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Marbella003:
I have a main account but I decided to create this one to post this in order to avoid embarrassment or reveal my identity.

I got married 4 years ago to my husband. He was in his 40s and I was in my 20s. The age difference between us has never really been a problem as we are both educated, well spoken, have similar personalities and share a lot of interests, and as a result we mesh well. My husband is a very caring and thoughtful man. This is one of the traits that made me fall helplessly for him, along with his intelligence and fun personality. I will not reveal anything pertaining to kids as this might punch a hole in my wall of anonymity.

I've always loved my husband and I still do. But I've never really been sexually attracted to him. This is not to say that I find him unattractive. No. He is okay as far as physical appearance goes, but his look has never been the kind to turn me on sexually. To put it plainly, I find that I'm only sexually attracted to young men around my age with tall, athletic bodies and with the energy and agility to please a woman satisfyingly in the bedroom. I met this kind of man in my work place and after we talked a few times I couldn't help but become attracted to him. I realized he was also attracted me, and fast forward to a week ago, we had sex in a hotel room.

I'm ashamed to admit that sex with him was glorious, but it truly was. It was better than anything I had ever done with my husband. I loved how he tossed me around the bed and did stuff to me that my husband doesn't do and I liked how ever part of his body felt firm and strong. After the act I felt a wave of shame wash over me. I recognized that I had committed an atrocity and I knew I had broken my marriage vows. The guilt of what I had done followed me around like a stench. I hated myself for betraying a man that had always loved and cared for me.

The problem I now face is that despite the guilt and the shame I constantly feel, I still yearn to experience another period of sexual bliss with my colleague. I can't help it. I'm torn. I already told my colleague that that one time was the last but deep down I don't want it to be. I know that if I tell my husband about what I did, that it would mark the end of my relationship with my colleague, but I don't know exactly how my husband would receive this information. I don't want him to look at me and see a betrayer of trust; a woman lacking integrity and virtue. No. I even thought of resigning from my job or requesting a transfer so as not to be in close proximity with my colleague but I know that wouldn't solve anything as I still have his social media info and occasionally stalk him(yes I do). I'm so conflicted. I don't know what to do.

MissRaine69:
The comments here alone shows you the attitude to this very real issue.

MissRaine69:
Let’s chat about the lack of adequate mental health support in Nigeria.

bid4rich:
All I know is that is Leah is one of the high profile Nigerian, the said federal government would have sought for a way no matter what to get her released by all means.......but the same is not for the poor girl because her family is not known. Lets open our eyes to see things more clearly. I do appreciate that a life has been saved but there are more lives in captivity that deserve to be free too

Noel1:
Did u know that same 60-40 split was originally offered to Fury and he rejected it? :-D

https://www.boxingscene.com/eddie-hearn-tyson-fury-vs-tom-schwarz-terrible-fight--137318

That's why I said these guys don't want d fight - and they would do any excuse to avoid it.

Noel1:
So, what percentage split do you think DAZN should've offered?

Excuzeme:
Its not even about Ransom otherwise Buhari would have given-in.
These Muslim terrorists just wants to hold Leah, attempt to use her to humiliate Christianity and make it look like "your God cannot save her" and what they are doing is in line with what their holy Quran preaches and tells them to do to people of other religion.

Even if you put one of those CAN people as President today, l can assure you that they cannot secure Leah's release.
We should just be strong ans show faith, whether she is released or not.

Jesus never said we will not be persecuted for our belief as Christians but said we should be faithful till the very end.
All these useless people and their useles CAN who will deny their faith at the first sign, should know that Leah is a thousand times more Christian than them.
We will continue to pray for her and Whatever happens therafter, Jehovah God will still be God

rockcitie:
Please what was Leah's crime except being a Christian?

Why has FG not negotiated for her release after ALL the Muslim girls were set free by Boko Haram?

Excuzeme:
Thank you.
These people are just being emotional over nothing.
CAN is just trying to play to the gallery.
The cases and circumstances are so different that one has to be very daft to use one to compare the other.
Imagine, all those old men in CAN, they cannot even use their brain?

bid4rich:
I am not surprised at what you just typed up there, I would have been more surprised if you have not typed it..........

Is the question CAN asked right or wrong, show me a single fault in that sincere question

splendidbaby:
are you angry because CAN said they truth?what is stoping him from fastening the release of Leah?or are you trying to tell me that if Leah were to be his child he wouldnt have done anything to set her free.sorry dear but lets call spade a spade and keep religion aside.

rummmy:
the God of can will deny you all good things in life.

Noel1:
That's a wrong argument bro...

1. The last offer wasn't made by Eddie Hearn. Hearn was hands off - and the negotiation was opened directly by DAZN's CEO himself.

Of course, Finkel rejected - cos he was scared of his guy loosing that only belt.

2. How disrespectful is DAZN offering Wilder $100 Million for 3 fights? How much does he get 4rm PPV with Showtime?

3. Can you tell me any Network that would pay Wilder $20 Million for Breazeale?

In fact, DAZN's offer to Wilder is even way off limit and a high risk 4 the network itself. Any unbiased Boxing analyst would tell you that...

If u doubt that, then plz dig up how much Showtime is paying him for Breazeale fight - and I'll be waiting here...

So the point is, Wilder team should plz come up with some other excuse for avoiding that fight

Follygunners:
Of course, that's a baby constrictor... Check mine below, fellas

cococandy:
Let’s blame the women for men’s misbehavior

Yea these ones were sexually assaulted because they were baring cleavage

Noel1:
Sounds interesting

But I still say you're wrong bro.

For the record, how much was Lennox purse against Holyfield for his undisputed?

Noel1:
A good businessman sacrifices today's pittance for tomorrow's bounty...
Its called investing for future

Noel1:
Sorry but U're wrong bro

Yes, Boxing is about the number of belts. The more titles u have on the line, the more muscles you can flex at the negotiation table.

That's the way it is. You can dig more on that...

Noel1:
I get that but....

1. The fight is more risky for Joshua, with 3 belts on the line than it is for Wilder. So, it doesn't even sound well to demand a 50/50 split purse.

2. If he believes he can beat Joshua like he had always touted, then what stopped him 4rm taking the fight, knocking him spark out - and then becoming free to set his own purse after?

Noel1:
I get that - but the fact is that fight is more risky for Joshua with.3 belts on the line than it is for Wilder.

Hence it doesn't even sound well to demand a 50/50 split purse.

Secondly, if he believes he can beat Joshua like he had always touted, then what stopped him 4rm taking the fight, knocking him spark out and then becoming free to set his own purse?

Noel1:
How many titles is Wilder putting on the line vs Joshua?

Noel1:
Sorry... but I say things the way they are...

I'm no AJ fan - but I hate when peepz flay the guy 4 failure of the unification fight, even when its obvious he's tried his best while the other guy is scared sh.it of loosing his single belt.

Noel1:
$20 million to fight Brezeale

$80 million to fight Joshua twice...

Can you tell me Wilder's biggest purse since he started fighting?

$14 million against Fury

Noel1:
Check ur facts right bro...

1. The $100 million offer from DAZN didn't prevent Wilder from fighting his mandatory (Breazeale). In fact, DAZN offered him $20 Million to sponsored his Breazeale fight and $80 million for 2 fights against Joshua - his career highest ever.

Wilder turned it down and went ahead to sign a peanut contract with Showtime for his Breazeale fight.

2. Fury is not free. He signed an £80 million contract with ESPN in Feb...

Noel1:
He's got no choice... Other heavy weights are avoiding him

Wilder rejected a whooping$100 million DAZN fight against Joshua and just last week, Luis Ortiz too

Noel1:
He's got no choice... Other heavy weights are avoiding him

Wilder rejected a whooping$100 million DAZN fight against Joshua and just last week, Luis Ortiz too

tohyorsih2:
Yinmu