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Fiscus105:
The man is enlightened? Even though he has conducted valid marriage for her daughter, yet he went ahead to do the second marriage in the church, meanwhile,having reached thr, he still wants to dictate for church what to do.

That ur man, if he goes to hospital or school, he would be the one to tell them what to do.

If he knows he is the one to do Marriage for her daughter and not church why going to church for same marriage he has done?

You people will never think rationally for once.

Go and learn different between Marriage and wedding. I give u as assignment.

Wen u know it u will know who is doing wedding and marriage for daughter

TenQ:
You are beyond redemption sir!

If you cannot explicitly answer my simple questions, please you may not be intellectually matured for further engagement.

Why should a couple have a second wedding if their first wedding is agreed to be valid?

Please if you can't answer this, I then don't bother.. just ignore it


Is there a law which says traditional wedding is the only valid wedding?

Fiscus105:
That father is a foolish plus stark illiterate.

Why taking daughter to church since you don't ready to abide by simple rule of govt (not even church).

It's govt that can declare two persons married, not even church, and at that particular time, govt has ceded such power to church.


Even if not, why did he want to ruin the day of his joy because of irrelevant issue.

JimmySwaggart:
Where are those doubters that doubt the existence of juju. To them every unnatural occurrence is a coincidence or even say it's scripted. I really pity them.

addmole:
I and My wife have been married for 5 years. We are based here in Lagos. She's 35 years old. We are doing very okay and living comfortably. Since we got married, my wife hated sex so much. I am not even trying to sugarcoat this. She doesn't want to hear you talk about it or she does it. There's no one in the family that haven't tried to settle our differences since we got married. She was never like this when we were dating. It's been 1 issue to the other. She doesn't initiate sex, and when she does accept you to have sex, it's missionary style and it's just 1 round. Ah, me wey dey like knack wella. This woman begin change am for me. Lol. She doesn't want to hear you discuss sex.

Anyway sha, lets move on...

5 YEARS ago, her mum came to my house to kneel down and tell me I am stressing her daughter that I should not kill her with sex. Her then-unmarried sister then asked if I ama dog? Ah, insult. Anyway, I don forgive her. I spoke to my wife and told her what is the meaning of this? What kind of lies are you feeding your family with? This is the same person who happens to make just 1 round of sex. Just 1 round. She lies flat on her back. Once you are done, she quickly pushes you away if you stay on top of her for more than 10 to 15 minutes. There were times she would hit me if I try to initiate sex. I reported to her elder brother. He elder brother warned her. She stopped. She moved to kicking me anytime we initiate sex on bed, i reported to my pastor, he spoke to her and then, she stopped. My pastor told me i have to be patient with her. I said OK.

Omo...
The only time we make love is just 1 round, missionary style and that's it. She says she has pain on her stomach. I have been patient for 5 years with her. I told her anytime she's strong enough, we can make out. That there's no problem.

I have been pressured to cheat on her many times. i HAVE BEEN REALLY PRESSURED. Its just not easy. Her family have insulted me for demanding sex from her. Lol. The thing tire me. I see no where i am demanding. We don't do any other position apart from the missionary style. We do not even kiss. This is a woman that doesn't want you to kiss in in anyway. Even sometimes, she shouts at you when you try to be romantic to kiss her unexpectedly just to spies up our love life. She doesn't even want you to cuddle her on bed. She wants to be alone. Make money, attend to her business, vibes, laugh with friends and family and that's it. When it comes to sex, don't go there discussing that with her about making out.

I even had to retort to preparing her mind for sex by sending her a position we would try on WhatsApp, she would leave the message on read and not respond. When you talk to her about what you sent to her, she would just tell you, she's not strong to make love.

ANOTHER PART OF HER:
My wife is a very bitter person full of anger. If you try to tickle her when she's cooking in the kitchen to play with her, she gets angry and warns you not to try such. My wife doesn't want you to play with her. I am not writing all these to make it look I am a victim here. But all these are my experiences. I have to pour it out. I NEED SOME ADVICE.

There were many times, we agreed on separating. But we have already children and we used to think about these because the quarrels and the disrespect, sex and everything is causing a whole lot on us.

We do not have any form of healthy discussion very well. Before you know it, we are quarrelling over the place, she's shouting. There was a time we quarrelled that after throwing a Gotv remote at her, she fainted. She woke up before we got to the hospital. She almost died. I told her, she needs to stop her anger and control herself and enjoy her marriage. She just won't listen. She's an Edo woman.

I have tried many times to leave the marriage because it's affecting my mental health. Sometimes I regret about getting married to her. Sometimes, I just feel, maybe I CAN TRY MORE and give her a chance. When you call her to discuss our sex life, about her anger and bitterness, she doesn't apologise. She hardly apologise. Even when I get to explain her part on why she was wrong, she claims she's right until maybe someone hears us arguing before she would reluctantly apologise.

I have been battling a really starved sex life, full of a woman with bitterness, anger and pride who never apologise. She's quick to advice other women on Facebook, She would video call friends, give them advice and her family how they need to maintain peace with their relationship. But she never seem to give me respect in anyway in her own own. Hmmmm.

Recently, my wife brought out another timetable that she cannot cope making out with me the way she does. Which is 3 times a week. That she can only be available to make love 2 times a week. This 2 times is just 1 round each. This is how she wants it. I immediately responded to her that I feel her pain. I understand. She cannot be pressured just to make it look like she wants to please me that I would rather get a side chic. Yes, i know this was wrong to tell her, but i am frustrated. She disrespects me and starve me of sex and she's even bending the rules again. She responded that 'ok that I am free to do what i LIKE'.

i decided to bring this here to know the comments from people. I would like to get advice from persons who are going through similar things like this and advice me on what to do.

Some of you might say, call her and talk to her. I have done that several times since in the last 5years. I did it last night and twice today. I have spoken to her. She promised she would change, she would not only repeat the same thing but make things worst the next time.

She disrespects me a lot. I have sometimes left the house but come back after families get to call me. She would change for a week and return to her old self.

What do I DO? Please make your responses constructive enough.

GanagiBitrus:
I'm usually not impressed by these comparisons of different Countries' Minimum Wages, Prices of Fuel etc.
What matters is the Purchasing Power & Standard of Living.

A man in Ibadan that earns 100k is essentially richer than his counterpart in Lagos or Abuja that earns same 100k.

Kukutente23:
First of all, I must congratulate you and your likes for the barefaced hypocrisy of "pitying" Tinubu and other policy makers. Instead of contrition and penance from your likes, what we get is a doubling down on beating the drum of support for misgovernance even when you can see the fruits of your earlier misadventure right before you.

Pre-2019, it was clear to the unselfish and the true patriots that Buhari had no business anymore with governance. I daresay, even to you and your fellow journeymen. But your endgame wouldn't let you see what was before you then.

The biggest damage done to our national economy occurred between 2019-2023 and who were those who ensured Buhari presided over the affairs of state in that period? You sir. Operation next level sent the country to the dungeon. It wouldn't have been possible if bullion vans had not nestled in a mansion in Ikoyi at the eve of that election.

So, the reason we can't return to subsidy regime is not because CBN borrowed. CBN borrowing is not a new thing. It is the reckless borrowing that's a dangerous thing. Goldman Sachs and JPMORGAN are both bankers to our CBN and a good portion of our reserves is banked with them. So your latter day alarmist stand is total nonsense. What you should be more concerned about is what this present govt will do to rejuvenate the economy because accept it or not, removing subsidy or devaluing naira will not shore up our reserves. Our reserves will continue to plummet as long as our economy is not producing any thing other than oil.

After the joyful announcement of 1trn savings in July, the reserves still tanked by a good number of millions of dollars. Not only that, CBN had resorted to defending the naira; same policy you just claimed was wrong under Buhari. No national govt leaves his currency to be beaten and battered by "market forces". It is the job of CBN to defend the naira. How it does it and to what end is the real point to look out for.

Finally, any time you feel the need to flog the past administration of Buhari, always remember to keep the thickest part of the horsewhip for yourself and your fellow hypocrites.

Thank you

BoldBrainz:
Glad you finally admit that Buhari was indeed a mess. Funny how the same you and your ilks who voted and defended the Daura cattle rearer, are at it again with this thieving Iragbiji charlatan.

WildChild00:
If it's there snap it, and attack it like a picture, this is just another propaganda

WildChild00:
Lol

But on the link, there is no where it is written, that is why I said it's propaganda

WildChild00:
It's their usual propaganda, he is now directing us to CBN website

worksmart:
Why would Buhari or Emefiele take a secret loan?

What reputable bank would agree to keeping their loan secret.

This is Bola the virus's latest looting strategy!

This is why he has the CBN governor imprisoned so that he could cook the accounts and claim that there was a secret loan.

Bola na real virus!

WildChild00:
Put the link here not me going to help you look for the link on CBN website

BOSSkesh:
Hmmm are you sure

WildChild00:
No link? Propaganda

Nonny95:
Uyo, Akwa Ibom right now.

Protest started from the state secretariat, will move around the metropolis, and end up at the Government House, Barracks Road.

Afamed:
Bitter truth.

The children of confusion and bitterness will soon come here to attack the messenger instead of focusing on the message.

They are here already.

See them above. Bitter children of hate. The moment you present them with facts and figures, you become their public enemies

No wonder,Okonjo Iwela said most of them were not employable years ago

Typical lazy youth.

Afamed:
Bitter truth.

The children of confusion and bitterness will soon come here to attack the messenger instead of focusing on the message.

They are here already.

See them above. Bitter children of hate. The moment you present them with facts and figures, you become their public enemies
Does he also know Ghanaians enjoy constant power supply? Hence less demand on pms? The man is dumb.

No wonder,Okonjo Iwela said most of them were not employable years ago

Typical lazy youth.

immortalmortal:
In some good schools, the lecturer's ability to impact knowledge on his students would be questioned. He could lose his job for this kind of failure. Egong(late), Akpan, Effanga etc, Were failures in that department. Especially Egong

CuriousMind2022:
You're wrong sir. My wife was very much into me before our wedding. She literally made me marry her, because at some point I began to develop cold feet. She did everything to please me, showed me love and care, and pretended to be a good girl. I would not force, cajole or entice a woman into marrying me. This is why I am asking myself if I should continue in this marriage if truly she doesn't care about me anymore. I strongly believe marriage should be between two people who are genuinely interested in being together and if it is obvious she is tired of us being together, I would be the first to excuse myself from the marriage. I just don't want to make a hasty decision, so I will still wait and be sure I am not overthinking things.

ItisWell22:
Someone employed with NCE as at 2013, never smell SGL 12 yet.

Should be around 9, if promotions came as at when due.

jfkenny:
Good morning naira Landers.let me make this very brief. I work in one of the states in Nigeria as a civil servant.

I got the job immediately after my graduate studies with my NCE certificate since degree certificates are not usually issued immediately after studies.

When I went for conversion(from NCE TO DEGREE), I was told that the day I was issued the degree cert post-dates my appointment letter thus I can't make use of the degree certificate.

Meanwhile , I completed my graduate studies in June 2013 and cert was issued in March 2014.

Appointment letter was issued on dec. 2013

What's your experience, and is there anyway this can be solved..

FOLYKAZE:
Electronic Voting on national level cannot be compared with local election within a state. Reason is that this electronics have more than 500000 ways of manipulating it. Believe you mean, the memory slot where the votes are store can be manually changed, hacked or destroyed remotely. Moreso, results can be intercepted during transmission. There are tons of loopholes desperate politicians can exploit to manipulate results. The Government might also collude with INEC to pre-programmed to favor a candidate.

Judging from the attacks on irev portal in the recent president election, report has it that there was more than 10000000 attacks on a single day. Now factor that big electronic distributed in about 180000 Polling units, imagine the different alterations, disruptions and manipulations that can be deployed to favor a politician?

Oga we need nation reorientaytion..... Not this big big machine

KingAzubuike:
Lol stop saying what you don't know. Firstly, whatever income from the procedure will be distributed across your team. Even the anaesthesia doctor will have an equal cut.. . Also, what kind of complicated surgery of 2m do you want to be doing 5 times weekly with private practice? You can't earn that much in a government hospital and apart from the big name private hospitals, the remaining privates na mainly appendix removal and illegal abortion of like 30-50k dem dey do lol.

An average salary for doctors in government hospitals is between 120 and 200k. Senior regs in FMCs and teaching hospitals is betweenk 220 and 270k. Consultants is 400k upwards ( although there are young consultants but most times you for don old before you reach that stage) Doctors don't earn much in nigeria . Many of them are struggling with their toyota big daddy and honda baby boy dem dey use do yanga up and down. Con dey toast and sweet mouth small small girls for streets with "I'm a medical doctor " talks. and Gone are the days where every child's dream is to be a doctor and lawyer. Both professions don too cast moat especially that law.. Those one na charge and bail and property agents full streets.