Guest007:

Nice one. I see what you did there, finding the site I got the picture from.


How's it called?

Guest007:


Your DP cracked me up! Wetin be the name of that positioning

Yeah right.

It's called The Rainbow. You see how the man arches over the woman like a rainbow right?
You should try it. Though it's not really intimate, it allows for deeper penetration and at the same time it's easier for the man to hit the gee-spot and grind on the c-spot simultaneously.

It requires expert technique to execute it perfectly so you might need a helping hand.

There's a variant called The Cross. I wanted to try that over the weekend to commemorate Easter but I was forced to abandon the idea, sadly.

That's you on your DP? What's your toe-curling, orgasm-inducing position btw?

Guest007:


Reading this made me blue... I might be in denial, because I'm a hopeless romantic, but commitment, when being alone is my sanctuary and I am never lonely...hmmmm. I like crowds don't get me wrong, but intimate one on one gets boring after a certain point, and children, that's really pushing the boat. I can honestly say that I am okay until old age, so I will find a chap 10/20yrs younger than me, to spend my money and look after mummy

I see you're a person of culture, just like myself. . I knew it wasn't just me.

Yeah, kids are a big NO!

I like your long-term plan about recruiting a toyboy to help lubricate the engine with 'young blood' so it doesn't rust. I was considering that myself.

So I'll probably get myself some young concubines who would take turns to transfuse their fresh blood to keep my body healthy you know, like the Playboy guy did

And oh, you could get a couple toyboys, just like me.

LordsApostle:

Bra, the problem is, I cannot see a decent girl for keeps, just wayward fellows... Wayward, absolute waywaedness. SMH!!!

Oh well, I've never really taken sexual morality serious ( I only care about health status). Maybe it's because of my non-committal lifestyle.

But then, if you really need companionship, you've got to search for 'decent', loyal women then, whether that means leaving PH or anything.

[quote author=catwalq post=77728674][/quote] I totally get your point. You're open-minded and rational. Happy holidays to you too.

catwalq:


Is it just the act of commitment that scares you or the responsibilities of commitment.. I'm dying to know.

I guess it's both. Though the fear might not be the same for both.

I mean everyone is responsible for something or someone and I'm not excluded. I have responsibilities I accept and handle perfectly well, but being responsible for someone in a committed relationship? I find it too much to bear and I'm not ashamed and it doesn't make me feel 'less of a man'.Whatever that means.

Concerning the act of commitment itself, I'm just not one who clings to a particular person nor feels the desire to make anyone SPECIAL to me. Matter of fact I don't have a particular 'best friend'. Ironically, people always want to get closer to me and usually get totally disappointed when I don't show any 'special' interest.

I'm good with people and socializing isn't difficult for me but, I'm not going to take it any further than that, and I won't accept it if anybody wants to.

So like I said earlier, it's a little bit of both but in varying proportions. I've had a lot of FWBs and if any one of those were to be say... involved in an accident while visiting me, and I can do something to help? I'll totally take responsibility. That's like selfless service, to me. The responsibilities of a relationship are sort of obligatory and that puts me off.


So, you wanna psychoanalyse me or what?

All these guys who force themselves to be what they're not really have to rediscover themselves and reconsider their stance. You can't just choose to not be committed to a woman, it must be inherent in you, like your DNA.

I have an inherent and total fear for commitment. It's like a phobia. I know it too well and I'm totally okay with it and I accept it fully. It is who I am. I don't see it as a flaw, so I'm not going to try to change it. I'm not even considering marriage or kids. Yeah that's how chronic it is.

So, don't try to be like us, be yourself. You're allowed to explore as a young person bubbling with testosterone, and I like it that you've admitted to being lonely and wanting love and companionship.

So go ahead and find a good woman with whom you'll be happy with. Erase all the player thoughts and reach a compromise to be able to tolerate and trust her (I know it would be quite difficult having seen it all).

For people like us, our sanity lies in being 'lonely'. Commitment is only going to drive us nuts. I just can't do it.

mamagee3:
Hi all, someone that I talk to said he doesn’t want me around him anymore

He claimed to love me and be my boyfriend but he never took me out nor helped me when I needed him most but was always quick to ask me for help.

Fvcking troll. You've switched over from your Ilamina moniker. I'm watching you.

BBW.

I like what I like.

lilianofentse:
sorry that's not me. Its my twin sister. Do you still need her number

I've noticed you get a lot of attention from men/boys on here. Like how many DMs do you get in a day?

Mzanzi booties.

lefulefu:
thats not true. some of those ladies who use d no sex b4 marriage gimmick do so to give the guy d impression dat they are very decent but then they have another guy in secret that will be regularly oiling their engine while the mugu they have as fiancee wil be waiting for wedding night.na d normal racket.

I celebrate your smartness my man.

lilwetdick:


something to learn and ponder about... the black men dont build is not only an african american stuff, it is also a nigerian stuff, when they have small money they spend it on entitled women, pathetic

It's pathetic bro. Pussyass men everywhere who can't be selfless enough to empower up and coming talents to become successful.

All they do is feed the monster of entitlement in lazy, low IQ, unproductive women who only know how to spend it on material stuff and sh1t.

Give any of these entitled women some capital to run a business and they'd fvck it up real quick. Their brains are toast. That's why they don't see why they should make their own damn money.

The lowest ones are those who work but still can't touch their money, still whoring around in offices.

lilwetdick:


what is this one saying, this is just gallant rubbish


there are many successful single men without women and do not need them in their lives.

men are more hardworking and goal oriented when they are single than when married

many men nowadays do not need companionship

Most men do not reach the peak of their success until there is a woman by their side( the most ridiculous statement i have ever read), nowadays many single men are building without any motivation or encouragement from women, infact the women are the one discouraging them, many men now are reaching the peak of their career without women by their side.

The MGTOW and red pill movements epitomizes what you're saying. I've personally never needed a woman to get motivated. I've never had a girlfriend tbh. I do FWBs period.

I know I'm different. I'm not one to put up with the conundrums of relationships or whatever it is.

Looks like he's in the decerebrate position??

Good job nurse, our society needs more selfless individuals like you.

Just2endowed2:


Even among my colleague at work, if you see how they think of sharing the cake fast.

Too bad bro. Where I work, men earning 1-1.5 million salary are still not contented. I know it's not much money in the western world but in Nigeria? That's much money for an employee.

You see them still cutting corners, cheating and extorting from other people at the slightest opportunity they get. So predatory and greedy but they go to church to bind their enemies every Sunday. Nigerians. SMH.

ken6488:
All our isp are scammers

Check if you can subscribe multiple times a night.

Saffi:
Oya ban me na

You are upset because the truth has been spoken.

Okay now I get it, you're just a troll but I'm done feeding you attention.

Saffi:
Yeah yeah yeah, you’re lost for words because you have nothing else to say. The man is the provider, end of story, swallow the pill digest it. If you don’t like it, you can be a bachelor for life nobody is forcing you.

Stay on your lane young woman. Which part of ' don't quote me anymore' did you not get? Or you also need a 'provider' to help you understand that?

Guest007:


but do you see the similarities between the monikers?

how long have you been on nl? how come you only just started visiting the romance section?

no be fight so don't vex

I no dey vex madam.

Yeah similar but not same.


My moniker is a nick my American friend from Ohio gave me. It's the name of a beautiful bird with a certain character she says I have.

Funny girl, Erica.

Saffi:
Lol you are lost for words because I’m saying the truth, silly man, go get away jare.

First off, I'm not your regular romance section kid you fight online with. I don't even know you.

I wanna believe you're just trolling because if this is truly how you are, then, yes, ' I'm lost for words' because you're not rational enough to be engaged in a reasonable debate. So I'll save my time. If anything, your argument is sentimental and imbecilic.

Guest007:


wait oo

Wait what? Your Brown guy will let you know if I'm his alt account. It sounds stupid tbh.

Saffi:
This is why most of you men are stupid and forever will be. Who is telling you to trade your comfort for a woman? It’s just that most of you are so financially irresponsible that you will have 100k In your savings and spend 90k out of it on a babe, then later complain about women out of your own stupidity. The foolishness starts from the stem of your brain because a reasonable man will accommodate a woman without having to sacrifice a daily meal. Dating is not for broke or struggling men. They say make money, focus on it and women will come after. But unfortunately, men of this generation are doing it the opposite way only to complain online and become misogynistic bastards when things obviously don’t work out in their favour. You can’t fry chips by boiling it. You can’t be in a relationship without spending a substantial amount of money, why not avoid it all together if you ain’t got it? Common fuckinggg sense is not too common.

Can you stop quoting me please. You've got a lot more baggage than I thought. I can't deal. Thanks.

Guest007:


we will settle this today!

MrBrownJay1

is this your alt?

There's a thin line between stubborn assumption and delusion. Get hold of yourself.

Saffi:
Who is waiting for any provider? You even said it yourself, women are making it big. The working industry is actually dominated by women because unlike men, we are not looking for excuses. I’m a working class woman myself, I’ve got my own money. So because women are making it big , this now automatically means that I should now assist a man to do his job? This now means I cannot receive money from a guy, be spoiled and taken care of? This now means that we must split everything into half because men are now incapable of taking on 100% of the financial responsibilities due to their laziness? Yes women are making it big, what now stops men from making it even bigger and being the man in the relationship? What stops men from investing in multiple sources, using their God given talents to make extra money? What stops you from educating yourself and finding ways to provide for your future family as the head of the home? It all boils down to laziness. So please just take a moment to re evaluate your life.

I've got all the money to make me comfortable. Maybe you think every guy on nairaland is broke, that's delusional.

What I'll never do though, is trade my comfort and luxury for a pussy. That's so low and sub-human in my standards.

You work? fine. So I guess you put your money away and lurk around waiting for a 'provider' to buy your meals, pay you bills and all. Right?

In that case, you're fvcking stingy even to yourself. You better make sure to get that 'provider' so you don't have to spend your own damn money, since you've got pussy. Bullsh1t.

Saffi:
Why is it not attainable anymore? The fact is that men are no longer men, women are constantly emasculating and pampering men, resulting in good for nothing lazy men who look for excuses. We live in an era where they’re so many avenues to make money, not like before where people believed going to school and becoming a doctor is the only way to make it in life. The internet that you use 24 hours to chat with friends can be used to make investments, money transfers, trading and so many countless things. The truth is that one, this generation is so lazy. A man would rather consume his time with sex, alcohol and women. You want to wait for a babe to assist you as the head of the home, and you wonder why women do not respect you anymore. Go to the business section of this site, and see real men who hustle. I’ve met a guy off that section who lives in Qatar he is an orphan, the man came from nothing to something, does he have two heads?

Go and sit down ahbeg. Evolution kor, the fact is that you are lazy and don’t want to work. You are looking for a quick fix that will permanently change your life, it won’t work.

You know you're not so smart right?

You actually know the various means available for making money but sit on your ass looking for a 'provider' to offer sex to? Like are you for real? Seriously who does that?
Are you mentally disabled? I guess so.

Women out there are making it big with their brains, they have the same pussy you feel is gold. I wanna say you're lost on yourself but then...the world needs people like you to play the clown. Ffs!

inoki247:
To make money Legally in diz country no easy if u try am u go see person wey go dey use juju pursue u try kill u for ur family.... Shey person neva land for wrong country lik diz..

I swear bro. Corruption is in the very DNA of our people. Things can never change. Na to just leave the country. No joking.

Saffi:
What you fail to understand is that nobody is disputing female independence. Human independence is a part of adulthood life. However, if a man and woman decides to come together, the masculine energy must intertwine with the woman’s. What is the role of a man and what are you biologically created to do? Provide and protect. Now what I don’t understand is why so many men of this generation want to modify the natural behaviour of their gender. Feminism is the female equivalent to this, yet most Nigerian men hate this movement, including myself. It seems like men want to be women and women want to be men. I just don’t understand what the big deal is about providing for a woman you have interest in.

You have to understand Saffi, that 'providing' for women as the role of the man, is gradually becoming archaic and stone-aged, no more than starting a fire by striking rocks together.

Evolution of human ideations and cultural norms are part of what ensures our survival. Decades ago, when things were going well, a man would happily accept this role of being the sole provider and that made sense. Why? because his take home pay was enough to cater for himself and his numerous wives and kids, if not more. This is hardly obtainable anymore, at least for most of the population.

Society changes, and we humans can only change with it to survive, or we get eliminated.

Therefore, it is important that young women change their mentality ( a mentality passed on by our mothers who lived in the good times) to accept this reality. Some are lucky to get a buoyant provider but how many men are out there nowadays who are capable of taking up this role. It's sad to say, but there are just not enough anymore.