Raalsalghul:

It's all by the book bro. Share it from 16-30, hoard it for a potential nice guy partner to appear decent. We even have one on Nairaland: Victor...ian.

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
That's not always the case. Some refrain from sex cos of that fear of being sexed and dumped. So if d the affairs breaks without sex, it's less painful. That ain't giving it to you doesn't mean she giving to another.

lefulefu:
thats not true. some of those ladies who use d no sex b4 marriage gimmick do so to give the guy d impression dat they are very decent but then they have another guy in secret that will be regularly oiling their engine while the mugu they have as fiancee wil be waiting for wedding night.na d normal racket.

bethyz:
When a woman is ready to settle down looking forward to meeting Mr right abstinence is one thing the walk towards. They decide to keep themself clean. They cant bring back their virginity so rather they choose to abstain for the right one. A woman cant say she is ready for marriage you are not sure if the person you want to date will marry you why waste time again. Having sex with him and he keeps pretending before you know it two years is gone you break up start again. How many relationships will the woman go into untill she finds out she had slept with more that ten different men in the name of relationship. So its better who that cannot stay without sex now that am ready isnt ready for marriage but just to waste their time. Thats why women at that age dont want to indulge untill the know you have come to stay. Especially when a man makes sex an issue .

Centrallock:
coming from a lady wonderful i guess 90% of you don't know this and will keep wasting thier time shying from sex with bad attitude and prayer, expecting miracles to happen lol

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
That's not always the case. Some refrain from sex cos of that fear of being sexed and dumped. So if d the affairs breaks without sex, it's less painful. That ain't giving it to you doesn't mean she giving to another.

Centrallock:
Another sugar coated fallacy
Its only here i see ladies who believe that they do a man a favour by having sex with him
A man who approaches any lady carries the responsibilities of providing for her without thinking of being used more over who is using who during sex? Is the the man not using his body or is that firewood. Check stats ladies who over play the no sex rule are the ones mostly single till menopause. I dont think this reason is justifiable if you wish to be clean remain a virgin if not dont try to trap a man with no sex rule and being clean because it dosent work with majority while some sees that as a challenge to surmount then still dump her since she made herself to appear as a contest to be won

NwanyiAwkaetiti:
That's not always the case. Some refrain from sex cos of that fear of being sexed and dumped. So if d the affairs breaks without sex, it's less painful. That ain't giving it to you doesn't mean she giving to another.

vingeophysicist:

Ignore them, don't give a guy sex before marriage .He will hasten to marry you by doing so if he really love you.
They will even see you as a wife material.

1234IKECHhukwu:
My friend stop sounding indifferent, most ladies I know can't stay without sex for that long.

lefulefu:
thats not true. some of those ladies who use d no sex b4 marriage gimmick do so to give the guy d impression dat they are very decent but then they have another guy in secret that will be regularly oiling their engine while the mugu they have as fiancee wil be waiting for wedding night.na d normal racket.

BLUEJAYY:
I celebrate your smartness my man.

vibbb:
They are trying to keep the remaining oil in the engine, so that the purchaser(maga) can at least get small value for his money.

lefulefu:
thats not true. some of those ladies who use d no sex b4 marriage gimmick do so to give the guy d impression dat they are very decent but then they have another guy in secret that will be regularly oiling their engine while the mugu they have as fiancee wil be waiting for wedding night.na d normal racket.

Raalsalghul:

It's all by the book bro. Share it from 16-30, hoard it for a potential nice guy partner to appear decent. We even have one on Nairaland: Victor...ian.

bethyz:
When a woman is ready to settle down looking forward to meeting Mr right abstinence is one thing the walk towards. They decide to keep themself clean. They cant bring back their virginity so rather they choose to abstain for the right one. A woman cant say she is ready for marriage you are not sure if the person you want to date will marry you why waste time again. Having sex with him and he keeps pretending before you know it two years is gone you break up start again. How many relationships will the woman go into untill she finds out she had slept with more that ten different men in the name of relationship. So its better who that cannot stay without sex now that am ready isnt ready for marriage but just to waste their time. Thats why women at that age dont want to indulge untill the know you have come to stay. Especially when a man makes sex an issue .

SBL28:
TOPCRUISE, bethyz and phenomenalmorgan thanks for the mature and sensible answers.

Checked86:
I had this experience with several ladies when i was looking for a wife. Just like every other guy, I wanted a relationship devoid of any conditions.

Absolute relationship that would sail to marriage but most matured ladies i met almost always claimed born again, others said it was vow they made with their God that no man will penetrate them until marriage.

The later wouldn't mind some touches and even 'fingering'. This led me to ask one if she was a lesbian. These 'conditionists' would be mad, seriously mad any time they saw me with another girl. It frustrated me a lot because I loved most of them and wanted something serious.

Note, I didn't date all of them at once. It was a kind of if one didn't work, i look for another but coincidentally, I end up with 'extreme-conditionist' or 'semi-conditionist. I had several heated arguments with some of them. I questioned their stand why i should be part of a vow that i wasn't present when it was made. Adding that such important decisions should be taken with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with.

When I eventually met the one i married, I was actually in relationship with one 'extreme conditionist'. But my wife didn't mind giving me sex any time she comes around. She actually refused for some weeks and it happened that she wanted me too. She later agreed but would request we go for tests before even using condom. Due to the fact that konji was already turning me to a pervert, I didn't think twice before jumping to her request. Everything came out clean and it was joy. If that was her trap, i was caught legs and hands. After the test, her love for me was nothing but perfect. She started seeing me like her husband already. She became careless with love. During that same period, she knew i was with someone but she didn't mind but i noticed that any time i chatted the girl, her( the free girl) mood would change but she managed it because she knew the conditionist was with me before i met her.

Fast forward to the day of decision making, I consulted some close friends. No family member was involved. My friends wanted me to marry the conditionist because she was a born again( at least, as she claimed). Decision was made but a joke one of my friends cracked at the end of the casual meeting re-arranged my brain and suddenly i became the owner of myself. His joke, "So Chioma (Not her reall name) cured your konji and now you are going to marry a clean girl?" There and then, it occurred to me that I loved Chioma more than i had ever imagined. She was the person that wanted me as much as i wanted her.

One of my friends is planning to marry during December time but the girl he found is not ready for sex. She is claiming no sex till marriage. She is 33 or so. She is not a virgin and she is not a born again. What my guy told me she said to him didn't go well with me but i had to maintain my peace. She told my friend that if he couldn't hold himself, he was free to have sex with any girl. Now, I am asking women, why such decision?

Men, can you put up with such women?

PLEASE, I AM A LAZY GUY, I AM NOT GOING TO PROOF READ ANYTHING. WELL, IF YOU ARE READING THIS PART, IT MEANS YOU ARE DONE READING IT ALREADY.

wirinet:

Sex although very important in marriage and relationship is not the only thing that can sustain it. If guys keep jilting a girl after sex, then the girl may have serious relationship issues including sex.
In my youth days, I did not have time for girls using sex as a bargaining chip or a blackmail tool. If I really want sex, I would meet all stupid demands and move on as soon as I get what I want.
A man love a girl that truly loves him and show that love unconditionally, not one that manipulates and controls him.

lilmax:
the elastic limit don pass

Raalsalghul:

This one is part of those op is talking about.

PhenomenalMorgan:

Do people still use that term anymore
It's the 21st century man!!

drmikeadams:
after sharing toto from 16_30 years old..when their mama and relations don begin torment them for marriage;;.them go turn born again;from Church to church;vigil to vigil..no let them deceive you with them born again ish them go hide their bad character till them cage one innocent Charley . When I still dey go church;na so them full every where one wan drag me go do court wedding she no know say den never born the girl mama wey wan tie my destiny