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bewov:
Please guys, I have something bothering me so much, I will really appreciate it if I can get a matured response.

These might be long, but please bare with me

There is this girl have been dating since March 2021. Although, we met in University days and we have been dating since 2017, but because I was graduating and she has 1 more year to spend in the school, I left her and travelled to Lagos to work, because I got a job in a company in Lagos, immediately I graduated. I needed to concentrate on my future so I told her I want to pause the relationship to focus, but I will definitely be back for her, I promised her this. She was a virgin then!

After working in the company for 2years, I also learnt some IT skills online while I was working in the company, and I was earning cool money from it, so I decided to quit the job and focus more on the online business.

My business have been doing well and I have about 2 other virtual assistant helping me out, anyway I was kind of comfortable, so I thought of fulfilling my promise to my girlfriend. I called her one morning, and she was shocked! We chatted a bit and I told her I want us to see urgently, we schedule a date for her to meet me in the hotel, because I was staying in Lekki and he stays around Surulere, I wanted an hotel close to her house, so she can return early.

We met at the hotel and I can see she missed me so much, around 3pm I told her I'm back and I want us to continue dating and I'm ready to settle down, she agreed and we have been dating, all this happened around March 2021. Around April, I travelled out for about 2months, but I was very communicating with her, and when I got back around June, I discovered she had sex with another guy in May. Now, I wouldn't say she did it because of money, because I pay her 20k every month for upkeep, sometimes I just pay her 30k! She is not a wayward girl though, and she is not a type that sleeps around with guys back then in school, but once i came back into her life, I see a different girl entirely, when I came back she wasn't a virgin anymore, it's not my problem anyway, because the truth is I never forgot her during all those years I left her behind.

I didn't tell her I knew she cheated on me, but all I do tell her was that she did something bad to me and I want her to open up to me about it, but my girl kept on denying it, she sworn with her life, that she didn't cheat on me, that night I was shocked. Then, I didn't talk about it again till September, I gave her those months to regret her actions and confess to me, but she never did, also I didn't stop helping her financially, I still pay her monthly for upkeep. I know you will be wondering why I give her money, right? This girl was with me and loyal to me when I had nothing, like nothing at all! She was raised by a single mother and she is struggling a lot, after graduating she decided to go for Hair Stylist training, that is where she is currently. So I just give her money monthly just to stay strong.

So around September I decided to tell her she cheated on me, although it was that once, she begged, cried and told me she was drunk and regretted it, she told me she doesn't want to tell me because she knows I will end the relationship, well to be candid I love her so much, so I decided to forgive her, but since that day, trusting her was very very difficult for me. Although, I do watch her and since then I have never seen anything of such from her.

January 2022, her mother stopped her from coming to my place, she wants me to come see her first before she can allow her daughter to come visit me again. So, I went to see her mom last month and I made my intentions known to her, I told her I will want to marry her daughter and she said she is okay with it, if her daughter is okay with me.

This girl is my type of girl but, she has some behaviours that sincerely I don't think I can deal with.

She has this mindset of "A woman should be equal to a man".

She doesn't respect me, she chats with random guys and if they invite her for outing, she goes with them, even if I tell her not to go! When she visits me, she says I must join her in doing the house chores, she will say "It's either you clean the house and I will wash the plates and cook, or she wash the plates and cook, while I clean the house". And sometimes if she wants to cook for me, she will want me to come to the kitchen with her and do some works, maybe Grind pepper with blender or slice onion, if I dont, she gets annoyed, saying will she be the one to be doing all?

She did something that annoyed me this morning, around 6am today I went to the filling station to get petrol, well she knows I eat early always, maybe 6am or 7am, I would have taken breakfast, but she has never dished me food at that time, I always do it myself whenever she is around. When I got back from the filling station, I still met my girlfriend on the bed pressing her phone, I told her I'm hungry and I will want to eat Spaghetti with tomato sauce, and she replied "Baby, please cook it yourself, you said I'm your queen, pamper me na" Really? What does that have to do with you cooking for your fiance?

Well, I was annoyed, I went to the kitchen and prepared the food myself, the truth is when the food was ready, I only dished my own and ate, she said "What about her? Won't she eat?" I didn't answer her!

Aside from this, sincerely sometimes she talks to me rudely, and one thing she and I knows is that she is very very stubborn and not ready to submit to any man. Sincerely, this attitude is making me scared of settling down with her, I want to propose her this year and do the marriage rights but with all this behaviours I'm thinking the marriage will be hell for me.

When she came over yesterday, I prepared food for her before her arrival, and I served her, all she could say was "What is this? The food taste bad! Is this food or poison?" She never gave a good compliments about the meal, yet she finished the food and went for second round.

Last night before we went to bed, I told her to warm the rice and the stew, she said it won't get spoilt that she will do it in the morning, I asked her if she is sure, she said Yes. And I went to the kitchen before preparing my Spaghetti, I saw the rice is already bad and can't be eaten, I showed it to her and she was like "haaa she doesn't know it will spoil"

Also, the chicken I bought yesterday to cook her the meal, I couldn't use all, I left some in the pot, and I forgot to warm it last night, my girl saw it while washing the plates this morning, and she was like "What is this?" I told her chicken and she said "And you didn't warm it" she left it there in the pot like that without doing anything to revive it. Before I went to the kitchen to do it myself!

She only washed the plates, bath and went to church this morning, she didn't arrange the bed, nor sweep the room littered with all we ate last night. I'm sure of the message she is passing to me... "Have washed the plates, you clean the house".

Please guys, I want to propose her around August and settle down with her in November, but this behaviours are the things turning me off.

Will she changed and act normal when we get married, or this will continue? The guys she chat with, which I told her I don't like it, she replied that "She will never and ever leave them". All these types of attitudes and not showing me respect, do you think she will change after we get married or she will continue?

Please guys, I'm very confused here

Your complains don too much already.
You're taayaad of the girl.
And she's tayaad of you too.
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First of all,, stop the Upkeep-Money.
That-is,, if the SIMP inside you can accept to stop it.

GLeesMODEL:
More

Oga Alex is now a political star.

lalasticlala:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=IsQbR4YWT9Q

Nigeria Military Intercepts N100million Cash, Other Items Allegedly Collected By Bandits As Ransom

Wait..
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Only the money was collected??
What about the terrorists??

donnam:
now ladies have no excuse for not daring

But they will not dare...!!
Even when the chances are bent towards them, they are still sitting by the side and be making noise

Kingozymandias:
All the time she has cried talking about Tupac even Infront of her kids ? Wow too numerous to mention . It's safe to say she has and will never get over Tupac , I guess some love are just forever. So poor will simple smith , he never stood a chance... This is someone who married a woman who still loves her dead ex


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=G56H1gDMeXY


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Hsqc1KmHYHs

See as this woman continued to bring Tupac's Ghost back to limelight.

Dshocker:
Do don't drop any number to him,it will escalate issues,he will only beg the guy to send him the pix or video

This is really evil.

MarryWhiteasap:
Drop his number I will hack the phone and it's all free of charge

JavaIOS Botnet
Blackhawk
WatsappSpy
AndriodRat

I too rugged for computer. OP u be Porn artist.

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This bolded part,, what made you to add it??

prinx25:
During war

Guy don Mean..
See Hard Face.

TheDemola:
Earlier:
https://www.nairaland.com/7063840/not-son-goat-leke-adeboye

•Tweeps call for his suspension



https://punchng.com/outrage-as-adeboyes-son-calls-rccg-pastors-goats/

We thank God that God is not like we human beings.

IPIGSRDOTARDS:
Good.
Get the circus out of trying these terrorists.
I know for a fact that if Namdiot coward Cownu and these Bokoharam terrorists tried such in the US, most will be locked up deep underground in Colorado maximum prisons by now.
All the circus shows that goes on when that idiotic IPIG terrorist monkey appears in court is a travesty to the whole judicial system.
If the court is incapable of trying these terrorists, then release them or allow a military tribunal to try them.
Enough of the judicial comedy.

So, you know how weak the judicial system of Our Zooo Country is??

Lovenorth:
Nice one, terrorists have no place in our lovely country, they should be seriously dealt with

Same terrorists took FG to court and won the case against the FG..

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FOR ALL THE CHOICES WE MAKE, THERE ARE CONSEQUENCES...
THAT IS WHY WE ALWAYS TRY TO MAKE GOOD CHOICES, SO THAT THE CONSEQUENCES WOULD TURN OUT TO BE FAVOURABLE TO US.
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Moferere:
it is AAC, Sowore's party that's useful Abi?
Sowore chairman, Sowore presidential candidate.


It is APGA that is useful abi?

Past 10 years, Party chairmen, from Anambra.
75% NWC from Anambra.

Heheheheheeeehe..

BoredBerry:
Church bells 're ringing!

Oh god! Where do I begin? How do I shower praises on my darling without revealing his identity? No words could do him justice!

Berry has fallen helplessly inlove!

He's a Nairalander... He's so sweet and totally badass and extremely intelligent and exposed and incredibly goodlooking! Unlike many men here...

He and I used to argue here... But I've always liked him! He's so funny... And stubborn but that's a trait I really appreciate... He's such a man!

I'll create threads on him and our relationship as often as I can!

People like you are very toxic.

Ezendimmuo:
There is this girl I'm dating
Tbh...
I don't trust her...
She has lied to me in the past and also cheated on me...
I called her on Saturday..
I called her in the morning...

Someone was playing music in her room...
I asked her who it was....
She got angry that I don't trust her
I called her at night also
I swear I heard someone's voice in her room at night
She got angry when I asked who was there...hung up on me and switched off her phone ..
I apologized for "hearing" things...

Yesterday...
An anonymous person called me out of pity and told me that my girl usually stays in a guys room...
This same guy has kissed her twice even when she knows we are dating..
He even calls her when m around and tells her he wants to see her even when he knows m around...
She said she saw her coming out of the guys room that morning...
I asked her about it...
She got angry and wanted to know who told me about it...
She said I was a big fool and I do not have sense for believing the person...

Mind you ..my girlfriend has lied to me in the past and I have no reason to doubt the caller because she has nothing to gain if we break up...
What even made me break up with her was the fact that she started calling me names
I'll attach a message she said to me when I told her I was done...

My problem is this ..
We started having small talks after the whole thing...
I started explaining things to her!!

Can you imagine??
I feel like a fool right now...

Legends in the house...
How do I break up with her and never look back
She's toxic to both my emotions and finance
But still
A part of me won't completely let go
I need help guys

I will not call you a fooooll..
But once you start sexing a new lady, all these nonsense will definitely stop

mrlycan:
Attitude they say is everything. Once you don't have it, forget it.


The guy replied that he doesnt even make cages for dogs and that if it wasnt for me that called him, he wont do such work. Temper flared and my landlord told him to leave.

There's nothing wrong in politely explaining to someone that you're not conversant with some type of works.
The way he presented it was actually where the problem lied.

AlexBells:
So, I had known this girl for the past 3 years, she lives in Nsukka and I ussually come around since I have a family here when I met her three years ago, she was writing her WAEC and we seem to fall for each other, however she got admission later that year and now in UNEC so we didn't see for over a year becuase I was going through some stuff that didn't give me space to travel and they packed out from their formal house.

Few weeks back, I came to Nsukka for some trainings and given the ASUU strike, she is staying back in Nsukka, this had given us enough time to reunite, the love and desire is still there but a highly Intolerant girl I never knew had just emerged out of the blue.

First, she's from Agbo Delta State, she is one of the people who don't accept being Igbo, okay I have no problem with that but what irritates me is why she always throw subtle insult on the Igbos. Meanwhile since she been on strike she's been the one taking care of their shop where I ussually go to buy stuff and also make withdrawals, apart from the fact that I love her, I prefer to go to her shop becuase they run a POS service so I can easily withdraw and do my shopping right there.

On several occasions, I had overhead her speaking with her mum in their Agbo dialect and I can almost understand them completely despite my being from Nsukka, Ezikoba to be precise. I had asked her on several occasions, if you are not Igbo why do I understand you while you spoke to your mum, she always told me to forget that one.

Then one day a man came to withdraw money and instead of handing the money to her, the man kept the money on the table just about two foot away, so after collecting the money from the table, when the man left she now said "You Igbos don't have respect especially Igbo men, why would he keep the money on the table instead of give it to me", I looked at her and said, I hope you know thats hate speech when you make such generalisation by saying you Igbos while this if at all is an issue is individualistic. I asked her, I'm Igbo what do she think about me, she said I'm different however she wish to change me so I don't have that Igbo attitude, I smiled through that.

Honestly she's decent and intelligent but religious as well and seemingly intolerant in that aspect too, meanwhile I'm not quite the church going type especially because I have a view that religion had severely impaired our society and while acknowledging religion and God, I believe that extremism in religion is as well dangerous, and in another note, I see religion as an aspect of socialisation of which the Nigerian churches is suffering the same decay with the general society and as such I appreciate my peace and most times I isolate myself from most social gatherings.

However we had an argument over time about this whole church and God stuff, she wants me to start going to church, partly her concern is becuase of the rigorous nature of my trainings, she don't appreciate the fact that I'm isolated but the manner she's pressing for that is crazy, this morning she sent me a message telling me that if I don't give my life to christ that I should stop whatever with her, I smiled however to be honest I was hurt.

I'm worried becuase at one point I even considered marrying her, but even if I begin to go to church, what happens to the identity of our children, becuase I know her parents must have been the one that thought her so much intolerance for the Igbos, to even think that she was born and raised in Nsukka. Bellow is the screenshot of her message and reply.

Please I need advice, I don't want anyone to judge her especially as regards her tribal sentiments on the Igbo, I understand it is what she had been fed while growing, shes a nice person generally.

Your mind is no more with this lady.
You're just marking time

Speeding Vehicle

slawormiir:
Damnnn niggarrrr
Will Smith is a pussy ass niggarr

You been go for vacation??
I missed ur comments.

Wazobia2216:
E be like say this imam dey talk in riddles

You need a platform to operate keh

I just hope its not a planned work

One can never trust this people ooooo

If you watch how they operate, their level of conspiracy is usually something else

Make we no hear kah booooom! Behind CBN ooooo

I don talk my own

A priest needs a church.
An Imam needs a mosque.
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What did you think he was referring to?

vicdom:
https://thenationonlineng.net/breaking-sacked-abuja-imam-gets-new-appointment/

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vicdom:
https://thenationonlineng.net/breaking-sacked-abuja-imam-gets-new-appointment/

The mosque will definitely get multitude of new members

This one is so interested in the Presidency..
He is not interested in NIGERIA

No wonder Khloe did surgery on her butts and was sampling it,, just to let us know that the price is no more N2m or thereabouts,, but something more more higher

Nigeria is burning..
And these people are talking trash here

I believe the secret is working out, eating right, having enough sleep, surrounding yourself with positivity, and loving yourself.

I see guys claim they don't give a damn about hitting the gym, that all they care about is making money.

F&ck it!

Working out wouldn't stop you from making money. Don't use that as an excuse. If anything, the clarity of mind after a workout will give you the confidence.

I'm a testimony.

Take your health very seriously. Work out, eat right, have enough sleep.

Your future self will thank you.

Health is wealth.

You're free to crush tho

PS: NL males who are easily intimidated or prone to envy, you're free to leave your comment

You no get Bear-Bear sheey??

helinues:
Abeg stop supporting Mediocrity .. Prayer to mark what the SE governors have been incompetent about right from onset.

Na wah oo

If he succeeds in stopping it in his own state,, would it be a PLUS or a MINUS to his administration??

ChildOfDoom:
After over 60 days of abstaining from bet9ja virtual, I went back to the act. I won 1500 which I used to eat. Though I feel disappointed and scared. I might be tempted to go back again. As a precaution, I have decided not to go back there for any reason (not even charging or football) till further notice

You never had a good convincing personal reason for quitting in the first instance, that was why you went back

Rickmann:
That thing you pay yourself is called what?

Nigerians sef..

Stipends

Officiallyme:
Hello guys, met this girl some time around January this year and asked her out and we started dating ever since

So recently, I got to know about her past. Her past was so reckless that it is giving me a second thought about everything, started having s*x at the age of 15 while in secondary school and travelling to see a lot of men whom she claimed was asking after her hand in marriage. This girl has slept with so many guys that it's freaking me out, funny thing is, she's been lying and hiding some things but as a smart guy, I've always had my way around her to tell me the truth.

She told me she did a "mistake" abortion for one of her boyfriends then and just last year December, she had s*x with a married man and she knew very well he was married. These are just few of the stuffs I recently found out about, I know it's all in the past and she claims she's changed and want a real relationship with me but I don't believe at all, she claims to love me so much and cannot do without me and honestly, I love her too but I'm scared this may just change a lot about everything.

I don't know what to do, I'm hurt and disappointed and I don't know what to do now. I just need someone to talk to me, please don't insult me, I just need some pieces of advise.

Thanks

This relationship won't last long.
The fear in you is too much.

Suspect33:
This thread won't get to a third page despite it being on the front-page and we all know why

Ok

greatiyk4u:
The guy don enter hot soup,


The military will treat him like a bandit.

His name is MUSA..
They will quickly sweep the issue under the carpet