even started thinking I most have done stuff for her to be abusing me this way, i even consider beating her up whenever she abuses me but then I will be doing what I swore never to do!
I have to research abusive relationship and what constitute it, then I discovered that I am in one already. women that abuse their husband do it because it is in their make-up to abuse the very person closest to them.
these women are victims of childhood abuse from their caregivers and these had injured their psychological make-up.

these abusers are suffering from one form of personality disorder or the other, but mostly borderline personality disorder plus any other.

Today I have a book I am reading titled 'STOP WALKING ON EGGS SHELLS". Its teaching how to regain my psychology.

I am ready to share this book

Thanks for sharing your experience. I think you can find a better thread to air male-oriented abuse here https://www.nairaland.com/1059020/men-please-talk-verbal-mental
How can we get a copy of the book, is it an e-book

Talking: @ OP...With the response i have read so far on this thread especially from ladies, I have come to the conclusion that many a Nigerian lady are not nubile. I am also impressed with the comments of many a few here. No matter the situation, there is no justifiable reason for either spouse to disrespect the other in public, and that it's a woman who is doing it to her husband, the more wrong it is. Dirty linens should be sorted in private. #MY TOKEN#

nubile... i think you meant ductile

I am a learner where sisifunmi is

Even ID sef just get school cert

oleku baby: As an advise to the married couple in the house, please fight your fight behind closed doors. It shows that LOVE IS ALL THAT MATTERS. It also show maturity and it shows you are a good ambassador of your parent. Wealth is a visitor, give it a remarkable outing and it will not depart from you buy dont worship money.

Lovely advice on the transience of wealth

I really pity the next generation of children and their subsequent attitude to marriage if today, aspring mothers or current moms feel it is justified to disrespect a man because he has lost his means of livelihood

Q:so who exactly are you in this matter

4everKing: I am bbfever da mogul, a certified genius and google search hacker
 
Q : welcome so how do you know the defendant
 
4everKing: I help her with various odd jobs now and then for her various enterprises.Note that I am also a kingpin in my own right.
 
Q : are you also the engineer she talks about
 
4everKing: I don't know about any engine ..cut off by interviewer
 
Q : if you are not the engineer how come you are the most vehement advocate for shopclue
 
4everKing: WAIT WAIT I am a kingpin and have sponsored many people abroad for training. I also sell oil blocs so how can I be a rif raf engineer

Q : But you said you do odd jobs for her when she is around? Can't engineer be one of those things?
So how did you become a party to the issue of the missing 900,000 naira.
 
4everKing:I am a kingpin and that is final.I got into this matter to help aieromon out
 
Q : So when will the money be paid
 
4everKing: It will be paid in 21 days
 
Q : But you told us this 21 days ago
 
4everKing: erm erm the vessel did not ship then
 
Q : So has the vessel sailed now
 
4everKing: The money will be paid in 21 days
 
Q : So has the vessel sailed now
 
4everKing: erm Let me ask my Oga at the Top
 
Shopclue over to you

you are full of wise words

I pray we are not in a time where we are forced to do anything we woul;d not naturally do to salvage any drastic situation
amin

The away goals rules encourages attack

SO because arsenal won but were byndled out , away gols rule shd be scrapped?\\SMH

3 years ago, Bayern lost 3 2 at OT but went thru 4 4
Nobody compained.. some fans are bad losers sha

spyder880: Chelsea last year?

Typically such finals dont count in such stats as it is believed the final home ground is a neutral value
something like that

nwando: You see am
Who knows what pepper this man showed her and she decided to pay him back and now he is crying to Jehovah witness people
Let him get off his lazy behind an go find a job
No be his fellow man dey do 419?
I won't tolerate any lazy man that refuses to provide

Did you actually suggest this.. SMH

ammyluv2002: ...once a man is rich, no matter what he does, the wife is likely to forgive him aside that women forgive easily in marriage. Most homes are going thru a lot(abuse, cheating,etc) yet the woman remains calm.. Now, in the case of that woman maybe the man has been lazy, refused to work, refused getting another job or just depends on the wife's money because some men are like that so the woman has been keeping & providing for the family probably for years, it takes the spirit of God for that woman not to disrespect the man...we are all human and have limits so let's also see it from this angle. We might not really understand because we are not in her shoes but believe me, I don't think is easy especially when the man is lazy. Some women on the other hand are just mean, once there's no money everything changes that's why, we really have to relay on God when choosing a life partner because it goes more than the Physical. Is not all about beauty please choose your partners from the inside and above all consult your creator.

You are a honest woman



damn! some die hard feminists on NL suddenly turning plain disrespect due to no money to making it justified due to spousal abuse

Cheating... SMH was this called chaeating 80 years ago... you will rather drive him to the hands of the woman that knows the value of the man

coogar i support you, the man should move out of the house
when he makes it in life, the cobwebs down there will be of thick h.ymenic proportions

vanstanzy: I bet for most of the ladys, the answer will go like this; he has no money to take care of me n (my kids) and he cant f--k me hard. FALSE?

LOL.. Bros U no well
You just laid it right there

[quote author=PAGAN 9JA]OP WHY ARE YOU SPREADING MAN-WORSHIP AND CORRUPTING NIGERIANS!!!
CHRISTIANITY SURVIVES ON PLAYING WITH PEOPLES EMOTIONS![/quote]Bros.. does your rant actually have any bearing with the topic of a woman not respecting her husband
What she was doing prior is irrelevant to this issue and why are you typing in caps

cyclops

pDude:

Why you nor enter set with your mind naw

Thanks bruv for the compliment

I feel you bros...lol

pDude you are a literary luminary
I actually felt i was a neighbour of yours and was there when you were ravishing nwanyi bekee
carry go

Nothing do you..

AjanleKoko: Still cannot get over that Messi's goal.
No backlift. Straight into the top corner.

To quote the ancient Greeks, 'only an Immortal could have done that'

The Milan players have still not recovered from the goal
5 of them around this genius and yet he did it

For me its not about the titles or the achievements, it about what he does with a ball

So ronnie can run, big deal - Walcott can do that
So ronnie can shoot, big deal - Baale can do that
So ronnie can score freekicks, big deal - Pirlo can do that


But who can do what Messi does
In the game against Bayer Leverkusen, he chipped the keeper 3 times
Twice the full lenght of the keeper standing up

DOnt call two of them in the same sentence