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Toks2008:
So would you rather force a woman to be with you at all cost when there are billions of ladies out there?

Any man who begs a woman to love or stay with him should be castrated. If you truly offend a lady, beg her and if possible go on a knee to apologize if you really offended her but if the reason for her leaving is hinged on the fcat that she is in love with someone else or she is just not interested anymore please respect her wish and let her go.

Foe every one lady who rejects you, there are other 10 ladies out there ready to be with you regardless of your status.

I got your point bro, its your turn to get mine which is: if a Dangote advises you on how to run a business, you will be thinking of SUCCESS, if an IBB tells you about running a country, your mind will clinch on STEP ASIDE. This is what I actually meant by my initial QUOTE (You cant give what you don’t have). I wish to read from you how you used the word FREEDOM to run a successful relationship and not how you turned to FREEDOM to loose your EX.
You would have made your point; ‘How not to be in a relationship’ instead of assuming that you kept that RELATIONSHIP you made reference to. Simfu!

MoyoGENERAL:
You wrote a statement, you are saying another thing!
All these things you are saying are knowns!
Based on what you have written initially: I can picture some scenario,

Your girl asked for: Time, money, gifts, attention, advice, love, security; and you are able to provide her all these but enough money....( due to reasons beyond your capacity which she obviously knows) Now lemme ask you, Should she now be always worried! From the statement you made, your GIRL wants you to be PERFECT! And anytime you aren't, She's worried! Lemme ask you, Is she PERFECT

And by the way, as regard your question if I want to see my beloved wife to-be unhappy, No.!!!!! However, if after doing my best and she's not appreciative about what I've done and always worried about the very little I didn't do or couldn't do even after clarifications, The such lady isn't worth it! She'd better find her bearing!..

How do u think u can satisfy a woman... No way! How do u think u can be perfect... Impossible! These are the reasons you don't need to be desperate about attaining those two utopias. Simply create a dream of how u want your woman to look like and work towards it. You will be glad you did that. She relies on your vision immediately she discovers that u re dependable. Train her to suit your dream, you will be happy spending the rest of your life with her.

Toks2008:
All my romance thread on nairaland are coined from what I have seen,heard and experienced first hand.

I had a lady that I could swear will never falter but after 12years of a wonderful union she suddenly feels caged and according to her she said she feels cheated that she has spent all her life with me since I met her when she was just 19..

I tried making her see why she needs not see things that way but she insisted that she just wants a break and even when I could pin her down in one way or the other,I let her be.

After over 3 years she walked back by herself..WHY? because I allowed her the freedom to do her bidding but I had to put a stop to the union as I was no longer comfortable.

Do you know that if I had held on to her against her wish, she will still think there is something better out there I'm trying to prevent her from seeing.

Leave these first wonder of the world to fly if they want to....they will eventually learn from their own experience.

Freedom theory did not work for you according to ur story, so why the reference brah?

MoyoGENERAL:
Your reply did not match what you wrote o chief!

#if I couldn't provide just one out of all she desires, she will be worried#
To me this statement you wrote( in ask tag above) was what inspired my write up initially!
Except you want to withdraw the statement then!

Let me ask u a question: would you like to see ur beloved wife to be unhappy? Solution to a problem is not one way bro, its all about how intelligent u r and skillful you can be, to handle situations. Everything depends on u as a man! Ur woman relies on ur judgmental sense... Read Repogirl's post, you will understand real woman

Afi suru o! Smile. They call it one chance. If he is sober, advice dad to put his mind off the money (cos the relationship is at stake) and the guy can still bounce back (I pray so). But if you perceive an intentional fraud, try hard to retrieve your sister from him cos he will do the worst. Relationships are in two dimwnsions;,curse or blessing.

repogirl:
ofcourse, a good woman loves a man they can depend on at anytime. Emotionally, physically, spiritually and even financially. It's great to be with a man who has himself put together....even if he isn't well put together yet, he gives off the vibe of someone who has a vision for himself and his future family.

Someone she trusts would have her back, that's the person any good woman would definitely submit a hundred percent to.

Ur spirit is high tonight. Ur takes are fantastic, help me to extend this knowledge to the ladies out there, it will help sombori. Truly u r typing from experience, I do not have any objevtion . all correct ma!

MoyoGENERAL:
Now what about this #if I couldn't provide just one out of all she desires, she will be worried# Abi nor be you write am, is that about your own standard too?

'I don't like it' was what I mentioned, I did not mention that I will go all out to satisfy her. That's why I have my OWN standard. My standard is all I need to go all out to work on and I believe dat she will be happy with my submission if she is good for me.

repogirl:
OP, you are right, women do want to be free somewhat...to be able to live and express themselves freely but..... sometimes, what she wants might not be of benefit to her...so it is the man's duty to help her. Sometimes he has to put his foot down especially when something great is at stake.

Ofcourse, some women will find a way to still get it done without their husband's knowledge but if it backfires they will have noone but themselves to blame.

Yes, I am speaking from experience.

I assume I share the same school of thought with u on this topic, can confirm through my initial post. Women's desire or wish depends on their partner's philosophy and competence. U got me there Repo!

tosyne2much:
I beg to disagree bro... There's no general way of satisfying women. If you shower the loads of care and affection that melted the heart of Kemi to another lady, she might take you for granted

I have experienced a aituation when a lady told me she can't date me cos I won't be able treat her the way she wants. Meanwhile she always respected her ex that beats her and shouts at her at any radius before she listens

Shout on and beat her! Adonbelieveit! Your fav girl will locate you or vice versa if you are a good man and understand what u want and how to get it bro!

MoyoGENERAL:
Nor go kill yourself o bro!!!!!! Haba! Working hard to meet up and please her!!!! Men, ladies wey meet your standard plenty for town o......discard one wey go make you work and sweat like TOLOTOLO on top wetin! #Candid advice, if her demand is too much, discard her# . Life is once and love should be considerate too!

I knew that a lot will not be able to decode my post but u try sha. Read my post again and very well; I mentioned that: I am working so hard to meet up with 'my OWN standard for my woman' and not hers. Check that statement out bro!


Meanwhile, you did not bother to find out my OWN standard for my woman

What my woman wants from me is me; being able to make available all she desires. If I couldn't provide just one out of all she desires, she will be worried. They can't hide their feelings for what you don't have, they express their discomfort one way or the other. I don't like it, may be dats why am working so hard to atleast meet up with my own standard for my woman.

Sincerely, this chidinma girl has dent the image of cucumber among other fruits. Do u believe that a lady was eating cucumber ignorantly in the church during a vigil service and I was like within me; WTAF! WHAT IS DIS ONE DOING EVEN INSIDE THE CHURCH?

24SEVEN:
First one.



Second one. Only you dey collect two positions for front-page. Na wah oh.


No one knows why the president has decided to keep Tinubu at a distance, since we are not Buhari, we should give him the benefit of the doubt and allow him to concentrate on governance. But from observation, i can conclude that political godfathers/patrons are a pain in the a*s and ultimately a clog in the wheels of progress. Their presence/contribution in government should be very minimal, else they derail the plans and programs of government.


Buhari was elected, and not Tinubu. The victory of Buhari has given Tinubu a kind of national spotlight but hes not that popular outside Yorubaland. He shouldn't go about making it seem like he relinquished his presidency for Buhari and has now been forsaken. He shouldn't be distracting the Presidency unnecessarily. This topic has now assumed a whole new level of nuisance.

People voted for the perceived credibility of Buhari, allow him serve.

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Ur points are very good ones. But, I think it's better to read from the perspective of the author. He was only advising Buhari, the party (the platform that aid him to accomplish his failed dream of many years) and other beneficiaries to thread very well and carefully because you, leaving behind a force that has used his God's given resources to bring every one of them together to achieve their dream including his, if such person is toiled with, it can be disastrous for them and the nation at large. Who knows, may be God has plan to use Buhari and APC (coincidentally) to help Nigeria? Make dem no go use their feud abi wetin wetin draw us back again from God's plan.

aguiyi2:
A government policy can make a citizen a billionaire without the president knowing he has unintentionally done so.

Gbagbe oshi! Have u inquired from her how she made her money? Don't assume because OBJ says it, research. Wikipedia is there for u among other sources.

Solange06:
Sahara reporters should be closed down complecompletely. This are all lies. Am a woman and from ondo state. Jimoh Ibrahim can never win an election here. Ondo state people know him as a fraudster .. Buhari can not impose a fraudster on us. The presidency is at work here. They are only using Jimoh ibrahim to cause problems in PDP so APC can win. Can Jimoh come to ondo state to campaign? Sahara reporters should tell him to start his campaign if he can. We want INEC to be independent and stop taking orders from Buhari. We don't like injustice in ondo state and we will fight with our last blood to say No. Go and read history. Ondo state is not like any other state. We don't care about mimiko but we all like Jegede and we believe greatly in him. He's a friend of the masses unlike the 419 called Jimoh Ibrahim

This statement tho, I think is contradictory. You can't eat your cake and have it, don't pretend as if u don't know the truth. If you don't care about mimiko (probably because he is not a good man, owing salaries and embessling pub funds), why do u think he is desperate to impose his fav successor? Read this in case you did not know THEY ALWAYS HAVE DEAL OF ASS COVERAGE AND CONTINUOUS LEGACY! even if one of them seems to have a good heart.


Am just thinking of a situation where a whole state will agree and go to beg just one candidate to become a govermor instead of them needing to lobby for the position desperately.

Will this still happen if a governor's salary is 18k and all the kwarapshan gates were locked? Just thinking...

Mynd44:
Na every judge dey do funeral?

UDonMeanIt... Source pls, I ll like to take it up from there!

Na so e do go use fun kii DAT mumu goldie

Evil spirit in human form.

eezeribe:
That's why I like the Sultan of sokoto and Obi of Onitsha..

They don't seek Attention

Living life is not seeking attention. You just did DAT here.

6. Every politician embezzles money,
Not a way of thinking but a fact! 99% = 100% tho!

This Government is sweet, I am liking it. Elimination of distraction and silencing of confusion. This is how to RULE over extremely unprogressive and unnecessarily stubborn opposition. This is to express that he who comes to law, do so with clean hands. They all have skeleton in their cupboard and they will still use all their lives to wail. Confusionists!

I prefer to watch 'Anambra Cocumber' to watch these women modified some pple display 'Brain Zeroness'. huh!

She is not a Banker na.... check out her name!

EmoBoy:
I love your fighting spirit ma. I wish your husband was like you. Don't let you the corrupt hypocrite Buhari drag you down. We your people are solidly behind you...

DO YOU KNOW THE MEANING OF 'EMO'? DISASTER OR RABBIT! THAT IS YOUR NAME! PERSON STEAL UR MONEY GO USE AM BUILD HOTEL, U STILL WAN DIE FOR HER SIN, ARE YOU JESUS CHRIST? VERY SOON, DEM GO NAIL YOU FOR HEAD, DEM STILL DEY FIND NAIL(6 INCHES)

TheFreeOne:
This government is inadvertently pulling itself down by encouraging chaos by the ways its handling corruption fight in the judiciary.

You can't go on collision course with judiciary and expect to come up tops.

Are you an English Language Student, you TYPE good English!

What I just observed about all these appointment refusal and inadequate consultation should be as a result of 'No Lobby Things' o . Abi what do you think

May His Gentle Soul Rest in Piece. lol!
I did once....

SamuelAnyawu:
I see over 80% Northern Names There.

Wailers no go cry out loud witch hunting nooow! until wen dem wan see one bayelsa man name there.... ehdiats!

SamuelAnyawu:
I see over 80% Northern Names There.

Wailers no go talk nooow!

I love her but I dont like her doing this, she would have converted that energy on project that will send a message to @Davido and the world!
@Davido, continue being silly o!

I vote for Fayose on this... in as much the law he made has provisioned for an organised and coordinated place for these people to rear their animals fullstop.